Hello everyone. My name is brother nick and I have live call in lds podcast. I even had a episode with Kwaku El and people called in to ask him questions but some weren’t so nice. I had to take a break while but I will be having a big show on Tuesday the 27th we will have a feminist on, you can call in and ask questions too. I would love for you to join us. I am 15 and like to have special guests on to help answer questions. On Friday we will have an exmormon who owns a channel called MormonLeaks his name is Ryan Mcknight, I will be asking him stuff like why he thinks making fun of the religion is needed and you can ask questions too through the phone lines. It’s called the Prophet Podcast and it’s on YouTube!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCpRH3fo9QS-5FOHjADkf1Hw

Hey there everyone. Have a quick question I was hoping for some feedback on. My wife and I left the church about a year ago, and since then have slowly come out to friends and family. Most have been very supportive and understanding, a few have not. A very close family member recently brought up how he feels like he’s unhappy in the church and he would “make a better Christian than a Mormon” which was really a groundbreaking conversation for us. However, he ended that discussion by saying he’s too afraid to break the covenants he has made. I’m curious if y’all are aware of any helpful information or a way that I could turn this conversation to help him understand that he doesn’t need to be worried about that. I hope that makes sense. Any help is appreciated. Thanks.

crumpled it up, and threw it in the trashcan. It’s not revelation but a document composed for homophobic legal purposes. Left up the pics of animals and Jesus for those sweet & innocent nursery kids.

Anyone read this book? Being made into a tv show on Hulu. My non LDS I follow on Twitter were horrified and speak of nightmares. I read some of the reviews on Amazon and sorta shrug thinking ‘yeah, it’s not great but what else is new?’

Thinking of reading it. My guess is it won’t read as a horror novel (which I don’t do well with), and doesn’t even focus much on the murder itself. Reviews say it’s mostly LDS history (Joe’s wives, Brigham’s wives, that sorta thing)

I was walking through a shopping center the other day, and some instrumental elevator music was playing in the background. The melody sounded exactly like one of the primary songs we used to sing every Sunday. I instantly felt this massive wave of anxiety hit my chest.

It made me remember being 12 years old, being forced to do early morning temple trips for youth baptisms for the dead. They used to drill it into our heads that if we didn't go, those poor spirits would stay trapped in spirit prison because of us. Looking back, that is a insane amount of psychological pressure to put on a kid. You're sitting there singing these "happy" tunes, but internally you're terrified that the salvation of half the human race rests on your shoulders.

I’ve been out for years and I'm a fully grown adult, but those mental hooks run deep. Does anyone else get a visceral reaction to old triggers like music, certain smells, or clothing? How do you move past it?

Up until 4 years ago I was a faithful believer, born in the covenant. I’m Mom to four adult kids. Naturally I raised them steeped in Mormonism with the ultimate goal of marrying in the temple. In my home I have a staircase with plenty of wall space alongside it for pictures. The first picture on the wall was a “Families are Forever” pic. Then, one by one my four children married, in the temple. My picture wall grew to include 4 wedding pictures alongside each of the 4 different temples they were married in. This year, I also added a family picture that includes all my kids, spouses, 8 grandchildren, myself and their step-Dad. Both my husband and I were sealed in the temple, but have transitioned out of the church. I took a good look at the wall a week ago and felt deeply conflicted. The wall reflects the “glory and honor” of temple marriage. But I don’t like the message it sends. I don’t want my grandkids or kids to think I expect and/or am pressuring them to blindly adhere to the church’s requirements. I want them to decide for themselves the paths (church or no church) that bring them happiness and peace. Does anyone else have or did you have “the Picture Wall”? As an exmo, how do you display your kid(s)’ temple marriage pictures?

Genuine question. I’ve been inactive since I was a teen & just recently had my records removed after learning more about what the church really believes (and because I was getting sick of them tracking me down no matter where I moved), but I fell down the whole influencer Mormon culture rabbit hole and was confused by the crazy soda culture (morning Diet Coke, swig, et al) in Utah. I asked my mom “since when are Mormons allowed to drink caffeine?”and she said “there is no rule about not drinking caffeine” when I pressed her about why we grew up not being allowed Barqs root beer/Pepsi or her specifically buying caffeine-free Diet Pepsi (and driving all over town to find it) she was like I don’t know what you’re talking about. I asked a few other member and they played the same game. Tried to ask my bro, same thing… then I tried to say so coffee is fine now then? “Nope.” I asked why and he told me “because it can be addicting” - “because of the?” And he changed the subject. What is going on? And was there a secret memo to deny this? Like they can’t even cop to this change, how would they ever admit to the racism, misogyny, homophobia, etc?!

What if my mission call goes to my junk mail?

I grew up in a predominantly Mormon community and was raised with those same values with modesty being the forefront. I am pansexual and right now I'm in a lesbian relationship and made the comment in the title. This is coming from someone raised orthodox jewish so that's saying a lot. Her mom even made a comment to her privately about how modest I dress even by her standards.

When she made the comment I literally went to the store bought a child's size t-shirt and cut it up to make a crop top because I couldn't find anything that was revealing by her standards. I bought a couple actually. I grew up getting called a slut for showing off those sexy sexy shoulders or having anything even remotely form fitting in my wardrobe. So after being treated badly for a while I cleaned up my wardrobe into my modest nun clothes now. But today im wearing my tiny shorts and a crop top with no sleeves! And people are actually checking me out. I don't know what to do about the extra attention. I'm still in a predominantly Mormon place but one that's way more accepting. I have to keep myself from crossing my arms to cover myself. >. < it's so nerve racking I feel like I'm waiting for someone to tell me off for wearing something like this in public.

I was wondering if anyone had any tips to boost my confidence in this area too. I'm sure you all have dealt with something similar.

I sent a text to my parents this afternoon saying that we have decided to leave the church. Before I get these comments: Yes I am a grown adult, no I didn’t need to send a text but I felt it would make the transition easier. I posted a picture of someone drinking coffee on an Instagram business account of mine and in the caption asked how people liked their cup. My mother comments “😲😲 in someone else’s cup!” I promptly receive a message from my dad saying “so how is it that you like your cup of coffee, I would prefer mine to be in someone else’s cup!” I just gave a thumbs up back and said thanks for the views and interaction with my post, maybe it’ll get me more business. And left it at that. I’ve had the conversation with my parents before about my family not going to church. They were pestering us about where we were on Sunday’s and I would get texts like “how’s church at Costco” after sending a picture of something to them or my dad would see my location. (It’s a whole thing for another time, I don’t share location with them anymore.) But after they decided to make comments on my business I just decided to send the text so they would hopefully stop. This is what I said: “So I know we have semi talked about the fact that my husband and I have made the decision to stop going to church. It’s been a long time coming, we haven’t been to church in a little over two years. This ward out here is really bad. And so we have made the decision for our family to step away temporarily. I don’t know if we will go back when we get to (place we are moving to). We aren’t opposed to the idea but it’s not our top priority right now. We want to put our focus on being good humans and doing what’s best for our family. I know this is not the direction you wanted for our family but I hope we can still treat each other with respect and love even if some of our actions don’t align with what you believe they should. My love (our love) for you and dad and dallin is not conditional. Love you.” And this was my dad response: “Mom read me your text. We will always love you guys. We must say that it saddens us that you have chosen the ways of men rather than Christ and his Gospel as a way to temporarily live your life. We are always here for you and Christ will always come first in our lives. One thing to remember is that life will always have more joy when Christ and his Church are at the center of it. Remember, Christ never pulls away from us and he’s always waiting when we repent and return to him. We love you and will always be here for you.”

The outcome was better than I expected but hopefully the passive aggressive comments will stop now. What did bother me was the comment “Christ will always come first in our lives”. Shouldn’t it be family first? Eh at least I didn’t get lectured.

I'm a 36 year old female ExMo. I left the church over a decade ago with no belief remaining but no hard feelings. The way I see it, the church did me some good and some bad. I'm never going back but I also don't regret growing up Mo.

The problem is that now, I'm in this weird place where I don't totally relate to Nevermos and I don't totally relate to TBMs. In many ways I fit in with Mos better, socially, because I don't drink (tried it for a while and didn't like it) I don't do any kind of drug or smoke, and I'm on board with the idea of not having sex with randos. If it wasn't for the pesky religion part, I could have a grand old time socializing with most Mos. But dating a TBM isn't really something I'm super excited about, considering the massive issues that are likely to come out of our fundamentally different belief systems. And yet, the NeverMos I've dated aren't too keen on my lack of interest in alcohol or casual sex.

I find myself unenthusiastic about the options I'm finding out there. Are there any other ExMos who share this plight? Any suggestions? (I already posted in r/ExMo4ExMo.)

Also feel free to message me if you're single and looking for friends or to date. Photos or social media links are welcome. I live in Nevada but I'm in Utah a couple of times per yer to visit family and I'm open to people from all over.