Hello,

I’m coming here in hopes that there’s any kindness left in my world.

Currently going through one of the toughest periods of my life and I’m thinking it’s time to face reality. My twins are 7 months old and I’ve been practically doing it alone. I’m not happy with how unsupportive my partner has been through all this especially since he made me keep them. Yes it sounds horrible but I wanted to have an abortion the moment I knew I was pregnant I made an appointment & wasn’t going to say anything. In the last hour I let my emotions take over and I told the dad about it. He encouraged me to make an ultrasound appt to see how far along I was. To my surprise there were two sacs on the screen he was happy and told me to cancel my appointment. Everything went down hill the moment we found out the genders. 2 girls. There were ups and downs my pregnancy was not easy. I gave birth to two healthy 8 pound babies. It’s been rough on me I know I have postpartum because deep down I didn’t want this. I LOVE my babies with my entire soul and I apologize to them all the time for bringing them into this situation. So innocent so pure. I don’t know if it’s the hormones or his complete detachment from us that I want him to leave but stay.

I wanted to shower and I asked him if he could watch the girls he told me no. NO. I went back to the babies and started to sob uncontrollably minutes later he came into the room and told me coldly to go shower. I asked him to please not let them cry so I can take a very much needed peaceful shower. For context I struggle with showering because all I hear is phantom cries and I’m filled with panic. As I’m showering I hear crying, I think to myself to claim down and it took me a moment to realize that I was hearing real cries. I quickly finish up and go into the room where I see him on his phone while my babies are crying their heads off. I cry immediately he walks away.

I am so fucked up in my head that I don’t know if I’m over reacting or if I should leave. We have a five year old who literally is heaven sent. When she sees me overwhelmed she asks if I need a mommy break and that she will help me. In those moments I immediately shut my emotions off and pretend I’m happy.

I have no support don’t have the means so leave on my own. If he’s not happy which he clearly hasn’t been for a long time why hasn’t he left why is he putting me through this. I’m so heartbroken. On one hand I should’ve listened to myself and would have never gone through this & on the other hand I have two beautiful girls. It’s sad instead of figuring this out with him I’m leaning on strangers for support.

What should I do or what can I do to not go off the deep end

I'll be exactly 28wks pregnant with my b/g twins tomorrow and I just finished their loveys! One thing to cross off the list of projects I want to make before they are born. I try not to be too ambitious, but crocheting is my form of nesting. With my firstborn I learnt how to crochet and made a lovey for her, the merry-go-round for her cot, some hats and toys. Now I plan to make blankets for each of my kids, one more merry-go-round (the solar system one) as we will eventually end up with 2 separate cots and some winter hats with leftover yarn from the blankets. The blanket for my singleton is already made, now I'm working on the blue one for boy twin (in my head if I won't be able to finish the third blanket the older sister will borrow her blanket for girl twin untill I finish the pink one😅). I really hope the twins will be good and stay put untill 2027, ideally I'd like to carry them to 38+5 but I know it's a stretch.

Posted some photos of items I've made and WIP blanket.

Are there any other parents of multiples who also crochet? 😊

Help. Just in general 🙃, please.

I’m 36. Husband is 38. We have been married 14 years and tried for baby on/off unsuccessfully the whole time. Just 3 months ago we had a long talk and decided we may never be parents and that’s just going to be ok. Then BAM! Preggo with twins! I don’t know anything about anything and the internet is so overwhelming! Tips? Like when do I start a registry/how do I know what to register for? I don’t know the right questions to ask. I’m lost…

This is my second pregnancy and I got pregnant when my first was 9 months old. I honestly don't remember the pelvic floor pressure being this bad with my first, but tmi it feels so full each time I sit down to use the restroom or even just standing around too long. Getting progressively worse as the pregnancy continues.

Maybe it's a weak pelvic floor from my first pregnancy or just the fact there are two little babies in there this time around looking for others'experiences. I'll for sure bring it up to my OB at next appt.

Trying to think through logistics and how to safely travel with two under two!

Also, has anyone gate checked one car seat and only taken one onto the plane and switched off the lap infant? Any advice is appreciated! Bonus if you have ever done it solo! Thank you!

I’ve been pretty intentional about my identical girls (22months old) being treated like individuals. We don’t refer to them as “the twins” and we do not dress them alike. But now that they’re getting older I’m wondering will they eventually ask me questions like why they have the same birthday or why they look exactly alike. When did you tell your twins that they’re twins and was it just like “you’re twins” or something more elaborate and celebratory? I think I also worry because they have an older brother and I don’t want him to feel less special because he doesn’t have a twin. We get plenty of that when we’re out in public and strangers acknowledge the twins but not him.

I am 26 weeks with our mono/di girls and we are struggling if we should set up 2 nurseries or not. We have the extra room to separate them but I have also seen things online of parents saying they kept their twins together and it helped in the long run. I would love to know what other people did and their experiences!

Hey all, looking for advice - I’ve got 4 year old twins non identical and currently 6 weeks pregnant. And I’m feeling very anxious about it being twins again. Not necessarily them being twins just the load of another set of twins being pregnant with twins and the associated risks of twin pregnancies and taking away time with the girls I’ve already got. How likely is it to be twins again?? Two sets of twins doesn’t seem impossible but I’m scared.

Thanks in advance

My husband might get admitted to the hospital. He’s currently in the ER being evaluated for heart issues. It’s up in the air if they’re going to discharge him or admit him.

Basically all of our family is across the country from us in our home state. We moved for my husband’s job early this year.

Our twins are 2.5 months adjusted. Our 2.5 yr old toddler is currently with his grandparents in our home state, but my mother-in-law is bringing him back in three days.

I will be on my own if he gets admitted. I need as much advice and suggestions as possible. The twins are combo fed.

Edit: they’re discharging him. Thank you all for the advice!

I am 34+2 with Di Di twins and in the last few days my Braxton Hicks have begun going all night long. Like legit every few minutes - it severely disrupts my sleep because it’s obviously uncomfortable. Is there any solution for this? 😅

Does it mean labor is near or am I still in for another 4 weeks of no sleep?

Mine collectively weighed 15.5lbs!! I carried these little cuties until 38 weeks exactly. Luckily no nicu time. Born via c-section because they were both breech, twin A was 7lbs 15oz and her brother was 7lbs 7oz. Plus, di-di twins meant two placentas and double the amniotic fluid! My belly was heavyyyy and the relief was instant once they were out. My doctors and nurses all said they were some of the biggest twins they’ve seen, and my OB said it was like they both thought they were singletons in there lol

How big were your twins at birth?

Hi! I am a single mom of 5 month twin girls, no support system, just me and them, and for now we live in an first floor apartment no elevator, also we live in Spain so some sidewalks can be very narrow. I want your twin strollers recommendations for my personal context, it has to be very light and maneuverable in uneven pavement and get through narrow sidewalks, and my top priority is that it has to be easy to fold and unfold when getting in and out of the car and it’s a plus if I can also put car seats on top of the stroller without having to disassemble the stroller chairs. I have no budget limit, but if it’s on the low price range it’s also a plus.

I would really appreciate your recs on strollers and also any other products recs or advice that can make my life easier. Thank you💕

My boys are blessedly healthy at 14 months, but damn are they full service. They both an either laughing or 10:10 world is ending in pain crying; no middle ground. A is always on move running, climbing, and getting hurt accordingly. B is more cautious, but is much more dramatic. Little man needs to be soothed every few minutes for… something. Nothing medically wrong, and he’s not even particularly fussy, just when he gets hurt or frustrated by something it’s a wail-fest that will typically last until he’s co-regulated. We’re at a stage where they are often dropping the second daytime nap, and generally both are somewhat resistant to sleep. 20 minutes without someone crying is uncommon so daytimes are already a handful.

They are typically are asleep by 8-8:30, and aside from one usually resisting later than the other relatively painless. But B, just like the daytime, tends to need sporadic support -briefly- to fall back asleep. Again, does not generally self-soothe so not intervening just means escalating until he fully wakes either himself or a sibling. Some nights this can be once or twice, other nights as much as every 40 minutes. A sleeps great until around 2-3am, but from there on unpredictable. Sometimes he sleeps, sometimes he is upset for a while, more often he seems in a semi-awake but eyes closed state. He often wants to be touching someone but then pinches/scratches absentmindedly. Sometimes for hours, and if you try to stop that (because it hurts) he immediately rouses and gets upset. Most mornings around 5 they clearly want to cuddle -usually mom- but will quickly fall back asleep. We keep trying to avoid cosleeping but to get any sleep ourselves that’s often the only course. Both are predictably waking up in earnest around 6:45.

Between the two of us a good night means waking up 2-3 times. But bad nights can be downright sleepless or only short periods of uninterrupted sleep.

I don’t know what to do. I have 7 month old twins (6 months since they were born 5 weeks early) and a two year old. I have two older children (13 and 18 but they’re easy). The father of the twins and toddler does not help very much with the twins… at all. Unless I ask him to. And even then, he will pout and make a HUGE deal about it. After they were born he didn’t change diapers or feed them a bottle until months went by and I couldn’t take it anymore so I’d run out of the house for him to fend for himself. I would run out and sleep in my car. I was breast pumping, and doing a formula combo. He sometimes would wash the pumps… if I was lucky. He does not let me take naps and watch the kids. So far, 7 months in, I took two naps during the day. He somehow takes naps whenever he wants OFTEN (and yes I get mad and interrupt his naps because when I ask for one he says no!! And usually he runs out of the house when I flip out asking for a nap!!) He does zero house work besides take the trash out, and even then I have to beg him most times. I would beg for cleaning help, but he will barely even fill the pans with water after when I ask,m. He did start making dinner but then would leave literally everything out for me to clean, literally everything.. trash, things to go back in the fridge, spices ect. And now he sometimes doesn’t even cook, maybe once a week if that. I am stuck now during dinner time, cooking, cleaning, feeding both babies bottles AND solids, trying to get the toddler to eat and hopefully.. somewhere I eat. I am going to bed constantly without eating because I literally have no time to. Or fall asleep with a full plate of food. Now he does work two jobs and is the financial provider while I stay home, but even that feels like I need to ask for permission for anything needed and he makes a big emotional stink about it. I’m super stressed out and when I mention needing more help he takes it as me fighting with him and he now runs off to sleep at his mom’s house ! I’m so very annoyed !! And there is almost no talking to him, he points the finger and runs! I want to leave so bad (we’re not married thankfully) but I quit my jobs to raise the children (and I had two jobs before also while being a mother to my two older kids, so I know what that’s like too!)

Mono-mini twins

I’ve had a scan yesterday showing 8 weeks pregnant and the lady said my twins are showing to be in the same sack and they can’t see anything dividing the membrane. I’ve been researching and it’s causing me quite a lot of anxiety any help or advice would be appreciated:)

Currently my husband and I sorta swap between caring for the twins. In the in between when the orher parent wakes they get something to eat, throw a load of bottles to wash assist with a feed do anything before settling in and sending the other parent in to rest.

Our rest periods range anywhere from 2 to 6 hours. Depending on if the other parent needs help, if the babies are fussing at the same time for an extended period of time, or if they feel rested enough to jump back in.

During the day time we both may stay awake together for 6 or so hours before sending one parent to rest.

It seems to work for us but I feel like we could make better use of our time. The babies are 4 weeks old and this is our second week tackling it just he and I. My shifts run pretty smoothly and babies nap until feed time. But dad has a hard time and I am often forced to wake and help because he can't calm them both.

So tell me what worked for your household,?

Hi everyone. As the title says, are there any good dupes for the crib sheets? The official sheets are quite pricy for a pack of 2, and we'd probably need a few on rotation. I've seen some on Amazon but none say they're compatible for the twin crib, but I wonder if they would fit regardless. Please share links if you've found good ones :) thanks!

We just switched our 2.5 yr old twins to toddler beds. We did check-in sleep training and it worked great...until they realized that terrorizing one another will get mom or dad back into the room. Since then, hours of bedtime are spent trying to protect one from the other (they switch places as the antagonizer depending on the day). It's exhausting. Bedtime is often 2.5 hours. Often the one that needs protecting ends up being taken to fall asleep in our bed. We have a two bedroom house so separate rooms aren't an option.

Help? Solidarity? Suggestions? All are welcome!!

My wife and I recently welcomed boy girl twins. We already have a 2.25 year old toddler girl.

Toddler and I have a great relationship, and she’s leaned on me a bit more in recent months just because of my wife’s physical limitations.

Ever since the twins have been born, the toddler will not let me out of her sight. She’s beyond clingy, and won’t let anyone else bathe, change, feed, play with, or be near her. The only exception is during daycare hours because I’m never there to begin with.

My mother in law has been an amazing help, but my daughter refuses to bond with her. It’s making it very difficult for me to help my wife with the twins since my daughter wont let me.

My mom is trying to help too as best she can but my daughter wont go to her either. It would be great if they could hang with her while I help my wife but toddler won’t allow it.

My daughter has always been clingy to me around my parents who we don’t see as often, but she previously had a very good relationship with my MIL.

How do I get this little bugger to not be so attached to me? Does it take time? Any tips or tricks would help.

For the record I feel awful about it too because she’s been my world for 2 years

Almost 34 weeks with mo/di boys and I am just so done. Still working full time as a preschool teacher and just so exhausted and in so much pain. Discussing delivery with my OB on Monday. Is asking to delivery in the 36th week too early? I know the closer to 37 is ideal but I don't think I can physically go past 37. I'd probably beg for 37+0 if they pushed me that far. So far no complications besides twin B had over 8cm of fluid at our last scan so we're monitoring and I'm going to ask my OB to run some blood work since I've suddenly been dealing with itchy palms. When did you deliver your babies?

Our twins are 6.5months actual, 5.5months adjusted. Why do I feel like I can’t it handle them alone? I mean, I do it, but not without feeling like a failure and incompetent and it being stressful. It’s the sleeping situation. Naps. If I have to be alone to put them down for naps, it’s sheer chaos.. how do yall do it?! Is it seamless??

And why do I feel like I cannot schedule outings with other friends, even if my husband is with me to help with the twins? Like HOW do you plan anything at specific times when naps are so all over the place?? Seriously, may be obvious to yall, but HOW DO I HANDLE IT IF WE WANT TO GO SOMEWHERE WITH THEM, especially somewhere fun for the kids like to the zoo or like a restaurant outing, etc.?

One of our twins is struggling with Enfamil EnfaCare/NeuroPro Preemie formula – looking for advice from other parents!

We have premature twin boys, and both are currently taking Enfamil NeuroPro EnfaCare (preemie formula). One of our twins tolerates it perfectly fine, but our other little guy seems to be having a really difficult time with it.

He has been diagnosed with reflux and is currently taking famotidine, but he is still vomiting after his bottles at least 1–2 times a day. Sometimes he seems to be in a lot of discomfort, arches his back, and appears to be in pain. It's heartbreaking watching him struggle, especially when we see his twin doing so well with the same formula.

We also had a really scary experience where he choked on his vomit, which has made us even more concerned.

We've tried Mylicon gas drops, but they haven't seemed to make much of a difference. One time, he even threw up shortly after receiving them.

We're wondering if this could be:

• A formula intolerance or sensitivity?

• More severe reflux or GERD?

• An issue with how he's digesting the formula?

• Something else entirely?

Has anyone experienced something similar with their premature babies? Did switching formulas help? Were there other treatments or approaches that made a difference?

We are planning to discuss alternatives with his pediatrician, but we'd really appreciate hearing about other parents' experiences.

We just want our little guy to be comfortable, keep his bottles down, and not be in pain. ❤️

I have just found out I’m pregnant with DiDi twins, first pregnancy after trying for a year. I am internally and I guess externally spiralling. We have everyone around us telling us how we’re financially screwed and how hard it’s going to be with two.
I’m feeling very overwhelmed and clearly emotional.

How did everyone cope with the negativity of being told horror stories? It’s hard to stay positive and excited currently😭