Okay kind of a throwaway account but I just want to write this down and get some opinions.
Last year in December I, 18 female, saw a L'Occitane advent calendar on TikTok. I know that my dad really likes their hand soaps and some other things so I decided it might be a nice thing to get him. It was well into December when I saw it and it obviously wasn't worth getting anymore.
I kept it in mind the whole year until my mom and I went shopping in September and found the calendar in store and bought it to gift my dad. I kept the calendar in my room until today and my mom and I agreed to give it to him today.
I got the calendar, went into the living room, told my dad to close his eyes and set it down next to him. I told him to open his eyes and he just started at the bag for a moment before asking what it is. I told him it's a surprise for him, so he took the advent calendar out of the bag, but it's still wrapped in a dust bag. He asked if it was the advent calendar and my mom and I said yes. He asked if it wasn't just for women because that's what the person in store apparently told him, and we said that there's plenty of stuff for men in there. Then he asked if we used the 15% coupon that we can get through a certain portal, which we did.
During all of this he didn't once smile or even open the dust bag to look at the calendar.

I sarcastically told him that he had great enthusiasm and he started his usual speech of how he hasn't gotten gifts for the past 25 years, since being married, and that he's gotten used to it. This is true, non of use, mom, brother, or me are very good gift givers, we think very hard ever year but it's very hard to shop for my dad as everything that's kind of affordable he'll just buy himself when he needs it and things he doesn't get immediately are just too expensive as a gift.
I'm at the age where I actually notice what people like and might enjoy as gifts and also have the money to get people things their might enjoy, which is my I was so excited to have gotten this for him and to give it to him. I absolutely get that after a certain point of not getting gifts you get used to it and don't expect anything, but literally anytime I, or anyone in the family, tries to get him a gift and do something nice he pulls out the same speech.
Anyway, at that point I was literally close to tears so I just got up and went to my room and now I'm typing this. I don't need him to jump up and hug me or anything, but at least act like you at least like it a little bit and say thank you, it was a 170€ and a year of keeping it in mind after all. So, am I in the wrong for being upset or is my dad in the right for basically not reacting at all?

I (18 female) worked in a restaurant in an east coast beach town this past summer There I met a guy who I thought was extremely cute.

I had hooked up with a couple of guys that my cousin introduced me to at the beach before I started the job and met this guy. We live in the same home town an hour from the beach. The guy had a girlfriend and wasn’t picking up my signals at all. I started telling everyone at work that I really liked this guy and totally wanted to be with him. I stopped seeing any other guys totally and flirted as hard as I could at work and at nighttime parties we were at.

I was headed to college and he was in his senior year in high school. The college was in the same town as where we grew up. He started to like me more and more and we hooked up a little and then he told me he broke up with his girlfriend. We started seeing each other every day during and after work.

He liked going down on me and he did that a lot but he did not want to have sex. I don’t like giving head but really wanted to have sex with him.

Summer is over and I was frustrated that we never had sex. I started college and met another guy who I liked a lot. We had sex and started seeing each other a lot.

Me and the summer guy never said we were boyfriend girlfriend to each other. He called a lot and we spoke on the phone and went to a couple of movies together since I started college.

So he started to understand that I started to see someone else. He says he is emotionally destroyed. He said he broke up with his girlfriend to be with me and while we never had sex it was because he was afraid of getting me pregnant because his old girlfriend had a scare just before he met me.

I knew he liked me and I did think that I would see him after the summer was over but college was fun and I was overwhelmed with classes and parties and I met this other guy and he asked to be my boyfriend so things just fell into place.

Now thanksgiving is coming up and summer boy is calling and texting and instagramming about the fun we had in the summer. I know there will be parties over the holidays with people who we worked with and I have to be in places where he will be.

My friends say that I have to cut it off cold with him. Tell him that I have moved on and it’s over.

But I can’t. I do love being with him when we are together and he is cute and smart and while we haven’t had sex he is very good at doing everything else. He is just a year younger and I don’t like the thought of saying goodbye like we will never have a close relationship again.

So my plan is to see him. Hook up with him if he wants to. Maybe have sex if he can get over his concern that even safe sex can lead to pregnancy…
I think about him more and more as the holidays come up and I think I am going to go on a break with college boy.

My sisters like summer boy more than college boy but my friends say I should not break up with college boy.

Am I all about the grass being greener ? Or am I doing the right thing.

we got into it over something small, like usual, and i got defensive right away. the whole time i just kept listing reasons why i was right instead of actually listening. after we stopped talking i realized i had been kind of a jerk about it and i apologized, but my partner said it felt like the apology came way too late. now i'm wondering if that really matters. like, does the timing of saying sorry make it less real, or is it enough that i got there eventually? i don't want to keep rehashing it, but the way it landed still feels off and i don't know if i'm supposed to do more or just move on.

Just a quick story and question.
I was offered a trial at a cafe in a park that pays $32/hour. When I first checked Google Maps, the commute by train was around 56 minutes, so I thought it was manageable.
However, when I checked again today, I realised it would actually take around 1 hour and 25 minutes each way.
My trial was scheduled for 9 am and I woke up at 6 for it. The trial itself was only 30 minutes, but I started thinking about how exhausting that commute would be in the long run, especially if I had to do it several times a week.
I ended up cancelling 2.5 hours before the trial.
Now I feel really bad because I had already agreed to come three days ago, and I don’t want to come across as unreliable or disrespectful of their time.
Was I wrong for cancelling, especially on such short notice?

we were supposed to split a grocery run for a few shared staples, agreed i'd grab produce and they'd pick up the rest. on the way home i realized the list was a little different from what we talked about so i swapped a couple items for cheaper options that still fit the same meals. when i got back they seemed surprised and asked why i changed things. i explained it was to keep costs down and still cover what we needed, but now i'm second-guessing if i should have stuck exactly to the plan or checked first. they haven't said anything else about it, yet i keep wondering if changing the list without checking was overstepping or if it was a reasonable call for something small. trying to look at it from both sides, was i wrong for adjusting on the fly or is this kind of thing usually fine when the outcome is basically the same?

Someone held the door for me at the entrance earlier and my automatic response was a quick thank you followed by an apology. I did not even bump into them or cause any delay, I just felt like I was taking up their time or something. It was a totally normal gesture and now I cannot stop thinking about how I said sorry for no real reason. It is one of those tiny social moments that keeps replaying in my head and I am wondering if that came off awkward or if people do stuff like this all the time without noticing. Ready to eat crow if reddit says I overthought a normal interaction.

So much has happened that I'm shocked to see my last post was only five days ago. It feels like forever.

To sum up, my first post was about my boyfriend, who insists that I announce everything I plan to do while driving (turn signals, lane changes, windshield wipers, literally anything) and then wait for his approval before I actually do it. It's the most maddening part of our relationship, but I also brought up a few of his other odd habits.

I read the first 300 comments like a hawk and almost everyone was genuinely supportive. The fact that they all felt the same way, and the things people said, like so many women comparing my boyfriend to abusers they'd escaped, I don't know, it really rattled me. I couldn't see my boyfriend the same way anymore. All at once I felt like I was crawling out of my skin. In my last update I said I'd carefully think everything over and talk through my options with my mom, and if I left him I'd do it thoughtfully. Yeah, that's not how it went.

After work he asked me to drive us home because he'd had a rough shift. As we were leaving, I started asking whether he had any trauma around car accidents, since a lot of commenters thought his behavior might come from a traumatic event or some kind of OCD. My question just set him off. He said something like, is that what it takes for you to listen to me? Do I need to validate my fucking boundaries with some bad experience? Would it make you feel better if I got in a car crash, is that what you fucking want? I stumbled over myself telling him no, no, I don't want you to get in a car crash, I just said he's really strange about my driving so I figured maybe something caused it.

We sat

I live with two roommates in a pretty small place, so sound carries easily. Most nights I need to be up early for work, and lately one of them starts playing music or videos around 10 or 11 without headphones. I asked if we could keep it down after ten on weeknights and they said I was being uptight. I offered to buy a cheap soundbar or even pay a bit more toward headphones, but they brushed it off. Now the apartment feels tense whenever anyone wants quiet and I end up wearing earplugs just to sleep. I get that people want to relax at home, but the constant noise is wearing me down. Is it unfair to ask for a shared quiet time at night, or should I just deal with it?

i had plans with a couple of friends but really didn't feel like going out that night, so i said my phone was acting up and i might lose service. they ended up texting me updates anyway and one of them offered to swing by and give me a ride. i felt bad so i just didn't reply, hoping they'd assume the phone thing was real. later in the week someone asked how my phone was working again and i froze. i gave a vague answer and changed the subject but i keep replaying it. it wasn't a huge deal and nobody seems mad, but the whole thing feels weird now and i don't know if i should just mention it or let it go. it was such a small thing at first.

So I have been trying to keep a boundary with one of my parents about how much I can help with their finances. They keep asking for transfers, and I finally said that I need to stop doing it every time because it is starting to affect my own situation. The rest of the family found out and now everyone is saying I am making a big deal over nothing and that I should just help out more. I explained my reasons a couple times already, but it feels like no one wants to hear it. I am starting to wonder if I am wrong for holding my ground or if I should give in to keep the peace. It has been on my mind a lot and I just wanted to see how other people would handle the same thing.

My partner and I keep a shared account for household stuff. I found a decent deal on a new fridge that we had talked about needing but never settled on, so I went ahead and ordered it last week. When I mentioned it they were surprised and said they would have liked more input on the timing and the exact model. I thought it was an obvious upgrade and the price would only go up if we waited, but they pointed out we had been discussing saving for something else first. Nothing huge happened, we just had an awkward evening about it. They ended up accepting the fridge since it is already here, but I keep replaying the conversation and wondering if I crossed a line by spending the money without checking again. I know we both benefit from it and we can afford it, yet the principle feels off. Am I wrong for thinking a household need justifies the call, or should big purchases always wait until both people explicitly say yes?

Hi, this is an update for my post I made like years ago. Link to it is here og post

(Trigger warning incest)

So my ex and I broke up after some major drama. Turns out my MIL was very confrontational. I ultimately decided to end things after finding evidence of extreme enmeshment and some incest related behaviour one night while going through his phone. They used to have hangouts when her husband and I were both at work, and it was all very repulsive.

When I confronted him, he blew up, and she burst through my door screaming. The whole situation was extremely scary and threatening. I had no family in the area, so it was incredibly isolating. I moved out within three days and stayed at a women’s shelter for a week until I was able to get an apartment with my friend (we were so lucky to find a place in such a short amount of time).

After that, I completely reinvented my life. I eventually moved across the country, and now I’m a flight attendant and genuinely very happy with my new life. I’m still very scared of dating, but I’m working on it.

I do feel bad for his new girl, though. She has no idea what she’s in for.

Anyway, super random update, but I also forgot I posted this. This all happened in like 2024 so sorry for any discrepancies. Thanks!

I have a friend who recently went through a pretty nasty breakup with a guy who refused to be exclusive with her. We started going to movies together during that period because she wanted to get her mind off the situation.

At one point, she told me she was done dating and wanted to focus on herself for the rest of 2026. I actually encouraged her to get back out there, but she refused and insisted she was going to take a break from dating.
Well, apparently that didn’t last very long because she’s now dating someone new.

I’ve also noticed a pattern with her. It’s very obvious when she’s seeing someone because she’ll disappear for a few weeks (aka leave my texts on read), and then suddenly start texting me again when she has relationship drama to discuss.

We also went to movies together 3 separate times, and she never paid for her own tickets. She said that whenever she goes out to the movies, she buys the food and drink (which I never want since we’d just had dinner) whereas the other party buys the tickets. After our most recent movie outing a few weeks ago, she completely ghosted me. Now she’s back with updates about her new relationship.

Honestly, I’m getting tired of this dynamic. I’m single too, and I have professional exams to study for, I’m job hunting, and I want to put more effort into my own dating life.
I don’t want to be someone’s backup friend or relationship therapist whenever they’re single or having problems with a guy.

Are these types of women just male centered?

My in-laws has broken contact with me and my partner because they are uncomfortable with my illness. Not a very surprising situation considering their discomfort and dislike of sick people that they’ve shown in the past. With both elderly family members dying and when relatives had become ill. They’ve told him that they won’t contact or reach out to him anymore but that they expect him to reach out to them. He told them no. All this happened very recently.

In July they helped us pick out a car. They practically demanded that they wanted to help saying that they are the more experienced in the field as it’s our first car and they wanted to help us choose which one as they didn’t want us to pick something unsafe or get tricked my a cardealer. As we had a lot on our plate we gladly accepted the offer to get help. They picked out and even went and bought it for us before consulting or checking in with us first which tbh didn’t feel great. Considering it doesn’t even fulfill half of our demands, the dealer they bought it from is considered to be one of the worst in the country (with multiple police reports against them) and the car has cost about 2 K since then because there is so much wrong with it we are not very pleased. We even had a mechanic tell us we were lucky that we hadn’t been in an accident.
My partner didn’t tell them off but did tell them that they had to pay part of it which they accepted and we decided that we will not ask for their help again.

Now: When they bought the car the car included winter tires. They left these tires at their house about a 3 hours car ride away from where we live and we haven’t had the opportunity to pick them up during these months. They also told us that they prefered it if we didnt pick them as they liked having them as an excuse for us to come there. This was before I got sick. As stupid as we were we told them okay, but I did have a bad feeling in my stomach about it. We’ve had a mess of two weeks with a bad case of the common cold, him getting a new job and everything else that life throws at you and suddenly the snow came this week and he had to go quickly Wednesday to get the tires. When they were installing them they noticed that it didnt work, yes that’s right, my in-laws hadnt checked that the tires that came with the car were either good quality or even fit the car and left they at their place so we couldnt check them ourselves and had to trust them. So now they needed to get exchanged. They borrowed him his fathers car and told him that the needed to come back with it this weekend.

When I was told this I got absolutely enraged. Not only have they told their own son that as long as his lifepartner is sick neither he or his partner is welcomed at their home, they f*cked up with our tires that we shouldn’t have trusted them with in the first place apparently and now they demand that he should go back and drive all together 12 hours because of their mistake.

I told him no. After explaining to him how bizarre this is and even my own family (because I was at their place when he told me so they overheard) told him that this is not normal behaviour he agreed and today he called them and said that he can’t show up. He said that he’s behind on work because he’s been sick and he just started this job, he is still slightly sick, caughing and tired and I’m still kinda sick as well with a bit of trouble breathing and he even added that our home is a mess because we’ve been ill and this is our only day off before he has to go back. And you know what they said? No! I quote ”YOU still need to come and change the cars TODAY.”. That is 6 hours back and forth. After some discussion they decided that they could meet him halfway. Because they were not okay with waiting or coming to us. He came and told me this and I’m livid. I said that we can meet them halfway for his sake because he doesn’t want to have to fight with his family anymore than he needs to because he is still hurt by their actions earlier, but I’m so mad about this. And I find this behaviour so insane. I’m not telling them off because of respect for my partner as he has specifically told me that he doesn’t want me to, but I’m will not forget or ignore that this happened in the future.

Am I in the wrong for thinking this is unacceptable behaviour or am I in wrong here? And would it be wrong if I reached out and told they off anyways? Im guessing yes on that question and I want to protect my partners peace but this is making me livid.

I would also like to add that today is the first time they contacted him about it since Wednesday and yes I told my partner that he should had contacted them earlier about this and not in the last second but he has been so down and depressed lately and with us getting the cold and sleeping horribly and work… I know he is the one in the wrong there. But they have our car and can use it and could easily have waited a few days or came to us (which I find to be the only acceptable outcome in any situation here) when it fit them. Considering it’s their mistake from the beginning.

Its a constant problem that he drives past his exit, misses his turn, be in the wrong lane to make his turn in time. I'll try to direct him and he says he knows where to turn. When I dont direct him and he misses a turn he gets annoyed. Well, today his missing a "turn" was remarkable. We were in a parking garage parked in a space directly across the exit. We had come into the garage from a diffrent direction. I told him to just pull through to exit, so he pulls through. but, then instead of going straight out the exit, that was literally 100ft from our parking spot, he turns left to go to the further exit all because it was the one he came in. The funny part in all of this is that this is the biggest tension in our relationship. I do love him, but damn he is annoying sometimes.

went out with a couple of friends and when it was time to leave we decided to share a ride since we all live close. one friend paid up front for the whole thing, then at drop off everyone kind of froze about splitting the cost. i offered my share right away but the others started saying it was no big deal or that we could settle later. it dragged on until the driver was waiting and it felt weird. i ended up just sending my part through the app anyway because i hate owing people. now the group chat is quiet and i am wondering if i made it weird by pushing to pay on the spot instead of letting it slide like the others wanted. i know it is small but it is still sitting with me.

We had been talking for a few weeks about splitting the cost of a new couch for the living room. It would have been nicer than what either of us has now and would have fit the space better. I agreed at first because it seemed fair, but once we started looking at prices I realized the total was a lot higher than I had pictured. After thinking it over I told my roommate I was not comfortable spending that much right now. They seemed pretty disappointed and said we had already planned on it. I offered to keep using the furniture we each already own and just rearrange what we have, but they think that will look worse. I am not trying to back out to be difficult, I just do not want to stretch my budget. Am I wrong for changing my mind before any money was spent?

We were all in the kitchen last night and two of my roommates started going back and forth about whose turn it was to clean the shared bathroom. One kept bringing up past weeks and the other kept saying they had already handled it. The rest of us were just standing there and it started feeling awkward. When someone finally asked what the rest of us thought I ended up saying the first person was probably right. I tried to keep my voice even and just state the facts, but the second person got quiet and left the room right after. Now things feel off between us. I did not mean to pick sides or start drama. I was just answering the question that was asked. Still, I keep wondering if I should have stayed out of it or found a way to keep it private. Am I wrong for speaking up in that moment?

i threw a small get together last weekend, nothing fancy, just some snacks and music so people could catch up. one friend was super late and then spent the first half hour complaining about parking and the playlist. after that the energy never really recovered. a couple people tried to shift the topic and play some games but the tension stayed. i ended up feeling like i was babysitting the mood instead of enjoying my own night. i texted the person the next day to ask if everything was okay and they said it was fine. i have not brought it up again because i do not want to start drama. still, the night felt off because of how it started and i keep wondering if i should have just asked them to tone it down or if i am overthinking the whole thing. am i wrong for feeling like they kind of killed the party for everyone?