I wish that you would listen when I say I like it rough. Really hear me when I say that I want you to slap my ass, hard. Stop telling me that you’re afraid to hurt me... if it got to that point I would tell you! Tie me up goddamnit. Use rope, scarves, cuffs, fucking bed sheets if you want. Immobilize me and have your way with me.

I wish that you’d call me nasty names, like your cum slut or little whore. Pretend like I’m a hooker you hired. Stop calling me honey and sweetie while you’re fucking me... save those for when we’re at your mother’s house.

I wish that you’d still grab my ass in public or even sneak a swipe at my tits or pussy when no one is looking. Or press your hard cock against me from behind while having a serious conversation with others who have no clue. I still want to be the object of your desires, like I did 17 years ago when we first met.

I wish that you’d use my toys on me. Or at least lay there and watch while I please myself. I wish that you’d pull my hair. I wish that you’d shove your cock so deep in my throat that I gag... and hold it there for a few seconds until you decide that I can breathe again. Don’t be afraid to make me your sex slave sometimes.... romance in nice, but not allllll the time.

I wish that you’d hear me when I say I want to try new things. And don’t make faces when I mention anal. For fuck sakes, I’m 38 and want to try it. And let me put a finger up your ass... it won’t make you gay (seriously.. ridiculous).

I wish that I didn’t have to have an affair in order to get my fix. But I guess at this point, it’s the only way I’m going to get everything I crave.

TL;DR - Posts which use large regions (#southwest, for example) or nations (#UK, for example) as a location will be removed going forward.

We are modifying the location rule in order to make posts more useful. From this point forward we will be requiring a geographic description which at least as specific as a state in the United States. For those of you outside the US, please use your best judgement according to the size of your country and consider using something more local. As a rule of thumb, if it take more than 4 hours to get from one end of your country to the other by car, you should use a more local location.

We encourage all posters to be even more specific than state (county or city), but we understand comfort level with regards to OPSEC is important.

If you’d like to submit feedback on this change, please send a modmail.

Once again I find myself here. Hoping that the right person runs across this post, reads it thinking, “wow, this is exactly what I’ve been looking for!”

See, I’ve been here before. I’ve had one night stands and I’ve had an affair that broke my heart in the end and everywhere in between. I’ve gone through many conversations that eventually fizzled out. Conversations that start off great and then the person isn’t as ready for this type of relationship as they thought they were, so please be ready. I’m in a dead bedroom marriage of almost 14 years. I’m very high libido and longing for the type of affair that novels are made of! I’m not looking to change my situation or yours, but still looking for feelings and being on your priority list. Being each other’s AP’s, we know we aren’t each other’s number one priority but I feel like we have to be a priority nonetheless. I promise you if you put in effort, you will not be disappointed with what I have to offer back.

Since I’m not looking to change either of our situations, so discretion is a must and I appreciate it in return.

I want someone who will message throughout the day when they can, and can have a few sneaky phone calls on lunch breaks and when we are alone out and about. Meeting whenever we can and when there just isn’t time, still making time for a quick 10-15 minutes in a parking lot to steal some kisses and get lost in each other even for a few minutes just because we needed to be close to one another that badly.

The kind of passion that takes your breath away for a second when you think of your lover. The intensity of when you feel their hand go down your back or arm as they pull you in for a hug makes you tilt your head back just a little and close your eyes, losing yourself in that moment. Counting down the days/minutes until you see them again. That’s the kind of passion I’m looking for. I’m not afraid to catch feelings and if you’re messaging me, you shouldn’t be either. We need to be able to get lost in each other and still know when we part, we go back to our respective lives until we meet again. A little about me, I’m 37, 5’4, long dark hair with highlights, green eyes that I’ve been told are unbelievable, tanned skin, always manicured nails. I’m not a size 2, but not overly curvy either. Somewhere in between. I’m a very confident woman and I take care of myself, as should you. I hit the gym when I can and like to trail run some in the warmer months. I have pics and will gladly share. I love spending my free time outdoors more than indoors. Going to concerts is probably one of my favorite things to do. Hiking, kayaking and a day on the lake are always good in my book. Love a good glass of wine while relaxing on the couch at the end of the day, but also love a good beer... or 5 while watching a football game. I love a night out on the town as much as a cozy night in with a good movie and cuddles- and we all know the best cuddles lead to a good time 😉

I’m pretty laid back and easy to get along with. I don’t get riled up easily. I don’t do drama of any kind.

Hoping there’s still someone out there who is looking for the same thing I am. Don’t be shy to reach out! Message me and we can talk about anything for a minute or everything for hours ♥️

5'2 slim Asian woman preference for strong muscular men whose dicks have been deprived for months/years.

I love getting attention from random hot dad's at the mall and the thrill of fucking in the back of their cars or on their marital bed when their wife and children are out of the house really is the best sex ever. I love making them put their wedding ring on me while they use my hole, and looking at their wedding photo on the wall while they pound me from behind.

Is this bad? 😈

I am looking for a man, preferably local, who will be an attentive online AP and who will be able to meet in person.

I am a 42 yo, separated mom. I’m Indian (the subcontinent). I have a mom-bod, cute and curvy at 5’2”.

I would like to get to know someone who has a great sense of humor, doesn’t take life too seriously, has a passion for live music and likes to go out sometimes.

I’m not looking for serious attachment, just serious chemistry. If you’re out there, please find me. 💋

Seriously guys, if you’re gonna be on here posting, delete your cringey post/comment history… no one is going to reply to you if you’re talking about fkn your mother in law or looking at minors. 🤮

Some of y’all need Jesus.

To the men who were shaking the first time they touched me, who told me I was beautiful and meant it, who gently brushed my hair out of the way as they face fucked me, who didn't stop licking me until I came, who embraced my kinks and didn't make me feel ashamed, who fucked me hard and cuddled me tenderly...thank you for teaching me that I am worthy of love and affection.

To the men who were creeps, who demanded things I wasn't willing to give, who created new accounts to harass me after I blocked them, who ghosted, who came and went without warning, who didn't even attempt to make me cum...thank you for teaching me to trust my instincts and realize that I deserve better.

To every AP I've had, no matter how briefly they were in my life, whether it was online or in person, whether the sex was good or bad, whether the connection was real or not, whether I saw them once or multiple times a week...thank you.

It is tough out there for all of us. We're lonely, desperate for attention and affection. We get hurt.

But I hope we all find what we're searching for. <3

This also includes a few other ages even into the 30's but seems most here lately have been targeting that specific age. Many are now into their 30's suggesting a location and for this sub USA - they are posting here and r/OnlineAffairs suggesting snap chat for example. DO NOT UPVOTE THEM!!! DO NOT REPLY TO THEM!! REPORT THEM!!

If they note ig USERNAME info - THESE ARE FAKE!! If they are trying to push you to another platform mostly snap then THESE ARE FAKE!!! We've been getting a bunch of reports of extortion attempts by these accounts.

GUYS and GALS - USE GOOD OPSEC!!! Careful with photos, watch backgrounds of your photos, locations can also allow them to search social media and so on to track you down and try to extort you out of money!! The majority of these are from fake FEMALE posters but there has been a few FAKE MALE posts.

We are trying to save you a ton of trouble with a warning and hope that everyone see's this and reads it. We are removing several of these accounts a day. Be sure to check the users out well, post history, common other subs they post such as for meme's and any other patterns that may be red flags. TAKE YOUR TIME when talking to others!!! We get it - when a woman posts it's a rat race with 200+ guys here all trying to get with them and early bird gets worm... problem here is the worm is on a hook!!!

Report the post, feel free to send MOD MAIL to notify us (we get to them as fast as we can) and report them to reddit as well. If enough report then they will be spammed out by Reddit. DO NOT UPVOTE THEM!!!!! This pushes their posts higher and could cause others to fall for it. Screenshot any reddit conversations as well that helps. Ladies - we get it, we may remove your post out of the blue and request verification of sorts but this out of caution for all members so please don't get upset if your post is removed.

May update more as we see it and as they alter their methods. Just be careful!! This sub is one of many that is being targeted!!

Okay so you all gots to know what happened with me and have this serve as a cautionary tale for your OPSEC.

I am an AM veteran was on it a few weeks back and messaged a profile. "She" responded and after a few text exchanges we moved the conversion to kik. "She" seemed like a regular woman who was texting me back coherent and human responses and nothing about her made me doubt she was a bot or a machine. This was a real person exchanging texts and pictures and telling me stories and how her day went.Few days after, "she" asked me to meet her.

We make plans and I send her the address of an upscale brunch place and "she" agreed to meet me there. On the day of the meeting, "she" let me know how excited and nervous she was and I kept texting to calm her nerves down even when I was on the way to the restaurant. She asks me what I am wearing and let me know how I could identify her. Little did I know my life was about to be potentially ruined in a few moments.

I park my car. I walk in. "She" asks me if I am there yet. I say yes. After a brief pause, I get a long message on kik which has my name, my address, my photos, my facebook profile picture, my LinkedIn account, my spouse's name, her email address, and her phone number and a threat "Send me $10,000 or else my spouse will be informed about my actions". Bear in mind I never revealed my actual name or any other personal detail with this person beyond my pictures.

I was cold in my head. The blood drained down my neck and I was motionless at what I just read. I felt violated and could not fathom why anyone would go to such lengths and how I found myself in the position I found myself in. I realized I was about to lose everything - my marriage, my kids, potentially my job. I knew I was in trouble.I ran to my car, and drove back home like a mad man. I kept getting messages telling me they are calling my wife and screenshots of them leaving her text messages. Needless to say, this was one heck of a stressful drive. I knew paying them wasn't an option. They will come back for more. I never negotiate with terrorists. I was gutted but I was angry at how someone could violate my privacy even though my actions were unethical what they were doing to me was illegal.

I reached home to find my wife's phone unattended. They had called and texted her multiple times. I deleted and blocked all communications. Texted them back on kik that I reported them to FBI. I kept getting threats of email and them informing my colleagues at work. I took a deep breath and deleted my kik profile and unsintalled the app. I figured they can threaten me until they can communicate with me. The only form of communication was kik so I got rid of that. I monitored the situation for a few days - no contact. A few weeks pass and still nothing. No one from my network reported about being contacted by them. So far I think I am in the clear but I am now at their mercy. Maybe they moved or maybe they will come back to haunt me again.

This ordeal made me realize what world we live in. Our identity is out there for others to see and use as they see fit. It made me realize what really matter to me is not the short-term pleasures of life but my family and the life I worked so hard to build.Use this story and this information as you see fit.

I am not asking any of you to change your behavior but I do hope you all learn from what happened to me and use it to improve or make your OPSEC bullet proof. Trust no mf.

Cheers

Does anyone else feel this way?

I am horny and lonely all the time. I work in a professional setting, I am friendly with coworkers and successful at my job and yet I feel like I'm the only one carrying this big secret.

When I look around...in meetings, social settings, in the office...I wonder if any of the people I'm looking at feel the same way as me. I wonder if they're in the same boat as me. I wonder if they look online like I do. If they spend time at work browsing Reddit looking for some sort of connection.

Do they also have desires to live in 2 separate worlds? I don't want to change my home life. I just want...more.

I am almost 40 and for as long as I can remember I have been horny almost every day. I have browsed more than my fair share of porn sites and daydreamed about more than my fair share of bosses and lovers.

Is that normal? Do all women feel horny all the time? I have always had a curiosity for all things sexual and a healthy appetite for sex. I swear, it's been this way since puberty - but lately it seems like it's getting worse! I feel like I'm going to burst.

And I feel so alone. I look around and wonder if there is anyone else close to me that dreams like I do.

Is it possible that there is and they're just really good at hiding it?

We been having problems with spammers, fakes, brigading, and just plain unkind people so there are two new rules in effect:

• your account must be at least 5 days old to post

• your account must have 5 karma to post

Hopefully this will cut down on the bad posts. We are working on new items to help reduce spam and allow for better connections. If you have any other ideas or believe this may be too strict, let me know and I will take it into consideration.

UPDATE: the karma limit is set for comment karma
lowered karma limit to 5.

Dead bedroom have been married for 7years. I’m looking for someone to talk to or hope for an everyday conversation not just a hey here and never hear back from. Don’t waste my time or yours if you’re looking for one night stands or trying to meet right away as I’m not looking for that. Also not a person to give bj or into couples kink or anything like that. Don’t send any unsolicited dick picture. I’m a straightforward person and not here to bs. Looking for someone to have that connection one desires the butterflies, the smiling from one’s message. I want to feel wanted and desire as anyone should be. Not wanting to change anyone’s situation or mines. If this post is still up then I’m still looking. If this is something that interests you make an effort and say more then just hey or hi. If you have any negative feedback or whatever keep it to yourself.

Located near homeland /Perris/valle vista.

Fuck me in the car? He called me trash. flash back to when my AP, make me scream in his back seat.

Fuck me on our couch? He said, his mom will sit there later. *flash back to my AP, bending me over his couch *

Fuck me in the SHOWER? He said, he was cold. Didn't want to get wet. *flash back to my AP catching me as my knee gave out, because he made me cum so hard *

Fuck me in the BED? He said he was tired. *getting up to go meet my AP, BECAUSE I'M TIRED OF REJECTION *

Sometimes I wonder why I jump threw hurtles for this man? When someone would be thrilled to explore my sexuality. My fantasies are boring. I get off on mutually enjoyable sex.

STOP FUCKING GHOSTING PEOPLE!

Have the balls to tell them you’re not interested!! Or that you only want to fuck, or don’t want to fuck on the first date, or whatever the hell it is you want.

Stop being a little bitch and just be an adult about it. It hurts a hell of a lot less to just be told the truth rather than be completely ghosted. ESPECIALLY when you make the person think you had a connection. Honestly, what kind of game is that?

Just be a real person for fuck sakes. Talk about real things. If you only want to hook up, say that. If you really want an AP, say that. If you start talking to someone and just aren’t in to it, SAY THAT. Just be HONEST. Stop ghosting because you’re too cowardly to just tell the truth.

Thank you and good day lol

Married and (hoping) to stay that way, but the seven year itch is real. I’m chasing the dragon.. looking for that spark. That feeling in the pit of your stomach that only something new and exciting can bring. I’m your average midwestern almost middle aged Mom. Not a super model, but not a dog. I’ve got a stable job that offers me plenty of time most days to have some fun chatting. I’m a sexy attention junky and cuddle slut. I’d prefer a local (or somewhat local) so that there would be a real potential to get dtf. Ideal situation would be consistent chatting mostly during the work day and meeting up a couple times a month. Let’s see where this can go.

1. Know your audience. Do not just play the numbers game and “shotgun” messages to every single F4M post you see. Read the post...twice! If we, as a group, cut down on the number of messages a female receives that are no where near what they are looking for, the chances of somebody that really meets the criteria go way up.

There are usually clues on there to let you know if you are in the ball park of what they are looking for.

Age: If there is an age range and you are not in said range, do not message.

Location: If there is a specified location and you are not in that location, or have the means to get to that location regularly, do not message.

Type of affair: If they are looking for an online,emotional, long term affair and you are just looking to get a handy behind the dumpster at a truck stop, do not message.

Physical: If they are looking for a clean cut professional and you are bearded and tattooed, do not message.

2. Think about your message. They are getting bombarded with messages as soon as they hit send on the post. A simple “Hey” or “Sup” probably isn’t going to get a response. Send a well thought out message describing yourself and what you are looking for, touch on something that stood out about the post that got your attention. I cannot stress this next one enough. Unless the post specifically says she is just looking to get her back blown out, do not send a dick pic on the first message!

3.If you do get a reply. If you are one of the lucky ones that actually get a reply. Be nice. Let her get comfortable before you get ahead of yourself. Don’t try to take it off Reddit immediately. I know a lot of us don’t really like the chat function here, but it needs to stay here for a minute just to see if it is going to go anywhere. Don’t ask for nudes or try to sext within the first 5 minutes. Patience my boy. Let that come naturally. I would much rather have a pAP want to share an intimate photo or have some adult fun, than feel guilted or pressured into anything like that. It just creepy.

4. Ghosting/ rejection. Hey, this happens to the best of us. This one goes both ways. If you get ghosted, all I can say is deal with it. You are probably not the only conversation the poster has going on. It isn’t always something you said. Maybe another convo is going better, or the other pAP is closer or has more in common. Don’t take it personally. If you get rejected, take it like an adult. Don’t beg, get mad, or try to change their mind. They have their reasons and don’t really owe you anything. Different rules may apply to that after a certain amount of time spent chatting, but consider the first few days a probationary period. You haven’t earned a severance package.

I guess that’s all I have to say on this. I can’t be taken too seriously. Just having a little fun here on a Friday night.

Seriously though, we all get frustrated in the search for what we feel like we need out there. Somebody will come along when you least expect it and knock your ever loving socks off and it will all be worth it.

Married and missing that spark. Dead bedroom marriage and haven’t had anyone local to me message ☹️ You can creep my past posts and read about what I’m looking for 🥰 In very southern Ohio. Close to Gallipolis/ Athens area, close to the WV border.

2 hours from Lexington Ky 2 hours from Columbus OH 1.5 hour from Chillicothe OH 30 min from Huntington WV

Where the men at looking for that missing spark to reignite and live life happy again?! ♥️

Well, it's been a month or so since I first posted on here. I apparently attract engineers & doctors, is that weird?! Their conversations can be very deep, love it - no complaints at all.

I met a handful of individuals in person, 2 of which I had a sexual encountered with. Both gave me an experience that I never thought I would live. I was very nervous myself. In my 40years, I had never seen in person, touched, or fucked someone else other than my husband. 1 of them was a little too rough & bruised my chest, smh. He was too excited I guess, lol. I can tell from his msgs that he was mortified & kept apologizing profusely. Cute. The other guy, was so attentive & careful...and goodness did he have a big dick.

I have yet to meet 1 other individual that I am hoping to meet one day, downside...he lives across country. Such a bummer.

Overall, I have to say, this experience has been weirdly satisfying. Will this continue? Most likely. I just became a slut in front of y'all eyes, oh my goodness.

Teacher, musician, artist, writer. Great at taking selfies and love sharing them. Going through a sexual awakening and kind of can't ignore it. Looking for someone who appreciates me and distance doesn't matter.

Reposting because the original was taken down.

There are a lot of posts here of people with good intentions looking for the connection they aren’t getting at home, and that is fine. If that’s what you’re looking for then I’m not the girl for you. I don’t have good intentions. Rather than just being a pleasant distraction from your unhappy marriage, I want to interject myself into the middle of it without her ever knowing. I want to completely replace her without her ever knowing I exist. I want to feel like I’m right there with you at all times. Tell me about ever conversation you two have. Let me get to know everything about both of you. Let me see how happy you two look together on date night (while you’re thinking about me). And that’s just the beginning. If we really connect and hit things off I want to push you even further. Betray her trust just to make me happy. Send me pictures of her that she wouldn’t want anyone else to see. Steal from her and send me her things. Commit to me and spend as much time as possible talking to me when you should be paying attention to her.

Im not here to be a homewrecker and split you two apart. Quite the opposite. I want you to stay with her and let me be the girl on the side. I’m her worst nightmare and your ultimate fantasy. I will be very discrete and private. Please don’t message me if you’re not interested in something long term or not willing to be open with me. I am in a relationship as well so discretion is a priority.

As the title explains it, I'm married in a very dead bedroom. Not looking for anything serious, not looking to be a homewrecker either, I'm 5'3, 120lbs. A little goth, a little spicy and very adventurous, I love rock music (mostly classic), horror films, concerts, running, staying up all night binge watching shows and having an amazing conversation with someone intelligent and funny. I social drink and enjoy a good time like the next gal.

No political or religious talk. But for reference, I'm an atheist and lean to the left.

idk, I've tried every approach. People are supposed to sell themselves, so I'm just... not doing that. I'm awful. You'll think I suck. I'll think you're the worst. We are now free to retreat to our respective trash cans and be grumpy about our bad luck.

If you rely on your good looks, big d!ck, or whatever swagger to attract women, I'm likely not going to be interested. I tend to like intelligent men of average attractiveness that can hold a conversation (asking "how are you?" daily is not that). Be curious about me. I had a whole ass life before I met you. include the phrase "I like chubby girls" (I am) in your response so I know you can read and are interested in a jaded woman who really does want to meet a nice guy and make him feel like he matters. I want that in return please.

LOCAL ONLY. I repeat, local only.

35-50 only please.

I am your new mod for this subreddit. I’ll be working on cleaning up this subreddit of spammers and sellers. If there is any changes you would like to see, please let me know.

I am also looking for someone to help make the place look nice. If you are good at designing let me know.

Lets all have fun here outside of our marriages/relationships.

Just be decent.. Even when you’re up to no good…

Not to anyone particular… Just a thought I had..

Stay safe you sexy fuckers..