Everyone will quit Toastmasters at some point or another. Here's my story.
Toastmasters was a big part of my life for about a decade.
I had a full blown phobia of giving presentations in college and one day grandpa mentioned, "Hey, ever heard of Toastmasters?" It was uphill from there: I slowly gained skills and confidence, started serving in low-level leadership roles, knocked out my CC, moved onto President, served as President a few more times, Area Governor, started my own club, speech contests, you name it. I met a lot of incredible people and picked up some skills I'll carry with me for the rest of my life.
Tonight, I was reflecting on my time with Toastmasters, but also my "break up" with it. I feel it's important, and vital to productive change, for people to talk about these things which is why I'm sharing.
1. Pathways and Base Camp are terrible
I know I'm preaching to the choir here as there is no shortage of shade thrown at Pathways/Base-Camp 'round these parts.
Toastmasters had a beautiful thing going for it: a few simple paper manuals, a group of supportive people, and motivation was all you really needed to better yourself.
The Pathways/Boot-Camp rollout has been disheartening to say the least, degrading the Toastmasters experience by leaps and bounds. And this is coming from a software engineer that spends my working life designing and building products on the web.
My paper manuals, marked up with comments and speech notes, used to be a symbol of pride and accomplishment. The new experience is cold, clunky, and a major step back.
2. Too much focus on delivery
I've found that the most effective speaking qualities are generally these and in this order:
Authenticity
Compelling content
Delivery
Toastmasters puts, by and large, the vast majority of its focus on "Delivery". There is an obsessive focus on becoming perfectly polished:
"I heard you say 'um' a few times in your speech. Try to cut those down"
"You paused just a little too long at one point"
"Try to maintain just a bit more eye contact"
"You had some body language but I think you'd be more effective with just a bit more"
I often noticed that many newcomers would come across as extremely compelling and authentic for their first meet meeting. And I'd also see their speaking "polish" increase over time while losing a lot of their authenticity as they obsess over delivering the perfect Tony-Robbins-esque speech.
Some of the best speakers I've ever heard have plenty of "ahs" and "ums", don't maintain eye contact 100% of the time, and have speaking idiosyncrasies that really improve their overall authenticity and effectiveness.
What would bring me back
You can probably guess what would bring me back: bring back the paper manuals with less of a focus on delivery and more focus on the effectiveness of authenticity and content. I'm thankful for everything that Toastmasters did for me, and I'm hoping they'll start moving this direction (though I have strong doubts it will).