This is my first post on Reddit and I don’t exactly know what to expect but I just need to get my feelings out there. My M18 boyfriend and I F19 just broke up last night when he confessed to me about watching porn for a year out of the two years we were together. I am truly heartbroken and have no idea what to do. I set this as a boundary before we even got together because I have been in relationships with porn addicts and it’s not fun. I don’t know why he didn’t tell me sooner and wasted two whole years of my life. I was constantly insecure and looked in him for reassurance and he promised me he would never look at any type of pornography because he believed it was “disgusting” and not good for the relationship. I believed him and turns out for a whole year he faced me while doing that. We met in person at the 7 month mark and I believe at the 9 month mark that first year. In his confession he only highlighted how horrible he’s been feeling and how depressed it made him, he did not once consider how I was feeling. He wasn’t this type of person at all and this was completely out of the blue. He changed completely these past few days and I had just booked a flight to go see him graduate. I’m in complete shock and devastation, he tells me it wasn’t my fault but if he lusted over other women, shouldn’t that be a flag that he was not happy with me? I have no idea what to do or feel I just really need to get this out of my head. It feels sickening remembering the things he wanted to do and knowing what was truly behind it. He was the most sweet and gentle person I had ever met, I have no idea how he hid something like this for so long.

After countless texting, phones calls and FaceTime .It’s almost here, I’m so excited but also if being honest there is some nervousness there. Our chemistry is great we care about each other so much. I’m just hoping the chemistry in person is the same. I’ve been told I’ll know right away.

Only because we actually talked about it 💀

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and few months now, and conversations about meeting up started coming up again. She wanted us to meet for the first time by coming to my apartment and staying for three weeks. Now to me, there are a couple of things that I’m not comfortable with:

• We fight almost every other night due to her always telling me what to do, and if I don’t give her attention she’ll split on me (she has bpd)

• She wants me to host her and go out and do things for 3 weeks (that’s gonna cost a bit)

• Neither of us have money

• I have online friends that I’ve known for 10+ years and even the first time we met was at a public space and they had their own hotel rooms so for her to want to have an extended stay after I’ve only known her a year is an uncomfortable situation for me.

I have raised all of these concerns to her and being the people-pleasing bozo I am, still offered that she can stay for 2 weeks max. But she didn’t care, she got upset and said that since she’s my girlfriend it feels abnormal that she doesn’t even know my full address yet. I don’t see the point of giving my address to someone I haven’t even met yet when I even have friends I’ve known for 10 years and they still don’t have address(because they haven’t needed it yet). Am I tripping for being cautious about meeting her? Is it normal to give out your full address to someone if they’re not even visiting you yet?

It’s not the first time he got kicked out because of his granny and few days later, his family accepted him back. This time, his granny apparently lost 200£ in her bank and all his relatives and his granny accused him of giving it to me, which maybe led to her disliking me. I’ve talked to her in a call before but we were having language barriers, but I didn’t know she would dislike me this badly. I’ve never taken or asked money from my boyfriend throughout our 10 months relationship cuz i know he’s struggling. In fact, he’s the one who has 1800 debt with me and never even mention of paying me back.

His granny almost called a police on him for stealing her money which he didn’t do. His granny and aunties been leeching on him every months everytime he got paid but he never said a thing. So he got kicked out for almost a month and been living at his cousin’s house before they had a disagreement and he moved back to his granny house. (He refused to pay the 200 electricity bill debt which wasn’t even his. But i lent him rm370 of my money to help him pay half of the electricity.)

Then time skip when he settled at his granny’s house, She told him to do this and to do that and my boyfriend just went along with it to get on her good side. And i told him to not trust anyone in his family cuz they could do him bad anytime they want and told him to work on himself, find cheap apartment to stay. But he said its hard to do it cuz there’s lots of paperworks going on. So right know he doesn’t know what to do cuz his granny could’ve kicked him out anytime. I suggested to break up, but he doesn’t want. But that’s the best option. I really love him so much and he really love him too, but i just want him to have somewhere to stay and be happy like he used to. Everyone in his family said he changed since i date him, and Im very confused. I never talked to them unless my boyfriend forced me on a call.

For extra information, we lives 6579 km away, never even meet

Edit: I broke up with him

My partner (21GQ) and I (24GF) are both trans and scared. The Trump election hurts, we have so many loved ones who are queer and I'm just so scared. I haven't stopped crying. I had to talk my partner down from doing very rash things such a drinking to numb the pain. I just want my loved ones to be safe, and that means the love of my life especially. I hate being so far away from them. I just want to hug them and tell them it will be alright. I think that's the worst part about long distance relationships. I can't support my partner in their time of need, and I can't feel their warmth and comfort in mine.

For any other queer, POC, disabled, and at risk folk, and really anyone fearing another Trump presidency, on this subreddit, my heart goes out to you. I lend you any strength I can muster. We're all struggling I fear. We have to keep going. We have to survive and make things better for when he is no longer in office.

I love you all. Stay safe. <3

like if you already know the person, what would becoming a couple accomplish? is it just a sort of mutual agreement to spend more time together, even if it’s over the internet? this is especially pressing to me when the person was previously your friend. for example, i fell in love with an online friend of mine, but i don’t exactly see the point in becoming a couple, since i already spend a lot of time with them online, seeing as they are my friend.

edit: these answers were very helpful, and i’ll probably pursue a ldr in the future. thanks all

I've (40f) fallen in love with an American man (35m). We have known each other for almost two years now.

He came twice to my country, I spent five months at his under an ESTA, with 80 and 70 days visits split in two different years - both times I combined my visit to him with an art program I attended. I plan to go there in January again for 90 days, and would love to visit him in September too for a week, but I'm reading that all those long trips can be suspicious as per the US border. I fear that if I go in September they won't let me in in January.

As a European with a privileged passport, It's my first time facing a stupid administrative impediment.

We FaceTime every day. He recently moved to a new place and it breaks my heart that I can't go see his house, the same house I see every day on video.

I don't think we will close the gap soon because I don't want to live in the USA (my income and very loved aging parents are in Europe) and he can't move (he is building a company in the US), but I work as a freelance and have flexibility, so I could absolutely go spend there 4-5 months per year. But every time I go visit him I risk being deported or banned. How absurd is that? I DO NOT want to move there.

How to deal with an administrative (not geographic, not economic) impediment of love? :(

I'm 19M and she 18 F both do sxting and every stuffed never asked her for ndes just some hot pic's in hot dresses... So we do voice sx I'm scared how will she react like i masterbate while imagining her... She's a virgin and it's both our first relationship so i don't even know how can I say.... And we have LDR meet 6 times her so that's also one of the reason that how can I step ahead these things and make our seual feelings normal for each other

It was fun while it lasted.

Well guys I finally did it and I asked my boyfriend if he would take my hand in marriage a few days ago over the phone

We’ve been friends since 2016 and we are close to each other and we really love each other and we started dating in the summer finally because of some issues with our personal lives. Then on Christmas I ordered a ring because I had it planned when he opened the ring with me I would pop the question to him

Fast forward a few days later and he got the ring in the mail and I asked him if he would spend his whole life with me, he cried because he knew we would spend our lives together now and we became engaged

praying that this virus won’t cause a covid-like pandemic bc this is my first LDR and i cannot afford any more barriers (other than physical and economic) preventing us from consistently seeing each other

I will visit him for his birthday and I can't wait to express this all in person again! ❤️

I’m a Korean and he is an American. I’ve met him on app 3weeks ago. We say “I like you a lot” each others everyday. He sent me his masturbation video and dick picture and I loooved them lol We’ve never seen in person yet and it’s not so easy coz LDR between Korea and America. Tbh I really like him so much. He also cares abt me everyday.. I’m hesitating to send my nude pictures coz I’ve never done before also not my culture but I wanna try… I’m scared what if he dumped me right after he saw my nude and satisfied with his desire and became less interested in me :/

Sorry for my bad english.. but I need your opinions!!!!

i (23M) and my irish gf (35F) met in april 28th 2021, gonna meet soon in february/march, im gonna propose her. shes already told me she wanna meet my family when shes here, im gonna propose her! cuz she wants us to get married at september/august. wish us best luck guys

She told me she needed money and she showed me a bank balance of zero dollars yesterday. Today she sends me a screenshot of her transaction giving someone $4.00 but deleted it immediately.

She gave her friend money with a different bank and app than the one she has $0. On

As the title said I made her mad and she wanted revenge by ignoring me in my birthday so I can feel what she felt.

I thoght she forgot it was my birthday and when she told me what she was doing I acted like I was hurt.

I actually thought it was cute but didn't want to ruin her revenge so I acted hurt, is that okay?

She's cute.

Edit: seems like most of ypu don't think it's cute, wh8ch is understandable.

However I would like to point out that my wording may have caused a misunderstanding since I don't speak English very well, my girlfriend "revenges" aren't usually meant to hurt me like the one I mentioned in the post she wanted me to know how she felt but still she celebrated my birthday the day after and we had fun.

An example of her revenges are one where I scared her with a video and a week later she contacted my sister and made her give me water with salt aa a prank revenge which is "cute" in my standards

I'm sorry if the idea I was trying to say wasn't understood.

Thanks for caring about me <3

Hello everyone, I know I'm going to get some controversial opinions but I'd like to ask your thoughts. I've been with my boyfriend for a number of years now, we love each other immensely and we're planning on seeing each other for the first time in a year from now but something keeps bothering me. He's told me once before he's watched porn but it's not something we openly talk about. Being long distance and all we can't touch each other the way we want and I'm really worried that when he feels touched starved and in need, that he goes and watches porn. I know some of you might not agree that's an issue but I've sent him hundreds of videos and pictures of myself doing the same sort of thing and it breaks my heart thinking about him watching other women when he has perfectly good things I've sent him. In some sort of way it feels like he's cheating, He's getting off looking at other women, he's wishing he was there getting that sort of touch from them, touch that I can't give him from so far away. Do you guys think it's cheating? I know he loves me and he's been more then loyal these past few years but I can't shake the feeling of how much it hurts imagining him looking at other women, even if it's on the other side of a screen, it still feels wrong. I'm going to have an open conversation about it with him soon but id just like to see what you all think before I mention it to him.

Thank you so much and I look forward to your replies xx

Well I was browsing lego stuff, I decided to see what reddit had on legos, so I did a search, and I found some cute lego jewelry stuff.

I was like, "oh em gee dis is SO KAWAII"

So kawaii, in fact, that it became SUPER KAWAII.

It was a lego hear necklace.

Now my problem is that Etsy shops were selling these necklaces at almost 15 bucks... I was liek "no sir".

I know for a fact lego had to have the pieces for cheaper, and so I searched.

An so...BEHOLD!

http://shop.lego.com/en-US/Valentine-s-Day-Box-40029?s=4667778

LEGO HEART NECKLACE. TWO WHOLE ONES.

PLUS A JEWELRY BOX.

Now here's the deal, it brings the little box, and two necklace hearts.... FOR FIVE FUCKING BUCKS. (I immedietly drove to Down Town Disney, went to the lego shop there and got me one. I called ahead to make sure they had them, and they did... HUZZA)

Each necklace heart is made up of two pieces, look closely at them. You can take one of the hearts apart, put each piece on a chain and send one of them off to your SO. Once you're together, you can put the pieces together in what would be one of the most adorably nerdy and nostalgic shows of mushy affection evar.

The piece by itself is also very unisex, so guys can easily wear it without feeling girly about it, just put it on a chain of your choice.

I already got my cute little box.

BUY THIS.

NOW.

<3

Happy Valentines Day, everyone! :3

EDIT: Holy butterscotch. The post I saw frontpaged. I piggybacked a comment to let people know about the little box set. :3

Iz a hero.

The election just passed and she is American but I am not but we have opposite views on the election. Sometimes she seems like she is trying to convince me and change how I feel, and it feels weird. For me I just don’t want politics to play a huge role in our relationship because I don’t want to talk about it. Does anyone know how to handle this situation?

im in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. we like to play games together with our friends but we like to have alone time too. recently weve been playing on our own a bunch and our friend keeps asking if he can join us. now we do like playing with him but we dont like being gay in public (by gay i mean saying i love you and stuff like that) so that makes us favor being alone so we can do that. today he asked if he can join us in a game we were playing but we decided we'd rather be just the two of us at the time. basically after awhile he texts me and tells me hes going to cut ties with us because he feels like a thirdwheel and unwanted. of course i dont want this but i cant really do anything about him feeling like a thirdwheel?

i just need some opinions and advice from couples with alot of friends... ive never had or seen anyone else with this issue of not knowing how to balance time between friends and relationship. i dont wanna be the friend that ditches their friends for their partner… but i sure feel like that right now…