Are you cuddly?

A friend of mine created a new app called Messenger Classic, inspired by the old MSN Messenger days!

One of the cool features is that you can create your own clubs and communities.

There aren’t any MBTI clubs yet, so I wanted to see if anyone would be interested in being among the first to start some!

I’m an ENFP, and I also suggested the idea of being able to display our MBTI types on our profiles. I thought it would be fun to see if we could build a little MBTI community there! 😂
You can use it on the web or through the app.

Would anyone be interested? 🦋

https://messengerclassic.com/

https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSpVvJNoy/

I always hear about fashionable S types. But Can ENFPs be fashionable as well?

I know this is probably not the sub to post this, but I don't mind if it is deleted after 12 hours, just please help me.

I am a student (19F) and I gave an entrance test 3 years ago. It left me mentally scarred and horribly burnt out (I am diagnosed with anxiety but not adhd but I suspect I have adhd but I won't be able to be diagnosed if i do have adhd for another 5 years).

I fucked my first year because of the mental exhuastion and picked the second year due to fear. Now, with no fear as the driving factor, I just can't work hard anymore? To be honest, I didn't 'work hard' in the second year either, I just started studying for an hour daily. But now, I have another competitive exam coming up and I am forced to face the fact that I just can't work hard because I am downright terrified of burning out and returning to the same hopeless place. And this is just self sabotaging at this point, because i have SO MANY things I want to do and I feel so guilty for not doing anything.

And another thing I struggle is to start tasks (I will complete one subject and just not be able to sir down again after a break) so I want to improve that as well and increase my producitivty (honestly, speaking, i am pretty good at grasping concepts so I can complete things in 4 hours on the weekends but I am so clueless on what I have to do with my free time that my academics just bleeds into my entire day) (My work expands because of the time I have because i am And another thing I struggle is to start tasks (I will complete one subject and just not be able to sir down again after a break) so I want to improve that as well and increase my producitivty (honestly, speaking, i am pretty good at grasping concepts so I can complete things in 6 hours in the weekends but I am so clueless on what I have to do with my free time that my academics just bleeds into my entire dayso terrified of drawing due to perfecctionism, so much so, that when I drew after an year yesterday (mind you, only for 30 minutes) I actually ugly cried because drawing is my sanctuary and I love it but I have stopped it for so long because my expectations are so high and I don't reach them)

Just please, I need help. I'll read any book I am told, watch any video, start journalling, just anything to feel me again. I don't want to live like this, missing out on my potential because I am terrified

Ughhh I feel like for as long as I can remember, since I was a preteen atleast, I have always dreamed of the future. Of traveling, adventure, cultural immersion, adopting, etc etc etc. I am 27 now and I have lived overseas, traveled to 12 countries, studied Arabic, worked with refugees and done so many things little me would be so proud of… yet 80% of my inner world is still always, always, always in the future.

Like my life is full, I spend a good amount of time with my loved ones, I perform well at work, but I always feel so restless for whatever is next. I pinpointed this this week and realized that’s why I always feel so tired. But I genuinely don’t know how to stop it?? It feels soo innate to who I am. The Collection’s song for enneagram type 7 captures this perfectly, also.

Anyways, I don’t know if you guys can relate but if so I’d just love to feel less crazy and would also love any advice you guys may have on how to be more present in my inner world. 😩

So I'm 27 years old and a little bit embarrassed to admit that I lack much experience in dating and have never been in a longterm relationship before. I'm hoping that could change soon. I thought I might come here and ask you guys for advice since I'm particularly drawn to ENFPs (and ENFJs to a similar extent), so I'm wondering what circumstances led you to meeting your partners and what environments I'm most likely to find that kind of connection. Of course it doesn't have to necessarily be exclusive to ENFPs, I believe it would limiting to shoebox myself and I believe there is potential for connection with people of all types (though I might have a slight bias towards initiatives but I think even a relationship with sensors could work under the right circumstances), but you guys stand out particularly since I'm so easily charmed by your aura.

A bit about myself, I'm a uni graduate who majored in International Relations. I live in a major city where I work as a delivery van driver but am currently looking to get another job closer to my field (which is admittedly a bit of a challenge now thanks to AI) or even go back to uni to do a master's in teaching. I am a big film buff who sometimes like to help out on other people's projects and I hope to make my own film one day. I sometimes make art but must admit I'm not very good. I like to read, particularly history, philosophy, politics, sci fi and classics. I enjoy travelling, gaming, live music, and I am currently learning French and have the goal to be multilingual one day.

Do you think someone like me has potential to be compatible with your type?

For the past couple of months, I’ve been depressed. I’m a nursing student in my junior year, while also working a part time job and experiencing financial instability. I moved out of my parents house for the first time ever, over the summer and my partner and I have been going through a hard time; we had a couple of changes in our home life and now we can’t be as intimate or just see each other as often in general. I’m in therapy and I tried to explain to my therapist what I’m going through, but I feel like they’re giving me more affirmations than they are giving advice, which isn’t really helping me keep positive. Sometimes I feel like I invest so much time in making sure everything is okay and my peers are happy, but I feel like when I need a shoulder to lean on, it isn’t reciprocated the same. I don’t know if it’s just because I’ve always been very observant with people and just notice changes in behavior, but I’m left wanting people to do the same for me which I recognize is kind of impossible. I need to hear another perspective or something, I’m not sure what’s going on with me

Hey thought I'd try in this subreddit

(Keep in mind I'm not THAT deep Abt MBTI)

But yeah, been kinda on my own company for a while now and want to find like minded people to yap away with, down to deep random convos to what I want, to random reaction gifs , or how my boss is a big baby, but I also love listening to ppl nerd out 😭😌

Anywhoo I like to be mindful and considerate and honestly,... kinda hard to find people like that ,..... avoidant and superficial folk have burnt me out

As for Intrests , I'm more in the moment kind of click , I have ADHD so hobbies come and go, but I like to gravitate twoard sketching and random clay sculpting

I rott away watching shows , from movies to , animated , I'd like someone who doesn't mind the more indie stuff and cartoon references

As for games, I don't mind multiplayer games, infact would love a game night session one day or even DND , just keep in mind I'd you're in CSGo Fortnite and and anything of that genera Its not really my cup of tea, aside from overwatch , but I like simple to challenging to fun cooperative stuff 🌠

I'm hoping someone out there far and wide is also in search for treasure (23f EU CET btw)

So reach out a bit Abt you and how you'd describe yourself (brutally) and something you'd like to start talking about

Don't take it personally if we dont click , but yeah 🌞

TL;DR:
I (ENFP F mid 20s) don’t have the balls to cut a guy (INFJ vibes) I liked off who I thought liked me (seems like he did, just didn’t like me enough) & was thinking of deactivating my ig account & taking a break from it since I’m constantly getting posts he’s liked on my feed and also because I’m not trusting my own motivations for posting songs on my notes.. I’m also just thinking maybe I should just stay on IG & take what I see so it’s driven into my skull and I become immune to it somehow or that drives me to unfollow him.

Idk if this is my adhd, my Si inferior, or a combination but I’ve had this cyclical perspective since we last spoke where I try to move on but then after some time I start to reminisce a little & my brain mostly thinks of what could be while I’m aware I shouldn’t, I ignore all the red flags I’ve known & reasonable elements as to why it wouldn’t have worked until then I’m hit with how time has gone by & he still hasn’t reached out.

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It’s been nearly a year since I (ENFP F mid 20s) hide my story from him and stopped watching his, it’s been nearly a year & a half since we last texted and still find myself emotionally attached. We never dated & don’t think it’d be considered a situationship either.

We met a little over 3 years ago as he was studying abroad at my uni for a semester. I wasn’t into him until I looked back (1 yr 1/2 ago) on our time together in class & how we hit it off, shared a lot of laughs. I always found him to be very intriguing and endearing though. If it helps he had INFJ vibes…

Since developing feelings a lot has happened that’d make this post way too long. From him making it clear that he definitely sees me as physically & sexually attractive during a time we reconnected, to a roller coaster of moments online a few months after that of what felt like strange timing in posts & views, subliminal petty responses back via posts, me reaching out to chat & not feeling like he was into it, unusual likes from him on my stories, a burner account on LinkedIn who I strongly believed was him viewing my profile in February & March after I stopped watching his stories and hide my stories from him in January this year.

At one point or another throughout all this, I’ve found he follows random women, liked questionable posts, made questionable comments on a female friend’s post the year before I developed feelings for him & still follows her & even went with her to Paris, just the two of them last year right around the time of the roller coaster of moments online. Maybe I’m naive to think nothing happened but at the same time after doing some research I got the impression she only saw him as a friend.

Writing all this out makes me feel really dumb. Idk wth is wrong with me, if this is my adhd, my Si inferior or a combination. I’ve had this cyclical perspective since we last spoke where I try to move on but then after some time I start to reminisce a little & my brain mostly thinks of what could be while I’m aware I shouldn’t, I ignore all the red flags I’ve known (& the fact that your average person would understandably not be open to pursuing something international) until then I’m hit with how time has gone by & he still hasn’t reached out.

I’ve always known the only ending there is to this now is one where I cut him off or he cuts me off, assuming that would come when I move on & start seeing someone or if he launches a relationship. That hasn’t come yet & I still feel like I don’t have the balls to do it but am thinking maybe I should at this point, like what am I waiting for? To accept anything from him at this point would be disrespecting myself. It really feels like if he ever reaches out, it was after a plan or relationship didn’t work out, & I don’t want to be a backup plan or comfort. + it’s feel shitty to know if things didn’t workout in his country that he really resorted to a backup plan that lives across the world.

I guess it’s hard to cut him out of my life because I know once the tie is severed, I’ll probably never see or hear from him again, not only because I don’t have faith he’ll have balls to reach out, but also because I highly value and live by no strings attached. Once it’s really over, it’s over.

I was thinking of deactivating my ig account & taking a break of instagram since I’m constantly getting posts he’s liked on my feed (not the the friends tab) and also because I’m not trusting my own motivations for posting songs on my notes.. I’m also just thinking maybe I should just stay on instagram & take what I see so it’s driven into my skull and I become immune to it somehow or that drives me to unfollow him.

I know, I was naive. And I’m delusional af & need more self-respect.

Hi ever since I’ve studied the MBTI and have gotten a good sense of my family’s types, I find our dynamics really interesting and thought I’d share!

Dad: ENTJ
Mom: ISFP
Brother: ISTP
Sister, me: ENFP
Brother: ESTP

My parents are the definition of Opposites Attract. Even their love language order breakdown is complete opposite. So they’ve embodied “love is more than a feeling, it is a choice” throughout their 33 years of marriage.

Each of us kids are the perfect mix of them. The boys are true mama’s boys and I’m dad’s girl. The boys are very similar to my dad but in different ways, and my mom and I have been able to grow and connect with each other’s emotions as I’ve gotten older. We’re able to just get what the other is thinking without a single word.

One of my all time favorites is when I inspired my entire friendgroup and my mom to start doing fitness themselves. I was always dedicated to working out after college, after work, late afternoon when I felt exhausted or numb, whatever the weather, I'd go. Some friends took months, some years, but everyone began their own journey at one point and quite literally thanked me for inspiring them, especially my mom. She survived breast cancer which gave her wings to do things she never thought of doing. This taught me you can't talk people into something, you need to lead by example and be happy for those who get encouraged in the process! I'm so proud of all of them! 💚

Redwood forrest in Warburton

I'm 19F and would love to have a study partner (hopefully someone doing engineering perhaps?) i just need someone to hold me accountable (and vice versa) and study together online if possible. I love in india

Again, the online meet part isn't as important as just being held accountable so-

If you are an adultier adult who would like to help, please do!

(Would also love to meet new people)

Thanks!

I am also mom and end up having a big group. Is anyone like that here enfps/ enfp moms haha! I also feel obligated to make sure everyone I invite is having someone to talk but wanted to ask by being like that will it turn to be annoying? should I like not do that. I want some wise advice and support on this topic!

Dont want anyone to feel bad or forced to socialize though! suggestions from enfp or non enfps welcome :)

I know the world is shit right now. And it's like the internet, our last refuge of happiness and bliss away from it all, has in recent years been turned into a propaganda machine for hate and war, having algorythms shove it into our faces, regardless of whether we asked for it or not. Whenever you open your phone, there is no escaping from all that makes you sigh and slowly take emotional damage without even noticing it.

All around the western world people feel divided and like they have no one they can truly depend on in times of need, and I think the general weight of this has everyone feeling pretty hopeless and depressed, especially in smaller towns. I look around myself and ask my friends to hang out but they would rather bedrot because they're always too tired.

All my life I've been dealing with depression and shit. I've been dealt an unfortunate hand in life so I always had to figure out how to make the best of it. Due to my C-PTSD I've been going to therapy for years (underrated here, in a place like North Italy where therapy is literally free btw). But even therapists have no advice for these modern problems.

Things feel hopeless, but I feel like I can't give up hope. I must not, no matter how horrible things will get. If not for myself, then for my dogs, and the few friends who haven't ghosted me. People I hang out with get to be greeted and sat on by my cuddly lap dogs and pet them while we talk about whatever comes to mind. They always leave with a smile and say they feel a little better after spending time with us. So why aren't we hanging out more often?

Sometimes I ask myself... Am I the last person who hasn't completely given up hope yet? Can anyone else here relate and how do you deal with the weight of the responsibility to keep the world from turning completely dark?

(Dog tax added)

Do you have a special place you like to retreat to?

Heylo qtoooss! :)

First of all, i want to say, this is my first post on this or any mbti related subreddit... i feel ready! 🌻

Now coming to this revelation/story i experienced a day ago.

I change whatsapp tagline - which appears when you're chatting with people, it tells what u r feeling/ur mood now - i change it quite often, mostly it is song lyrics, but yesterday, i was feeling overtaken by the emotions. the emotions that i had hidden away in part of my heart to be locked. but due to some recent changes, these came to surface... it was like opening pandora's box. so the tagline read - 'Pandora' s box 🎆'

...now i m not a historian, or used to the mythology, we have a different culture and i simply was not aware of pandora's story. when i put the tagline, i was simply thinking of the phrase i heard many times prior in day to day life - 'opening pandora's box'. anyway, i decided to read up her story to know more. and lo and behold, the story (btw, there are 2 stories, i m sharing one version here) equates to opening miseries and evil onto the world and only one thing remained safe in the box... u know what remained? hope!

and when i read it, the tagline became even more meaningful - isnt that how we feel - in spite of everything, we have hope!

ok, that's all i wanted to share.

ofcourse, if you feel like (everyone is welcome), you can share similar experiences/what u equate ur feelings with, personification of ur feelings/simile metaphor and so on...

i love you all and wish u great time ahead ♥️

(random photo i took of street art in portugal few yrs ago)

Personally, I’m very chaotic when it comes to my work/academics. I’m extremely forgetful and my stuff is usually a little bit everywhere. However, I barely have any furniture. In my bedroom I have a bed, mirror, wardrobe, carpet and chair. That’s it. I feel like having a really empty/plain living area gives me more space to think. Idk if that makes sense.

What do you prefer?

I created a typing test that works based on what you resonate with, it gives you a feed of cards with statements, quotes, scenario, and you select only the ones you resonate with, this way the cognitive load is very low, also the feed adapt to funnel down your type, you just select what you think is related to you.

About the last test session you have all the data analysis on the website.

At the end of the test, in the result page, you will have a frame that ask you to share your result, with a simple button. It will send me the informations I need in my database, it gives me all the cards you selected, the timeline of the guessing of your type, how the algorithm reacted, etc, it helps me to fine-tune the test.

I really feel that this method can work and be more accurate than anything that already exist.

Thank you in advance if you try it, and thank you again for the ones that already tried it, it helped me a lot improving the test.

https://www.mazwiz.com/

PS: I will share the findings in the result page like for the last test session.

In my case, when I was very young, I thought my type was ISTP but that was due to negative experiences at school, bullying, and family issues.

I spent many years on my own, without any friends.

I know that sounds sad, but fortunately, I managed to overcome all of that later on, I even had an existential crisis regarding my MBTI type lol

I went through a progression ISTP > INTP > ESTP > ENTP until I finally realized that I am an ENFP.

And I definitely identify with that 100,000%

And this experience, although a little sad, definitely gave me a lot of emotional maturity and made me very empathetic towards people who were going through the same thing. I helped many people who were like me.

I’d love to hear your story! Feel free to share it in the comments if you’d like