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I don’t know where to start with this, so I’m going to preface it by saying that my boyfriend and I struggle with addiction. Uppers, downers, powder, pill, poke, it doesn’t matter. We have been trying to get sober together and had been doing extremely well. We have been together now for 1.5 years and we share an apartment.

Long story short, the night before last, we had a really bad day/night and we ended up relapsing. We got high that night and stayed high all night and all day long yesterday.

Towards the end of the day, once we started to come down a bit, we felt really shitty about relapsing. We decided to split an edible (weed is legal in our state), and try to get some good sleep to start on a clean slate in the morning. We split the edible, and it helped us come down from our high but we must have taken too high of a MG because we both became extremely high off of that very quickly. Within the hour we went to our bedroom and went to bed.

I don’t know if it was the combination of the edible and residual high from uppers, but we were relaxing in bed with the lights on and just running our fingers on each other’s skin. I told him that I felt like I had taken ecstasy, because that’s exactly how I felt at the moment. I felt extremely horny. He didn’t seem to have the same energy as me, but I might be wrong because my perception is messed up when I get that high. He said he wished he felt that way because all he could feel was paranoia. I told him to just turn the lights off and cuddle with me so he could feel better. He got up and turned the lights off and then crawled back into bed with me. We were lying like I was the small spoon and he was the big spoon. I immediately hit a wall, I passed completely out. I remember trying to wake up and open my eyes but I couldn’t, like I was on anesthesia. I remember whining and trying to turn my head, but then I just pass out again.

When I woke up this morning, I was lying on my side of the bed with just my shirt on, no pants or underwear. I was confused so I reached down there and I was shocked to feel- what I felt down there- like someone had finished inside of me. I turned around toward him and he was already lying there awake, scrolling on his phone. I asked him, “What happened last night?” And he said “What do you mean?” I said “Did we have sex? I thought I remembered wanting to but you were too paranoid so we just went to sleep, right?” He laughed and said “You don’t remember?” I started to get kind of annoyed and said “No, I guess I don’t.” He said “That would explain why I thought you were crying afterwards. You were whining and making a crying sound, I lied there for like 2 hours after, holding you and feeling really bad.” I just nervously chuckled and said “Oh.” Then I sat there for a second and asked him “So like… we had sex just that time right?” And he said “No, we had sex like 3 times last night… you really don’t remember? The last time was probably about an hour before you woke up” and I just immediately felt icky and uncomfortable. But I didn’t want to hurt his feelings or anything, so I just chuckled and said “No I guess I might have taken too much of that edible! That’s crazy… remind me what positions? I was just so tired you know” and he laughed again and said “The first time was on your side with your leg up, the second you were on your stomach and the third time I was on top.” I chuckled uncomfortably and just looked away from him. I felt SO embarrassed and didn’t even want him to look at my face, or look at his… Well, then we both got ready for work like nothing and went about our day.

After I left for work I started to feel more and more comfortable with the idea of what happened. But I know, or at least in my head, I’m the one that took the drugs that apparently made me pass completely out and he was probably high too, how can I expect him to know any better? If we hadn’t relapsed and done the drugs to start with, I know that this would be a non issue. I don’t want to look at him any differently and I sure as hell don’t want him to feel bad about it. But I’m so extremely sick to my stomach thinking about it. On top of the fact that since I was so high the last 2 days, I didn’t take my BCP and he finished inside of me…

I just have a lot of emotions right now regarding this, and I don’t know who to talk to. He’s my best friend and my soulmate and I know that he would never mean to hurt me like that. How long will it take for me to forget about this? Do I tell him that I’m uncomfortable about what happened? I don’t want him to feel bad, that’s my main concern... Obviously we don’t plan on ever getting high again, so would me bringing this up to him create an issue where there won’t be one? I just don’t know how he couldn’t tell that I was passed out. Anyway, I guess I just need other people’s advice and opinions on this…

TLDR: I took an edible and passed out in bed and my boyfriend had sex with me multiple times but said he didn’t know I was passed out? How to move on from this.

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I am a drag queen and a DJ and also a big member of the community in the city that I live in and I’ve recently decided to go sober. I am celebrating 30 days today!!!!!!!!

On one hand, it’s been quite easy because I’m a very all-or-nothing type of person but on the other hand I’m very worried about my future because want to be on this sober path for life but I see obstacles ahead of me and I’m worried about tripping up.

I think I may have developed, over these 30 days, a dependence on non-alcoholic beers because they give me sort of a placebo high but I don’t wanna be relying on anything or feeling like I need to have anything because that destroys the purpose of being sober.

Also my partner does drag too and works in a bar and is a drinker and I’m worried that we’re not going in the same direction.

Is my relationship with my partner gonna work? Can I keep drinking non-alcoholic beers? Are there any other sober people in the drag or DJ industry?

hi all - apologies if this isn't the right place to ask this question - i have posted in other subs too but felt a community of sober people might have some unique perspectives for me

my boyfriend and i are moving into our own place in a couple of weeks. once we've had some time to unpack and settle in i wanted to host a small party to celebrate and to see our friends since we are university students and it's been a long time since we've hung out with a lot of people.

neither of us drink, because of many reasons. we both have addictive personalities and i have struggled with a minor dependency in the past. i also get very scared around drunk people as my mother is an alcoholic and would often be aggressive to me as a child while obviously slaughtered.

I don't mind if people get a bit tipsy. we're british, we're uni students, and it's probably going to be a big mashup of lots of different people from lots of different walks of life, so i get if people want some social lubricant. whether i agree with alcohol being their choice of social lubricant is another thing, but whatever.

i've made an 'invitation' of sorts on canva with all the info (address, time and date, we will be providing food and games, etc etc etc) and i want to put my desire for no drunk people on the invitation. none of the ways i've worded it so far seem right -- they're all too blunt or too trauma dumpy. i want it to tell all the facts (i.e., byob but we don't want you to get beyond tipsy because both the hosts are sober, if you get too drunk you will be asked to stop drinking. if you don't stop drinking, you'll have to leave) without sounding too demanding. I really want people to come and have a good time, it just seems some people feel like any event with low/no alcohol is going to be a terrible one.

any advice? what would you put at the bottom of the invite to express this politely?

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My husband is sober and I recently found gummies hiding in a sock (in his sock drawer). He had told me he was taking cbd to help with anxiety and sleep at night but I was a little caught off guard with these and the fact they are hidden away. The gummies are 1:1 ratio cbd:thc and 1 gummy contains 10mg of thc. I don’t know the first thing about CBD. Does all cbd have thc in it? Is this a high ratio of cbd:thc? If so is this considered a relapse? Would he fail a drug test. Any advice thoughts is greatly appreciate.

So my little brother (age 20) has been doing drugs for the past 5 years of his life (15-16 yrs). He does mostly weed, lyrics, Xanax, perc..and he tried other things.

He tried to commit suicide a few months back, and it was a miracle that he lived. It was the worst experience of my life.

My brother refuses to stop or get help. He believes that as long as he he’s not hurting anyone, it’s his right to do what he wants.
He says “weed is legal almost everywhere in the world”, even tho it’s not like he’s only smoking weed. He doesn’t believe drugs are bad for him or that it can affect your brain, makes you more depressed, unable to enjoy life as it is, and that it can simply derail his life. He believes since he’s not taking any hardcore drugs like heroin or meth he’s on the safe side.

He’s taking antidepressants for sometime now, and he goes to therapy (we kinda pushed hard to do it). My family and I are doing the best we can to support him, and offered a really nice rehab, but he doesn’t think he’s an addict and that he can stop whenever, he just refuses to do so.

What I’m asking from you people of Reddit is to share some of your experiences. Im sure some of you might have been where he is now. I’ll have him read the replies, maybe someone’s story can get to him. To see that no happy, successful person in the world can continue to do drugs and be ok.

Tips to deal with this situation is welcome too.

Taking a month off from alcohol has been the best choice I’ve ever made. I got way too drunk on new years and am happy to take a break for health reasons 😁

Hello everyone. I’m a 44f married to a very occasional drinker. I never had a problem with alcohol I just decided to stop drinking 4 years ago for health reasons and I love it. My mother in law has been a functioning alcoholic for her entire adult life (she’s 75) and it bothers me. I don’t know why. She’s not mean or abusive and doesn’t do anything outlandish or negative while drunk. My husband and I live 4 miles from her and visit her about once every other week. She is widowed and lives alone. We usually go over there around 11am and she’s already started drinking for the day and will continue until bedtime. She has health problems. I realize it’s not my problem and it’s not my place to judge but it just bothers me. I don’t like to see it and I don’t like to be around it. Is it horrible of me to cut down on the visits?

M(30)- Since I was 20, I’ve spent all but a handful of nights and a 9 month span at 26 drunk. I’ve been on a high recently due to success at work and being happier at home so I wanted to take the opportunity to clean up. Right now I feel happy and have more energy but I’m scared of falling back in. When I got sober before, I remember the first couple of nights were the first challenge, but only the second hardest part. The hardest part was the first month or so of weekends. I can’t name a single pro of drinking right now, but I’m afraid of talking myself into it. Any conversation or support at all will be helpful. Thank you.

Don’t have much time, will explain later, but I’m 37F single first time mom, who was left homeless and pregnant and with nothing but a drug habit. About to go to a rehab that I used to dream about that if I ever got the chance to go I would take the opportunity and never look back. I also didn’t think I could have children (no successful pregnancy EVER, two miscarriages and an ectopic last when time when I was 24, now 37) My baby daddy gave me the ultimatum him or the baby and I of course I chose the baby. I’ve always wanted to be a mother so he left me homeless in a shitty hotel pregnant with nothing but a drug habit. I have O- blood type and had accepted the fact that I may never have children. I had come to peace with I. Until one New Year’s Eve I met the textbook definition I of a narcissistic sociopath (and I thought my dad was the worst of them all? Noooooooo)) he let sleep out in the cold, in the rain, in my storage unit , I got shitty hotels when I could, and almost had my child stolen from me from thiswoman that’s a story for another and like a lifetime movie. That’s a story for later but what I’m looking for is… I used to love reading and I really want to be a great mother to a child who medically complex (again another story another dub) but my motto is I saved his life bc hes here to save mine. I was on the highway to hell (death) so any book recommendations to read and In Rehab 😍 please I need them, books that changed your life. I need how how to parenr and they could be anything from parenting to How to be a better person to whatever just give me your book recs that changed your life and that you think everyone NEEDS to read.!

Thanks!

Long story short In a hurry bc I’m currently in one of those relationships and need to hurry up and get off here.

Keep fighting my fellow awesome fighters.

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Hi,

I don't like alcohol. It makes me feel uncomfortable and unsafe when I am around others who drink it.

It is a poison and I truly believe is the worst, most destructive thing that humanity has not only convinced itself that it is okay in moderation, but has incorporated it into every facet of the human experience.

I used to drink in my late teens and early 20's. A lot. I went to college and would actively drink with friends to get drunk to have funny stories to talk about in the morning.

Though I mainly drank because I felt that it "dumbed me down" enough to tolerate being around people who wouldn't engage in deep conversations. Also, it helped me fit in.

But I gave up alcohol in my mid-20s because I saw it for what it is: poison.

It makes people do and say things they wouldn't normally say or do. It makes people loud, obnoxious, selfish, sloppy, chaotic, unpredictable, and sexually irresponsible.

If there is a devil, then alcohol must be his prime tool to obliterate human consciousness and evolution.

With all that being said, having been sober for ten years, I feel that I have a clarity about this that you can't have if you drink. Even people who drink in moderation I believe are fooled by this poison that tricks them into believing a couple glasses of wine here and there is fine.

I love people and I love socializing. But I find it so hard to be around people who drink. Even if it just one drink, I sense a change not only in them but the whole house feels poisoned. I feel all authenticity is thrown out the window. I have to quickly retreat as I am sensitive to energy.

This causes me to be a recluse, because the vast majority of people drink. I purposely avoid social situations knowing alcohol will be involved in some way.

Has anybody else found a way to accept and have peace of mind around those who drink alcohol?

stuck in the cycle of addiction at 15

So i started using substances about a year ago when i was 14, i've just turned 15. It started with alcohol and elevated to drugs. I've struggled with anxiety and depression for a good 5 years, as soon as i took my first shot i was like "wait that's how i'm supposed to feel?". It's gotten to the point where i have depersonalization 24/7, brain fog, happy receptors are fried i literally can't enjoy anything sober. I have't really been addicted to a particular substance because i switch them, first it was alcohol then weed, then harder drugs like mdma or cocaine and now it's weed again. No matter what i do i can't seem to be able to stay in my own head. I'm still functioning and passing school barely, but it makes me sad how just a year ago i was a completely different person getting high scores in all of my classes and being smart in general. i know people have different perceptions of "smart" but what i mean is just general mental order, clear thinking and fast memory. i miss myself from before substances so much and i would do anything not to have touched any of it, ironically i used to promise myself to never touch a cigarette and ended up doing lines at 14 lol. I feel like such a disappointment to myself and i want it to stop. It's not that i get high everyday, but after anything that stretches my nerves i get urges to reward myself with any sort of substance. Last year in september i tried weed for the first time and that's when i first got depersonalization and brain fog, i stayed sober for 3 months because i realized what i was doing to myself but the side effects never went away and i started doing bad in school which elevated my depression so i continued to get drunk and do harder drugs, then i stopped and focused on school a little bit and also started taking antidepressants which actually helped me, i made new friends and got my grades up but i'm still stuck in this vicious cycle. I just wanna move on and let my head heal but it's so hard and i genuinely don't know what to do anymore.

What’s about continue education after rehab 8 months sobering? Share your experience please 🙏

I’ve been sober for 2 years and recently had a therapist suggest yoga to expand my mindfulness. Can anyone recommend a “style” of yoga that focuses on mindfulness?