I don't think I'm a great conversationalist and I think this is probably one of my biggest weaknesses when it comes to dating, and even to to other aspects of life. I don't just mean "witty" in the sense of having more of a sense of humor, although I would include that in what I'd aspire to be, but also "witty" in the more general sense of "quick-tongued". I'm pretty smart but a lot of friends/exes would describe me as on the one hand very thoughtful but on the other hand somewhat withdrawn and deeply serious or sometimes tending to alternate between clamming up and anxiously filling space.

How do you maintain attraction and keep a relationship exciting without becoming overly available?

I’m looking for honest advice, preferably from people with relationship experience.

When I first got together with my girlfriend, I felt like I was in a pretty strong position. I had my own life, things going on, and I wasn't constantly seeking her attention.

Over time, though, things changed. I genuinely fell in love with her, and I started giving her a lot of attention. We talk every day for hours, I frequently buy her things, compliment her, ask about everything, initiate conversations, and sometimes overexplain myself.

I don't regret loving her or treating her well. However, I've started wondering whether I've gone too far in making her the center of my attention.

I want to maintain my self-respect, independence, and individuality while still being loving and emotionally available. I want the relationship to remain exciting for both of us.

I have a few questions:

1. Signs of declining attraction: How can you tell if you've become less interesting or attractive to your partner because you've become too available, predictable, or overly attentive?

2. Maintaining attraction: What healthy behaviors make your partner naturally think about you, miss you, appreciate your presence, and continue feeling excited about the relationship?

3. Things that kill attraction: What habits gradually destroy romantic attraction, even when both people genuinely love each other? For example, excessive compliments, constant communication, overexplaining, always initiating, or constantly buying gifts.

4. Finding the balance: How do you balance showing love and affection with maintaining your own identity, boundaries, ambitions, hobbies, and personal space?

5. Long-term relationships: What makes someone remain attractive and interesting to their partner years into a relationship, rather than just during the honeymoon phase?

I'm not interested in playing mind games, deliberately ignoring her, or making her jealous. I want to understand the psychology of attraction and how to maintain a healthy dynamic where both people continue choosing each other.

I'd particularly appreciate honest answers from people who have experienced this themselves.

I'm in Toronto.

Looking for someone that's interested in going out specifically to meet women, improve each other's game and just have each other's backs. A little friendly competition should make us both stronger.

Question for the experienced, what makes a great wingman, what should I look out for? And more importantly, how can I make sure I'm a good wingman myself?

Hey everyone,

M25 here. I've noticed a pattern over the last year or two and I'm trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

I get compliments on my perfume fairly regularly from classmates, strangers, and people I already know. It happens more than I expected, and it's usually genuine ("you smell amazing," "what are you wearing," etc.). I take it as a good sign because it's a positive, spontaneous opener from them.

The problem is that nothing ever escalates from there. I say thanks, maybe tell them the name of the fragrance, we have a short chat, and then it just fizzles out. I'm starting to think I'm missing the window to take it further.

So my questions for the more experienced guys here:

1. Is a perfume compliment actually an invitation, or is it often just a nice comment? How do you tell the difference?

2. What's the right move right after the compliment? I don't want to be that guy who immediately asks for a number, but I also don't want to let the moment die. Where's the balance?

3. Should I be steering the conversation somewhere specific, or just keep it light and see where it goes?

4. Has anyone here successfully turned a compliment like this into a date or something more? What did you actually say?

I'm not looking for scripts to memorise, I'd rather understand the principle so I can apply it naturally. But concrete examples of what worked for you would help a lot.

Thanks in advance.

Being a good listener has gotten me laid probably more than any other social skill. So it's extremely likely to help your game if you struggle with it like most guys do.

• Common misconception: Being a good listener is passive (just keep your mouth shut).

• TRUTH: Being a good listener is active behavior. You "do" good listening, and I'll explain how in this post.

When I behave like a good listener, I see the response on women's faces: Their eyes INSTANTLY LIGHT UP! Why? Because most guys on dates are shitty listeners so it's a surprise to them when they meet a the first man in a long time that actually knows how to listen.

WHAT IS THE GOAL OF GOOD LISTENING?

The goal is to instill a FEELING in her. A feeling of being seen, understood, validated, and a feeling of you seeing her as a good, smart, and attractive person.

She should think "wow, that guys really understands me, likes me, and supports me for who I really am".

That feeling will often cause her to grow very fond of you quickly. It goes from platonic and casual to "holy crap what is it with this guy? He's something else!" So it can spark emotional closeness and romantic feelings quickly.

When she's talking, you should look beyond her words and try to understand her as a human. To do that, you need to understand some basic stuff about humans.

Almost every human has

• A desire for love and connection

• Insecurities about not being "good enough" in some way

And yes, this also applies to very confident, super attractive women. Despite the outward "vibe" that they don't have insecurities. Trust me on this: They do. And they often aren't getting the real type of love they want, despite being very good looking.

LOOK BEHIND THE WORDS!

When she talks to you, it's important to look behind the surface words she's saying and connect it to these human elements - and see what she is revealing about her desire for love and connection, and her insecurities about not being "good enough". And you then validate those things as human and that you understand and empathize with - and sometimes you can share similar stories showing you also have those human sides.

To get to these deeper elements, pick your questions carefully. Ensure they gradually delve into these deeper human sides of her.

• Bad listening questions: Asking surface level shit about her interests, hobbies, preferences.

• Good listening questions: Asking about family, love, relationships, dating, rejection, hopes and dreams. The DEEPER stuff. Dig DEEP BABY!

Surface level questions will NOT instill a feeling of being truly seen. Deeper questions CAN instill a feeling of being truly seen. Because you digged deep enough to truly see her core.

CONVERSATION EXAMPLE:
You ask her if she has siblings. She says she has a little sister. You ask a follow-up question about that and ask "if they are close?" and then she says they used to be close, but lately it seems like her sister is texting her less.

So what is she sharing here? A desire for love and connection, and an insecurity about not being good enough. Two for one, bitch.

Then comes the next step: VALIDATE HER.

How to validate her? Answer her unasked (but implied) question: AM I NORMALL???

Most people just want to be validated. And by validated, I mean they want to hear from someone else that they are "not crazy" and that they are in fact NORMAL for feeling or thinking the way they do.

So you say something like

"sounds like you wish you were closer with your sister?"

And she says "yes". Then you might say

"I think you're very NORMAL for feeling that way. It can be painful when our loved ones seem to withdraw from us".

It can be THAT simple. You just validated her feelings, you showed you understood what she was sharing.

Now, most times you want to stay on her topic, and continue delving deeper into her relationship with her sister. But other times you can also validate her by sharing a similar story about how YOU ARE THE SAME as her. Further validating her "normalness".

For example, you might say "I can empathize with that. Something similar happened with me and my brother a few years ago". Don't go deeper than that. It's NOT all about you. Listening is about her. Keep your own side of the story short and sweet, and if she wants to know more she will 100% ask you about it, either right away or later.

2 KEY LISTENING TOOLS YOU SHOULD KNOW:

- Asking more open-ended questions (questions that cannot be answered with just one word). This invites her to share more (it shows you're interested in getting to know her deeper).

- Asking more follow-up questions instead of new topic-changing questions. This shows you care about what she's saying and want to hear more (it validates that what she says matters).

Signs of a good listener:

• Tries to get to the "core" of who she is.

• Cares about her as a human being.

• Has empathy for her struggles.

• Is truly supportive: Wants her to do well on her journey towards her own goals.

• Validates what she says.

• Often repeats what she says back to her in his own words, to clarify that he got it right.

• Ask for clarification when she says something he doesn't quite understand, or when he needs or wants more details

• Looks behind her words to connect with her deeper fears and desires.

• Talks about her most of the time

• Asks deeper questions. Is not afraid to get personal.

• Lets her be who she is

• Focuses on HER. Wants to get to know HER.

Signs of a bad listener:

• He focuses on what to say, how he can be funny, flirtatious or interesting to the woman he's with.

• Doesn't care about who she really is. If she's hot, that's enough. He's already sold.

• Has too many life issues himself, so empathizing with a woman's issues is difficult for him.

• Doesn't understand women. Sees everything from his own male perspective, and can't fathom women having insecurities or other issues with love and dating too.

• Thinks he's not good enough as he is, so he needs to impress her somehow. Often by showing off, bragging or trying too hard to be "interesting" with good stories.

• Doesn't ask follow-up question. Instead changes the topic frequently to get through his "list of questions" that he has memorized.

• When she says something he doesn't understand, he doesn't ask for clarification. He just moves on to the next topic, keeps his mouth shut, or zones out of the conversation.

• Rarely, if ever validates her.

• Takes her words at face value. Doesn't look for deeper intentions.

• Talks about himself most of the time.

• Asks surface-level questions. Avoids anything "too personal".

• Tries to change her to be who he wants her to be

• When she says something, he is worried about other things - like how his hair looks, how he will escalate, his tone of voice, or his body language.

As always guys, no AI in this post. Hope this helps a bit for some of you struggling with listening.

If you get good at this part of your game, women WILL want to hang out with you again and again and again. Peace out!

Hey guys,
I’ve been documenting my cold approach journey on YouTube under the name Aurelius.

Over the past few months I’ve filmed infields across Europe, including Budapest, Prague, Bratislava, Krakow, Copenhagen, Helsinki, Oslo and London.

The channel is primarily focused on real, unfiltered daygame footage, with some talking-head videos discussing different aspects of cold approach, mindset and dating.

I’m not trying to present myself as some guru or dating coach. I just enjoy the game and documenting the process.

If you’re interested in watching actual infields from different European cities, feel free to check it out.
YouTube:
https://m.youtube.com/@Aurelius1237?ra=m

Title. I want to meet and practice my seduction today by hooking up. What would you strategy be?

Did a cold approach. I was not expecting anything other than a polite response to a question I asked her. She was very friendly. (Great body from what I can tell too). Did the “I have to run thing” which actually was true. “Can I get your number?” And handed her my phone open to enter her digits. I called it immediately to save the number. And give her my number. I saw my number pop up on her phone. So that was legit i guess lol.

Update: Already shut down (I think). I texted her just to keep my number fresh in mind. And I asked her how to spell her name so I could add it correctly to my contacts. Less than an hour later she texted back not telling me how to spell her name and saying she felt a little uncomfortable giving her number to someone she just met but she didn’t know how to say no. And she hopes I understand.

Just ignore her text and not reply? Or reply - but say what? Bring up something about what we talked about and tell her that she can feel free to reach out if she ever wants to talk more about it?

Help bros and ladies. 😂

I’ve heard a lot of people say go and have fun with your friends and having a good vibe will attract women but I’ve been going out without any expectations for years and hardly anything ever happens. If I try and talk to a girl nothing comes of it, she’s disinterested. I feel like I don’t have things to say to people I don’t know, I try but nothing comes to mind. I don’t really know what to do

This will be my first time going out solo, and I can barely count on my two hands how many times I’ve gone out in general haha, but I thought I’d give it a try.

I’m mostly looking to find a hookup tonight, but going in with the mindset of just having fun. Any tips?

Like is not showing any affection a big deal breaker for them?

Don’t fall for their bullshithttps://youtu.be/W-xg71OCm-g?si=BssIdV9KPLod0GSI

So I just got back from a cafe where I met a really cute girl. I hit her up, we spoke for an hour or so about just what we do in our lives, what am I doing in my life, about movies, music, the usual stuff and I think it was fun to talk to her about all that and I got her number as well. I just sent her a text like hey are you done with your work and back home, made a couple of jokes here and there.

Now the thing about me is that I'm really bad at texting. I have this really bad tendency of just ghosting people or just making a conversation very dry and stuff like that. I'm not exactly sure why. I'm good at talking IRL but I'm not really good at texting at all. What she did mention is that she's free next weekend and she would like to go on a date with me and stuff. So until then I have to be interesting enough to not lose her attention span I suppose. How should I even text her bros?

If there's anything close to a magic pill in game, it's your voice. It's also one of the easiest areas of game to improve relatively quickly with a little deliberate practice.

Think about it. You can have great looks, great body language, and a great opener, but if your voice is weak, quiet, or uncertain, you're leaving a lot on the table.

Your voice communicates confidence, authority, emotion, and presence. And unlike your height or facial structure, it's something you can actually train. Women (and men, frankly) are biologically hardwired to respond to a dominant powerful voice.

I've personally invested dozens of hours in voice coaching, and it made a massive difference in my game. I became louder, more resonant, and more commanding. People listened to me differently, almost instantly. Most of the high-level guys I've known in game have done at least some voice coaching.

Here are the areas I'd recommend working on.

1. Downward Tonality: Speak With Certainty

One of the most important things you can develop is downward tonality.

Essentially, you want to get comfortable ending your statements with a "period" rather than a "question mark."

Think about the difference:

• Upward tonality: "Hey, what's your name?" (Your voice rises at the end.)

• Downward tonality: "Hey, what's your name." (Your voice settles downward at the end.)

The words are identical, but the delivery can create a completely different impression.

Upward inflection communicates uncertainty and a desire for approval. Downward inflection tends to communicate confidence, certainty, and authority.

Think about how someone speaks when they're giving a clear instruction. They're not asking for permission. They're communicating something with conviction.

A great example to study is Barack Obama. Watch his 2008 victory speech. Pay attention to how he uses his voice, particularly his downward inflections, pauses, and deliberate pacing. I recommend repeating his speech in the same manner he does to practice.

Another good example is Brad Pitt. Listen to how he often lets his voice settle at the end of a statement rather than allowing it to drift upward.

Exercise:

Record yourself reading a paragraph aloud.

Pay particular attention to the final word of every sentence. Does your pitch rise at the end? Or does it settle downward?

Practice deliberately lowering your pitch slightly on the last word, or even the last syllable.

You don't need to sound like a robot, and you shouldn't force downward inflection into every question. The goal is to become comfortable making statements with conviction.

2. Vocal Projection: You Need to Be Louder Than You Think

This is particularly important for night game. One of the biggest mistakes I see guys make is opening too quietly.

If you're approaching women in loud bars and nightclubs, you probably need to be speaking considerably louder than you think.

You might have a perfectly good opener, but if she can barely hear you, you've already lost.

I've developed my voice to the point where friends and students can sometimes hear me from halfway across a busy nightclub. That's not because I'm screaming. It's because I've practiced projecting my voice. There's a big difference between yelling and projecting. Yelling creates tension in your throat. Good projection involves breath support, resonance, and using your voice efficiently.

In a nightclub, you might need to speak 30–40% louder than what feels natural to you. Even now, I'll occasionally catch myself opening my first set of the night without enough volume.

Exercise:

Stand on one side of a large room and practice speaking to someone on the other side. Imagine you're speaking to the person rather than shouting at them. Keep your shoulders and throat relaxed. Use comfortable breath support, and focus on making your words carry. Gradually increase the distance. Play music during this and record yourself to test your results.

3. Slow Down and Learn to Pause

Another common mistake is speaking too quickly. When guys get nervous, they tend to rush through their sentences. They want to get the words out as quickly as possible. Confident speakers are generally comfortable with silence. They don't feel compelled to fill every second with words.

Exercise:

Grab a book and start reading it aloud. Every time you reach a comma, pause for one second. Every time you reach a period, pause for two seconds. Exaggerate the pauses at first. You're training yourself to become comfortable speaking more deliberately. Over time, you'll develop a more natural rhythm. Pay attention to how good public speakers use silence. They don't simply deliver words. They control the pacing of the conversation. You want to be able to slow down, emphasize important words, and let your statements land. A well-placed pause is more powerful than another ten words.

4. Develop a Deeper, More Resonant Voice

You don't necessarily need a naturally deep voice to have an attractive voice. What you want is resonance. A resonant voice sounds full, rich, and powerful rather than thin or strained. Fortunately, there are a couple simple exercises that can help you develop better vocal resonance and control.

Exercise 1: Humming

One exercise I like is humming. Start with a comfortable, relaxed hum. You can use the word "thumb" and sustain the "mmm" sound at the end.

"Thummmmmmmmmmmmmmmb."

Pay attention to the vibration around your lips and face.

Try experimenting with different comfortable pitches.

You can also try humming as deeply and loudly as possible for as long as possible.

You're developing awareness of how your voice resonates.

Exercise 2: Lip Trills

Another useful exercise is lip trills.

Relax your lips and blow air through them so they vibrate, almost like you're making a motorboat sound.

Then add your voice.

You can practice moving gently up and down through your comfortable vocal range.

These exercises are commonly used by singers and voice professionals to warm up the voice and improve vocal coordination.

5. Spend a Few Hundred Dollars on a Voice Coach

I strongly recommend spending a few hundred dollars on professional voice coaching. You don't need to become a professional singer. You don't need six months of intensive training. Even two or three sessions with a good voice coach can give you a much better understanding of your vocal weaknesses and the exercises you should practice. Tell the coach exactly what you're trying to accomplish:

"I'm working on becoming a more confident and charismatic speaker. I want to improve my vocal projection, resonance, pacing, and downward tonality. I also spend time in loud social environments and want my voice to carry far without straining." You can be transparent that a dating coach recommended this - that actually will motivate the voice coach to help you more.

A competent coach can evaluate your voice and give you exercises tailored to your needs.

Then spend the next couple of months practicing. It's not that different from going to the gym. You learn the exercises, practice consistently, and gradually improve. This is a skill that benefits you in virtually every area of your life. Dating. Business. Public speaking. Job interviews. Leadership. Everyday conversations.

Even a relatively modest improvement in your voice can pay dividends for decades.

Final Thoughts

If I could recommend one relatively inexpensive investment for a guy who wants to improve his game, voice coaching would be at the top of my list.

Especially if you're doing a lot of night game. You need to be heard. You need to be comfortable projecting your voice. You need to learn how to speak with certainty rather than constantly sounding like you're seeking approval. And you need to develop a voice that communicates confidence without sounding forced.

The good news is that you don't need to spend thousands of dollars.

A couple of coaching sessions, a handful of exercises, and 5–10 minutes of daily practice over a few months will make a huge difference.

Your voice is an instrument. Learn how to use it to the fullest.

NOTE: For this post to make sense and be helpful, you need to already have the skills necessary to get a one night stand at least once in a while. An FWB is a bit more advanced than that. So if you're struggling with basics (like approaching, how to ask her out, how to escalate etc.) this post is probably not for you... YET!

How to get ONE FWB:
It's extremely simple once you know how to get a ONS (one night stand). You basically do a one night stand, and from there you make sure you have her contact info, and invite her to hang out again. If she agrees, bang her again on the next meeting, and do this a few more times over the next few weeks. Don't agree to exclusivity if that topic ever comes up. Congratulations, you now have an FWB!!

Some things that help with this:

• Maintain an attractive body and look, as much as you can within reason (duh)

• Be good in bed (read books on the topic, practice, learn what she likes)

• Be fun / interesting to hang out with outside of bed

• Provide some kind of value to her in terms of knowledge and tips about relationships / dating / sex, career advancement or life advice. Ideally it's NOT just about the sex, because 90% of the time you're just talking and hanging out (not fucking). So that part needs to also have some kind of value to her. And if you don't know shit to share, at least be a GOOD listener!

How to get multiple FWBs / a "rotation":

Basically, repeat the step above for "how to get one FWB" with other women too. Set expectations with each of them that you're "DATING AROUND", so they understand it's not exclusive. But NEVER share details about other women. Just make it clear it's not exclusive. But you can apart from this keep the illusion that it's only her you're seeing, outside of that disclaimer.

It's IDEAL if she FEELS like she's the only one you're meeting for sex. Even if she logically knows that she probably isn't.

How to get a GOOD FWB:

• Target selection is key: Not every woman is a good fit for FWB.

• The best FWBs are not very emotional / clingy.

• The best FWBs are 6, 7, 8 based on your subjective assessment. NOT 9s and 10s. Because you will most likely fall for them at some point if they are a 9 or 10 in your eyes. Not that there is a problem with that, but you'll then probably fall into a relationship with her at some point, which kinda makes it bad when FWB is your goal.

• Ideally, she's not very emotionally available towards you. Perhaps she recently got out of a relationship, is very focused on her career, she's busy with moving, or some other thing.

• Obviously: She's GOOD IN BED, because if not, what's the point?

• Great communication skills. Doesn't play too many games or try to trick you into things or control you. Mature women are generally better at this.

• An FWB Fling is ideal for her at this time. She doesn't want a relationship with you (or perhaps anyone) at this time, for whatever reason.

• Low jealousy

• Texts occasionally but nothing too lovey dovey.

Bad FWBs:

• Really wants a relationship. But is accepting FWB just because you won't give her what she actually wants

• Clingy, needy, jealous

• Super hot (9 or 10 for you)

• Tries to control you

• Bad communicator that plays games (immature women)

• Texts you all the time

• Asks you frequently about other women

• Wants to hang out all the time

How to manage emotional investment

Honesty is key: Make it clear you love to meet up now and then. But that you also don't want a relationship. Set expectations. This makes it easier for her to manage her emotional investment properly. She knows the deal.

The biggest problem with maintaining FWB is that one of you will fall for the other. Therefore, you should limit the time you spend together to keep emotions somewhat at bay. Here are some general guidelines I like to follow:

Check how strong your emotional connection is / how needy someone is (you or her):

• Strong connection / needy: Limit meetings to once every two weeks.

• Average connection: Meet once a week.

• Weak connection / non-needy: See them twice per week or even more if you want.

If you notice someone is getting highly emotionally invested: Reduce how often you meet.

If you notice someone getting a bit too cold / chill about your interaction: Increase how often you meet.

You always need to check the temperature of your connection here. To ENSURE IT STAYS LUKE WARM. Your connections should never run cold, and never run hot. You manage this with how often you meet them. Too cold? Meet more often. Too hot? Meet less often.

You have to accept some things when you have a rotation:

• FWBs generally don't last more than a few months. So you need to be thinking about adding new people every now and then to fill in the ones you lose over time. Women rarely want to do FWB forever.

• When you lose your FWB, be kind to them and accept it as part of the game.

• Accept that a good FWB = good sex. But NOT a fantastic emotionally deep connection.

• If you want that deeper connection with someone, FWB is not the way. Aim to move it to a relationship or open relationship. Totally fine if you meet an amazing woman and want to do that. Just beware that it's not good to stay in FWB with someone like that. You need to change the dynamic towards something more substantial.

How to MESS SHIT UP:

• Hanging out with her WITHOUT having sex. Oh oh, this is relationship behavior! Don't do that. Meeting up for a nice date is fine. But sex needs to be part of it.

• Sending heart emojis, or "good night" and "good morning" messages. This is again, relationship behavior. You are FWB. NOT a relationship!!!

• Messaging all the time. Even if she wants that, you need to pump the breaks a bit on this and slow down your responses.

• Being too cold / unavailable. You don't want to be too cold / dismissive either. Be kind and supportive to your FWB, without being too romantic.

• Give romantic gifts like roses, jewerly etc. Now you're entering into relationship territory or Sugar daddy territory. That is another topic. This post is about FWB.

• Talking about other women you're currently fucking / seeing. This is a turn-off to almost all women. Be vague on details with other women.

• Naming the fling you have "FWB, fuckbuddy, rotation, friends with benefits, situationship" or any other label. These labels all come with baggage, assumptions, and social stigma. It will usually turn her off if you call her your fuckbuddy or "my situationship" or similar. Avoid labels. Make agreements instead. Your "thing" is unique. Or at least make it feel like that.

How to add stability / longer lasting FWB:

Stay in touch every few days and be friendly and clear. Don't play games with communication or expectations. An FWB fling is already uncertain in nature, so ensure you add CERTAINTY to the situation to balance things out. You do that with clear, warm, consistent behavior and communication from your end. Be a warm ROCK for her. Not a fuzzy blanket to sleep in. But someone she can depend on to be a good, stable FWB. But not so comfy she wants to move in.

Ensure to answer any questions she has about "what you want" with clarity and warmth.

Be kind to your FWB as a friend. But don't ever go as far as treating her like a girlfriend.

• BALANCE VULNERABILITY: Vulnerability brings emotional closeness so beware of getting too close if you want to keep it FWB. Too little vulnerability brings coldness, so beware of that too, as growing too far apart can also make her lose all interest in keeping the FWB. It's all about finding a healthy balance.

• OPEN COMMUNICATION: Talk to her about her preference for the ideal balance, and how often she wants to meet you, if you're not sure. Open communication about this is super healthy. It's ethical and smart to ask her about her preferences for how often to text, how often to meet etc. so you can take that into account when you decide what to do. It's not that you have to follow what she wants, but you should at least KNOW what she wants.

• SUPPORT your FWB: Be willing to pay for dinner dates, taxi rides, and/or other small unexpensive favors. This will make her want to keep you in her life because you're a net benefit. You don't only provide sex, you also come with additional perks which makes her see you as extra worth to keep around for longer.

• BE OK WITH HER SLEEPING OVER, OR NOT: Let her have some say in how things go down. Keep her comfortable and give her a feeling of having some control. But also place limits so it doesn't get too involved. A weekend get-away or staying over multiple nights in a row? I advise against it (quickly becomes too romantic).

• GIVE HER ADVICE ABOUT DATING GUYS: Many women see this FWB thing as practice for her next proper relationship. So ensure to be happy to provide real and honest advice about how guys think, what they like etc. So that she can learn something and prepare herself for the next proper relationship. Women LOVE if you're a good teacher on this front. This is all part of providing that VALUE. Not just sex.

As always bros, no AI ever in any of my posts. Peace out and hope you got something out of it!

Yesterday i went to a rave and there was this girl who was alone and i started to open up by saying 'enjoying the music?' and then she said 'yeah'. after prolly one or two minutes i asked again whats ur name what do you do and stirred up the conversation, apparently she works in the same place where i went to college and i have a lot of friends working in her workplace(mentioned that), and then asked do you go to raves often, she said no what about you, i said yeah i go to xyz a lot during the weekends they have one tomorrow as well. she was visiting the city for the weekend and wanted to find places to go. and then she started listening to the music again and just dipped after a few minutes.

I find her again on the other side, and by that time guy #2 walks in and talks to her and grabs her number, but that guy leaves after that. guy #3 walks in after few minutes and started talking to her and was saying oh we are having a party tomorrow lemme grab ur number if u wanna come, she gave it and the guy #3 also dipped in a bit by teasing her 'youll not remember me' and the girl said 'no no ill remember dont worry'. anyways, i was like 2ft away from her so i wanted to approach her again, but then guy #4 walks in and talking to her again continuously for 4-5minutes. She said she'll be back, goes to the bathroom, and then after a few minutes , i see her with guy #5.

Now that guy #5 was super tall, and fair. he was just talking to her continously. at that point, my friend pulled me and i was dancing with him for a bit. After about 30-40 minutes or so, i try to find the girl again. there was another room in the rave so i go to that room and finally see that girl with guy #5 making out with each other like crazy. and then they just grabbed coats and got into an uber together.

I guess my main question is theres sooo many sequences that happened, where did i go wrong?? i think i was a little hesitant in the beginning to talk or maybe was talking to her in a more friendly manner whereas the other guys were saying something different???

Why do men love spanking? What drives you to do that ?

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People look down on "lines," but it's like doing a ton of math problems when you're 7. You're not solving new problems, you're doing reps to internalize connections in your brain.

Some of these lines are pretty aggro, like calling someone fat or ugly. You can soften them or just run an "abundance gambit" when you say it anyway and give no fucks.

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Done well enough with relationships in my life, but trying to get better at the fun, casual side now that I'm single again. Have never brought a woman back to my place that I just met that night, or from a first date.

Everybody talks about plausible deniability - "come back and (activity that isn't sex)," which gives her an easy out even if she comes back with you, and a reason to pretend like she's not there to sleep with you until she does. Problem is, everything I can think of would sound pretty dumb at midnight. "Come back and watch (2 hour movie we talked about" - makes no sense at that hour. "Come back and play (video game)" sounds great but I don't really have any video games. Everything sounds kinda dumb to me. I get that it's just a fun game you're both playing, but it still has to make sense.... right? Or is this a "how it makes her feel, not what the words mean" kinda thing?

Hola a todos. Hace poco me apareció el perfil de una excompañera del trabajo en Instagram, esta en cierta manera me llamo la atencion y pues me gustaría escribirle.

No teníamos una amistad súper cercana, pero nos llevábamos bien. Mi problema es únicamente el primer mensaje para romper el hielo, una vez que la charla arranca, ya sé cómo mantenerla fluida.

¿Qué frases o estrategias recomiendan para iniciar la conversación de forma natural y sin que parezca forzado?

Don't give me the typical answer of, I would balance them out (which I agree with) or stuff like the sum of different skills is what makes you good at it (which I also agree with) .

BUT

Let's say you're a random npc and you have to get results ASAP.

You can only chose one skill to put all your time into.

Body language? Running structured game? Practicing confidence? Master openers? Frame?

What do you think has the bear ROI straight off the bat?

I wanna hear you guys out.

Anyone in the region wanna go out? Night game in uptown, downtown, river. Or whatever. All my old wings are coupled up.

They're usually informal, 1 on 1 hangouts that can be sort of considered a date. For some reason, after the first one, I never get a second, and it's a pattern at this point. It's not like I'm framing it as a friendly hangout and then dropping some long confession midway through or anything. Like I'm not making strong moves at all (honestly I wasn't making any romantically significant moves at all, but I did keep it playful).

The first one isn't too hard to get but the second feels almost impossible.

for example, if I see a girl but I’m just vibing, say I’m on a hike or cloud watching in the park, or at the beach walking, or at a solo movie night at the theater, or whatever just happy space, do you ever just let a girl go her own way in like a respectful move? a way that’s like “I see you girl but I don’t really see a point I’m in my own world”or do you slip your seduction switch everytime and pursue?