Do you guys watch anything in your bedtime such YT, or any content. What do you guys usually watch (it could be something productive) when you're about to fall asleep?

I wonder if y'all have ever done self-development in y'all's lives, like reading self-help books or being more disciplined. I was thinking about this today when I'm recovering my social battery, and I did nothing but watch the invincible and play videogames and I feel behind but back in Covid when I was still finding out who I am, that I read alot of self-help books and go for walks that I healed my inner traumas and also was striving to find my passion(which I did). But I wonder if y'all also did some self development

I INTJ(23M) have an ESFP(23F) friend. She’s naturally very touchy, hyperactive and physically affectionate. We’ve gotten drunk together several times, usually with another mutual male friend.

First incident:
During one of our drinking sessions, the three of us were together. Our mutual male friend kissed her on the cheek, and she didn’t mind. Meanwhile, she was caressing my face, and I was caressing hers. I got a little awkward about how affectionate I’d been, but she comforted me and told me not to be embarrassed.

Second incident:
On another occasion, only we were there no third party was there and we two were there and got drunk and talked about sex. I told her how I’d gotten hard just from hugging and holding hands with a girl. We ended up sleeping beside each other on the same bed. I asked her to cuddle me, and she did. She blew some air around my neck, and we talked about how neck kisses can make people horny.
She asked if I must be hard at that moment and said that even if I were, I probably wouldn’t tell her.
She was wearing short pants and a T-shirt and mentioned if i would mind if she changes into something more revealing. I said no, and she eventually changed into a more revealing camisole.
We rested our heads on each other while watching Stranger Things. At one point, I mentioned that alcohol makes people horny, and she agreed, saying she felt horny too. I wondered afterwards whether I should have made a move, but I didn’t.

Third incident:
On another night, the three of us drank beers and finished a one bottle of vodka.
I gave her a few love bites: first on her upper arm, then her neck, and finally slightly above her cleavage. When I gave her one on her neck, she was moaning, but she didn’t give me any in return.
She seemed comfortable, and the next day everything was normal. We’re still talking normally.

My confusion:
Do you think there’s any attraction here, or is she simply very comfortable and physically affectionate with me? Would things potentially be different if we spent time alone rather than always being in a trio?
I’d particularly like to hear from ESFP women about how they interpret this kind of behaviour.

What are some of your interests that you've discovered randomly and been really proud about it.

For me,out of nowhere I just heard Jazz and started loving it and playing some good instrumental Jazz music on loop. It's so peaceful and it really relaxes my mind.

My ESTJ friend has been looking up and planning "attraction techniques" to get a guy she really likes. (e.g., not responding for hours, pretending she doesn't care, idk, all those attraction things shown in books and by relationship coaches).

The thing is, she really likes this guy from school (ISFP). He is very popular on our college campus (I know this sounds cheesy). He plays guitar around campus, and people literally gravitate toward him. He is always invited to all the coolest parties and plans, and he is our friend. However, he is not interested in connecting more with ESTJ. When we are in a group, it's like he can't even notice she is there. (She is attractive, though). And she tells him she enjoys his music, but I know her, and I know she doesn't really like what he is into as much. Seems like he only likes and connects with people who are into music like he is, or something similar.

So her plan is to get into music like he is, so they can go together and meet at an upcoming event at a music venue. She wants to ask him if he can let her sing one of his songs. I personally think that's cool, except she hates that music and lifestyle. Idk why she's doing it.

Then, we have this other guy... ESFP. My friend's neighbor. He just moved last summer. We sometimes see him at the coffee shop close by where he works. And he also always invites us to kickbacks and parties at his house. He is super cute and very nice. I think my friend (ESTJ) thinks he is annoying, but deep down she might like him. However, Idk why they are like frenemies? If anyone has any idea or a similar situation where an ESTJ and an ESFP don't like each other for no normal reason, please let me know. I think she has a better chance with an ESFP because I can see he might be into her. He always hooks up with girls and told me he prefers to go with the flow, and maybe he'll find the one someday. He can be a hopeless romantic, but as soon as things get serious, he dips out! Why? He dates bubbly, girly girls, but my friend is more of a femme fatale, so I think that's what he likes, but he might be intimidated?

Idk. I'm tired of my friend talking about this all the time, and I just listen because I'm an ENTJ, and sometimes my advice is more like instructions on what to do than actual advice... All I want to tell her is that ISFP is only going to be interested if you share similar interests, which you don't, and that means forget about him. And ESFP is cute and nice, and you should invite him to do stuff with you and get to know him... (but idk, she might hate him, and I'm wrong)

Hello guys and gals :D would love to meet some ESFP fiction writers for my research project! It's about matching Jungian personality types to fiction writing processes. Anybody interested in helping me out? I just gotta ask you a bunch of questions about how you write :DD

Having met various ESFPs throughout my life, even though we don't become best friends due to our radically opposite ways, I've never gotten into a fight with any of you, even though our perception axis (Ni‑Se) is reversed.

Even though I know you probably find us boring and too cerebral, you seem to find us mystical and you love it!!

Honestly, you are among the few extroverts who are good types.

At first, I would politely ask the moderation of this sub to not censor me, as I noticed my last post and also one of my comments to have been deleted for no other reason, than my opinion being unpopular. So please, be fair, and do not censor me again. Don't make more redditors move to 4chan. You won't lecture anyone morally, you merely would oppress people.

No, saying, that Ti makes people succeed in sports and that I like horror movies and destructive drama and could not understand, how someone with Se at primary spot could prefer slice of life, does not violate the rules in any way, my dear. You merely dislike me. Maybe, you should consider liking me instead.

To face the actual point: recently, I commented on someone's post, that they would need to overcome their fear of their Ni inferior (element of ESFP: here you have the context, dear moderation, do not delete) and take action, initiate a change, which was hypocritical, because I couldn't match the standard myself.

I am literally dysfunctional. My Ni willpower wants to perform, to engage into a job, which would enable me performing and entertaining people. Some might find slightly tolerant work spaces, in which entertainment is possible as a side component, when dealing with people. But, I urge to make it a main component. Even as a hobby, it would satisfy me enough.

I crave the real time admiration and the legacy, it is followed by. I want people to experience the unique ideas, I have to offer for entertainment purposes. And if the idea wouldn't be as unique, the execution would be.

I want to create song parodies, but Ti trickster makes it difficult to understand digital programs and avoid unpleasant outcomes.

I want to learn an instrument, how to sing, how to dance, but am unable to invest into it. Yes, it is a question of money as well, but even if I had all the material ressources, I would be blocked from taking action.

It is scary, it is embarrassing and embarassment is humiliating. People, possibly teaching me would realize my lack of skill and call me out for it or even make fun of it.

It already happened long ago. Where I was standing half an hour in front of a hip hop class, afraid to step in. When I finally entered, the teacher told me, that it was brave, to not have left in the middle of the class, considering my lack of skill. That was that embarrassing, that I never showed up. And now, over a decade passed.

Also, I am dealing with chronical inflamations for almost 7 years by now. Everyone knows, this could turn into cancer. The possibility alone, that it already could have become cancer by now, stagnates me even more, willing to surrender, before having tried anything out. Because, what's the point of commiting to anything, if you likely would have to interrupt it midway eitherways for possible cancer treatment? That's the way, how I didn't get any education after my high school graduation. (And yes, in my country, doctors have god complexes, bullying their patients and rejecting treatment. That is more than common.)

All I would have wished, would have been friends to accompany me. To go for explorative road trips. To literally take me by my hand, and lead me to those same dancing classes, facing the challenges, failures and disappointments with me. In CSJ's system, I am SD, subconscious developed, relying on community, dysfunctional by myself, easily embarrassed and insecure af.

But, I do not have those people. All I could do, is calling my mother, as long as she is still alive and be listening to her, telling me to grow up, but not telling, how.

Everything is a risk. And, picking an option, feels like suffocating. You reach the panic mode, as the severely feared consequences become reality, step by step, and then, you dissociate, to not die from the stress, you are dealing with. Then, you become depressed, as a result of it. This internal desparate numbness even fulfills a protective function.

And I don't even like the differentiation between mentally healthy and sick. Why does it make me mentally sick, if I see the possible consequences of my actions? Why would this same trait make an ENFP or whichever intuitive type mentally healthy?

I must take action, or my death would not have collected one percent of the possible reverence & legacy potential, prior its occurance. But, on my own, I am nothing.

Instead, I numb myself with video games, I am bad in, because my motorical skills are. >1000 hours of playtime, absolutely no progress.

Would the same happen to me, if I faced a dancing/acting/singing/instrument class?

All the allegedly helpful institutions want to stagnate me further, by binding me to an Si comfortable, socially accepted job. But, I don't want the ordinary. If I would have to pick the ordinary, I would rather choose death.

Please, may someone come into my life, and experience the same amount of fun in the activities, I am craving. All I am able to experience on my own is fear, despair, anger, shame and severe embarrassment.

So, how does your inferior manifest within yourself and how do you deal with it? Literally, how? How doesn't it eats you up? What is left off you, if you try to ignore/suppress it?

Once, the inferior is ignored, the demon comes out.

How do you domesticate your demon function? How do you soften it?

I wonder if it's common for ESFP( or for everyone ) or it's just me - to try repressing grief and sadness in moments of distress, convincing yourself that you got over it and it doesn't bother you anymore, that you're strong, as a result becoming more cynical, cold and hiding your true feelings from everyone. Like not able to express them because of the external environment like just suppressing your numbness because you've no control over life and just going with the flow. Also feeling like it's not worth telling other people as it will create a neagtive and gloomy atmosphere. Like feeling helpless all the time.

I wonder if it's common for ESFP( or for everyone ) or it's just me - to try repressing grief and sadness in moments of distress, convincing yourself that you got over it and it doesn't bother you anymore, that you're strong, as a result becoming more cynical, cold and hiding your true feelings from everyone. Like not able to express them because of the external environment like just suppressing your numbness because you've no control over life and just going with the flow. Also feeling like it's not worth telling other people as it will create a neagtive and gloomy atmosphere. Like feeling helpless all the time.

ESFPs , what's your fav movie genre

Personally I like slice of life kinda movies where characters find beauty in ordinary life and when I'm able to relate to the characters realistically. I'm not a fan of highly dramatized melodrama kind of movies or some action packed thrillers. I love a good light hearted movies that captures the universal, everyday struggles of modern youth.

So what is your fav movie genre??

Unfortunately I'm not, I'm pathfinder

For example, would you like to be cuddled? How would you feel about a partner that likes to be on you often, like asking to sit in your lap and hugging you, or lying their head on you, or hugging on you throughout the day? Also, do you give out a lot of physical touch, such as kisses and cuddles? And are you playfully aggressive?

There could be a myth that NT types are intellectually superior. i find some comments in mbti community belies a commenter’s fantasy about such superiority. i enjoy S and F types as much as i do N and T types.

Hey guys, I'm an INFJ and I struggle a lot to live in the present moment and honestly I'm growing tired of it. I've always admired people who lived in the present and looked at the world as something filled with things to be experienced. I really want to work on that too.

When I go outside, I fail to see the world as filled with possibilities for fun experiences. I think my mind is too closed off to see all the exciting things I can jump in in front of me, and so I keep seeing the outside as boring. I take walks at the park and sometimes I take the ferry to look at the water. But other than that, I just can't get myself to have fun. So my question is: what are examples of things I can do outside that are very fun but easily overlooked? How do you guys entertain yourselves when you're out there exploring? How do you see the world through a fun and exciting perspective?

I thought maybe the experts of Se would know what to do :)

I created a typing test that works based on what you resonate with, it gives you a feed of cards with statements, quotes, scenario, and you select only the ones you resonate with, this way the cognitive load is very low, also the feed adapt to funnel down your type, you just select what you think is related to you.

I already asked on different subreddits including this one, for the version 1.3, 135 persons sent the report, it resulted with 70% accuracy, not that bad, I used this test session to improve it, I hope reaching 90% accuracy, maybe with this new version 1.5. About the last test session you have all the data analysis on the website.

At the end of the test, in the result page, you will have a frame that ask you to share your result, with a simple button. It will send me the informations I need in my database, it gives me all the cards you selected, the timeline of the guessing of your type, how the algorithm reacted, etc, it helps me to fine-tune the test.

I really feel that this method can work and be more accurate than anything that already exist.

Thank you in advance if you try it, and thank you again for the ones that already tried it, it helped me a lot improving the test.

https://www.mazwiz.com/

PS: I will share the findings in the result page like for the last test session.

Is this a good match of types?

Do ESFPs feel trapped/constrained sometimes by ESTJs?

Can ESFPs still maintain close friendships outside the relationship?

Thanks in advance for your help with this.

ESFP in ni inferior how you guys manage your inferior perpsnality and feeling inferior and depressed from other and your peers. How do you handle that?

ESFP in ni inferior how you guys manage your inferior perpsnality and feeling inferior and depressed from other and your peers. How do you handle that?