I've had the apps for quite a while now and at this point don't really get any matches. Might be because I'm not the best looking guy but I was wondering if remaking your profile to shoot up to the "top of the stack" really does work. Thanks.

I’d like to start with, this isn’t meant to be offensive, but it’s my personal observation, and perhaps not accurate whatsoever, but I’m curious if others have noticed the same patterns…

Written as a 36M…(your experience may vary)

Hinge: Working professional baddies, leans 25-40

Bumble: Similar to Hinge. Slightly more diverse, both in socioeconomic status, as well as age.

Tinder: Bots, fakes, OF models, and below middle class and/or young girls.

PlentyOfFish: 99% are like 0.5/10

OkCupid: Stale. Not much activity. Lots of foreigners matching you from 4000 miles away. Some people
Whom you’ve seen on dating apps 10 years ago, still on there, still swiping

Match: Pretty unattractive overall, leans older.

I’m 22m. I’ve seen moderate success on dating apps but nothing really clicked. And one of my greatest struggles is my photos. Admittedly I’m not super photographic. I don’t take a lot of photos. The last good photo I had was in May, and I’ve lost a ton of weight since then. Here’s the basics

6’4” and 283lbs, but that number is dropping fast and I’m incredibly proud of that
Long curly brown hair, bit of stubble
Total nerd, I love singing, theater, Disney, Nintendo, and I used to play basketball (kinda miss it tbh)

I also don’t have a ton of adventures unfortunately. I want to try to go to more places and embrace my goofier side.

So I guess my question is, how do I get good photos that bring out my best qualities?

I've noticed a rather strange pattern on dating apps. Almost every girl who matches with me seems eager to meet in person as soon as possible.

I'm not complaining about it, but I'm genuinely curious. Barely have we exchanged a few messages, and they're already suggesting that we meet. There's hardly any attempt to get to know each other over chat first.

Is this just how dating apps work these days? Do people generally prefer meeting in person rather than spending time texting, or am I missing something here?

I’ll see guys that are usually exactly within my preferences and have perfect personality based on prompts but I never see them when I’m swiping in the regular section. I’m assuming they hide them because they want you to buy roses instead of sending hearts…

“Designed to be deleted” to save your money and time maybe. Like why would I spend $20 on Hinge+ or whatever when I could just meet them normally if the app wasn’t rigged?

I signed up for hunch since I received a like, thought I had a match and no response, got curious, and found that at least one of the photos showed up on adobe stock photos.

They refused to give me a refund and I’m reporting them to my state AG’s office for fraud and thinking about doing a chargeback.

App is horrible and you won’t get matches because you get put into a like queue, I assume unless the other person also has the premium account.

Out of all the apps I have tried. The one that I have had more matches and dates is the Facebook dating app. Within the first few hours of creating my profile I started getting matched with a lot of girls.

I refuse to pay premium for an app (which is probably why i never matched with girls the same rate, bc all the actual matches are all locked behind a paywall.).

I’ve been using Hinge for around 7–8 months and have always been respectful in my conversations. I’ve never sent inappropriate messages or harassed anyone.

Recently, my account got banned out of nowhere, without any prior warning. The only changes I made were switching my displayed name to my initial and updating my bio to: “Looking for something serious. If you’re here just for hookups, just fuck off.”
I wasn’t even actively talking to anyone when the ban happened.

I did have a recent interaction where someone asked me, “Messi or Ronaldo?” and I answered Messi. I sometimes wonder if that person reported me for some reason, or whether someone from my past who didn’t like seeing my profile might have reported me.

I genuinely have no idea what triggered this. I’ve already submitted an appeal, but I’m really anxious about getting my account back.
Has anyone experienced something similar? Were you able to recover your account after appealing?

So, I read how Tinder claims their algorithm works and how they don't take socio economic status into account when making recommendations. However last night due to frustrations with getting matches I decided I'd add my net worth to my Bio. I woke up this morning and suddenly. I'm now getting recommendations with women who match my filters better. I noticed the recommendations are of much higher quality physically, education wise, and professionally. No women have matched with me yet but it's still early on in the week and in my little experiment. Has anyone here done this as a test to see what would happen on any other dating apps? I'll let you know if the rate of my matches increases towards the weekend.

i wanted to get into using dating apps

but im worried about how the experience will be being an arab person

im not Muslim but of course people are going to assume i am, and i dont want to face any sort of backlash for being on these apps

if you’re an arab or from a Muslim majority country, how’s your experience been on the dating apps?

have you had anyone try shame or criticise you for being on them?

Okay, something really strange happened, and I'm hoping someone with technical knowledge can explain it.

I was shadowbanned on Tinder while living abroad in a country that uses a different currency. Let's say dollars ($).

When I moved back to my home country (which uses euros €), I decided to start completely fresh.

And I mean COMPLETELY fresh.

New phone, new SIM, new number, new Gmail, new photos, new Tinder account. Everything. I was extremely careful not to link anything to my old account.

But here's where it gets weird.

At one point, I logged into my old personal Gmail account on the new phone. Just ONCE. I never used it to download Tinder, register for anything, or connect it to my new accounts.

Shortly afterward, BOTH Tinder AND Snapchat started showing me subscription prices in the currency of my OLD country.

How the hell is that possible?

I'm physically in another country, using a local SIM, a new phone, and entirely new accounts.

The only explanation I can think of is that simply logging into my old Gmail somehow caused Google to associate my new device with my previous country, accounts, phone numbers, or other identifying information.

But could that information somehow become accessible to Tinder and Snapchat?

Before anyone suggests Google Play billing settings or payment profiles, I had already cleared those and made sure everything was set up for my new country.

And that brings me to something else I've been wondering about.

Are we all living in algorithmic filter bubbles on dating apps?

I live in a metropolitan area with around 2 MILLION people, yet I keep seeing the same women on Tinder year after year.

Surely there must be thousands of other active users I never even get to see?

Could Tinder be deliberately limiting our exposure to people we'd actually be compatible with, while showing us profiles we're less likely to connect with, just to keep us swiping longer or encourage us to pay for subscriptions?

And more importantly, does anyone outside Tinder actually know how these algorithms work?

Don't Apple and Google have rules about privacy, tracking, and data collection for apps distributed through their stores?

But do they actually examine how dating apps rank users, control profile visibility, or potentially restrict certain accounts?

Are there government regulators, universities, data protection authorities, or any other third parties that can investigate or audit how these algorithms operate?

Because when you think about it, we're essentially trusting a private company to decide which potential partners we get to see, without really knowing how those decisions are made.

I just wanted to know if an active chat is not visible in muzzmatch marriage app, does that mean they have blocked me, or they have deleted their account? It is not reflecting in unmatches also. I have seen a lot of chats move to unmatches, showing the person could have deleted their account or blocked you, but this one chat just disappeared, and I want to know if they have blocked me.

my problem with dating apps is that because there’s an abundance of matches and options. the conversations are bland. there’s no spark. it’s dull and repetitive

Women on Tinder? I just got tinder a week ago to see what it’s all about. First, like Hinge, I had to swipe left on all the super model/fake accounts. Now I’m down to normal looking locals and women outside my radius. Many still have provocative/revealing photos and sound fun in their bios but also many put their politics out front as one of their main interests and DO NOT like it if I don’t match with their views 100%. I know we live in a divided and tense nation these days but I have no interest or care in potential partners political views. I completely respect those that do however and make no judgements myself. That said, what’s the approach to initiating conversation with matches on here? I have had much more success on Hinge and FB dating and can usually strike up good conversations talking about hobbies, interests and things in prompts and bios, But on Tinder no such luck. It definitely seems geared more towards casual fun. How do you break the ice? Comment on their provocative photos right off the bat? Try pickup lines or something? Neither of those two things am I very good at or would feel comfortable saying to a woman when I first meet them.

Someone please talk me out of getting back on dating apps! I’ve been off of them for a while now simply because it feels like I’m trying force something to happen and for a connection to form with each interaction. Recently I’ve been feeling extra lonely and just wanting to talk to someone in a romantic way and my hopeless romantic ideations take over. I deleted all my profiles and I’m really trying to steer clear of the apps and wait for something to happen in person but deep down I know I’m probably gonna be alone.

I’m 18 years old, very clearly stated on the profile. So when someone starts chatting me that’s older, they get shocked and sometimes uncomfortable when they find out I’m freshly 18? Idk I understand being uncomfortable with it if you don’t like that but just change your age range then? Or like don’t match with me? Do they just not pay attention to ages or think I’m closer to 19 or something?

I'm a guy. Late 20s, financially stable, taller than average, reasonably attractive, and emotionally available. Looking for long term.

I go 6 - 8 months without a single like/match. Then within 3 days I will get 5 or 6 matches. I go on a couple of dates, get analysis paralysis about who I'd rather pursue a long term relationship with, mess it up or procrastinate too long. Then have to wait 6 - 8 months for the next like/match.

Does this happen to everyone? Is it how the apps sabotage your chances of making one of these matches work out?

I had a date recently. She and I had texted on hinge about every day before the first date and she was very reciprocative. Said she was excited. I got ready for the date. I washed and prepped what I would wear, trimmed my beard, took a shower, styled my hair, put on cologne, etc. I met her and long story short it went well.

The next day I texted “Hey I just wanted to say I had fun yesterday! It was really nice meeting you. I’d love to see you again. Would you happen to be free on the 13th?”.

4 days later still no response. This has happened to me too many times. I’m so tired of it. I think I’m gonna delete hinge and just enjoy my own company at this point. Too many people are hollow.

Bit tedious at this point.

Almost as bad as that cliche when people say “I’m shy at first but won’t shut up when I get to know you”.

I wish they mentioned something more interesting, like their project to tame a honey badger which was brought from central Africa.

This message pops up every day I log in and send a like. As u can see it’s not my first like. Is this a glitch? Or something else? Thanks

I dated a guy for a little while who had been on the apps for 5 years. He was extremely hyper vigalent like he had dating PTSD or something and approached dating from the assumption you were deceiving him. He treated dates like auditions. He was skeptical of everything, even my pictures he said he had been skeptical not sure if I'd used a filter, and was relieved to see I hadn't. As someone totally new to the apps, this stood out to me. This attitude cannot create a baseline of trust...this man had zero trust. He also went so far as to run "tests" on me like trying to observe my reactions to things, instead of talking to me about it and asking me directly (and he also said he had learned it's better not to ask people things that make them uncomfortable as they'll just lie). I had to walk away when he started running some kind of investigation on me when I went on a mother-daughter trip and he became convinced it was really with another man off the apps. It was crazy

It got me wondering, those who have been on the apps for many years, do you think it has messed with your ability to trust and relate to people in a healthy way

I was in dating apps for almost 1 year and I find it miserable. I had plenty full of likes and I was super excited when I was in it for the first time. I met some amazing people but none of them lead to anything. In my observation most of them try to fake what they are in the beginning and they either ghost or disappear even when the conversation is going good. I am a very confident woman of myself and my experience in these apps made me lose my self esteem. I know that no-one owes you anything in the app but it was deteriorating my mental health so much making me feeling I was never enough. Recently I have been going to office as I work from home mostly and I started to observe people more in person and now I have a huge crush on this guy in office. For the first time after 2 years since my last long term relationship ended. I genuinely feel butterflies. I haven't spoke to the guy one word yet but we look at each other and smile. It makes me feel so much better than the guys who love bomb you in the dating app. I don't know how to approach him lol. I am very shy irl and also I go to office very less. I am not keeping any expectations, dating apps trained me to be a stone lol. I kind of like this feeling so much better.I made up my mind I should delete dating app and somehow felt a relief when I did it

As a guy, I have 5 active matches on Hinge right now and every single one of the conversation are going very slow.

It takes at least a day for one reply. Sometimes 3 days or never.

While I'm getting positive reactions from some of the convo's, I'm starting to think none of them are actually interested in me and even if I continue carrying the conversation to lead to a first date, this passiveness is going to translate to the in-person vibe as well.

I wonder how fast women reply to their Hinge conversation if they are actually interested?

Consistently within 24 hours instead of taking 3 days just to acknowledge they liked what I said?

I (28m) have little to no experience with dating or actual romance, but I do want to date long-term and to get married. I also attach to people like a puppy and yearn for someone in my life day in and day out. I want to be a good boyfriend and a good husband and dedicate my life to that. It feels like it's the thing I was born to do.

But prompts on apps like Hinge do a really bad job of allowing me to communicate that, and that leads me to question whether I actually should communicate that kind of thing. Would women find that childish or weird if I call myself "a hopeless romantic"?

Its terrible out here