I got a puppy a week ago, and the only person he reacts negatively to is the far-left flatmate. First meeting, puppy backed into me trembling. Then last night he sat across the room staring and growling at him.

Boyfriend also reckons Mr Far-Left is displaying some passive aggressive tendencies toward him, that these are more overt when I'm not around, even using BF's stuff (which is actually bought by me for my BF).

BF understands I can't act on stuff I don't see, but I'm definitely noting my puppy's dislike!

I am looking to rent out a place for a couple of roommates I will be charging around $500 for each room let me know if you guys are interested and who else is down to renovate the house if you guys want to pay more we can talk about upgrading the size of the house and the location!

In October, my roommate (who hasn’t had anyone over in a year) decided to randomly invite 4 car loads of people over. I’m assuming and pretty sure they were co workers. I didn’t receive a heads up at all. My main thing though is that there’s y’know a virus running rampant. I brought it up to them indirectly and told them I’d sanitize the kitchen at the end of the night. (Hint hint) Should I be upset and upset if it happens again?

Okay so I (20F) chose this roommate (20F) because we were in ROTC together and in similar majors. We share a 2 bed/ 2 bath apartment style dorm and have since August 2020 (it is now February 2021). It has been a long school year: I’m the only one that cleans (vacuums and mops) and had to put up a chore chart so I was not the only one taking out the trash although she does do her own dishes when enough pile up. Yeah it sucks but sometimes cleaning calms me so I just do it when I’m in the mood.

So even though she has a large scholarship and lives in state (I have a small scholarship and am considered out of state) she has taken advantage of me from the beginning. Last semester she used to steal toilet paper from my bathroom so I now keep in my room and this earlier she asked if she can use my printer because she forgot earlier (not the first time). I tried to ignore the text message since I was out of the apartment but she caught me in the kitchen so I gave in- unfortunately 15 pages later I am typing this.

Here is where it gets complicated: because I do not have a large scholarship I applied to be an RA. To my dissatisfaction, I did not get the job but decided to remain in the eligible pool if a spot does become available. The housing services recommends living on campus if you choose to remain in the eligible pool so that you can be picked up and reimbursed at any time (yes, horribly vague and inconvenient) especially at a school where most juniors and seniors live off campus.

And the grand finale: The girl that I want to live with has already made plans to live with my current roommate and because I didn’t get the RA spot they’re pretty much my only choice.

Please leave any advice on this situation. I’m begging!

So roommate moved in with us July 19, was served with an eviction notice August 19th.

He has two kids and is skating by by being a bare minimum parent.

Has brought his meth head ex here against our wishes.

Let the shitty dog that wasn’t supposed to originally move in piss and shit all over my house.

It’s has been left to my husband and I to care for the children when ever he wants to go out and he just leaves them without asking us first.

When we bring up issues we’ve had with all this stuff it is either minimized or ignored.

He lost his key and “couldn’t wait” 5 minutes for us to get home so he wrenched on my slider door until the lock popped loose and then laughed about it. This issue was also minimized.

I am 6 months pregnant with all this going on but I feel like I may be doing the wrong thing because he has children.

Any help is greatly appreciated.

After awhile my roommate decides to come home from what ever he was doing. The first thing he tells me is that one of his tinder or bumble girls that he is attempting to talk to, that lives in the same apartment complex as us, smokes cannabis. I said oh that's cool you guys have a common interest. But instead of saying yeah it's nice or some comment like that, he proceeds to tell me how baffled by the fact she gets her own cannabis. He belittles women so much that he thinks girls shouldn't be able to get their own cannabis. Then after he tells me how baffled he is that she does this all on her own he rants on about how women are becoming more difficult because they are demanding to be equal. (As they should be.) He then proceeds to tell me that we are going to start heading into a bad economy and the world is getting worse because women are taking on more powerful roles. So he just keeps on rolling. He then suggests that if we took women out completely from the workforce and just completely fill it with men, that things would get done much faster and better. (I was speechless and my jaw was broken). I get that everyone has the right to their own opinion but my God. This is only part of the stuff I could put on here. So I wanna shame the shit out of him.

So I had was put in an unfortunate situation and had to ask my roommate for a ride to the auto part store as my battery was dead. She puts a mat on the floorboard she had left in the sun to dry after washing it. There were water pools still on the mat. I put my old dry cell battery on the mat and we go. Get there but new one put new battery on mat. We get out she sees liquid and was like I think some leaked in the car. Me lifts the battery or my head upside down. I think you're mistaken. Spends the next 2 hours washing the mats just throw throw them away and request me to buy new floor mats.... Bitch got problems.

Okay so my roommate is a 20 yr old guy and he is very misogynistic (I wish I knew this sooner) and I didn’t really see it until we moved into an apartment. He will literally explain to me how to sweep something up, he will explain to me how to load a dishwasher, he will explain to me all the little shit that needs to be done but he never does anything. Me and my significant other always clean all of the dishes that he leaves laying around and keep the place looking good but he doesn’t contribute other than mansplaining everything. he will even explain to me how to get my own cat’s attention (keep in mind I have had him for a while).

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me and my SO live with their brother. The brother has aspergers, it isn't severe but enough to not understand basic social cues like giving us personal space, cleaning up after themselves, etc. We've lived with them for years and its gotten worse in pandemic, the brother has become super clingy. Me and SO are looking to live on our own and plan to get married. We own the property we are currently in. We want the brother to move out. How can we communicate this to the brother without upsetting him, and realistically how long will it take to get him to finally move out? Also if you have lived with someone who has aspergers, how do you handle it without getting frustrated? At wits end.

I recently moved in with two of my close friends from home, they’re both in college at the same school, similar schedules, and similar lifestyles. Whereas I’m in enrolled in beauty school and work a lot during the week. Since the second week we moved in they have been giving me shit for not being at home enough but I’m working or at school most of the time so I don’t understand what’s wrong with that. I’ve asked them to text me when they want to do anything, they refuse to, as well as every time we hang out on the weekend all they want to do is go out to random parties and get drunk. On top of that I don’t feel comfortable when I’m at home so I stay at my boyfriends place coming home only when needed or they ask me to, which is very rare. I feel more controlled by my roomates than I did by my parents, they want to track my location and be in the loop, which is hard for me bc i’m a private person. I just wanted to ask if I’m in the wrong and I need to be home more or if it makes sense that I spend my time working (doordash) or with my boyfriend when they’re just doing school work?

Do their habits really change or will they just make a bigger mess? I have 2 roommates with their child and I (am a couple with a child as well) have my family here with us as well. Family 1- calls themselves a “free ranged family” they spent stuff and leave it there to dry and get crusty 2/3 of family 1 likes to shower not often and when a household thing breaks they never fix it. Family 2 likes to organize, have a clean floor, and working things so I’m usually trying to fix everything and put a system in place. For past experiences I can say it doesn’t often get through their heads.

They say all of that will change with a new house, since it’s brand new and built, they say they don’t want to wreck it....but I have doubts... Any opinions?

So for the last few months i have been living with my twin brother. Our parents live overseas and so we are staying in another country where we both attended university. Everyday since then I have done 100% of all housechores (cleaning, trash, laundry, cooking). I cant move out as I simply dont have the money. He is not disabled or anything of the sort just completely lazy. The only room not clean in the house is his bedroom which he is in 100% of the time. He hasnt washed his sheets and there are dishes in there that are months old. It absolutely reeks and I have had guests comment on how i am basically the housewife in the apartment. Im absolutely exhausted and it is negatively affecting my social life as Im often tired and angry when hanging out with friends. I have tried talking with him and attempted to use methods mentioned on this sub before like threatening him to do dishes or ill put them in his room after 24 hrs as well as offering to help him with chores but he says false promises and goes back to his room to play video games.

Any help on the matter would be greatly appreciated

I mostly just need to rant here. I (19F) live in a 3 bedroom apartment with 2 other girls, both of whom I work with. We also in total have 5 pets (4 cats & 1 dog). When we first moved in together everything was fine, we were all friendly and everyone cleaned up after themselves, and respected the fact that there were other people living there. But now? Now I'm disgusted everytime I walk in there. I don't/can't spend the night there, and sleep at my boyfriend's house. I got stuck with the middle room and both of them and their significant others are SO loud constantly. One of my roomates ( roomate 1) and her bf sleep all day and stay up all night long, so all night theyre slamming doors and using the microwave and playing video games and watching tv all night. Her bf also really likes singing and they sit right up against the wall to my room. My other roomate ( roomate 2 ) watches t.v. at the loudest possible volume. I swear today our apartment was shaking from the volume of her tv. Not even my noise cancelling headphones + youtube videos/music can drown them out. Then theres the kitchen. Now I'm not denying that I'm a cleaner. I like things to stay neat and organized, however I do know that people make messes and not everyone is like that. But this is something else. Roomate 1 and her bf only eat frozen microwave food and ramen and leave their hot pocket wrappers and ramen trash all over the countera, dont clean any of their dishes, and leave the microwave a complete disaster ( wish I had pictures, but i thought of it after I cleaned the kitchen). Roomate 2 likes to cook and leaves her trash, leftover food, food scraps, dishes, etc., all over the counter and is the messiest cook I've ever met so the stove top is just caked in everything she has cooked. They leave dishes piled up in the sink and don't rinse them out so there's just spoiled food sitting on the counter and in the sink all the time. We also have a dishwasher, so its not even like they really have to hand wash their dishes. The usual reason they leave their trash on the counter is because the trash can is constantly overflowing. Theres four other people living there ( who currently aren't working ), and I am the only one who takes out the trash or cleans at all. Roomate 2 never lets her dog out, so he just poops and pees all over the carpet and she doesn't clean it up. She also doesn't pay any attention to him, but dotes on my cat, which really bothers me. Mostly because shes currently sick with COVID-19, and puts her hands all over my cat. But also because she's just ignoring her own pet. She hardly ever refills his food so I have to remind her. Roomate 1 also leaves her cats out for days at a time, so they are also peeing all over the house. They also go into my room all the time and feed my cat despite me telling them they don't have to do that because I feed him twice a day every single day. Also, its my personal room and both of them have gotten mad at me for letting their pets in their room. This is kind of long and all over the place, but I feel like I can't do anything about it because I work all the time and spend nights at my boyfriends house.

Im pulling an all nighter to cram an assignment rn and my roomate is currently having a sex dream. I was wondering if I should tell her tomorrow?

When I moved in I told my flatmates if needed I don't mind if they use my knife set as I got some a nice set (thanks to a blended home), I didn't mind that but then it turned into doing the dishes leaving a growing pile of clean dishes to the side as I don't know what stuff is who's, for them to bring people over and state that it's not their just the others stuff (which is a lie). I also am the only one to clean any dish towel and the stove after I have cooked. I get the post for everyone at least once a week. Yet now they are taking my kitchen supplies, a frying pan, two baking sheets, a lid to a pot, cutlery and other kitchen utensils. I do the bins and clean the sink after they leave food at the bottom of it. They ask me to help them may it be computer problems or to get something at the store. They throw gatherings in our kitchen and don't tell me or invite me to join but ask me to clean up after them the next day. I tried not doing it but that lead to a week of a sticky floor and not being able to use the kitchen surface so I cave. The worst is when they all left for Christmas break and left behind all their dishes and gone off fish in the fridge, which I then had to clean. I'm so happy that I'm not living with them next year but I just want to yell at them when I see them.

I had the worst male roommate.( I'm female by the way.) My male roommate was very abusive prick He use to hit me all of the time making it seem like it was my fault....i just got lucky today and was able to finally run away

Hi I made this account just to post this and possibly ask for advice. My roommate lets his gross loud dog eat from plates after they are done using them. Like he was eating a plate of eggs then put it on the floor for a dog that probably eats its own shit. I'm thinking about just buying my own plates and putting them in my room. Is that too much?

I’ve known this girl since high school and we had been pretty close at times, and had confided in each other about difficult relationships with parents, bullying, loss of loved ones, etc. the problems start when we move into an on campus apartment together this August. She started walking into my room unannounced and uninvited, often while I was changing, she’s woken me up from naps, at 2 am, and her parents even moved furniture into my room while I was away after I said no. It was after that last incident that I put a lock on my door but she still wouldn’t respect that my room isn’t always open to her, and I had already talked to her multiple times. Then about 2 months ago she called me multiple times asking where I was and when I would be home without giving a reason why. When I finally insisted on an answer ( around 11pm) she got annoyed and angry with me. Turns out she was trying to set up for a guy who has both my number and Snapchat to meet up with me to ask me to a formal event as a surprise. This guy is strictly a friend, something she knows, and I don’t feel like there was a reason for her to get involved or for it to be a surprise, the guy could have just text me to ask to meet up in person the next day if he wanted to ask in person.

At this point in tired, I’ve talked to her about boundaries, and she’s just not listening. So I talk to her bf, who was my friend at the time, in a moment of anger about all of her behavior because if she doesn’t care enough about me to listen to me say it’s a problem maybe she’ll listen to her bf. Who loves, knows well, and cares about her and would be able to separate anything I said in anger from who she is as a person.

This leads to a month of us not talking to each other, which leads to a big confrontation where I apologize and offer to move out and she yells at me about how I should have talked to her because she always talks to me about her issues with me. After this we start slowly repairing our friendship. Fast forward to last week, she outed me to multiple people. Which hurts a lot because this was something said in strict confidence and isn’t something I’ve told people before. I find it creepy and weird that she talks about my sex life with other people. She denies it but as I said I don’t talk about this kind of thing with people and she was the only one who knew. She also apparently told people, all of whom are acquaintances at best with me, I was all over her bf and needed to back off, even though he’s the one who started anything even remotely flirty (including jokes about threesomes ) and she had said multiple times that she was cool with me and him being friends. I never treated him any different than I do my other friends

I’m tired of feeling like I need to walk on eggshells in a place that’s supposed to be my home too. I don’t feel physically or emotionally safe, I’m constantly worried about what she’s going to tell people next, and I spend conversations wondering what they think of me because of what she told them. I feel violated and betrayed. It hurts that she would choose these new friendships and relationships over respecting me as a person over and over again.

I'm an 18 year old guy who recently moved in with my boyfriend and his 2 roommates (bro and bro's gf) I was in a very bad situation living with my mom, my mental health was horrible and so my boyfriend invited me to live with him. I've been here about 5 months and I'm slowly getting myself together. I got health insurance, a state ID, am learning to drive and will be getting my GED soon.

My mental health has improved drastically since coming here. I feel more energetic and motivated to do things. I'm happy to socialize out in the livingroom and have been working on my art a lot and gaining back my creativity. I'm gaining confidence and recovering from an eating disorder and finally have gotten back to a healthy weight. Overall I have needed quite some time to recover my mental state and get back to being a functioning person.

Anyways, since I have been doing all of this internal self improvement I have not had the mental capacity (or ability) to find a job but I have kept the house clean most days and tried to stay out of everyone's way, be respectful of their things, and ask if I want something which is not often.

Well BGF seems to have a huge issue with me. A couple of months ago she came in yelling at me and specifically excluded bf and bro, telling me I am dirty and need to clean up after myself. I was unable to defend myself and just dissolved into tears. I hid in my room, only coming out to anxiously clean up their messes when no one was around and to eat, use the bathroom, etc.

Finally I started hanging out in the livingroom again but I have continued to clean up all messes I see including theirs almost every day. Just the night before last I washed BGF's pot that had burnt rice stuck to the bottom from the night before, her greasy cooking pots (which I have an extreme aversion to because of sensory issues caused by my autism), and all of the wrappers and paper she left on the counter.

Yet tonight she is on the phone screaming about how I leave everything a mess and never clean up after myself. How rent is always late now (my boyfriend's rent is always on time and paid in full and he does the majority of grocery shopping for the house) and how shes ready to leave and sick of it.

She leaves messes constantly and so does everyone else. I am the only one who doesnt and simultaneously am nice enough to clean up theirs too without complaint.

I get that I need a job, but I need a GED first for the kind of job I can handle. The fast paced environment of a resturaunt or grocery store is too much for me and I inevitably experience extreme burnout and just cannot handle the pressure. I get that this isnt an ideal situation to be in. I get it. But I'm trying my best with what i have and i didnt anticipate this being a problem when i first moved in.

Yes, I know, I'm naive. I've never been in an adult situation like this before though, so I honestly dont know what I'm doing.

I dont know. I'm just starting to wonder if im the problem here. I truly believe I'm doing my best and this persecution is unfair but no one ever wants to think they're in the wrong, do they? I'm honestly at a loss on what to do and how to handle this. I love it here but I find myself wishing I would have never come here, if only to not place my burdens in their laps.

Tl;dr: boyfriend's Roomate is angry that I dont clean up after myself (which I do as well as everyone else) and that I dont pay rent while i am trying to work on things leading up to finding a job.

Sooooooo I recently moved a couple months back , and turns out my bfs friend and his baby's mother needed some help. So I let them move in . Long story real fucking SHORT! THEY'RE DISRESPECTFUL LITTLE ASSHOLES THAT HAVE NO HOME TRAINING OR COMMON SENSE. I DO NOT want to clean up after you , in the kitchen nor bathroom , NO I DON'T NOT want to hear you guys have sex , mind you I have up MY ROOM so they had a little privacy , WELLL FUCK THEM , I have two kids I don't need two more , and everyone I talk to them they just get weird and stop talking LIKE CHILDREN !!! when am I going to stop being so fucking nice to ASSHOLES????