I once asked my grandpa what I could do to stop over thinking. He asked me what it means to think, I thought about it and then told him it means to wonder, he told me I was close but incorrect.

So my grandpa told me, ‘To think is to doubt’ honestly, that’s a silly phrase I thought and so I replied, ‘I don’t think so.’

Grandpa just smiled and said ‘exactly’.

I’ve thought about it for a lot of years, I still don’t know if it’s true but the concept has helped me think less. When we pause and think, or consider a situation and possible outcomes it’s because we doubt something. The solution to that all starts with trusting ourselves.

I can’t believe Instagram (and Facebook) have a new thing called “vanish mode” that deletes texts after you exit the chat... I am overthinking so much about this. Snapchat is bad enough. Here we go with more apps encouraging cheating..

today i got off work really late, i was walking home and talking on the phone and a couple of teen girls (17) approached me asked me if i could buy a pack of cigarettes for them from a shop nearby. they already had a couple of cigarettes in their hands. i tried to say no, but they started following me until i accepted. immediately after i handed the pack to them i felt terrible and i know i shouldn’t have done it. i know if someone had told me this story i would have told them that i would have said now and walked away.

i can’t stop feeling like a terrible person. i think that they would have found a way to get the cigarettes either way, and their addiction was not my problem, but i now helped them access it, i contributed to it. i can’t stop thinking about it, and i’m even shaking now. what do i do?

Like I'm just paranoid over everything I do. like "what if" one thousand times. Like if what I said offended someone or what if I screwed up. My thoughts are kinda messy.

I was in drop year after my class 12th (basically just one more year preparing for Engineering Exams) very competitive in India. I was living a very dull repeating life full of self doubts overthinking and fear of failures. I was getting very low score in my mock exams.

I had my exam shift on 27 Jan 2024 which had the highest cutoff in the Examination history basically a score of 180/300 marks will get you 99 percentile (means top 1% of the scorer) but this time the cutoff was 240 marks for the same 99 percentile.

I got just 94 percentile I would never get admission in some good college.

Came across this video of Acharya Prasant where I got to know about my self doubts why I use to cuss myself and feel like a pile of failed steps and eventually move out from.
Would be happy to share and know about your journey. And what helped you like this video helped me. https://youtu.be/RXXbg4xwDug

My bf and I are both 24 - I have BPD, obviously. I have a specific issue with ruminating and replaying bad memories and taking it extremely personally. My boyfriend and I had been friends for 5 years until we recently started dating. when he told one of his sisters the news through text, this was her response: "wasn't she gay? if you have sex with her, better wrap up and use a condom or make sure she's on birth control. but yeah, I like her, she's nice and fun. But she was gay." first of all, he shouldn't have shown me that text and he's apologized for it since. idk why she thinks I was gay. I've been bi for as long as I can remember and I suspected I was a lesbian for a little bit but idk how that got around to her. I stayed up nearly all night after he showed me that overthinking and feeling so hurt and gross. idk if she was insinuating that I'm gonna realize I'm not into men/a lesbian and eventually I'll dump him? or was she saying I'm dirty/gross because I liked women? FYI I've never even been with a woman and only been with one man before my boyfriend. later, she was nice to me through video chat so I'm just confused by all the mixed signals. it was just such a mean thing to say. what do you guys think?

I am currently overthinking negatively and I am sobbing. My mind is never positive and I know it’s not depressing because that’s even worse but I really need someone to talk to, if anyone can please give me advice on how I can stop this.

This is my first ever reddit post and i don’t even know if i’ll get any responses bc idk how this app works lol but basically i’m a really big overthinker. one of the best ways for me to process things going on in my life is by talking to one or two ppl about certain things but i’m trying to be a lot more private and reveal less about myself. i don’t know what other way i can do this tho. i’ve tried journaling, but it felt kind of embarrassing and i could never keep up with it and it was hard for me to keep up with it. so now i’m looking for a new outlet and my friend recommended reddit. i might just make posts about my feelings, but i also want to find a new way to deal with things. any suggestions?

Am I the only one that spends so much time overthinking about doing something because it will take so much time of my schedule but end up taking more time overthinking than actually doing the thing?

For example, let’s say I have to do thing 1, thing 2, thing 3, and thing 4 on a Sunday and I wake up at 8:00 AM and just begin to overthink in what order I should do all of those things to maximize my time and I find myself overthinking literally the whole day and end up doing none of those things.

How do you cope with overthinking? i tend to overthink everything and get sensitive over small things and it ruins my relationships.

I found it interesting to think about it that way. Because there is a sort of enlightenment in just mentioning the fact that overthinking might derived from typical human bias..

What do you think?

If you try going deeper than surface level on a topic, some people blurt out "Overthinking! Thinking too much!" are they simply incapable of thinking deeper?

I'm starting to think it really is an incapacity, based on online examples of people using it this way. Maybe it's a form of saving face, like hiding the lack of comprehension.

Hope I'm wrong and someone can point out a more correct meaning behind the accusation of overthinking.

What kinds of overthinking are there? It doesn’t seem specific enough a term. I think overthinking is what people call it, but it’s probably something more like dwelling, spiraling, actual clinical anxiety in the form of interior diologue, or just the brain finding something for itself to do when one has insomnia. Paradoxically the solution to overthinking might be to get specific enough to define the actual problem.

I'm so tired of this...

I have a best friend, who is always there for me, and I'm always there for him, he told me that I can vent to him anytime. Now, here's the problem, I'm too scared to do it. Not because I feel like he is going to judge me, but because I feel like a burden.

When I'm talking to him, I often go from a very happy mood to a bad mood, simply because I feel like I'm annoying him. When that happens, I mostly try to at least force myself to think of the truth (which is that I am not a burden), but most of the time, that doesn't work. (Also, this isn't just for him btw, this happens to me when I'm talking to my other friends too.)

I also feel selfish and toxic, I often just feel scared that he'll leave me, and that he'll start hating me because of this... Sometimes, when he goes to do something, the only thoughts that are in my head are "Am I too annoying?". Even now, I feel like I'm a bad friend because I'm writing this on Reddit, and not to him, but I'm just too scared....

I often apologize to people when I talk, even now, while writing this, I have a feeling that I need to apologize.

I don't know what to do, I want this to stop, but I don't know how...

Are there any tips to stop overthinking?

It’s currently 5:14 am I haven’t slept been thinking about my future all night. I saw an episode on dr house of a guy that just wanted to be dumb and be happy, and here I am thinking of overthinking and how much it’s hurt my life.

Why don’t humans have an on and off button?

I'm in an amazing relationship right now... But I sometimes get a stomach ache and I get really nervous and scared. It's a feeling I never have, only in relationships. Most of the time, when I get that feeling I start to basically stalk my bf profile on social media to see if there are any 'threats' (girls) out there... I feel so toxic doing that... I'm so ashamed of it too. This is also how I found out my ex cheated on me. I don't think my bf is cheating on me right now, but I'm scared his ex was better than me (I know, it makes no sense. They were broken up a while before he met me.) or I'm scared that he thinks about someone else and he's going to think she's better/nicer/prettier/skinnier (thanks, ed) than me. I sometimes remember entire conversations I had with my bf and I start doubting everything he said. He constantly reminds me he's in love with me and he thinks I'm pretty and stuff and he even told me I give him a feeling he's never felt before. But I can't help it... I still get this feeling sometimes. Sometimes I don't have it for weeks, other times I have it every day... I don't know why. It doesn't happen when I'm with him, only when I'm alone.

Recelty I started to think that's maybe I am scared that he will leave me one day and I'm looking for a reason to break up so I can leave. If that makes any sense to anyone. I just don't want to be left by him I guess...

I feel so toxic and bad. It makes me even more scared he's going to leave me. I wish I could stop thinking sometimes...

Can anyone relate? Or does anyone have tips to stop this ridiculous overthinking?

Today I planned a graduation party. It's quarantine so it is over webcam. I recorded my screen so I was able to relive the day with the person graduating. Almost like a gift. I plan on editing it.

The thing I didn't think about is the fact that I will have to rewatch myself. I sound annoying. Idk if people were having a good time. They're laughing and smiling, but towards the end, they kept on waving goodbye but it wasn't time to leave. Maybe I couldn't read social cues at the time. I still had so much more to say. Its keeping me up at night, I don't even want to edit it because I hate my voice and how I talk. I just hate my whole energy, idk if people like me and that people pleaser vibe is toxic af