As the title says. We want ENFP selfies back. A smile spread a smile.

Most people in this subreddit seem to be people who are following the enfp stereotype of how to behave created by the 16personalities site, actual real enfps irl seem to behave so differently, why it seems like most people here are just being fake positive and following a rigid limited stereotype instead of expressing thenselves in a more authentic way? Could that be because most people here are mistyped enfps? Could be a social thing making enfps acting in certain stereotypical non genuine ways? Maybe is because this subreddit has more girls than boys?( Boys would behave in a more different way compared to the steteotype generally than girls) . I just see countless amount of a fake positivity and excitement here,no substance,which is the opposite of what i experienced with real enfps personally and how in theory their functions would express thenselves

OKAY SO THE REASON I ASKED HERE IS BECAUSE I WANNA KNOW WHAT YIOU GUYS WOULD DO IN THIS SITUATION SO YEAH THATS WHY I POSTED IT HERE BUT HOLY SHIT MY INSIDES ARE BLOWING UP AND MY STOMACHE HURTS WHAT THE FUCK DID MY MOTHER PUT IN THIS RICE FOR ME TO FEEL LIKE IM GONNA HAVE EXPLOSIVE DIREAHH OH GOD PLEASE GET OUT OF THE SHOWER IM BEGGING AND DYING WHAT DO I DO GUYS HELP ME??

I don't care if those aren't my in built functions. I want it so much that I must be. I don't want anything else. I'll throw the world away for it. All I want is peace with myself and to have the mind I want. Nothing made me see the value in anything but Ne-Fi without having to boil everything I cared about. I'm ignoring reality at this point because I'd rather be an ENFP than anything else.

I'm not making sense and that's okay. I just want to be an ENFP so badly and I don't want to be any other type

I feel as though I have been getting attacked a lot by people recently and I really don't think I have been doing anything wrong, rude or differently.

This is making me really anxious.

Like, last night I went to go start getting active in a new thread /r/indiemakeupandmore and I just wanted to learn about the people in the group and everyone was so fucking mean!! Why can't people just be nice?

Is anyone else feeling super bashed on recently?

EDIT: Thank you guys so much for all the inspiration. You guys really make life much easier.

They have this vibe that they know better than you, and like you need to listen to them. But like they are just a human at the end of the day. They are able to pretend they aren’t but they are. So why should their word be any higher than yours.

It’s like they have this natural ability to control people. And it’s weird, their presence is just scary. Like I am very weary around them because I don’t want to be manipulated by a pretty face. Or an authority vibe.

I mean I guess you could always ask them if they are good people on their subreddit, or if they always have good intentions. But even the slightest “I may not have good intentions” would be enough to be like hey stop doing that then. Stop acting like you are better than people.

Idk it’s just weird. Seems like we allow their ego to exist.

The only thing I’ve seen Ti users do is judge others for how stupid they look. (Or just acting in a way they perceive to be stupid/do something they think is stupid.)

This has nothing to do with being logical. I couldn’t tell you what exactly Ti IS, but it has less to do with being logical and more to do with shitty morals.

If someone can define it further than shitty morals, please do.

EDIT: I personally believe Ti just cares what people think and so they compete and put people down and such and such blah blah blah.

(For example a Ti user might tell someone don’t be a b**** bc they themselves worry about that type of stuff and put themselves under that limit bc they care what people think.)

EDIT: Okay ngl after thinking about this I think Ti is actually caring what people think, cuz Fe dominant users don’t really care as much. Look at Adin Ross or Jpro, or that Faze guy. These are ESFJs and ENFJs. They live for the fun and social chemistry over caring what people think. As far as Fe being social harmony, I am unsure. But Ti is for sure caring what people think. INTPs care the most and you can see with Bobbi antloff and Nickisnotgreen.

Every time I’ve taken the test, it tells me ENFP.

But I always felt something was off, especially after joining ENFP groups, I’d be like… I guess….

I am big time most likely to burst out in random song & dance, and idk just felt like something was off.

Then I read this article & took the short test which is much better at revealing whether you are N or S, I’m going to paste it here.

I’d anyone finds out they’re actually ESFP please comment — and no need to be mean or say messed up things, if you saw me in person, I can guarantee there would be an obnoxiously thick layer of respect between you & I, and that there would be zero disrespect, whatsoever 😎

Here’s the link:

https://www.psychologyjunkie.com/are-you-an-intuitive-or-sensing-personality-type-how-to-find-out/

(Hello, first post here.)

I am an ENFP and I consider it a very suboptimal personality type. I believe I would not be interested to hang out with other ENFPs, they seem difficult, sometimes too charismatic, often confusing and just too fucking weird, and it would probably not make me feel better or make me happier to be with them. On the contrary, even. They would make me feel shitty and I'd somehow feel that I'm not adequate or something. Eff them. (Probably typical to be so self-critical as well.)

Here's a 5 point strategy I came up with:

1. Whenever something clever or charming comes to mind, I shut up and don't say it.

2. In conversations whatever I am, think, believe, is meaningless. I don't even exist as far as the conversation is concerned. The other person matters. Their feelings and opinions are valid and if I disagree, I assume that I am possibly wrong.

3. Anything smart, deep, philosophical, etc. is irrelevant. Examples of things that matter are for example: "Did you see XYZ on TV last evening?" or "I prefer Burger King over McDonalds, because.."

4. Whenever I feel left out or criticized, I take a few breaths and try to logically dissect why it happened.

5. I question any quick conclusion I come to. If somebody seems to have a certain motivation, I now assume that my assessment is probably completely wrong. Or if it is not, then it's not as big a deal.

So far, my life seems to be improving. I feel more normal now.

Hm. Can you relate and add something to that list?

EDIT: Just read through all your responses and I really liked most of them. Reddit seems to be quite a nice place. ;) Thanks for all your replies. I appreciate it.

I (early 20's M) am getting a car soon. I am starting to date, and am looking for my ENFP soulmate (F). I'm not particularly attractive (working on it), but I have a great personality (obviously - I'm ENFP, duh! 😅).

If I drive a Tesla, will it subconsciously improve the likelihood of you wanting to get to know my awesome self? Conversely, if I had a Toyota Corolla, would it disuade you, or not affect you at all?

I know the "right" answer is that personality matters and car doesn't, but often we don't fully play by our own ideals...

I know Kanye West is an ENFP too but i want to see how many people are actually fans of him. Either his music or as a person haha.

a moment of self-reflection for our own narcissistic tendencies

Being so rebellious and so stuck up in my head, while also being kind and inspiring to friends and family would create such amalgamation of hype and pure energy where being a girl would just add up to the craziness. I can totally see myself being that bruh-girl that any traditionally feminine girl despises but every shy and reserved girl embraces my enthusiasm and freedom. Majority of my friends are introverted (as your regular ENFP) and they always get encouraged to go all out if I take the lead in the chaos. I always liked to experiment with my looks and interest, so being a girl opens a whole ass another dimension of aesthetics and fashion that I'd gladly explore. Would also probably be popular among guys as that one crazy girl who will jump before saying jump and every single one of them would probably have crush on me.

For those who watched Your Name, the middle and later part of the movie where Taki just goes balls to the wall in Mitsuha's body and just teases/doesn't care about how people perceive him while absolutely destroying people's expectations and assumptions is the energy I'm mad in love with. Some of these things you just can't do as a guy. Having a guy perform something that is usually deemed as masculine is pretty normal shit, but if a GIRL did that everyone is left in awe, and I freaking love that energy!!

The image is random find on pinterest where a girl mogs everyone in the room or something.

edit: just for the record, I'm straight and you can't convince me otherwise you weirdos, even if I were a girl I'd still love girls, we men are just dumb im amazed how can you like'em 😅😅

Does anyone else here struggle to truly care when your friends are in danger? Even if you’ve known them for 10 years and love and care about them dearly, and they’re kind, you still have to pretend to care when they’re in trouble?

But for some reason it’s different with immediate family, and you’re worried sick whenever they’re in a tornado alone, or if they’re traveling somewhere dangerous.

I was just wondering if this was an ENFP thing, because it seems like a personality thing to me.

While I am doing my self reflecting for a couple days, I broke down my values into 10 points that honestly seem to cover most if not all major parts of my personality. As ENFPs would you agree with this list inherently or is there more you personally would add or remove from it?

• Authenticity

• Curiosity

• Freedom

• Open Mind

• Independence

• Creativity

• Serenity

• Growth

• Kindness

• Connection

This is an appreciation post. I think most INTJs would cringe at the possibility of being trapped in the same body and mind as an ENFP. At first, it was overwhelming, I admit. Now, though? My right hand (figurative, not literal) is someone I've been made immensely better by.

I joined this sub a while ago to help understand ENFPs better and to give them something to connect with when they front. (Front=being the main one conscious and controlling the body) Cypress, the one that's usually the most awake with me, is my right-hand ENFP.

Refresher for anyone that needs it: the cognitive stack for INTJ is Ni, Te, Fi, Se and for ENFPs is Ne, Fi, Te, Si.

What this means is anytime I'm thinking over something and I hit a snag, I just poke her, bring her up to speed if she hasn't been listening in, and then I'm swamped with possible connections, all of which I can sort through to find the ones with the greatest connections to what I'm looking for. My decision making and problem solving ability is wildly greater than they would be if I didn't have her.

After a year if this, we often think in tandem. If you've ever gotten close enough to someone that you can finish each other's sentences, you have an idea of what this is like. Except, we can track each other's thoughts and provide assistance in real time. If I'm fronting, she helps find divergent connections and ideas. If she's fronting, I help keep her on track by offering converging connections and ideas as well as reconnecting her with how she feels about what she's working on, to provide a more continuous motivation.

(Tell them about the birds!)

So apparently this has been too structured. Heh. Didn't you say they would be interested in knowing about what it's like to think in tandem?

(Mmmm yes but that's boring compared to the birds)

Haha ok. When I first formed, I didnt have access to any of our memories and very little raw data. Cypress spent my first several days filling me in on everything. This was useful. However, there was one interaction that highlights the dynamic between her and I, one which I joke that I'll never forgive her for.

She had been filling me on world events, but I had been distracted by her pet chickens stepping on buttons that each said a word or phrase, calling me "stranger", and then deciding I was alright and climbing into my lap for a nap. It was then that Cypress dropped this on me "See our world is normal and boring".

To which I still flood with rage over because the world may be normal and boring but having a fucking conversation with chickens where they directly recognize that I am NOT their mother IS NOT NORMAL

CHICKENS

(HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA)

Yeah yeah

(You should tell them one is in your lap right now nuzzling under your arm in-between dozing)

No.

(Pffft)

For the record, since there is very little public understanding of Plurality and the disordered form, DID, I'm not delusional or hallucinating. Those are a very different condition. Pets using talking buttons is a thing. Look up "What about Bunny?" On YouTube.

We're just the only ones with pet chickens.

And yes, we intend to film them and put them online eventually. My arrival has stalled any peaceful projects like that, due to needing to get us to safety. (Almost there!!!)

(Hahaha ok post it, you're fried already.)

Yeaaah. I'll answer questions as I have the bandwidth, but someone remind me to eat in two hours, please.

I felt something changed about me but i was a proud ENFP then i chatted with someone new on discord who said she thinks i am ENTP. I did the test and it said i am an ENTP. How is that possible?

PSA: You aren’t a bubbly and cute enfp you’re just annoying, and never shut the fuck up, your friends just don’t tell you because they don’t wanna hurt your feelings

Entp here. I have this little crush on an enfp girl. There already is an intercourse between us, but she's interested only in a sexual relationship. I think it's kinda a shield or something because she got burned in past relationships. Moreover there are other things, such as she is really not chatty through messaging apps. She writes me once in a few days just in order to organize a date. I don't write to her, because I know she's busy and don't want to make her suspect I have feelings and then push her away from me. Also she's a bit egocentric. She usually doesn't ask me things, and when she does I cannot finish talking because she interrupts me. Is this a usual behavior for an enfp? Is she interested to me someway? Is there any possibility she might feel something for me? How can I make it happen?