My husband M(36) and I F(32) have been married for 6 years. He is the most negative and self depreciating person I have ever met. We live in a 3/4 bedroom home, two stable incomes, two car family, 3 children, make enough to have at least 1 family vacation out of state, bills paid with enough left over to save. We are surrounded by family( mostly mine now since his parents passed), We make biweekly trips to the larger city to pick up my step son, so we have variety in entertainment if needed. My kids are happy, I am happy, we have a good life. My husband however, If the slightest thing goes wrong-- not that he is a planner-- he will throw his hands up and and say "that's my effing luck, nothing ever goes my way". He constantly runs himself down before a job interview, which there has been a lot of in the past, he has a steady one currently. He constantly says he's not betting on any of those jobs or plans because it never works for him he's "not lucky like some people" which he then glares at me. Then shuns me like it's my luck that I have my dream job, not that I havent worked my butt to get here. He has dropped a ton of weight within the last two years, his parents passed within months of each other. He has since then started having hip pains, some in the lower back but not as much as his hips. He went to a doctor and he kind of dismissed his pain as him just being on his feet too much and recommended medication. His family has a problem with pill addiction so he does not want to go down that road. They tried a few holistic remedies and nothing got better. He has since given up and now takes Tylenol daily, he is discouraged to try anyone else new. I tried to set an appointment for a specialist and was quickly shot down because he said "why bother going when they will say the same thing, so you can just cancel that "sweetie"( he calls me that instead of b*tch). He constantly asks or says he just wants a fucking beer or shots because it will make him forget his shitty life or body pain. We had a knock down drag out fight 5 years ago, it ended with him in the back of a police car and me packing the kids up and moving back to our home town. When he was released (just in case you are wondering: I didn't drop the charges) he came crawling back. No apology because he says he doesn't remember the fight, he thought I called the police because he was drunk again. He would drink A LOT during that time, even going as far as to take the kids Easter money to buy himself a beer. I told him if he comes back he needs to go to therapy and stop drinking, it makes him mean and hateful. Now all he does is shout how he wants a shot or a beer when he gets mad. I have since given up denying him that, I tell him to go and do it, just don't come back. I am at a loss of what to do here, He is always complaining about his shitty job, his car, his body, this town, wanting beer and his bad luck. He is constantly shitting on the life we are building and it hurts. How do I get my husband to appreciate any of it?

On July 6, while the Berry family was driving back home to Houston from a family vacation in Colorado, they were involved in a head on collision that killed the two parents, and left two of their three kids paralyzed. The two boys who were paralyzed are doing well, but they are in desperate need of support to help pay for their medical care. I know that Reddit gets a lot of these types of sob stories, but this one is particularly heartbreaking. Please do what you can to help support these courageous kids. A trust has been set up for them, and you can donate in multiple ways, including paypal and via text. If you can't donate, please upvote this so that others who can might see this. Thanks Reddit! Let's show these kids our love!

Here is a link to an article about these kids on the Huffington Post: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/07/21/berry-children-orphaned-paralyzed_n_906337.html

And here's how to donate: http://www.showyourhearts.org/

I was under the impression that this was for donating time and resources, not just a way for people to ask for money.

Can we at least implement a tagging system [M]oney, [T]ime, [O]ther so I can filter requests in greasemonkey?

Homeless Shelters

Food Bank NYC

Feeding America

We can mobilize a small reddit group of helpits to try and help out in the aftermath of this senseless disaster. Stinkin' terrorists. You don't win when you bring people together to help each other!!!! Muaahahaha.

EDIT: Here is the original thread.

So hey. I know we don't have a FAQ up yet, but we need to establish some ground rules.

1. This is not a subreddit for favors or donating money.

2. If you're asking for help with a project, it needs to be related to the helping cause.

3. If someone has concerns about an organization's legitimacy, please provide valid proof behind your claim.

4. Speaking of legitimacy, please PLEASE be wary of whomever you end up working with. Google them. Make sure they're OK! As much as I like to check out the organizations and folks posting, I can't catch everything.

If you feel something should be added to this list, this is the place to discuss!

There's an 8 year old little boy name Max who lives in West Virginia. Max has cancer. He does not have much time left and he knows it. So he has asked for a million Christmas cards for what will most likely be his last Christmas. PLEASE can we make this happen? ATTN: Max

St Lukes Church

19 Jo Glen Dr.

Morgantown, WV 26508

Heres the phone number for the church if you'd like to verify (304)594-2353

EDIT: Address now correct.

I'm moving (lost my job and lost my home) and I cannot lose my cats... they are a part of my family and it would not only kill me and my wife but also our son. I need to know if there is a way I can find a temporary home for then. I would only need it for up to 3 months (going back to school and my student loans will be in by them and I can find a new place and take them back). I will pay for food and litter and something extra once I pick them back up for their time..... is there a service like this or a person willing to help?

TL:DR losing my home, cats cant come, they need a place to stay for 3 months. I'll pick them back up.

Edit: spelling, I suck at it. =P

Edit 2: My apologies it's been a rought week, I'm in south Florida.

Edit 3; update: this got allot more attention than i thought, during my move I've been offline for a few days so I could not see all the replies and I must say thank you, to all of you. No I have not found a home for my kitties, None of my fam can help me "allergies" and I'm not sure what I'm going to do. Right now they are in my old apartment but I have to give up the keys in a few days. Safe to say I'm panicking, I've exhausted all the options that redditors have posted and I've come up with little or nothing. Thanks again for all the support though it does mean allot.

EDit 4: Thank you for reading this and all the positive thoughts. I have good news.... MY KITTIES HAVE A HOME! thank you all again for all the support and all the help you have all given me. I thought i owed you this much in letting you know they where safe and sound.

Hey guys and gals! I'm so overwhelmed by the response to this subreddit, that I had to get some folks to help sort through all of this info! We're trying to get a database together to make it easier to find out what helpful opportunities are near you. If you have any experience with building databases, we need your help! Once this is done, things should become a bit easier to get organized.

You guys rock! We're discussing dates as well. The general consensus is that we should rock out 9/10/11 but we need to get at least one summer day in for the high school/college kids home for the summer.

Stay tuned for more updates. If you have any questions or suggestions, feel free to message your friendly neighborhood mods!

Hi my bf and I have been together five years.the last two years I started watching porn with him. I’m totally into it but noticed something . He can’t cum to just me , he needs the aid of porn to bust and stay hard too . He watches porn the whole time we’re having sex not looking at me and just at the screen.He jacks off 3-4 times a day . Why does he do all this ? Is he un attracted to me?

He says he loves me and loves my body blah blah blah …

In a fucked up Way it makes me so horny to see him jack off to porn. So I’m all sorts of mixed up.

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BOINC

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