Hello Redditors,

I’ve been meaning to right this. I work in IT and well I’m very awkward in social settings in general including in the work place, but on the phone I’m fine. Is there anyway I can come over this or do I just need to learn to be comfortable in my body in person? I just seem stuck and can never figure it out. Any help would be nice, thank you in advance!

Whenever you are faced with any sort of discomfort or little insecurity, you have three choices:

• Ignore it and hope it goes away on its own

• Drown the negative emotion with a distraction

• Investigate the cause and try to address it

Have you ever had this little nagging feeling in your stomach, when you refuse to look at your bank statement because you don’t want to find out how broke you are?

Or maybe you purposefully avoided answering a phone call from someone because you owed them something. The discomfort of confronting that person was so big that you would rather push it away, pretend like the situation doesn’t exist.

Have you ever been avoiding looking at scales because you didn’t want to find out that you are actually overweight?

I know I had plenty of situations like that in the past, where I refused to face the truth head on and deal with it.

I thought I was being smart but the truth was, I was just lying to myself because I didn’t want to deal with the consequences.

The paradox is that the longer I had to maintain that facade the worse the consequences will get.

I was living in denial, refusing to face the truth, hoping that the consequences won’t get me.

The consequences will always get you, there is no way around it.

If you get drunk, the next day you will have a hangover.

If you spend time binging to porn, the next couple of days you may be feeling depleted.

If you eat fast food every day - you will feel sluggish and eventually get fat. This rule works like clockwork, it doesn’t differentiate between genders, or races.

What should you do instead?

Face the music front on, and look the monster in the eyes. That things you’ve been putting off and avoiding rationalizing it away? It has to come out.

Stop running away from the pain and problems in your life by avoiding them, distracting yourself and sedating yourself.

From now on, that little discomfort you feel when you keep avoiding certain things in your life has to be your guide.

Think of a flashing light on your car dashboard telling you that something is wrong and you should probably look into it (before it gets really bad).

In that case you wouldn’t brush it under the rug, but deal with the problem here and there.

I want you to start thinking in the same way about those uncomfortable feelings you get about certain parts of your life. Instead of avoiding them, you should go investigate and fix it as soon as possible.

The longer you wait the worse it gets, there is no way around it.

If you keep putting it off the worse it gets which makes you even more unwilling to look at the problem.

Until things get so bad that, the monster under the carpet not only groans and growls but eventually, it eats you alive.

Face the truth, take full responsibility for your actions and remember that what you get in life is a mirror reflection of what you put in.

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I just finished reading "What to Say When You Talk to Your Self" and implemented a self recorded self talk regiment. It's been very helpful and i have noticed a huge improvement in my mental mindset.

Are you working towards going somewhere in life? Do you want to see CONSISTENT results in achieving your dreams?

If so, here are the 7 traits EVERY successful people MUST understand and use to ACHIEVE their goals.

1. Failure: Failure is essential to success. You must use your failures as a springboard to be better.

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3. Challenge: Challenge is how you grow. You must EMBRACE each and every challenge with open arms.

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