I have breast cancer. I'd rather not talk about the cancer.

I have been a loner my whole life. I wish I had met someone and gotten married and had children. I wish I had been more adventurous and lived off on my own and had an independent life.

I lived with my parents and took care of them. I was the sibling who kept an eye on them so my other brothers and sisters could go off and do their own thing without guilt.

Now I'm going to die and I have nothing to show for my life. I'll be forgotten pretty quickly.

Anyway I want to say don't waste your life.

I am 99 and my name is William, my grandson created this account for me and told me it would be good for me if I wanted people to talk to. I was a businessman my whole life and I’m now retired and spend my time with my grandchildren and children. I love talking to people and my grandson told me that this was the place to go. Some of my interests are playing board games. Shooting guns. Watching TV. I am a veteran. I will need time with figuring out how this works because I’m not very experienced with it.

We hear a lot about body positivity and empowering women but I believe there is also room to appreciate men more. A whole generation of working class men is being forgotten about or blamed. Being starved of affection and being told that they’re weak for having feelings is causing them to feel worse.

It’s unfair, I know. We appreciate you, boys.

I'm so sick of some men using this sub as a platform to be creepy, make women uncomfortable and send dick pics. This is not Tinder dude. This is COMPLETELY uncalled for. I saw this post recently where a guy sent this girl a bunch of dick pics, made her super uncomfortable and she called him out on the sub. But the comments under that post are pathetic as well, I saw guys supporting him and calling this girl "Karen", saying she shouldn't have outed him.

One of the accounts was u/ExcuseThat who said "Ok Karen, every woman receives a dick pic in a while, those men struggle with loneliness and mental illness, you shouldn't have called him out." Some random creep's "loneliness and mental illness" is not my responsibility to deal with. Guys who make women uncomfortable, need to be called out, period. Ladies, it will be absolutely unfortunate if you do happen to talk to this person because this person is playing a part is normalizing cycles of abuse and sexism against women. I opened this person's account to see a post "Everytime I get down voted, I'm happy that I made a triggered kid cry."

Enough is enough. From now on, any guy who is being a creep on here, who sends unwarranted dick pics and guys who support this act NEED to be called out. PERIOD. I've had enough of this privileged entitled mofos getting their way already. These people need to be banned from the sub.

Moderators, before taking this post down, I urge you to take this up seriously, establish a strict set of ground rules and start banning people who do this. The policy till now of privately reporting to moderators when someone's makes you uncomfortable is just not cutting it anymore, those perverts just make new accounts and join the sub, find their next victims with ZERO consequences, people need to be held accountable for the things they do, it's the ONLY way to get this to stop. Calling the creeps also helps other women be wary of them/block them.

P.S.- take a look at the downvoted comments while you're here, men trolling women, some defending the actions of the creeps, some ONLY bringing up so called men's issues when women's issues are talked about, people trying to play the devil's advocate and being so dense to miss the whole point, it's sad.

UPDATE: A NEWS ARTICLE HAS OFFICIALLY BEEN POSTED ABOUT THIS MAN: https://www.alligator.org/news/campus/uf-student-threatens-to-rape-students-online-but-remains-enrolled/article_88613980-8e28-11ea-94b0-d72a20de9163.html

UPDATE 2: Individual is now on https://www.reddit.com/user/Interest-Alore/ (u/Interest-Alore) and attempting to get support to defend himself from the allegations.

EDIT/UPDATE TO THE SITUATION (IF YOU HAVE CONCERNS OR WANT EVIDENCE): https://www.reddit.com/r/Needafriend/comments/fw458g/a_followup_to_the_dangerous_man_post_yesterday/

This PSA was made to keep communities like this subreddit, safe, civil, and true to their purpose. That purpose being, to make friends or seek out a kind voice. Lurking in this subreddit, over the course of the past two days, is a dangerous man who goes by the new username Outside-Reserve ( https://www.reddit.com/user/Outside-Reserve/ ), Future-File ( https://www.reddit.com/user/Future-File/ ) Content-Painter OR Nobletilapia ( https://www.reddit.com/user/Content-Painter AND https://www.reddit.com/user/nobletilapia ). His main discords are Power and Discipline, and Davoth. He has 40+ reddit accounts and almost 20 Discord accounts, so these are just a couple of his aliases.

This man has shown an ill-will towards many people, is attracted to females between the ages of 14-19, and is mentally ill. The authorities have been notified and he is under investigation. He has already posted in multiple other subreddits in the past, including not only this one but Make New Friends Here and various college subreddits in Florida, Virginia, California, etc.

Here is how you can identify him: His posts here on various subreddits like this one asking to voice chat, DM, or converse through Discord as a way to make friends and prey on young females. He will claim to be in his mid-late twenties even though he is in his mid-thirties. He will say he is the most powerful student at University of Florida (UF) or person you will meet. He will tell you he is an alpha male and loves to ramble. He will ask you to join his own private discord server. However, he is above all a monster with a troubled legal history and you are best off not interacting with him in any way.

Please, stay safe, stay healthy and do not engage with this predator.

All I want is a friend. I never said I was interested in sucking you off.

I’m a 33 year old single mom to a 6 month old little girl. I work as a teacher but right now I’m on maternity leave and I plan to be for a while. During my pregnancy and this whole motherhood thing I have unfortunately lost several close friends of mine and I’m starting now to feel really lonely. I don’t really go out that much anymore and I don’t meet a lot of people. I love my daughter but some days I just wish I had more friends that I could talk to.

If you’re in a similar situation or if you just feel like you can relate to my story on some level I would love to hear from you. I live in Sweden but I’ll gladly talk to anyone around the world 🫶🏻

It’s a joke

We both first tried posting without disclosing our genders, we both got an average of 2-3 chats and most of them were asking us if we were girls

Then we posted as if we both WERE Females, we both wrote such a boring description and title. We averaged around 16-17 chats per post

Then we tried posting as if we both were Males. And tbh it was sad we both didn't even get any chats.

Ik this is somewhat not 100% true but it just shows that ppl around here mostly just care about your gender so my advice if you do wanna talk to someone, don't put your gender in your title. And ya :)

Occasionally when I'm scrolling and see a post by a teenage girl I'll check the comments.

Usually there will be at least one awkward comment that says something like "hii" or just a discord/kik/snapchat id.

Like 90% of those comments are made by guys who are both way older than the OP and have really sexual post histories.

I believe I've seen underage gay/bisexual boys be targeted by this type of person, too.

I'm making this post to remind people that it's perfectly okay to check someone's profile before interacting with them, especially if they give off weird vibes.

If anyone reading this has any advice about staying safe on here, it would be good to share it for those who need it.

Stay safe out there, people.

literally 80% of the time, the post here will have something along the line “i'm depressed and desperate ” “22X lonely need a friend” “need to talk asap serious“ “i need help” and then goes to say how they're tired of life, never had a friend before in their life, how miserable they were, how they need someone to hear them out and all these heartbreaking statement that immediately makes you want to hit them up quickly.

but then when you did, they respond it nonchalantly almost like disinterested even though you barely say anything. you still want to give it a try by responding and then they completely ghost you out.

and the worst part? later on be it next couple hours, or days, they post the same thing, same words, how sad they were and they need serious help etc. um? how are you going to make friends or let people help you when you're just going to ghost them?

we barely talk and you already show how disinterested you are very early on the chat so how could people form a connection with you if you're being like that? i don't get it.

maybe the biggest problem out of all of this is to even hope to found genuine friends from reddit.

I was just looking through the armoire for some socks I had misplaced and lo and behold, a leather ring box! I didn’t know what it was at first because it just looked like a regular tiny brown box so you could imagine my surprise when I opened it to find a gorgeous emerald ring! He does know that emerald is my favorite stone. I’m so excited!

I have zero friends to tell this to because we recently moved to a new city but I just had to tell someone. I can’t keep this happiness to myself else I accidentally reveal to him that I know what he’s planning to do. I hope you had a day as wonderful as mine.

It's like those poor homeless people you see on the street that you want to help but you know you can't because you may just be feeding into their drug addiction, you don't know. Not the best analogy but honestly it makes me feel like a creep every time i msg some1 and find out they're a girl. I feel bad that they are probably getting harassed so I just leave them alone. Sad times

My doctor told me I have 6 months to live. My family and friends still dont know that im suffering from a terminal illness. (Its been something ive been expecting so its okay.)

Im a happy kid. I was grateful enough to speak at the UN at the age of 21 and i trained over 400 highschool and university students the art of public speaking.

I hope you guys are doing good today. 🙂

Lonely lady coming to find some awesome new friends. Hoping to find someone to talk to, laugh with, cry with.

A little about me:

Single mom, I love movies and TV (Suits, Gilmore Girls, and Greys Anatomy are my absolute faves), I am a Harry Potter nerd

I mainly listen to country music, but love all types/genres.

Please no ghosting! Like for real please lol

Hope to connect soon!!!!! 🥳

This subreddit is for making friends. Every day it's another post about the need to vent, depression, loneliness, anxiety, or advice. This is a sub for platonic friends. We are not trained or obligated to have to be used as your human therapists then ghosted. I've attached some lines that are better equipped for you to call or text when you need that temporary help or ear.

1-877-968-8491- calling and texting therapy 1-800-799-7233- Domestic Violence 1-800-656-4673- Rape and incest network 1-866-488-7386- LTBTQ+ services and therapy 1-877-565-8860- Trans helpline 1-800-662-4357- Drug Abuse 1-800-273-8255- Suicide Hotline Text Hello to 741741- Crisis Help Line Porn sites and Tinder- sexual

If you're looking for friends, great! Shoot me a dm. I'm here. But if you're looking for short term gratification,, attention, dirty chat, or therapy, this is the wrong subreddit.

We know these are well meaning, but a lot of times it amounts to sharing personal information that can be used to doxx or harass someone. Also, the person may not want to be found or contacted by the person asking.

We will always invite you to make new and exciting friends here!

Free virtual hug delivered to you 🤗

PS: You're amazing 💖

*Hello everyone. I am 20 years old studying in a university. I am studying a med related program. I just want someone to talk. You can message me random facts about anything. Please do upvote. And i reply to everyone.

Edit: guys i got lots of messages, gonna reply hahhaah Reddit won't allow to accept more messages already guys so. Please be respectful everyone.

Edit 2: So, I have chatted and talked to some already and here are the points I have observed for people here on reddit.

1. Most are married guys aged 30s -50s and some are somewhat into other exploration and some are just looking friends or someone to talk but like younger girls lol.

2. Most guys who messaged are Indians. Some of them are just chatty and some are chatty but then has other inappropriate intentions too and mostly are CS/Software/IT majors and some are liars too pretending to be other people when in fact it is not actually the real them.

3. Some are actually sending their down there and would ask to rate their down there.

4. I have only recieved few females, not even more than 20 girls who messaged me and almost 700 DMs.

5. I appreciate those respectful and nontoxic individuals who doesn't just say hi but also intoduced themselves. Everyone are just saying hi, hey. So, what to do with just three letters then? It would be better to introduce yourselves too.

6. Now, I have learned and concluded that almost but not all reddit guy users are creeps. However, I do appreciate those who were genuine to talk to.

(04/06/2025)

7. Here we are now and dang so in*sane how come someone who works in ministry and religious related institution have that so much irrational and inappropriate thoughts. My jaw dropped.

Guys spread love and kindness everyone.

Edit: Gonna reply to some after I'm done with all my exams :))

Why are guys always eager to show us their dick? Nobody wants that kind of shit

This is the main reason for me switching to a new acct. Wayyy too many creeps carrying on to send me dick pics and cum shots

NOBODY GIVES A SHIT ABOUT YOUR DICK. IF I WANTED TO SEE IT, ID ASK

Fuck you

Sincerely- some 15 year old girl

/u/ModeratelyHelpfulBot can now identify posters with significant NSFW posting history.

If more than 20% of your comments are on NSFW subreddits and you solicit minors, you will be banned from the subreddit

If you have identified your age in the past and you solicit minors, you will be banned from the subreddit.

In the future, if you have a nsfw history, you may be restricted from posting or replying to comments of non-minor accounts.

You may also select the link flair "strict sfw" to have us specifically monitor your post for primarily NSFW commenters. (This will be automated in the future if successful).

EDIT:

TL;DR: if you have a majority of comments/posts on NSFW subs, you will be banned if you try to contact minors on /r/needafriend.

I’ve made it a game to occasionally click through the profiles of people responding to <18 year old users posts here. Without fail, I’ve found posters in their 20s and older responding to kids as young as 13 (This excludes very close age gaps, of course)- And this only includes the users that post publicly AND have their age mentioned in previous posts.

These are not kids asking for advice, either, but adults responding to a child’s social post. There is no reason why a person pushing 30 should be taking to a 15 year old girl socially.

While I understand you can’t protect kids from creeps online, it shouldn’t be made so easy for them.

You're amazing and loved💟

Keep being you 😀

Never give up 🌟

You're not alone during your lows ❤️

Hope that one day you'll see what a wonderful person you are ☀️

Hey it's me again 20/m, hope it helps anyone who needs it.