Hi, I’m feeling a little weird after my wedding. I got married yesterday to the love of my life: everything went perfectly, but I feel strange. I have mixed feelings. On the one hand, it was incredible—I was very moved to see all those people gathered to celebrate our wedding, and the speeches really touched me. On the other hand, I regret not partying more!

I feel like I didn’t enjoy the party enough because, at 1 a.m., the champagne went to my head and I was too drunk; so I asked my best friend to walk me back to my room, and I’m both angry and ashamed of myself because of that. I didn’t eat enough during the cocktail hour because everyone kept coming up to see me, and I was caught off guard. I wish I’d partied and danced more with my friends, my family, and, of course, my husband! I feel like my guests enjoyed my own wedding more than I did 😅

How can I get over this? It’s pretty strange for me to feel this way, because I wasn’t nervous at all about planning the wedding; we didn’t want to put too much pressure on ourselves, so it was a pretty relaxed wedding, and I didn’t think it would be such a social affair!

I thought I’d party more, but in reality, it feels like it was mostly a series of brief conversations throughout the day because there were so many people—conversations with people I love of course, but still!

Is it normal to feel a bit down after the wedding? Maybe I just needed to get it out of my chest (I feel shameful to shave that mixed feelings cause it was an amazing day so I should feel only ecstatic!!).

Me and my fiancé are both in the music industry. Hes a guitarist in hair metal and im a music photographer. I’ve never seen a “concert” wedding done before but i feel like that would be so fun. Ideally, i want a very small almost “diy” wedding for just very close friends and family since our personal circle is so small and then having a show for our extended family and friends and people we know in the industry. I think it would be super fun plus we would be hiring our friends who are in bands to play and my photographer friends can come and take photos for the show.

Anyone done this before?

Hello! Curious if anyone’s done something nontraditional than posed family shots. I was thinking if would be fun if our Families play a game or something, maybe for lots of small interactions and laughter or something, and just photograph that. Idk what we’d really do with lots of photos of like everyone standing and posing! But we don’t have Huge families so we’d probably do some like that anyways.

idk I’d much rather have photos of like our dads laughing together or like trying to catch grapes tossed into their mouths Or something, am I crazy

It was a beautiful Palm Beach wedding and I feel bad for complaining. I do set standards for myself even if no one understands them. I was just brought up to be “perfect” so it’s hard when I don’t feel that way on such an important day. People are still raving about how beautiful and elegant our wedding was. Anyway… the following regrets regarding my appearance..

1. I went out.
   If you do not want to go out the night before the big day and prefer to rest, please do not cave and go out. I went out and regretted it. I don’t think I looked good on my wedding day. I was puffy and inflamed.

2. Makeup.
   I felt my face looked weird but sadly there were also many unflattering photos taken by guests. Wedding makeup tends to be very heavy and bright under the eyes and I feel that backfired for me. I honestly think I would have looked better if I had done my own makeup. I just looked… weird and cakey.

3. Routine/discipline.
   I sadly slipped up on my routines due to a lot of stress leading up to the big day and didn’t feel I looked my best at all. I cried looking at very unflattering pictures of myself a few days after the wedding.

4. Posture.
   I had a strapless ball gown.. and it was slipping down. This caused me to have poor posture throughout the night because I didn’t want my chest to pop out. I usually pride myself on having nice posture.

5. Arms.
   Again, this is due to some of the above but I felt my arms looked huge. I didn’t work on slimming them enough and I felt like an ogre in a ball gown.

6. Nose job.
   Enough said- not sure that was the right move. Not sure my nose looks good at this point. I got it done back in 2022 and felt good about it at the time.

I’m so sad that I feel this way. I’m also so disappointed in myself. I think my outdoor photos are very unflattering but the indoor ones look good. My eyes are playing tricks on me. I am an xs/size 2 and yet I can’t stop scrutinizing. It’s not about being slimmer, but about proportions. And you can’t really see it in the pics but I just felt my face looked odd. Maybe I forgot how to smile that day even though I was very happy. I was happy that day! This is just the aftermath..

(Apologies if this is better for the wedding videography group, but I looked through and that seemed more technical-related discussions)

In a local wedding Facebook group where people regularly look for vendors, would it be fine to post like 15 seconds from some wedding videos I’ve found that I like? I can’t download and post a whole wedding video the way you can just download or screenshot a picture off of Pinterest, so I have some clips via screen recordings from Instagram videos I like. You can see the artists’ usernames in the video. They’re all not from my area so I don’t think any of them would see the video to be like “That’s mine. Why didn’t you reach out to me?” but I’ve never seen anyone else post actual videos, and don’t want to if it’s considered rude or taboo for some reason.

Also, would it be okay if I had videos to show a videographer (once I contact one) as inspiration? In my mind, showing inspiration photos to a photographer is different because there will literally be hundreds and hundreds of photos delivered, and they could recreate one single photo fairly easily… but there will only be 1-2 wedding films delivered, which obviously can’t just be recreated on the spot.

One videographer I was interested in, in her FAQs, it says that she does not take any music or song requests and will pick what she thinks is best. Is that standard? I’m guessing if I couldn’t even request the music for my video, she wouldn’t appreciate me bringing someone else’s fully edited video to her…

I found most of my other major vendors fairly easily, but videography has been difficult. Most videographers I’m finding in my area within my budget only offer a short “social media teaser” and then like a 5 minute highlight film, but I’d really like to have more footage, especially the full ceremony, from my wedding day.

For anyone who hired a videographer (or is one), did you show them other videos as inspiration? If you got a longer wedding video, was that something they already offered or did you have to ask for it?

Thanks in advance!

TL, DR: Would it be taboo for any reason to post screen recordings from Instagram wedding videos I’ve found that I liked in a wedding Facebook group, trying to find a videographer? And are videographers typically open to receiving other wedding films as inspiration? It seems like giving a fully edited video as inspiration to a videographer is different than giving a single photo off of Pinterest to a photographer.

Update: Going to post links instead to the videos I like as inspo at the recommendation of one comment. And I would only reach out to videographers if I saw some of their work that I liked and knew what I’m going for matches with their style. Definitely wouldn’t want to be rude and ask someone to do something completely different from their normal style!

I'm thinking about doing something a little different with my nails for my wedding, maybe a nontraditional color or design, but I'm having a hard time finding inspiration online. If any of you went with something other than the usual bridal nails, I'd love to see pictures! Thanks! ❤️

And for the Venmo posted to a wedding website doesn’t seem to have any public activity after the wedding (not sure if you can private Venmo activity or not?)

Let me know which plates you like best with the ivory linens. First are clear, second ivory, third and fourth white, and last white and green.

My husband and I got married on our 11th anniversary 2 weeks ago. It was just the wedding we wanted and it was even better than we could have imagined! We are very private and are both super uncomfortable being the center of attention. We were also under the impression that weddings are over rated (jokes on us!), but it was AWESOME and beautiful!

The guest count ended up being 40, mainly family and a few of our closest friends! We had a somewhat untraditional wedding. We didn’t have a bridesmaid or groomsman, we didn’t do a bouquet / garter toss, no dances with parents, no ring bearer, etc.

We did a first look and exchanged vows privately which was absolutely the right choice for us. Our ceremony was super quick (maybe 15 minutes or less) and we started dinner / reception right away. We ended up being ahead of schedule so we had so much down time to mingle with all our guests without feeling overwhelmed.

Our budget goal was $5,000 and I’m so proud we accomplished it! The huge expenses were food, rentals, and photographer. My husband and I’s clothes was pretty inexpensive, under $500 for both. Also something that made this budget possible was doing it on a family member’s land.

Advice -
Even though I had a small wedding, it got very stressful at times! If you can afford a day of coordinator / helper even for a small wedding, do it! It would’ve been so nice to have hired someone to do decorating and all the tedious things that go into that especially because we did everything ourselves. There were also some issues with catering that my family had to deal with right before the ceremony that I wish they hadn’t had to handle themselves.

Have the wedding you want to have, it is so worth it♥️

I am happy to go into more detail or answer any questions!🙂

Hello, graduate brides or B2Bs!

Can I see your wedding color palettes, please? Huhu. I’m such an indecisive person, and I’m currently struggling to choose a color combination for our wedding. I’d love to see yours just to get some inspiration and ideas.

Thank you so much in advance! 🤍

For bridal showers where the preferred gift is a honeymoon fund - do you chip into the fund and show up to the shower with nothing? I considered getting a card but feel weird about mentioning a contribution to the honeymoon fund in the card.

Hey! I'm currently planning a wedding. Part of which is the decorations. I've looked up a few decor companies. Most of them couldn't provide the style I preferred in the budget set or that the communication was difficult. The other issue is that we have two venues (church and restaurant), which implies we'd need to transport the decorations over.

Currently, I've found a happy middle ground by adjusting my design and sourcing the decorations myself with the aim that it's

a) fast/easy to set up

b) easily transportable

If those don't apply, we do have the day prior to decorate at the venue as well.

However, it does beg the question...How did you guys deal with your decor post wedding?

I want to treat myself to a nice bridal slip and robe and am interested in Le Rose Stories because their slips have actual support and I love their robes! I am wondering if anyone has experience ordering from them, or can speak on their quality and material. Thanks!

My fiance and I are planning a very basic wedding/reception. We want the wedding to be outside, on our property, and for the reception, we are thinking about a firehall 5 minutes down the road.

We would like to keep it as inexpensive as possible, but still have to account for 100-125 people because we both have large immediate families. For food, I figure "cookout" type food, like pasta salads, hamburgers, etc. Nothing fancy.

I asked my mom if she would be able to bring a dish or dessert, and I told her I asked my dad, siblings, and a couple cousins as well as some family on my fiances side to bring a dish or dessert too. She said she doesn't know, and seems opposed to this type of food. She strongly believes I should have my wedding catered.

Here's the issue, though. For catering, we're talking probably 2-3k. Then theres the photographer, DJ, venue, dress, etc etc everything else that comes with the wedding.

My mom and I have a decent relationship otherwise. Is it wrong to be asking family members to bring a dish or dessert to my wedding reception?

Context: I have nine cousins, most of who are married and have kids ( 10 total, ranging in age from 1 to 9). My fiancé has one cousin with a baby and one stepsister with a one year old.

I am fairly certain if my fiancé’s one year old is not invited, either she or her husband (or both) will not come. At her sister’s wedding this past September, they brought the baby and her husband took the baby back early. She will not let anyone besides her mother (who will be at our wedding) take care of the baby. The baby is also not sleep trained. Because of this, I think we will have to invite her.

However, I feel a bit bummed inviting her but otherwise having a kid free wedding (which is what my fiancé wants), as it would mean I cannot invite any of my cousin’s kids.

Ideally, I would like to ask my fiancé’s stepsister’s baby and one of my cousin’s two daughters to be flower girls. I am close to both this cousin and the girls and see them more often than my other cousin’s kids. My sister and I were also junior bridesmaids in her wedding and it was a special experience for us.

However, would the other cousins/their families be upset if their kids/grandkids were not invited? I feel like most of them would be ok if no kids were invited but are they going to be upset if they see other kids there? I was also a bridesmaid in one of my other cousin’s weddings and would not be inviting her kids.

Is there a way to avoid chaos and find a compromise here??

Hi everyone,

I'm looking for some honest advice from professional wedding photographers, particularly anyone familiar with consumer rights in Ireland.

I got married this year and paid approximately €2,400 for our wedding photography just up to the first dance + an extra photographer she insisted on to do special guest portraits for us. I found our photographer through our wedding venue's recommended supplier list, which was a major reason I trusted her.

Our guests had a fantastic wedding. Unfortunately, my husband, bridal party and I had a very different experience because of the photographer.

I'm now considering taking legal action, but I genuinely don't know whether what happened constitutes a failure to provide the agreed service or whether it's just an extremely disappointing experience.

The behaviour on the wedding day

I spent an extraordinary amount of my wedding day reassuring and calming my photographer.

Some examples:

• We'd agreed she wouldn't photograph us in our pyjamas during bridal preparations. She entered anyway and started photographing me while I was getting my hair done.

• She became fixated on a bruise on my arm, argued with my makeup artist about covering it, then took me into my private bedroom, held both my hands and begged me to cover it because she didn't want to edit it out afterwards. I wasn't bothered about the bruise and had already told her that.

• She loudly asked whether I'd be wearing nipple covers under my wedding dress, in front of my bridesmaids and other suppliers.

• She entered my private bedroom while my breasts were exposed - knowing full well I'd be nude as she sent me in to put my nipple covers on- and continued talking to me. I was in shock. She also attempted to talk to me in my private room while I was using the bathroom.

• According to my bridesmaids, she pushed between two of them while they were opening a sentimental bracelet they'd bought me, shouted "WE DON'T HAVE TIME FOR THIS!", grabbed it and snapped it open. She then reportedly told them not to tell me because it would "send her over the edge". I ended up reassuring the photographer about this too.

• She insisted on a first look, then complained about my groom's family while I was waiting to see him.

• She announced that she'd photographed the wrong shoes and earrings, leaving me reassuring her that it was fine.

• While we were signing our marriage registry, with the priest waiting for my sister to sign as a witness, she interrupted to ask my sister to apply lipstick to me. She's now pretending that picture doesn't exist.

• During the few private minutes my husband and I had been promised to eat at the venue, she came in, stood over us, discussed the next photographs and took pictures of us eating.

• She repeatedly approached me to warn that our guests were getting sunburned, despite sunscreen being available. I was so so lucky to have a sunny day since we're from a wet climate and she just ruined it.

• Throughout the evening she kept approaching me saying, "(The groom) hates me. (The groom) hates me", referring to my husband. Again, I found myself reassuring her.

I genuinely felt I couldn't challenge her because she was responsible for capturing photographs I could never get back.

The missing photographs

This is where I think the issue potentially becomes contractual rather than simply about her behaviour.

I had provided a detailed shot list. Of the specifically requested photographs, I received only ONE as requested.

For example:

1. A portrait with all four parents. I specifically explained that we were fortunate to have all four parents alive and wanted a photograph of them together on our wedding day to frame. When I asked for it, she refused to take it at that point saying we didn't have time. WE HAD AN HOUR TO THE CHURCH. I begged her to capture it when we returned. It was never captured.

2. A solo photograph on the cathedral steps. My dressmaker wanted a side-on photograph showing the silhouette of my dress and cape. I asked THREE TIMES because the photographer kept including my husband. Eventually I asked him to move out of the shot. Both my husband and I remember her taking the photograph, but she subsequently told me it doesn't exist.

3. A photograph at my late grandmother's house. The house was being sold, so I explained how important it was to capture my husband and me outside it. The resulting photograph barely shows the house beyond the doorway, and I'm squinting.

I also noticed her taking what appeared to be just one frame of many posed shots, and quite a few delivered photographs have people squinting.

I understand that photographers cannot guarantee every individual image, but surely there's a difference between an imperfect photograph and failing to take agreed photographs altogether?

4. Other shots I had to remind her of or she just never got.

I bought special French silverware for an aesthetic grazing table and wanted a nice shot of it. Had to remind her. She ran off and got one that looked like it was taken on an iPhone with loads of half eaten food.

5. Bad photography skills in general.

She didn't take multiple shots of things I wanted. Just one. So if we were squinting in the sun or talking that was it.

The biggest issue: an entire guest portrait project was abandoned

For approximately a YEAR before the wedding, we'd been planning a special guest portrait experience in the venue's beautiful Georgian front lounge.

Before I even paid her deposit, the photographer told me what a wonderful idea this was and encouraged me to do it.

She specifically recommended hiring a second photographer to facilitate it. I took that advice and paid extra for one.

I also went to considerable lengths to organise it:

• I emailed the wedding venue TWICE during the year to confirm we could use the front lounge.

• I reconfirmed the arrangements with the venue again approximately one week before the wedding.

• The guest portraits were included in the wedding itinerary.

• I emailed guests TWO DAYS before the wedding reminding them about the portraits.

• I explicitly reconfirmed the plan with the photographer two days before the wedding.

Despite all of that, the planned lounge portrait experience simply didn't happen. She apparently photographed some guests in the garden instead.

When I questioned her afterwards, she claimed we'd had a conversation in which I agreed to abandon the lounge portraits.

That conversation never happened. I never agreed to abandon the project.

I cannot understand why I'd spend a year organising it, pay for a second photographer, repeatedly obtain permission from the venue and remind guests about it two days beforehand if I'd supposedly decided to cancel it.

This is the part that bothers me most from a contractual perspective. It was an agreed service that influenced my booking decision and resulted in additional expenditure.

What has happened since

The only thing the photographer has ever apologised for is breaking the bridesmaids' bracelet.

She has not apologised for the other incidents, the missing photographs or the abandoned guest portraits.

I've requested a refund, but she's now ignored my emails for more than three weeks.

I paid approximately €2,400, and I'm considering the Irish Small Claims procedure. I understand there's a €2,000 limit, so I would need to look at whether a partial refund claim is appropriate.

I'm not expecting a photographer to guarantee every shot or produce a perfect gallery. I know weddings are unpredictable, and I appreciate how demanding wedding photography can be.

But I paid for a professional service, spent much of my day managing the photographer's emotions, and ultimately didn't receive many of the photographs and experiences we'd specifically planned.

My questions for professional photographers and anyone familiar with Irish consumer law:

1. Would you consider the abandonment of the agreed guest portrait project a failure to deliver part of the contracted service?

2. How much weight would a written shot list and the emails reconfirming the portraits carry, particularly if the contract contains standard clauses about not guaranteeing individual shots?

3. Is requesting a partial refund reasonable, and how would you approach calculating it?

4. Would you recommend a final formal demand for a refund before considering Small Claims Court?

5. If you were a professional photographer hearing this account, would you consider this conduct acceptable?

I have the correspondence with the venue, wedding itinerary, guest reminder email, shot list and emails to the photographer.

I'd really appreciate an objective perspective, even if the answer is that I have little legal recourse. I'm trying to work out what my next step should be rather than simply venting.

Thanks for reading.

UPDATE: I've let the venue know about her behaviour. I can't in good faith allow another bride to be subjected to this. I woke up at 7am on my wedding day, meditated, set the vibe for all my bridal party, they all commented about how calm I was, then this mess bulldozed in and everything became about her mood, her time, her stress.

What a cow.

I post this without even having received my wedding photos yet, but I just have a feeling that we didn’t get great photos with our parents. We spent a lot of time with a photographer doing a couple shoot which I know will be fine, but I’m worried we didn’t get enough photos with our parents as the photos we have from after the ceremony doesn’t feature them much unfortunately. (we didn’t have a photographer. We just had a few friends taking casual photos.)

My question is how unusual would it be…If I got dressed up again? Made my parents get dressed up again and redid some photos? My dress wasn’t anything fancy it was just a satin and floor length dress so it wouldn’t be that difficult to dress up, et cetera. The other argument is we now have the rest of our life to take photos and memories, but it really does feel like the one occasion that I would get that dressed up and also where out parents will get that dressed up at!!

This is all assuming that our parents would be happy to get dressed up for no real reason whatsoever haha

I’m a middle-aged guy who’s past the era of all my friends getting married plus the few stragglers at the end there, abd now I’ve graduated to the era of attending relatives’ kids’ weddings, so when I went to one last weekend, it had been a minute, and I was eager to see what the new styles and traditions might be.

It was overall a beautiful affair, and everything was tasteful and well executed. My only beef was with the photographers during the ceremony. I mean, c’mon, guy. I’ve always been of the mind that the photo/video crew at a wedding needs to be as much like a nature documentary operation as possible. Get the good shots, but stay out of the way. Document the proceedings, don’t insert yourself in the proceedings.

This photographer’s M.O. was as opposite of this as possible. The best way I can describe it is that it all felt like a photo shoot first and a wedding second. The photographer was front and center for everything. He walked in front of every single precession down the aisle no more than 3 feet from their faces, snapping rapid-fire like a paparazzi - the wedding party, the moms, the grandmoms, the bride… just relentless. We were in an intimate space for the ceremony, and yet this guy had half a dozen flash poles positioned all around that popped so loud with his relentless picture-taking that it was difficult to hear the officiant and the vows. The constant snapping made for a truly unpleasant strobe effect, so good luck to anyone there with epilepsy or sensory issues. It just felt like, every time we got to settle back into the joy and sentiment of the moment with the bride and groom, this guy would make it his show again in no time, snapping/flashing relentlessly and standing square in front of the audience blocking views.

No real point to this other than to rant. What the hell, buddy!

P.S.: In addition to the above, there was another odd difference from the weddings I remember: Neither the bride nor the groom understood what it meant when the reception started clanging their glasses. None of their wedding party knew either! I never would’ve thought of that as a generational thing, but apparently so? After the third try, someone in the crowd finally shouted, “You’re supposed to kiss, you fuckin’ idiots!”

We got married on the 15th of February 2026 in Sydney, Australia! ❤️

It was such a magical day, and I wanted to share a little glimpse into a wedding tradition that not many people get to experience or see!

Our wedding day was everything we could have hoped for. We had a beautiful traditional Coptic Orthodox wedding ceremony.

For those unfamiliar with Coptic weddings, Copts are the indigenous Christians of Egypt, with roots tracing back to the ancient Egyptians. The Coptic Orthodox Church is one of the oldest Christian churches in the world, and our wedding traditions are deeply rooted in our faith and heritage.

Our ceremony was filled with beautiful prayers, hymns and traditions, including the crowning ceremony, where the bride and groom are crowned to symbolise their new union and responsibilities to one another.

I hope you all enjoy the photos, and I’m more than happy to answer any questions about our traditions! ❤️

Hard style in Chicago, at the courthouse, over the bridge. Film and digital!! So happy

Hi everyone! I’m getting married next September, and I’m at a stage where I’m working on smaller details.

I have my venue, photographer, dress, hair/makeup artist, florals, and cake. I’m about to start ordering save the dates and was looking over my guest list and DAMN she grew. We started out with a nice list of maybe 120 people, and my venue contract states 115 so we went with the assumption not every single person will rsvp.

I just looked at my list, we are at 153 people including my fiancé and I. I don’t even know how that happened. For my side of the list, it’s mainly family and one table of friends. For my fiancés side, his mother has a table of just her friends, my fiancé has a table of childhood/adulthood friends, and TWO tables of work friends (some being married and having plus ones making it two full tables). What do I do?

I have some cousins on list where I could remove them simply from never being close to them, and having not seeing them in years. But they were all invited to my sisters wedding a couple of years ago, so would it be rude to not invite them? I just don’t know what to do, and how to narrow it down without hurting anyone’s feelings. My fiancé suggested upping the headcount with the venue, but the 115 was in place for a set price for the amount of people coming that is within our budget so that won’t work.

Please help!!!! Any advice for this anxious, people pleasing bride.

We would like options besides a bar. We are having a dry wedding and many friends and family are sober. Our wedding will be bold and fun!

I got married October 28th and I’d love to display my bouquet but I’m not quite sure how. It’s a bit large and I haven’t found a shadow box that would fit it so far. It’s about 20 inches long and 11 inches at its widest point. Any ideas would be appreciated!