r/Tourguide • u/keenonkyrgyzstan • May 26 '26
One of the most uncomfortable tours of my life
I’ve been working as a walking tour guide for ten years, and today was one of the most uncomfortable experiences I’ve ever had. I’ve never posted here, but thought I’d share my experience and maybe others have had similar experiences or can share advice.
As a guide, I thrive on verbal and non-verbal feedback during my tours: comments and questions, but also the way people’s eyes light up, their jaws drop, their gasps and sighs.
Today my guest was a stone-faced psychopath.
For four hours, I told him stories and shared information as we explored the city, and I shit you not he did not say a single word the entire time, unless I asked him a question, and in that case it was a one word answer. But the more uncanny and deeply unsettling thing is that he didn’t make a single facial expression, and barely blinked. As I performed, he stared menacingly at me…for four hours.
Maybe he was autistic? Deeply depressed? But I felt so uncomfortable, and even unsafe at times.
I tried everything I could do to manage the situation: tried to figure out what his personal interests were, tried to make sure he wasn’t just tired and had his physical needs met, tried desperately to just connect on a human level with this person who was paying me to spend fours with them. But on the outside, his silent menacing glare seemed to suggest he had a kind of neurodivergence that I just didn’t know how to deal with as a guide.
Have you had similar clients? Should I just let it go and accept that his behavior isn’t a reflection of my actions as a guide, or is there something you can do to get stonefaced guests to warm up?