I do not consent to Krystal being used in the IKEA thing going on. I didn't want her to get involved, that is why she's been silent about it. Please do not attempt to involve her. Thank you.

Some of you may not know but once upon a time, someone who no longer posts here made a significant effort to create a pod cast for the town. Barely anyone paid attention to it and she quit after two episodes. I'm sure she quit the sub because she waa discouraged.

Some of you play characters with a certain edge or attitude or maybe they're supposed to be grumpy or be dicks - but they don't need to be SO entrenched to the point that they need to deride the efforts of people that spend a large amount of time creating things to increase the immersive experience of the sub.

I've heard people say "yeah a pod cast would be cool" and giving thumbs up to one or other projects. The real truth is, these projects often don't get the support of hwm users.

If you want to get involved, that's great! But if your idea of getting involved in the immersive experience is to kick someone else's effort in the balls, go home if you can't play nice.

Also now that the election is over, I'd expect everyone to adhere to the rules of the sub - no unsolicited slanderous comments about other people's characters or accusations etc. Everyone's got their own story line and it's not up to anyone else to try and fk with it.

Thanks.

This is a quick little thing to get everyone on the same page.

1. all events in havewemet take place in one town - Lower Duck Pond

2. There is no supernatural, fantasy, or otherwise unrealistic things allowed (no talking animals, spaceships, or glowing clouds)

3. To give yourself a flair click the three dots in the top right and click "change user flair" then press edit

4. The humor in havewemet comes from how mundane it is, try to make your character fairly believable. A good rule of thumb is the more you try to make your character funny the worse it will be

Omg! Getting so tired of people telling me my weather reports are "wrong."

It's a fake town. It's fake weather. It was meant to bring some sort of uniformity and boredom to this sub.

CALM THE F DOWN!

Also, if there is a certain weather event needed for someone's story or a big event coming up, let me know! I've been trying to scroll through the sub and call out specific events when I can.

Carmen Hicks, Local News 10 Weather

I’ve seen this happening more and more, so I felt like I had to say something.

I feel like the rule is (or perhaps should be) more of an encouragement to play someone that is already living in town rather than outright banning anyone from playing a character moving in.
Of course the purpose of HaveWeMet is to be a forum of a town where everyone seems to know each other, but I think it’s better to just send a message to the account, or just ignoring it and/or playing along rather than going “No, you’re wrong, everyone knows that no people move in! We all know each other already!” in character. It’s a bit annoying, and doesn’t seem to really help in any way, I think. And after all, people move in and out of towns where everyone seems to know each other in real life too!

Hey Ducklings,

I’m sure we’re all pretty well caught up with the posts from the past several days. We definitely had a ton of interesting things going on, and a lot of interesting characters to go with it. While things may sometimes get a bit out of hand, a lot of intentions are good (and honestly, there’s no telling when the internet will take things and run with it), so I can’t fault them for that.

It seems like our members and friends are responsible people and were more than happy to clear up any confusion from these events. Good on them! We appreciate that!

But this does lead me to the topic of the post; be considerate! Please, please, please read the rules before posting. Even if you just want to pop in for a casual “hello” once in a while, the mods/admins have put them there to ensure we all work well together and share in the fun of LDP. The rules are there to encourage good role playing etiquette.

Look, it’s understandable that some storylines and plots can grow to become grand, town-wide happenings - can’t help it! But please try not to deliberately create stories that derail everything and entangle the whole town in it. It may harm other characters, dissuade some from participating, and foster a very closed-ended environment that drive people away. We don’t want that; we want everyone to enjoy what they do here.

With that, please do not write other character’s stories without explicit permission from their creators. Implying things or writing in backstories for others can be damaging. Putting words in their mouths or asserting that things have happened - that’s all part of it. Please don’t do that!

It’s all matter of being as considerate a player as possible.

Two last reminders; we collectively decided that the pandemic was not something we wanted to get into on HWM. We all understand how much of an impact it’s had on our daily lives outside of our role playing bubble (please wear your masks, practice social distancing, and be safe), but for all intents and purposes, Lower Duck Pond and its immediate neighbors are COVID free. I think we understand why the decision was made, I definitely don’t think people need any more reminders of the devastation it’s caused in reality when they write and role play as well. We good with that still?

My last point touches on welcoming new faces. We totally understand “I just moved in” posts aren’t always the best. I get it, you get it. Folks, we understand the rules, and we want to impress upon new members how important the rules are for keeping up the illusion, but that also means welcoming the folks that just “moved in” too. Gently nudge them towards the “hey, I remember you” and “I think we’ve met” kind of dialogue instead of “no, you’ve lived here all your life. Do you have amnesia?”

Just accept that they need to get caught up on the rules and move on. Welcome them, point them in the right direction - don’t berate them, don’t write their stories, just write around it and be a welcoming neighbor. They’ll get the hang of it!

Sound good? We all in agreement that we’re here for fun? Sweet, make sure that everyone is able to say the same thing.

Now, take care of yourselves and stay safe. I can’t wait to see what new adventures and stories await us in Lower Duck Pond!

Darren

(Sam Sadler, City Council)

There used to be a stickied post about it, but now there is no way for new or less active users to know about this. I’ve seen quite a few posts that involve COVID, social distancing, anti mask or anti vaccine, quarantine, etc. And everytime I send a dm, saying hey, COVID isn’t actually a thing in Lower Duck Pond... It’s a shame because some of these posts are really well-written, and after receiving my message most of them just delete their post. Only one person considered rewriting it.

So yeah, keep in mind, COVID does not exist in Lower Duck Pond.

Hey man, I really appreciate your weather report, I recently stopped being active on the sub because of many reasons but your character and the daily weather report gives me something that kept me on HaveWeMet.

Just wanted to say that and felt like it didn't belong on r/HaveWeMet

P.S. Keep up your work

I didn’t move to LDP to live in a mystery novel. I don’t like all these posts that consist of a long, sweeping, highly detailed passage that sets up a storyline and dangles cliffhangers and foreshadowing and danger.

I liked when I first joined LDP and it felt like Pawnee from parks and rec. Harmless, sometimes a little wacky, pleasant and eccentric more than anything. Posts felt like something that could actually appear on a community board for a real town- not like diary entries full of murder and break-ins and arson and deadly romance triangles at every corner. I haven’t been posting as much lately because these storylines seem to have taken over and they’re just so serious and dark.

The “old” LDP felt more like an improv, where we all fill in the details surrounding an “incident” from our characters’ point of view and it’s never too serious or harmful. I don’t like these new posts that feel like one person has already created this whole dark narrative that is just being relayed to us, and that only a small handful of specific people are tied in to. To me LDP is a place to escape to that is more lighthearted than the real world we live in. Not a Stephen king novel where things are even more treacherous.

It's so fucking overdone and annoying. There's one on the front page at 1.5k upvotes and Silver. It's low-effort and extremely annoying, and when one gets popular, it floods new with the same thing because of people trying to jump on the bandwagon. I'm growing further and further away from this community. Something needs to be done.

Hey, all. This feels a bit weird for me to get into, but here goes.

My father's funeral was today. It's been a long time coming, after a slow, lingering struggle with cancer. A year ago, I left my job teaching in Asia to come back home and help my parents while this was going on. Over time, I've had less and less contact with the outside world.

I have been part of a wonderful fantasy RP subreddit for several years, and that has helped me get through a lot of personal difficulties. But over the past few months, I've just lost the emotional energy to keep up with that kind of long-form world-building, and so I found myself drifting away from that community too.

Then in November I stumbled upon /r/HaveWeMet by pure happenstance, and I was enchanted by it. This place is so simple in format, but it has so much heart and feeling to it. I've been able to use this place to escape, just for a few minutes at a time. When things got really trying, I could just jump into Moon Blossom for a comment here or there, and it has really helped to keep me sane over the past few weeks.

Thanks for being here, Lower Duck Pond.

I recently killed off my character, Gary Milkins, by letting him commit suicide, which has sparked up quite the debate, because some people feel like it was "in bad taste" to do so. I have said most of the things I wanted to say in the comments of this thread, but I figured I'd make this post to write everything down in one place.

I want to start off by saying that I never had the intention to make fun of suicide or to write it off as something funny. The same thing applies for u/DiscoLemonade119 ("Morgan Milkins"), whose character is tied close with mine, and with who I discuss everything that happens to our characters. She herself has dealt with suicidality in her real life and would never make jokes about it, because she very well knows how serious it is.

That said, having Gary take his own life was not an attempt at humour at the expense of suicide, but rather a way of getting rid of a character I no longer wanted to roleplay as. Some might say that I didn't necessarily have to kill Gary if I grew tired of him and that if I wanted to start a new character, I could've just edited my flair and started roleplaying as someone else. While I agree with this up to an extent, and even considered doing this, I believe that this wouldn't have been the right thing do to.

Having Gary suddenly disappear would've broken the illusion of the subreddit. Gary is a very well known character, and if I hadn't given a plausible reason for why he is gone, that would certainly have raised some questions among the subreddit's subscribers. Add to that that Gary plays a huge part in u/DiscoLemonade119's character's storyline, so having Gary suddenly disappear without explanation would have done great damage to the realism of her character's storyline too.

"So why didn't you just say he left town or something along those lines?" Because I wanted to cut off all loose ends from his storyline, so that I can really start my new character's storyline with a blank slate, and killing Gary off seemed like the only appropiate way to do this. "But why suicide?" Because suicide seemed in line with his character, seeing as Gary's life wasn't exactly cake and sunshine towards the end. I have seen some people say it would've been less offensive to have him get murdered instead of having him kill himself, but I disagree. What difference does it make? Death is a great tragedy no matter what.

However, the fact that suicide and death in general are great tragedies, doesn't mean that I should not be allowed to write a fictive story about it. Roleplaying, which is what r/HaveWeMet is for, is all about creating fictive stories, ideally realistic, whether they are comedic, dramatic or whatever genre you can think of, and death is part of some those stories. It is completely understandable if there are stories that you don't like, because people have different tastes. Some people like Rick & Morty, while others prefer Breaking Bad. But just because you don't like something, doesn't mean it shouldn't exist. You can't always please everyone, so if you don't like something, it's best to just ignore it.

I have seen people use the argument that this subreddit is about having fun and that it is not the place for dark plots like Gary's. I agree that this subreddit is all about having fun, but that doesn't mean that every single post has to consist of nothing but light, simple and innocent humour. The majority of the people on the subreddit does have fun by engaging in more dramatic stories like Gary's, so this certainly is the place for it.

That's all I wanted to say. I will now let this matter go and no longer talk about it. Apologies for the length of this post. If you made it all the way through and are still reading at this point, thank you for your time.

Let me just preface by saying that when I joined this subreddit I was an idiot and thought that it was legit a subreddit to complain about things people have done.

So I made a post about someone leaving pancake bits all over the floor, then got into this whole thing with this guy about how I did some fucked up shit in Iceland and blueberry pancakes were involved and I got so confused I was like where the fuck did this come from I ain't this dude in Iceland! And I legit argued with this guy about it.

So guy who accused me of blueberry pancake atrocities, hi , I was an idiot

Edit: a lot of y'all are askin for the link and unfortunately I deleted it because I accidentally revealed a lot of information about myself, sorry yall!!

I used to love to come and just visit with friends and family. Now I just scroll through most of the posts. I’m probably missing some good stuff that way but it has become almost a chore to read some of them. Have we had an influx of newbies who don’t get it? Or is it me? I don’t like conflict and it seems like that is all that is going on. I miss the kinder gentler HWM.

I was so excited to get this postcard today haha! Truly amazing and it made my whole week! :)

Congratulations to all of us!

The sub has lost a lot of the activity it used to have, and it feels like it's only declining further. How can we make HaveWeMet more fun to engage in? I think this is both a mod team effort and a community effort, so any tools or things I can provide to you all to make HaveWeMet more enjoyable again, I'd be happy to help with. Things I've considered:

• A bot. Whether it be something that tracks your characters, or references the wiki, just something to make the experience more intuitive and fun.

• Picture Sundays. Where we enable image posts every Sunday to garner more activity.

I'd love to hear your thoughts, this was just me brainstorming with others on the Discord.

This was decided a while back for many reasons, and I've been seeing quite a few posts about it. Can y'all keep that in mind? <3

i just saw a havewemet post advertising enemas where OP will hold the liquid in their mouth and personally blow it up your asshole. they talked about doing it to their unruly toddlers. okay 1, enemas as punishment is a documented method of sexual child abuse, and 2, pedophilia is Not funny, despite how often i see people using it as a joke on this subreddit.

am i alone in being wildly uncomfortable with this kinda stuff on havewemet? let me know if i just need to chillax. i don’t want to be That Guy.

thanks.

Maybe you all know this, but there is a character in HaveWeMet that uses a flair announcing that he is a sex offender. I don't think that's funny.

I "reported" his latest post; I guess I chose the wrong reporting channel, because I got an automated reply that everything's okay, chill, no worries. I am guessing that went to Reddit mods writ large, not to the caretakers of our gentle, little group.

Regardless, can we, in a back channel such as this, inform the author that creating a character who is a sexual offender is not acceptable here?

I was thinking, while Lower Duck Pond doesn’t have much that is canon, there are a couple of things that anyone new might like to know.

For example, nearby towns include Upper Duck Pond, which was founded in a split from Lower Duck Pond and is therefore the main rival. It is full of snooty rich Mormons and is rumoured to be a hellhole. We don’t like Upper Duck Pond, but it does have the better gay bar. Poleville which is really just a large hospital for the mentally ill, Rosewater which is a typical seaside resort and which is the major producer of apricots and Hydroelectric City which is the nearest big city.

Nearby attractions include Kings Falls a waterfall and surrounding forest where you can do outdoor sports Goose mountain for skiing. There’s a nearby lake or possibly sea- either way a big body of water where there is a regular pleasure cruise.

Some town institutions include Southwestern University (r/HaveUMet), Town Hall, Town Museum, The Library, Central High, Octavia the Oak and Moon Blossom’s shop Hecate’s Hearth which hosts board games, witches’ circles (they get naked and chant and hallucinate), stocks nearly everything you could think of like herbs and mushrooms, Naked Ladies of LDP, Tarot decks and wool jumpers.

It used to be a running joke that there actually is no pond in Lower Duck Pond, but I think there’s been too many references to the Pond now for that to still be canon.

I’m sure I’m missing stuff that is canon, but I can’t think right now. What am I missing?

This has been an issue for a lonnnnnng time and it’s really starting to bother again.

Let people play their own character, and you, yours. Basically what I’m saying is learn how to roleplay.

Just because someone has a popular character at any point in time doesn’t mean you can come pop in and try to change it. That’s for them to do.

Here’s a good read from almost a year ago when this was happening with me and another users storyline.