My fiancé and I are getting married abroad in October 2019 and have been planning our wedding since August 2018. We sent all the invites out in August, full invites not save the dates, as we wanted to give people plenty of notice as it is a wedding abroad as we thought that was fair and gives our guests enough time to plan and organise. We are so happy with the response and everyone was so happy with the long notice so that’s a great start. However, we haven’t heard anything back from my fiancé’s dad. My fiancé’s dad recently got engaged (so this would be a second marriage) and we got a text message to say they will be getting married in the same place abroad two months before us! Now before I freak out I really want to rationalise about this, with weddings I think everyone should get married whenever they want as it is their day, but two months before us in the same place (different location but same country) is just too weird. It also puts so much pressure on us as two months before I imagine we will be busy with last minute preparations and finalising everything for our big day. We are also paying for the whole wedding ourselves as well as some guest accommodation so another trip abroad (especially to the same place we are getting married) just seems so costly! I haven’t said anything yet but surely when you know that your son and future daughter in law have been planning and sent invites out a long time ago, why would you then decide to do it two months before? Financially and with work it is not really possible to go as we have booked time off specifically for our wedding and honeymoon next year. Should I say something or just decline the invite?

Hi all. I was recently married and my wedding reception a few days ago. I'm pretty new to the western culture (American) and still trying to learn the customs here.It came as a surprise to me that after my wedding I was supposed to go through each one of our gifts and write a Thank You card for every person. Just the thought of handwriting hundreds of cards with personalized messages seems daunting to me. I didn't wanna leave my wife to do all the hard work so I chipped in to help. After a certain point of time, I just gave up and thought to myself that there had to be a better way.That's when it clicked me and I decided to streamline the process of making thank you cards as fast as possible. I built a system that would generate personalized messeges and handwritten notes all by itself. Now all I have to do is just fill out a bunch of fields as shown below and the system does an incredible job crafting and writing the message.

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No need to ruin yourself to make your wedding a memorable day. With a little ingenuity and the collaboration of your loved ones, it is possible to get away with it cheaply.

The number of guests

A reduced list can make all the difference. It is true that it is not easy to decide and eliminate co-workers. We would like everyone to share this day with us. But if our budget is modest, we must be realistic and invite-only our loved ones. It is important to talk to your spouse and stick to the rules we have set together.

The choice of the date or time of the celebration

One can choose to celebrate one's wedding in "low season", in autumn or winter. And why not get married in the morning and have a wedding at noon? The meal will cost less. And nothing prevents to continue the party all day.

Our network is used

This is the time to bet on the talents of each: our friend who has fingers of fairy, our friend amateur photographer, our sister who divinely cooks. They are paid according to the service rendered. Relatives are often affected that they are asked to actively participate in this special day. In addition, their unique touch will give a truly intimate and personal tone to your wedding.

Announcements

We can very well create our own announcement using the computer and paper quality. One can also ask the help of a friend who has talents of the graphic designer. To further cut costs, guests are asked to confirm their attendance by email or phone.

The reception room

A large empty room is expensive to decorate: rental of tables and chairs, tablecloths, centerpieces, flowers, etc. Why not opt ​​instead to celebrate the wedding in a cozy restaurant that requires minimal decoration?

For centerpieces, we opt for originality and ignored floral arrangements that can increase the rating. We stick to the theme of our wedding and we pare the tables in an original way with colorful tablecloths, bowls of fruit, candles.

The music

With an mp3 player, a computer and a good stereo, it's easy to set the mood and have our guests dance to our favorite tunes. We put a friend in charge at all. If the room is large, we also think to bring a microphone to make announcements.

The dress

Your dress does not need to be purchased in a specialty store where the costs are very high. You can choose a beautiful evening dress without breaking the bank. It is also possible to rent a dress at a lower cost. And if we are lucky enough to have a seamstress in her entourage, we ask her to create for us a unique dress that looks like us.

The bar

The full open bar can be very expensive. We can limit the free drinks to certain alcohols (the wines selected for the evening as well as the cocktail reception, for example). You can also give coupons for a certain number of free drinks. Some places also allow us to bring our alcohol.

Photo

Here too, our network of friends can help us. We ask a friend or acquaintance to be our official photographer. We can also leave blank CDs on the tables or instructions to access a photo-sharing site and ask guests to share with us their most beautiful shots of the evening. And for funny memories, we leave disposable cameras on the tables and let our guests surprise us with their impressions of the party.

Cake

In some families, it is customary for a family member to make the wedding cake. Why not adopt the idea and ask a relative to improvise pastry chef?

These are just a few ideas shared by some top wedding videographers in Toronto. With a little time and imagination, you can reduce the costs considerably. In addition to not getting into debt, we create a unique, personal celebration that resembles us.

Got myself in a dilemma. My best friend is getting married soon, he asked me to be one of his groomsmen. Long story short, I wasn't able to go before but now I am. Since then they already have every groomsmen and bridesmaid paired. I am simply the odd one out. It wouldn't be such a problem,but I will be walking down the isle by myself. He suggests I do something creative. He proposed that the first groomsmen throws a football down the isle, I catch and run it down the isle then spike it. I am all down for that. I was hoping there might be a more fun idea for it to be fun but less about me. I'm not trying to be the center of attention for someone else's wedding. If you have any ideas reply to my post!

My daughter is planning on getting married next November 2022 in Orlando with about 50 guests (including the wedding party). We are trying to (1) estimate a budget, (2) identify a venue for a small wedding, (3) determine if we need the services of a wedding planner (and if so how to select/vet one and the expected cost for their services).

I am guessing the budget could be around 20-25K but I know that could be way off. Any advice/suggestions would be very much appreciated (be kind, I am an old guy and this is my first post.)

I am hosting my wedding this fall and am worried about my unvaccinated friends and family. Should I only invite vaccinated people? Or should I require people to take tests? Anyone dealing with this problem?

Why are vendors not being flexible in refunding me my deposit as I had to cancel my wedding this month due to covid-19? The vendors refuse to refund my deposit. Per the contract it states non refundable deposits but this pandemic is out of my control.

So a bit of back story:

Growing up, I was always so very close to my brother. We are 10 years apart, he is the oldest.

Up until 2 years ago, we were estranged for 17 years. Not because I did anything wrong, but because his wife hated us, and wanted him to have nothing to do with us. Mainly because my mother had spoken her mind to his (then girlfriend now wife) on a family issue that she had no business sticking her nose into since at the time she had only been dating him for a few months.

His ex wife prior to this, tore his world apart and alienated his kids from him so he felt the best course of action was to sign off his parental rights.

Through the 17 years I was estranged from him, I maintained a close relationship with his daughter. My neice. We still to this day remain very close. She is well aware that her father and I have recently reunited to resolve whatever differences we had and understands that my relationship as his sibling and her relationship as his daughter are two very different things.

My brother is invited to my wedding (naturally), but so is my neice. They do not speak nor have they seen each other in person in many many years. My niece is so thrilled that I'm getting married and can't wait to see me get married. She knows her father will be there and tells me "I have no problems with being in the same room as my father". Now whether she bails closer to the wedding is a different story but I would never hold it against her.

But if she DOES still agree to come to my wedding against all odds, I am struggling how to tell my brother. As soon as he hears she is invited he will blow up at me and will probably refuse to come. Now, as much as I don't understand what he is going through, he has not once ever attempted to make things right with her. But I'm torn between feeling hurt and being ok with him not there. I have suffered through 17 years of not having him in my life and for him to not want to be there will hurt but I am also trying to imagine how awkward it would be for the both of them.

However, all that said, I know for a fact that once he finds out she is invited, he will unleash all this displaced anger AT ME for inviting her. I know this will happen because that's how he is. He has spent his entire life blaming others for his actions. Blaming others for walking away. Blaming others for deciding to be out of our lives because his wife told him to.

So, now that he's separated from his wife, and is in our lives again, things are nice having him back but he hasn't repaired his relationship with his kids.

I'm in such a tough spot. I don't know how this will affect me. I feel guilty for this potential shit how hurting me so much because I can only imagine what it's like for him knowing that his daughter will be at my wedding and they don't even have a relationship.

Am I a bad person for being hurt that he will refuse to come?? Should I just be ok with him not coming? I want him to see me get married. He means so much to me, but so does his daughter. She means the world to me too

I am so torn and I don't know how I will feel if he blows up at me when I tell her shes invited.

Hello everyone, I just got engaged in December 2019. My fiance and I have discovered that we prefer a small and intimate wedding all around, and we would like the ceremony to be at a courthouse.

Here is where we are getting stumped: We don't really want the traditional dance party reception. We are trying to keep a small busget but still have a good and memorable time with just the small group. What are some alternative reception ideas after the courthouse ceremony?

Wedding speeches have the potential of putting the already tired couple to sleep unless these speeches are (drum roll) FUNNY (obviously.) The day is sentimental enough for the couple, hence, why not imbibe* some life into them. To rescue you out of this confusion* and the guests from your sense of humour (ahem), jotting* down some amazing* liners to open your speech so that the guests (and the couple) is all ears WITH IMMEDIATE EFFECT.

1. “(Bride) can you place your hand on the table? (places hand on the table) Now (Groom), can you please place your hand on top of (Brides)? Now that the two of you are married, (Groom), this is the last time you will ever have the upper hand.”

2. “My name is (if you are the groom's best friend/brother) and I guess, it is my job to tell you the truth about (groom). A gentleman, a hard worker, a loyal friend, a charismatic guy, a health nut, an inspiration – he is none of these things, but I’m sure he has some other good qualities otherwise he wouldn’t have landed the lovely Jill.”

3. “God, it has been a very emotional day – even the cake is in tiers.”

4. “I really think marriage is going to be great for Jack. It will teach him loyalty, kindness, compromise, self-restraint, fair play and all those other qualities he wouldn’t need if he had just stayed single.”

5. “(Groom) was telling me that the amazing meal this evening was charged on a cost-per-head basis, so, on the Bride and Groom’s behalf, I’d like to thank the following people for not coming…”

6. “Good evening everyone! My name is [Maid of Honor]. For those that don’t know me, the bride and I go way back. In fact, we literally go all the way back to the sandbox. We met at the park one afternoon. She was drawn to my homemade mullet. I was drawn to the giant chocolate stain on her shirt. “That’s my kind of lady,” I thought. We’ve been best friends ever since."

7. "As anyone who is married where will know, marriage is built on teamwork, and I'm sure (bride) and (groom) will make a wonderful team. I'm sure (groom) will wear the pants in their relationship and (bride) will tell him which ones to wear."

8. "To start this speech I googled 'perfect wedding speech' but you had to pay to read it and I thought it's not worth it, hence, I'm just gonna wing it."

9. "When (bride) first asked me to be her bridesmaid I felt delighted. As the big day approached, I was asked to give a speech and a toast. I fall into the shy and retiring category, so I obviously tried to think of ways to get out of it. But have you ever tried saying no to (bride) and succeed?"

10. "(Bride) and (groom) have set the ground rules for their marriage; he won't try to run her life and he won't attempt to run his own life either!"

And to end your speech

"May you two have the two essential things you need for a successful marriage: a sense of humour and selective hearing."

Warning: Make sure you use these ONLY if the couple and the guests (but mostly the couple) have a sense of humour and will take this in the right stride.

Hello /r/WeddingSolutions,

I thought I would share with you a list I compiled of wedding related subreddits. When I started searching I was amazed at how many there are. I wanted to share this because some are very helpful and active, while others could definitely use some love and attention. A few of them could probably even be adopted!

I didn't include ones that are obviously spam filled or by a particular company, couple, or that were NSFW. Please let me know if there are any I missed and I will add them. I hope you find this useful!

General:

/r/WeddingPlanning

/r/Wedding

/r/WeddingResources

/r/Weddit

/r/Wedding_Information

/r/WeddingHelp

/r/WeddingsOver10k

/r/PlusSizeWedding

/r/VintageWeddings

/r/GeekWeddings

/r/TrollXWeddings

/r/TalesFromTheAltar

/r/SweatingForTheWedding

/r/AllThingsWedding

/r/WeddingSolutions

/r/JustWeddingStuff

/r/SecularWeddings

/r/DreamWedding

/r/SimpleWeddings

/r/RunawayWedding

/r/WeddingCSS

/r/EasyWeddings

/r/WedditGetsFit JUST ADDED

DIY & Budget Weddings:

/r/WeddingsUnder10k

/r/WeddingDeals

/r/FrugalWedding

/r/DIYWeddings

/r/RandomActsOfWedding

/r/RandomActsofRegistry

/r/WeddingSwap

/r/BudgetWeddings

/r/BudgetWedding

/r/BudgetBrides

Dress & Appearance Related:

/r/WeddingDress

/r/Wedding_Dresses

/r/MyWeddingDress

/r/SaidYesToTheDress

/r/WeddingHair

/r/WeddingShoes

/r/BridesmaidsDress

Engagement & Ring Related:

/r/JustEngaged

/r/Engaged

/r/EngagementRings JUST ADDED

/r/WeddingRing

/r/ProposalTales

Groom & Groomsmen Specific:

/r/Grooms

/r/DudeWedding

/r/MaleWeddingAdvice

/r/BestMan

/r/GroomSpeech

Bride & Bridesmaid Specific:

/r/Bridezillas

/r/BridalWeddingGuide

/r/BridesmaidsDress

/r/Bridesmaids

LGBT Specific:

/r/LGBTWeddings JUST ADDED

/r/Gay_Marriage

/r/GayMarriage

Misc Items:

/r/Wedding_Invitations

/r/WeddingCards

/r/WeddingCakes

/r/PaperFlowers

/r/WeddingRegistries

/r/WeddingFavors

Vendors, Pros & Photography:

/r/WeddingVendors

/r/WeddingProfessionals

/r/WeddingPhotography

/r/WedPhotography

/r/WeddingPhotographer

/r/WeddingPictures

/r/WeddingPicture

/r/WeddingPhotoshop

/r/WeddingVideos

/r/WeddingVideography

Regional or Cultural:

/r/WedditNYC JUST ADDED

/r/WeddingsUK

/r/UKBride

/r/AusWeddingPlanning

/r/TorontoWedding

/r/OttawaWeddings

/r/ColoradoWeddings

/r/ATLWeddings

/r/DCWeddings

/r/IndianWeddings

/r/IndiaWeddingPlanner

Married:

/r/Newlyweds

/r/JustMarried

/r/Marriage

/r/Gay_Marriage

/r/GayMarriage

So for my wedding (not anytime soon)- my dad will be walking me down the isle, but my uncle has taken me in as his own essentially so I’d like to honor him. He didn’t have any girls but he treats me like I’m his!

Long story short - dad got a fiancé and tends to prioritize her over us kids.
He is in no way a bad father so I def am going to do a first dance with him.

I work with my uncle & grandma, And they along with my aunt have helped me through so much. I see them 5 days out of the week. They are much closer than my dad so I always call my uncle when I need help or whatever it might me.

I don’t want to negate my father and his role at all. But I want to know what would be a good song to dance to with him that’s appropriate!

TIA 😊

As of today Ohio has opened up to 300 guests at a wedding. My lead coordinator for a wedding is uncomfortable with that an has asked to be replaced. How should I tell the couple?

Update: They didn’t even blink an eye. No big deal.

I’m getting married early next year. I invited a single coworker (addressed only to her) and when she RSVPd she did for two adults and listed the name of the female guest; who happened to be another coworker I didn’t invite.

I texted my colleague who I invited and said “ Please reconsider your plus one. I’m trying to limit work people unless I personally invite them”...she replied with “ok”.

Fast forward two weeks, we are at a mandatory training on a Friday, and I ran into her (we work in separate buildings” — we exchange a simple “hello” which I thought was weird. So on Monday I messaged her “Hey girlie! I hope you had a good weekend. I’m just reaching out, because I sensed a weird vibe on Friday, and was hoping we can talk. Is there a good time for you?” It’s been one week and two messages later and still no response.

My question is: Was I wrong for asking her to change her plus one from the coworker I didn’t personally didn’t invite? Please keep in mind, I wasn’t originally thinking she should bring a plus one since the invitation was only addressed to her.

Extra question: What are your thoughts on the silent treatment from her? I’m not thrilled about me reaching out to her twice and being ignored. I’m getting to the point that I don’t want her at the wedding, I thought we we better friends than that.

Help!

Hi all, To start, please let me apologize for the incredibly geeky nerdy gibberish you're about to read... So I recently proposed to her (she somehow said yes.) And we were talking about everything that has to do with the wedding. We're trying to keep it small and limit it to just our immediate families and close friends. One of the issues (I'm sure I'll be posting more as this rolls along) is the wedding favors. We are both nerds and hang on to certain things from our childhood because, well, we just do. I'm a huge Dragonball nerd and she is a huge Legend Of Zelda nerd. We were trying to figure out a way to combine the two into one wedding favor. I had the idea getting each person 1 dragonball and some zelda piece like a mini triforce or a rupee or what not. But that doesn't really combine.... us? So now we're now looking to see if maybe a completley custom idea would work... we're open to suggestions.