I get it: people use Reddit when they want to complain more than when they have good things to share. But I feel like r/marriage subreddit is 90% bitter wives with shitty husbands. We can't all be bad, right?!

Been married nearly 20 years, and my wife has her group of girlfriends who talk about their marriages when they get together, swap stories and advice, etc. I have never really had a way to connect with other guys at that same level, though, so glad to see this sub back up and running, and looking forward to the conversations!

I’ve been married for 6 months and my wife and I have gone through a lot since saying ‘I do’. Every week we have a fight and I’ve found a Christian Therapist that I really like and has helped me out.

As I become more open with my therapist I realized that I need another Christian Husband friend that I can talk openly with. My wife and I have had arguments about sex, chores, expectations, assumptions, etc. and sometimes I just was to know what other Christian husband have done in certain situations and if I’m the only guy who’s dealing with the same thing.

So is that a common thing, other Christian husbands who talk to one another and be open with them and it not be weird and how does one find such a guy to do that with.

Thanks

Man I just can't wait for my wedding. It's in August. And sometimes I feel like if I talk about to much to someone who isn't in the same boat as me they'd think differently. Anywho I really can't wait.

Girl was really rude this morning, so I assumed it was ok to be rude back. Turned out I was wrong...

All I want is for my husband is to wake up and be happy.. I know it's not always going to be sunshine and rainbows, but how do you guys make your husband's happy and help them enjoy life more??

Everyday I try to do or say something special for my wife to make her feel loved. Sometimes its just a text telling her how I feel about her beyond the standard "I love you."

Do you do anything like this?

My wife has been keeping a diary of all her I don't like my husband moments. I ended up running across her email thread to herself not entirely on purpose looking for a message from my daughter's school. I saw a string of 30 messages to herself and thought it was odd. I read it and was profoundly hurt.

I realize what I did was an invasion of privacy. But she tells me to my face she's not angry or hiding anything and writes out VERY cutting responses to me in the emails. She tells me she hates me and is she's disgusted by me.

I'm afraid of how to approach this. I kind of feel like there's no winning in this right now for me.

Ever time my wife would run in to a grocery store or wherever to pick up something on our way somewhere, me and the kids would wait in the car. Each she left the car, she would tell me to lock the doors to keep the kids safe. And I never would. One time, after she left, some weirdo tried to open the door to where my 4 year old daughter was sitting. He actually lifted the handle to the point the door was actually open. Luckily, his friend grabbed him and they were on their way. I’ve never told my wife about it.

So I accidentally told my wife that our sex life was getting worse needless to say she cried for 5 mins.

So to preface this, my wife and I have been married for 8 years, have three kids and have been, to this point, very happy.

We have never been wealthy, she is a stay at home mom and I work in sales and generally we have had enough to live off, but we have never been good with saving and occasionally things will come along that wipe our savings out.

I had a stable job until October this year when I was let go. I got another job quickly and went to work, pouring my heart into it. Suddenly and without warning I was fired from this second job at the beginning of December. The company wasn't doing well and I was the newest guy, so I got the axe, right before Christmas.

I have now been on the hunt for a job for the last three weeks, but no one is hiring until after the new year. All this has caused some obvious stress, but my wife has been beside me and I have felt like I could handle it.

Back in July I was in a car accident (other driver at fault) and herniated 3 disks in my back. I jave been working with an injury lawyer and been hoping for a nuce settlement. Come to find out, the other driver has very little personal injury liability and the settlement we hoped would be sizeable enough for a home down payment is looking more like a car down payment at best.

This was 3 days ago. Since then my wife has been distant. Barely speaks to me, won't look me in the eyes, avoids any physical contact and actually recoiled from my touch.

We had to ask for some help from our church to make ends meet this month. They have been really awesome in all of this, but this morning they dropped off some Christmas gifts, unsolicited, gifts for our kids. I am exceptionally grateful for them and I know our boys will appreciate them. When my wife saw it, she broke down and cried...i expected it was from gratitude, but learned through a Facebook post that it was from shame.

When I talked with her this evening to find out why she was shunning me, she announced that she no longer trusted me to provide for the family, she could not stand to look at me or be near me and wasn't sure if she would be able to ever recover from it. She is ashamed of me.

She is my oldest and closest friend. I have known her since we were 9 in Sunday School together. We are all going through a miserable time and i know she has a right to be upset. We have always been so united before and now I just lost my only support. I feel lost. I feel adrift without my anchor to hold me in place. I had hope that things would get better, that I would find a job quickly and solve all our issues, but the longer I go with no job the deeper the divide gets. I had hope while she was by my side. What do I do now that I am struggling alone without my partner?

Sorry, TLDR: lost my job, wife is ashamed of me, I've lost my best and really only friend. I feel so alone.

In need of some advice here...my husband has been traveling far away 5 days a week for work for the past 2 years. And durning his trips he frequents a strip club at least one night each week. I have a problem with it and he thinks I'm crazy. I feel like a part time wife and a single mom. I am 100% dedicated to our marriage and would never do something to make him start to wonder. Am I in the wrong for having a problem with this situation?

Hey Men....struggling to accept some of the parts of your wife. Here's some tips to get started.

1-Make a list of all the ways you wish they were like you. 2-Reflect on all the things from their upbringing that contributed to those traits. 3-What are the positive elements in each of those traits. 4-What are the other positive traits in your spouse. 5-What would it be like to live on the other side of you?

Blessings!

Does anyone else just die when they see their husbands pecs? I could catch a glimpse of them and be giddy lol.

My wife and I have been married for 11 years and we are generally doing well, but we moved 2 years ago and she hasn’t made any new close friends. I think she is lonely and needs some close girlfriends. I’ve invited couples from work, church and my old friends over for dinner hoping she would hit it off but nothing sticks.

Do you have any suggestions of other ways I can help? She’s not big into hobbies, though she has been taking voice lessons this year and we sang in church together twice.