I gave birth to triplets just over 20 weeks ago, yesterday I had a ultrasound after having some pregnancy like symptoms over the last few weeks. I'm pregnant again, about 15-17 weeks (can't quite be precise in this circumstance) and it looks like there are 4 more coming. To say I'm in complete shock is an understatement. My husband is completely floored, we did always want a big family but this will take us up to 7 under 1 year olds before summer so much faster then we thought. I'm scared for all the possible complications of back to back pregnancy on top of carrying another set of multiples. My husband was practically enforcing bed rest on me before the doctors suggested it, but yea, I'm gonna have another 4 babies.

Edit; thanks for the awards but please there is no need to use them on me, I don't know what to do with them anyway!

I’m 24 weeks with twins alone and need help. I don’t know anyone in California and I would like to build a community I’m new to Reddit

I posted this in the TFMR subreddit too.

I’m currently 13+2 weeks pregnant with TCTA triplets. The pregnancy started as quadruplets but we lost one around 9 weeks.

Currently all three are measuring well and growing normally with good heartbeats but the huge risks associated with carrying three, to myself as well as to the babies, combined with the quality of life I feel I could offer if raising three children means that it’s just not an option I’m willing to consider.

We are scheduled for reduction at the end of this week and have been told we can turn up on the day and let them know how many we want to reduce by.

How do I choose? If there weren’t so many risks with carrying triplets I would want them all. I desperately wish it could be that way. We only ever intended on having one child but said if it were a twin pregnancy we’d be happy too. Now we have the option to choose between one and two it just seems completely surreal and I flip flop all day between the choices.

Please tell me how wonderful it is having twins. Please also tell me how terrible having twins is if that’s the case too. Tell me if having twins was the best choice you’ve ever made or if you wish you’d only had one baby. I’d like to hear it all. Feel free to dm me if you’d rather not share your stories publicly.

As every parent has heard, the “just wait” comments that are filled with negativity, I am having such a hard time with all the people in this subreddit that full on hate having twins. As if twin pregnancy isn’t stressful enough, and is often a surprise, I find myself reading all of this negativity. Someone please tell me it’s not that bad. I’m an experienced mom (3 boys currently), and am looking forward to having these babies here, though I’m sure there will be tough moments.

As a reminder to those truly struggling, please seek help from your doctor, therapist or a trusted loved one. PPD and PPA are serious matters, and I hope that each parent can get the support they need.

Hello, I am expecting twins, I am currently in my 12th week. First time pregnant, too.

I am 165 cm tall (5 ft 5 in) and my worry is that my body won't be able to do this. I know it is mostly anxiety but god when I really think about how short I am it is quite crazy to imagine what the third trimester will be like for my body.

Has any mum here had twins and is around the same height as me? How did you do?

Thanks in advance for any support :)

I am having trouble coming up with names for our twin girls. We have a tradition that runs through his family about double initials, for example our daughter’s name is Korbin Kassidy. We are looking for 2 full girl names that are more on the rustic side. Anyone have any ideas? Pic of gender reveal to not get lost.

I am 14 weeks pregnant with twins and just found out through NIPT that we're having male/male twins. The result obviously needs to be confirmed at an anatomy ultrasound, but the lab notes said that it was with 97% certainty that it's male/male twins.

I wasn't really expecting to have such a strong negative reaction to this outcome, but I've basically been crying my eyes out ever since we got the results. This is accompanied by feeling horrifically guilty because the more important part of NIPT was the testing for chromosomal abnormalities - all of which came back negative/normal. What should have felt like a huge relief is being overcast by this huge disappointment. If you had asked me two days ago how I'd feel if we were told we were having b/b twins I think my answer would have been, "I'd be surprised, but just happy they are healthy!" And man, that is just not at all how I feel. I feel heartbroken.

My wife and I have spent the summer discussing all possibilities (b/b, b/g, g/g). My wife had a hunch that we were going to have b/g twins and I felt (and I'm realizing now, really hoped) that we would have g/g twins. And in the process of these discussions, we have thrown around some names that we like. All of the names that we have agreed that we both like are girl names - we actually haven't come up with a single boy name thus far that both of us agree on. Which is totally fine - we have SO much time to figure that out. But because of this, we've been lightly/jokingly referring to the babies inside of me as the two girl names that we both like. Which I guess was silly of us, because now I feel like I am grieving them. I feel like the dumbest person on the planet, but I didn't realize that I was getting attached to thinking of them as two girls.

My wife isn't upset - she's just totally relieved that the babies are healthy. She's also completely understanding about my disappointment/sadness, and has been so, so sweet to me since we found out. On top of my sadness about the results, I also feel terrible, like I ruined this moment for us by being so surprisingly sad about it. My wife says she's not feeling that way - that she just wants to support me and she understands how I can feel so sad, etc. But I do still feel guilty for being so sad at a time when we could have been celebrating and feeling happy and relieved together.

I'm really close with my mom, and she was really close with her mom. I was also really close with my grandmother. I have one sister and we are close. All of these female familial relationships have been so important to me throughout my life, and I was really looking forward to sharing that with a daughter. I know that boys can and will be great - but there is something special about girls and their moms, and girls and their grandmothers. And grandmothers, moms, and daughters all together. Something also seems different for boys with their moms once they are old enough to move out, date, get married and have kids. You know that silly meme about feeling sad you have boys because you suddenly realized you'll be the one who never sees your kid at Christmas, because they'll be with their wife's family? That's the kind of silly thing I keep thinking about. It's weird because my wife is one of 6 and this exact dynamic is how it plays out at the holidays with her family. Her brothers are all with their wives' families - it's the sisters and their families who are with my wife's parents at the holidays. Anyway, it's silly but still nags at me the more I think about it and imagine the future.

There's also a weird component here of my wife and I being a part of the LGBT+ community, which largely puts a huge de-emphasis on sex and gender in general, and I'm feeling guilt for that too, like I'm somehow betraying my community or my normal thought process by feeling sad about the results. Of course I know that boys can wear dresses and like the color pink and all of that. But it's not about dresses or tiaras or princess stuff or the color pink. It's about the connection that I had hoped for with a girl as she grew up. We’ll be done after these twins, so no “trying for a girl”.

Bottom line: Have you experienced this? Please tell me this feeling will pass. I feel heartbroken. How do I move through this and back into a place of excitement and happiness?

At one point we had five kids four and under. Two sets of twins. Since we have had seven.… I may want one more not sure yet… But nearing 40 I know it would be the last one if I say yes. My husband says he's content… But lately the pressure of people around me that think they need to give input . It's not just one but many. Why do you care how many kids I have if we can afford it and aren't religious? Please read below.

• it won't let me edit the title now, but I meant to say we don't have a reason like religion to have mini kiddos… Maybe we are just crazy and I love a big family? We always get a lot of flack for having "so many kids ".

We love it, we can afford it, and yeah, having 78 and under is a lot but, we knew the sacrifices we were making at the time. Dirty house, not being able to travel as much, sickness being passed around and around, closer quarters.... the negative things. But there's so so so many positive things. Why do people have to question? Why do you have so many kids question is this your last one question oh my goodness do you know how this happens? Please tell me you are done now… this may be the most hurtful because all of our kids are super polite and great kiddos minus one that is super defiant when he gets home from school lol. But that's beside the point.

I'm not a parent of multiples, but I'm curious if anyone had a parental intuition and felt they might become a twin mom or dad, or if they were completely surprised. In September, I welcomed my first child after a series of miscarriages, and from the moment I saw the positive pregnancy test, I had a strong feeling that this one would work out. I'm interested in hearing if you've had a similar experience.

Hi All, we are expecting twin boys. My plan was always to name my first born son after me, as I’m a junior and I wanted to keep the tradition going.

Now that there are 2, I’m not as confident. Has anyone done this with twins? I worry that it could cause resentment or jealousy. Am I overthinking this?

Not that my name is great or anything lol. Just that one would have my name and the other wouldn’t. Curious for your thoughts, or if anyone has experience with this. Thanks!

I have recently worked up the courage to be straight up rude to people who make comments in public and I just want to thank everyone here. From reading other posts and comments I formed a different opinion on it and it’s very validating to react in a manner that’s not friendly, polite or nice.

Think about how it would be interpreted in other scenarios. People are essentially making comments about your family. Oh your toddler has Down syndrome, that must be rough. Oh you’re childless, are you infertile? Oh you only have girls, when are you going to try for a boy? So. Fucking. Rude. Totally unacceptable. You want to ask me if they’re twins? Go right ahead, it’s normal to be curious. Want to make a comment about how hard it must be, how you’re glad it’s not you, how my hands are full, or just generally grunt because it seems overwhelming if it was you? I will tell you to fuck right off. If my hands are full, your tits are saggy. If you’re glad it’s not you, I’m glad I’m not some old hag, so seems we can agree we’re glad we’re not each other.

People might mean well but some don’t and I’m tired of being polite to people that want to make comments about my family in public. Having twins is hard but I fucking love it! It’s also really fun. I get so much love! I get to watch their sweet, rare bond develope. I wouldn’t trade it for anything. I don’t want to do it again and I wouldn’t have signed up for it but man is it special.

Our twin is 15 months old now. They’re spawns of hell and we’re totally in love with them lol. I’ve been helping my wife with them, when I can but I know the mother is the parent who gets it the hardest with multiples. For all the moms out there don’t feel like you’re not doing enough for them cause you’re definitely doing what you can. I’ve seen my wife feeling this irrational guilt cause she’s bent backwards taking care of the whole family. Having twins is about survival and then they’ll be best friends and it’ll be the best thing to ever happen to you. Sending you positive vibes. And wishing you a very happy life

Mine are 3.5 months old and while some things are better, mostly every day is still hell and I hate it. I wish daily I only had one.

I'm queer, and my husband and I are expecting our first babies this fall. I've never been very disphoric about my gender, but all of the resources I read keep talking about "mom", and it's really starting to get to me. Do you know any resources I can use throughout my pregnancy that use more inclusive language? Thanks so much in advance 💛

Just sayin.

But save, save, save… and not just for college. You’ll be broke before they even get there. We have 2 sets of twins and 3 out of 4 are driving and 2 out 3 own a car. Our car insurance just went up to over $10,000 a month.

Save your pennies people, you’ll need them

Idk where to post this because the MIL subreddits don't allow screenshots. I feel stressed. Husband is not worried. He's had to deal with her his whole life. She can be nice in her own ways but this and also her insisting on coming to the hospital when I gave birth really irk me. (I didn't give into her btw)

5m post partym with my first baby, a single boy pregnancy. Ended up having a C-section due to hyperhydraminos (too much fluid) baby was last and in distress so they made the call to do a C-section.

We planned this ... We wanted 'irosh twins" because my husband is an Irish twin they are very close! SO we were over the moon excited, today I go in for my first ultrasound and the tech goes "Wow, Irish twins! You're going to have lots of fun" I joking said "yes mam now please, tell me it's just one" and she says VERY quickly ... Well it's not! There are two in there. Identical twins. Separate sac, sharing a placenta.

Immediately Im bawling with tears of joy!!! I always wanted identical twins, who doesn't dream of how awesome THAT would be!! We hoped and prayed my last pregnancy was twins. We never imagined we would be SO blessed .....

Now fear is setting in 💀🫣

My last baby was extremely colic for the first 3m. We moved cross country when he was 4wks old. We're in the middle of building a house ... I ALSO have a 10 year old son, 8 month old son and now ... Twins. My 9yp is very needy, troubled in school ADHD.

Someone tell me I can do this?! 😭

Twins AND a 14 month old toddler. Everyone talks about 2 under 2 .... We're going to have 3 under two!! 2 newborns and a toddler. I'm freaking out a little.

Also ... Not much family support. We moved cross country for family and all the sudden they're non existent except seeing them at church, cancelled on us 4x at last min for baby sitting. MIL is talking big game about how she's going to be there .... But she did this last time so we moved cross country, got out of the service annnnnd she's "too tired" or "too cold" and can't come babysit 30m before suppose to arrive.

Thank you internet strangers for taking time to read my word vomit. AHHHH ❤️

PS - we are overjoyed, but so nervous!

We have two boys & one had some early teething pain issues but was better with Tylenol. It was obvious he was teething, he was a huge chewer. The other guy never had issues until he had ISSUES. We didn’t even realize he was teething but he wouldn’t sleep because laying down hurt his mouth. We spent two days in sleepless misery until a smart parent on this group mentioned teething. Orajel & boom, sleep.

Last night the same baby had another sleep issue. They are 25 months & I know one boy is teething the 2 year molars because he’s chewing again. The other baby couldn’t stay asleep but once we used Orajel, boom, out like a light.

I’m pregnant with identical twins and will have five kids under five when my baby girls are born. I’m 15 weeks and we finally told our family and friends today. I’ve had multiple people ask me if they’re natural or medically influenced by pill influence or IVF. We didn’t do any fertility treatments at all. I don’t take any medicine or prescriptions besides prenatals. I always wanted twins and prayed a lot to have twins. No shade to anyone who did do fertility treatments and ended up with multiples.

Not only is it annoying to be asked it (I get it, they’re curious), BUT those who asked me didn’t even believe me when I said we didn’t do anything. Even my own mom. She literally asked me, my husband and other family members multiple times hoping one of us slips up or something? It’s so weird. Why bother asking if you’re not going to believe us? I think what bothers me if they assume we’re lying about it for some reason.

Anyone else go through this?

Of course it’s unsafe and a bad decision to leave the kids in the car, if only for just a ‘minute.’ It’s tempting though. Ever do it?

For example, run into a convenience to buy one thing. Can be in and out in less time than it takes to unfasten and fasten the car seat, not to mention deal with the stroller etc. I would never consider leaving them in the car for something that will surely take 5 or more minutes. A quick errand though, it has crossed my mind. Especially if they are asleep. I have one year old twins, so it is twice the effort to take them in anywhere.

Does the thought ever cross your mind?

NO YOU IDIOT!!!!

ONE set of twins.... TWO individuals.... If there were two twins.... YOU WOULD BE LOOKING AT 4 CHILDREN!!!!

.....sorry, rant over.

Have a good day.

triplets are 6, two in one class, one in another. wife is apple for everything, I am stuck on Google because of work, school communicates through email and a website that looks like it was built before the kids were born.

Last thursday i sat outside school for almost an hour because dismissal had changed and the email only got noticed on her side. Nothing dramatic happened, I just felt like an idiot in the car park eating emergency crackers just out of frustration because of wasting time i don´t hace in the first place

We do not need another calendar that both of us promise to maintain. We already proved we will not maintain it

how are people doing family calendar events sync when the adults refuse to switch platforms ??

I’m about 10 weeks out of having my first set of twins. I send my registry out and no one has bought anything??

They are both boys 😭😭. I’m honestly so shocked yall . Ik you never know but being that this will be my last pregnancy I thought I’d get both genders. Luckily I had my daughter first though so I can’t really complain. I doubt anything will be different besides them being twins.