Backstory: whoever has read some of my post, you’ve probably heard of my R\Crush post. It basically explains what I know/love about my crush according to our 2 years of friendship, seemingly normal post right? Well, sort of. And by ‘sort of’, I mean not really. Well it was normal at first, but I got rejected and friendzoned by him. That post I made was a while ago during the school holidays

During the holidays, after posting on R/crush So, I was at my friend’s house (not my friend/crush, my other friend.) and we were playing the Xbox. I asked her if she knows Reddit and she said she goes on Reddit from time to time. Despite being new, I posted a few things about myself here and there. I then showed her one of my post, and one of them was my R/crush post. I also showed her one of the R/Entitled kids. When she read one of the R/Entitled kids when she almost cried because it told the tale of 3 girls that bullied me because they thought my Mild Autism made me dumb but instead it made me realise that they had the Audacity to ask dumb ‘Questions’ (I don’t know if I should call them that) such as “Do you know what a Vagina looks like?” Or “Do you know what a Penis is?” After I showed her that, I showed her my R/Crush post.

At School So, the 2 week of school came (now) and me and my friends were sitting together eating during break 1. All of the sudden one of my crush’s friends who also happens to be a good friend of mine called me over. “Hey, [Crush’s name] needs to talk to you.” I then got up and saw my crush who had not an embarrassed look but more of a devastated look, I saw my crush standing next to him. “Come here.” He said. At first I was a little confused, so I then walk over to him and he takes me aside inside, then I heard the most gut wrenching words: “CJ please don’t take this personally, I know you have a crush on me, I found out. Your a really great friend but I’m really sorry because I’m dating [another girls name]” I was speechless. “It’s okay.” I said. “So we’re good?” He asked. “Yeah, we’re good.”

I’m not mad at him, I’m mad at myself. I know the real reason why he doesn’t like me back especially at this moment is becauseI didn’t come clean to him soon enough and what makes it worse is that he was my first “offical” crush since year 8. If he reads this one day, I hope he doesn’t take it seriously. I just want him to know it’s not his fault nor the person he’s currently with because she’s also a good friend. But there’s a reason that I never came clean to him soon enough. I am not a saint, during Primary school every crush I had I would rather not say anything to them because I thought they wouldn’t like me back, or every other crush I had during primary school also ended up saying rude things about me behind my back if my friends told them. I was also bullied by boys only during Primary school, and those boys were pretty immature especially being a primary school kids.

oth had feelings for each other. I ended up telling her how I felt. She said she doesn't feel like that no more. She than proceeded to tell me that she want to remain friends. I told her sure but than later on I told her that I couldn't do it because I still had felling for her. I ended up cutting all communication with her for my sanity. I ended up wishing her nothing but the best in her life. I felt depressed and like shit so I started to work on myself and put all of my attention on my work and myself.

I started to receive text messages say how come I don't talk to her no more and stuff. I would have to explain myself once again. I gave up and stopped replying all together. I would receive messages saying. That she felt uncomfortable at work because I didn't talk to her. Mine this we work in different departments. I calmed her down. Later on she would tell me if she quit the job will I still talk to her or not. She also ended bring up that its been 1 year since I confessed to her and when am I going to forgive her. I was confused and didn't give a flying fuck. I didn't even say anything thing.

I don't know but I wanted closure. So I ended up replying to one of her text We ended having a conversation were. She called me selfish and that I was flirting with all the girls and I had a girlfriend at the time. I stared to clear things up and told her she was crazy. She ended up saying we both fucked up. But I feel like I didn't fuck up because I Expressed myself and got rejected and moved on. Plus there's a lot of women in this world. She started say that she not good for me and stuff. So I told her instead of focusing on me she should focus on her boyfriend. She ended up getting mad that I brung her boyfriend in to this. At this point I told her. That her boyfriend is better than me and shit and that I'm just a normal guy out here. I ended the conversation and blocked the number.

Last month we have mutual friends she started talking to them and they would bring us up and say what happened to us. Her reply would be he hates me. Than they would confront me by saying why do you hate her and stuff. I told them I don't hate her and end of conversation. Later on that month she ended up telling me if my parents ask anything on why I dont talk to her play it off. I ended up with my parents and we were talking about things and my my mom brung up on why I don't talk to her. I dumbfounded. I told them I was busy. She had her chance.

At this point in my life I'm happy as shit I have a girlfriend who loves me. Ive been hitting the gym again and got a second job.

Am I crazy

So I'm a decent guy who respects people's boundaries and am cool to hang with. But the thing is, every girl I've confessed my emotions to(romantic), has always said the same thing-I really like you, just not that way. Now initially, it never bothered me, cause I could respect their opinion. But lately, I just feel more and more insecure about it.Because this one girl turned me down before I even asked her out.

And the worst part is, I've had friends tell me I'm not boyfriend material, or that I'm the friend material or the Third wheel material. Now, that just makes me sad. Cause, I really love giving my attention to someone. It makes me happy. But lately I've realised that all the people I give my major attention to, have somebody else they prioritise over me. I'm fine with that too because it's their life. But I also cannot help but feel distraught as I just get left behind. And when people keep doing the 'Only as a friend' thingie, these insecurities act up cause I feel like I'll never be a priority to anyone. Because everybody finds somebody.

I was always adamant that if you like(romantic styleZ)somebody, you have to tell them for sure. Face to face, now I lack the courage even try to mingle with people I might find attractive cause that shiz just hurts.

Thank you for reading.

So yesterday night i was at my friends house me and her started talking alot more for like 2 months already but known each other for years and she would call me and text me daily and well she was the one always contacting me first and well i started to love her more than a friend. Well last night i brought out the courage to tell her that i loved her in person and she told me that ive given her soo much to think about. Well i get home and an hour later she calls me, so i answer and well she told me she didnt want to date me because she doesnt want to hurt me. Honestly i tore apart after that and she told me she could give me space or we cant be friends anymore. Hearing those words really cut deep inside of me. Atm im not sure what to do or how to get over her and well i personally dont let people through as much as i let her in my life because of the feeling of getting hurt and i wasnt expecting this to turn this way

🙃 I could use a couple friends rn

Soo... i got rejected for asking a girl to be my prom date, I got rejected in front of a lot of people. IDK i think reddit is just the place where i can share this.

Theres this girl in my class who ive had a crush on for nearly 2 years. My plan was to top the class so that i could get her attention and talk to her with pride. And thats exactly what I did. Here's the problem, back then, she was this smart, quirky, clever girl who i admired, but people changed, and so did she. She now hangs out with the toxic girls (the ones who couldnt care less about studying and just mess around). She did change, started wearing lipsticks, behaving like a child and stuffs like that, however, i still managed to see the good side of her and did attempt to convince her to change. She looked up to me, we started texting, I helped her with her study for a while, we were on good terms. One night, after one of my extra classes, all of a sudden i felt great and relieved, i texted her, asking what she would do if i asked her out, in a hypothetical situation (because i wanted to be careful, plus i hadnt decided where to take her to yet). Unfortunately, she started making up reasons such as "im busy" and "my parents wont allow me to" and the like, to which i did counter, reminding her that im no f*ckboy, im a diligent student who wants to know what she would say if i asked her out. After a while she gave in and said no. I took it hard, all my calculations and predictions were wrong. Then i thought to myself "if she isnt going out with me then theres no point in helping her anymore" and thats what i did, i just totally ignored her whenever she consulted me, i told her to get lost. She spiralled back to hanging out with her toxic friends and everything turned back to normal. I know that was very selfish of me for not helping her anymore just because she did not want to go out with me and im probably a jackass but i just cant stand doing anything for her anymore.

I've asked a few girls out (only live) and ive never really gotten a rejection until yesterday. I was at a GDPR Education lesson on friday and met a girl there who is also like me a developer who plays video games, listens to the same music as i do and looked pretty good. She was a straight 7 and characterwise a 11/10. I talked a little bit with her about basic stuff and after like 10 minutes got her number. She gave me very mixed signals like playfully punching me and i tried using a bad joke intentionally to see if shes into me she startet laughing (although that couldve been just to be nice). She also sent a lot of these heart and kissing emojis, texted me first and asked me about my life etc.

So after chatting with her a little bit over whatsapp yesterday evening i had to ask her out (online) because i wouldnt see her ever again and why would i just ask for a meetup if i can directly give her my intentions. The chat itself was in German and i have to translate it so bare with me here.

Me: Would you like to go out tomorrow or after Christmas? Youre actually really cute and i'd regret it not asking you out. (a little bit of context missing like where to go etc.)

Her answering 3 Hours later while im dying inside waiting for the answer (never do this online boys its way harder :D)

Her: Please dont hate me but no :( i do not like meeting with new people its not you specifically but overall i am very weird when its about meeting new people.

Her: I'm so sorry but socially bonding with people is really hard for me.

Her: Would you still like to play league of legends (videogames) with me or rather have no contact at all im just asking because that happened to me before and the person instantly got very upset and then blocked me.

Me: You have no clue how much willpower it took me to actually ask you out i wouldve loved to at least get to know you.

Me: You do not need to be sorry there is just things that shouldnt be .. i got to live with that but thank you very much for at least answering that means alot to me no matter what the answer is.

Me: Please do not feel bad it is not your fault no matter what anyone previously has said to you and you should know that.

then came a little chat from her side about how good of a reaction that is and bla bla bla i didnt answer again since i was actually pretty down for like 10 minutes and got lost in thought and fell asleep.

But today morning i realized that rejecting someone else who you have at least bonded with a little bit and like maybe only as a friend (otherwise she wouldnt ask me if i still want to play videogames with her) is probably at least as hard as asking someone out in the first place. It made me actually feel really good to tell her that its not her fault and tried to make her feel comfortable so there is not 2 persons feeling terrible for the rest of the day. The fact that you know you did everything you could and in the end still ended all of it friendly and as respectfully as possible made the bad feeling of a rejection actually quiet good. Because even when you get rejected the girl you're into is still just the same girl she was before you asked her out and why wouldnt you do anything to at least make the probably last conversation she has with you a memorable positive one you can look back to and be proud of.

Do I asked my crush out in early December. She politely said no. I was sort of fine with it and say “have a good rest of your day”

We r both in a improv group(theatre but only improvised) we were taking turns playing “r u proud of me?” So one person(me) would say r u proud of me?(btw it was said acting nervously)

Crush:“ya I am. U asked someone out and u went on a date with them!” That was the scene. I accidentally said out loud “Gee that’s ironic”😒

Luckily no one heard me I think. So when there was a 2 minute break I got my phone and ear buds and listened to some bruno mars to cheer me up a bit. Earlier in the year I quietly listen to it without ear buds. And that a bit of a joke/meme of the group. Then later one of them asked if I was listening to Bruno Mars. I replied by saying the song(the last song) and went on discussing the tournament. It’s in a month. I hope we win!

Edit 1: she’s also she’s in my math class in P4

Edit 2:if my crush is reading this( u know who u r) I don’t mean to be rude or bitter about this. U do u I respect ur decision. Edit 3: this is a month after the improv games the seniors of my school got second overall before provicals and my group did the performance twice

So basically when I was in 5th grade I started to crush on this girl. Short. 9/10. Unique. Never talked to her, but still maintained a crush somehow. Next year it’s 6th grade and I have PE with her. Doing little things as to target her in games, purposely be her partner etc. idk who I thought I was but I had the balls to ask her to the hoedown (western style dance at our school). She said yes somehow and then asked for my name. (Not lying). I don’t know why she said yes without knowing me, I’m a solid 6.4 but I went with it. I did had conversations, was a good dance partner, all the stuff like that. Nothing too awkward. I got her number (and yes this is 6th grade) started texting her regularly. “What’s the homework?” Etc. 7th grade rolls around. I still have a crush on this girl. Since 5th grade. we have no classes together. Get this: I got a fortune cookie out of a Panda Express meal and it said “good things will come.” Next thing ya know she gets transferred into my SS class out of nowhere. I text her even more. We get to be project partners. Do presentations together. That next year I ask her to the same dance. She says yes. We are best friends at the moment. I’m almost 100% sure she knows I have a crush on her, but we keep going strong as best friends. 8TH GRADE: we get SS class together. Choose seats. Next to eachother in the back. 2 seats. We are honestly on the next level of best friends. I send the riskiest risky text if my life confessing my crush. 2 hours later: lets be friends. Lock my doors and blast juice WRLD. (This was 2018 atm) next day. I sit down next to her. 30 mins in and no one says anything. Her: can I say something? Me: yes... her: my friend texted you back and I didn’t have a way of fixing my response so I thought I’d do it in person. I have a crush on you too. Boom. Felt like 0-100,000. New Years 2018-19 we go have dinner and see a movie. Going great. We both are more than friends, but won’t admit to BF GF. I ask her to the same dance but this time I go to her house earlier with all her friends, all my friends. It’s a blast. Couldn’t be happier. She is literally friends with all of my friends as well. Maybe too good of friends. One day, She pulls me to the side. “This isn’t working out. I’m not ready to be more than friends.” Me: ok. Now: we have hugged before, and get together with friends to watch movies, I sit next to her and put my arm around her one time. Held hands one time. I’m pretty broken. We have gone through so much in 3 years. She says she’s not ready. I smell BS. Next thing you know I read my friends texts: her: can you go to a movie tonight? My awesome friend: no, sorry. I have practice. He texts me the screenshots, but not all of them. Turns out he was in on some of it, and she was asking him to 3RD WHEEL FOR A MOVIE NIGHT. NOT ME. It’s my best friend since kindergarten. My head is spinning. We text for 5 hours straight and I somehow accept the fact that I wasn’t giving her enough attention and I’m in the wrong. She’s liked my best friend for 3 months now. He has vice versa. I agreed on being friends. We aren’t friends after that. It’s a year later and I haven’t spoken to her. Turns out things didn’t work out in between my best friend and her, and they only lasted 2 weeks. The friend that had practice is still friends with her, and spent New Year’s Eve at her house. Believe it or not, we were supposed to spend New Years together. He asked if I could come. Nope. That’s my up to date story on the worst relationship and only relationship of my life. I have one life and I will always have this emotional cavity of M****** L***** to have carved out a place in my heart. If you have any questions ask away. I’d like to have someone comment or message me about it. And that’s my story.

I really liked this girl for about two years and was thinking about asking her out but decide not to because she didn’t really show and interest in me. A year later one of her friends tells me that she really liked me and that I missed my chance. I fell into a deep depression for days because she now has a boyfriend. She moved away and now we don’t really talk. 😕

So this happened 2 days ago and im a wreck since then. In the begining of the week i fell in love with a girl in my class ( I'm a university student). She was so cute, red hair and had a lovely voice. We were part of the same company and we talked to each other. She even smiled to me when i aproached her.

So in the beginning of this week, i started seeing her from a different angle. I wanted to make something for her so she could see me the same way. My only talent is drawing. So i decided to make some roses for her. I started drawing on Monday and it took me 2 days and close to 7 hours to complete. I even wrote her name on the top right. During the lessons, my stomach hurt thinking about the drawing.

I wasn't myself these days and when i eventually showed her my drawing, i asked her out. She said that she really liked me, but she didn't want to do anything with anyone right now and that she hoped we could stay friends. I was really crushed but i agreed. I never felt this way for any girl and i hope i will never have to do so again.

I told my best friend of 9 years I was in love with him today, all he said was “don’t fall in love with me” so I’m taking that as a hard no, it’s not necessarily what I expected but I guess I’ll take it.

so i’m in college (22 f) and i’ve been liking this girl for the longest. i invited her to the movies with me and some friends. that night went great because afterwards we were able to talk and everything. btw this all started in like the beginning of september. a week went by and i actually asked her to go on a real date with me and she said yes. now...this night was amazing. why you ask? because just the vibe between us was really genuine and i could just tell she seemed to like me. so later that night she invited me to her place and we just hung out and talked some more and played mario cart. amazing right? anyway, so right before i noticed she kept staring at me in like a hungry way and i noticed her getting closer. immediately she whispers to me “i’m sorry, i’ve been wanted to do this all night” and she kisses me.

so we’re both making out on her couch and she wanted to take things to her bedroom. so we do and we have sex and what not. we end the night both smiling and everything. now days later i’m not sure if she’s feeling me because i tend to overthink like every situation possible. but turns out she tells me she’s not ready for a relationship so i just try brushing it off and tell her it’s okay. so skipping to today (december) we’ve just been really good friends. she vents to me about her problems which i don’t mind because i like helping other people and we hang out like good friends do. but today she was going on about maybe going on a date with this girl that both me and her know about and she’s talking about maybe dating her.

of course that’s when my heart sinks. like really? i thought you said you weren’t ready to date, yet you wanna date her...alright. but i drove her home later tonight and we talked more about random stuff and i throw in “did i ever have a chance? like am i your type” and i’m telling her to be as honest as possible. she ends up telling me “no. i’m more into feminine girls. probably because i’m feminine too” of course i fake laugh it off to ease the mood. i mind you, i’m not like a bitch lesbian or anything, but i guess i’m not the most feminine. but she still tells me i’m very pretty/attractive and she really loves hanging out and is glad to have a friend like me and to have met a person like me (she always tells me how funny and great of a person i am even when i’m feeling insecure). she sure a great person to me and i just feel like she’s the one that got away. overall, i drove back home while blasting one of my sad/depressing playlists.

i just hate investing my energy into people. that shit hurts in the end. i thought i had a chance but i was wrong. but at least i know for sure how she feels. it’s still so hard to stop thinking about her because it felt as if she was feeling the same at first and to have her reject me and go after another person in front of you sucks. i just feel like we could have something great only if she would give me a chance...but i know that won’t happen now. we’re still good friends though so i guess i can at least be grateful for that because it’s still an honor to know some as good as her. also it’s her life and her choices so it’s whatever makes her happy. i just wanna see her happy but damn. i guess i just need to except that and move on. even though it’s so hard for me to except.

okay now i’m just rambling and i know everything is all over the place. but if you’ve read it to this point, thank you for listening and goodnight

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