I was scrolling through tik tok when I saw a post from “someone I may know” which was my 13 year old niece venting about finding out her dad (my brother) is cheating on her mom. She seems very sympathetic to her dad and I’ve always known she was a daddy’s girl but I’m struggling with that to do. I am 29 years old and my brother is 43. There’s a big age gap and growing up my brother has helped me countless of times by letting me live with him or lending me money when I needed it. He’s a great guy but his wife is incredibly difficult to get along with.

About 2 years ago my boyfriend and I went out for dinner and my brother happened to be having dinner at the same spot with a “friend” I didn’t see her but my brother seemed like he got caught in a situation. He was visibly stressed out after seeing us and stretching out small talk when he never does that. When my brother left my boyfriend and I were extremely confused and felt really weird about the whole situation. Any advice? We don’t live in the same area so it’s hard for me to talk to my niece one on one. Should I call her up and just straight up ask her what’s going on? I feel obligated to say something to someone but I’m not sure who.

I (33F) have a rocky relationship with my mother and I really just don't know what to do. So my mother has had this boyfriend for like 15 years, he's the type to invade your space and hug you tightly as a joke after you tell him you don't enjoy hugs. He does this every time I see them. He's never outright done anything to me to feel this way, but the guy has given me the creeps as long as I've known him. I'm not the only one though, ALL of my cousins feel the same. One of my teenage cousins told me one time that he tried to get her to sit in his lap and that just rubbed me the wrong way. He also prevented my mother from letting me stay with her as a 17 year old when I got kicked out of my grandparents house because "there wasn't room" and sent me to his mother's house instead, the woman had dementia and only ate soup so you can imagine how well that went. To add to that and give additional context, my mother briefly moved out of state with him a few years before my daughter was born to live near his own estranged daughter and one day she called me crying and said she went inside to get a drink while they were hanging out with a neighbor and when she came back out, her boyfriend and said neighbor were engaged in full intercourse out in the yard and instead of stopping when she caught them, he asked her to join in and kept going when she said no. She then makes me swear not to tell anyone and not to hold it against him. I felt that was unfair but anyway.

Fast forward to now, I have a beautiful 5 year old daughter. He's known her since birth but since I've always been on edge with him, I've been extra careful about not leaving him alone with her. She stayed at my mom's a few times in her life, but very few and I've been overly clear on my boundaries as far as keeping her supervised 100% anytime he is there and I do believe she went along because my daughter is very open with me and we've went over consent a million times, she would snitch so fast. The thing is though, i feel like it's weird that he loooooves my child as if she was his grandchild but his real grandchildren barely know him lol. He has 5 grandsons and none of them know him. He didn't even care to get to know me until years after they got together, he had no interest in me or my brother until then. That's weird right?

So my mom is intensely devoted to this boyfriend, but I'm tired of pretending I tolerate him when I can't help but cringe anytime he's around. My mother thinks he's God's gift to women so any time I bring up an issue over him, she gaslights me of course. I'm estranged from the rest of my family on her side because of religious bullsh** and childhood trauma and I don't know my dad's side since he abandoned me as a child. I was given a bad hand as far as family goes. This leaves me and my husband with no help and also leaves my daughter very few family members to begin with and I fear one day she'll be all alone 😭 I know my mother is going to take up for him, which makes me feel like she's unsafe.

Am I wrong to go no-contact with my mother if we can't find common ground on this? Am I wrong for thinking he's creepy?

My brother who is 6 years old, has an unknown mental illness. He wants attention at the highest level and gets very aggressive. My parents do not know how to deal with him at this point. My mom is a stay at home mom, because he's very hard to deal with and my stepdad is working from 9-5. He doesn't know a lot about this type of thing and I want to help but I don't know how. We've had multiple therapists and evaluations on my brother saying he is not autistic, but there are big signs. If you know anything of what we can do, please let me know. We've been told he has dyspraxia.

Thanks.

TL:DR My brother who is on the spectrum has anger issues and is tearing my family apart. I want to help or possibly get him out of the house to a treatment center.

Uh so for like 2 years my parents have been angry even once trying to hit me with a glass I am a 14M rn and now I just ARGUED with her cus I didn't know what to do when my teach didn't organize the files and she is yelling at me saying fix it,what do I do?

So for some background, I am the youngest of 4 kids. My mom is raising us alone since my dad died and she has always had favorites for as long as I can remember. I have two brothers (26, and 23) of which she has her favorite, the older one. She makes the younger one pay rent while the eldest stays rent free because he won't get a job after his messy divorce(7 or 8 years ago). And as for the Favoritism towards my twin, she has been favoriting her since about 7 or 8 years ago when I had some severe anger issues. Anytime I even raise my voice at my twin my mom defends her, even if I am in the right. I don't know what to do in this situation because anytime I bring it up they say I am the problem and bring up things about my personality that I have been trying to fix. Any Advice?

I'm posting here to get this off my chest and maybe get some perspective

So, my family is pretty small. It’s just me (24F), my sister (28F), my brother (30M), and our mom (60F). Our dad passed away when I was 9, and we have no real connection with extended family since we live in another country. So, it’s been the four of us for a long time. We’re very close and have always had each other’s backs.

A few years ago, my brother got married. At first, everything was great. We all genuinely liked his wife and welcomed her into our tight little circle. It felt like we gained a big sister, and for the first year, things were peaceful.

We lived in two separate apartments that were connected by a door, and it gave us all enough space to coexist comfortably. But after my nephew (now 2) was born, we decided to move into a bigger house one with shared living spaces but private rooms and bathrooms. We agreed it would just be for one year.

That’s when everything started falling apart.

At first, my sister in law (SIL) seemed visibly unhappy about the move, but we thought she’d adjust. Instead, she started acting more and more hostile. The snide comments began under the guise of "jokes" but they were always directed at me, my sister, or my mom. We tried to play along at first or respond with light comments to let her know they weren’t funny, but they kept getting worse.

One day, she made a passive aggressive remark to my sister that was basically calling her a whore, not in those exact words, but there was no other way to interpret it. That was the moment things shifted.

It wasn’t just the comments. She started yelling at my mom during disagreements something none of us ever expected. My mom is a strong, firm woman, not someone who gets walked over easily. For someone to speak to her like that was beyond shocking.

We’ve tried talking to my SIL privately and calmly so many times. But every time, she deflects, gets defensive, or turns it around and claims we’re ganging up on her. She says she feels “alone” and “threatened” by our bond as a family and that we misunderstand her. When my brother is present, she often downplays her behavior or apologizes. But the moment he’s gone, it starts again.

What hurts most is that my brother seems to buy into her version of things. He keeps telling us, “She didn’t mean it,” or “You’re taking it too seriously.” I get that he’s stuck in the middle, especially with a toddler in the mix, but it feels like our concerns are brushed off as silly drama.

To be clear there have been a lot of smaller and bigger incidents over the last couple of years too many to list here. If I sat down and wrote them all out, it would take hours. But each one chipped away at the peace and respect we once had in the house.

I’ve tried to let things go so many times just to keep the peace. But today something happened that was my braking point i guess.

It was her week to clean the kitchen. Before dinner, it was still messy, so we asked her if she could tidy up the counter so we could cook. She flatly said she only cleans once before bed. When we insisted it needed to be cleaned now, she got defensive and said, “It’s just a couple of pans, couldn’t you have cleaned them yourself?” (It wasn’t.)

When my mom reminded her that it was her turn that week, she got nasty, mocking us by saying we only started caring about cleanliness during her week, and used very rude, dismissive words the kind no one should ever say to their mother in law.

That argument ended with everyone walking away to their rooms. My brother is out of town on a business trip until Friday, and I don’t know how we’re going to get through the rest of the week.

I'm exhausted. I'm sick of walking on eggshells. I'm tired of her narcissistic behavior and how she manipulates my brother into thinking we're exaggerating and the bad guys.

My question is:
Can we ever go back to the peace we had before? Is there even a chance?
What made her suddenly change like this? Is there anything left to try?

I don’t know how much longer I can live like this. If anyone has been through something similar, please share what helped or even if it didn’t. I just need to know I’m not going crazy

Let's help out my daughter have the best birthday ! (: god bless you all!

So, im 14. Soon to come, ill have to choose a parent to live with. I've made up what i want to do, i want to live with my father. However, my mom keeps begging me to not saying a single bad thing about her, to lie about where she works, what shes does, etc.

she is always asking "am i a bad mom?", which she isnt. she always says "do you want to live with me?", and i know if i say "no, id like to live with dad", she would lash out, say "nooo hes a bad person" (<- or something similar, more of so go on a 20 minute rant about how my father is "a narcissist", "abuser", and "a drunk". Which none of those are true as of recent.)

So why would i live with my father if shes not a bad mom? Well, one simple reason, my dad is a better parent in general. He keeps things clean, doesn't smoke (inside the house, at least. Even then its not often), he interacts with BOTH me and my sister, and just so much more.

I got to stay with my dad around late november/early december last year. And i asked to extend the days like 3 times because i was actually enjoying being around him. Usually, i dont go out of my room at my moms house, its always a mess as well. But at my dads, i was out of my room most of the time,hanging out with everyone. I got to introduce my dad to Jujitsu Kaisen as well, and he wasnt on his phone one singular time, and we both watched it. When the ads came on, we talked about what had just happened. It was a good experience. I loved every second of it. When i was there, i was finally able to open up to him, tell him what was going on.

My mom has done some..decently bad things, as for example. She gave both me and my sister (my sister was 9) a CBD gummy, now this isnt the WORST thing in the world, but she lied to both of us, she told my sister it was a melatonin gummy, and she told me it would help with pain (i was suffering from tonsillitis at the time). Shes also a stripper, she leaves at about 5-6pm and doesnt come back till usually 8AM. Meaning i have to get myself up for school. Something else is that, shes really toxic. She makes me feel minuscule. Like everything i do is not enough. I cant talk to her because she will just yell at me about it, she never takes responsibility for anything, and always believes shes in the right. Shes embarrassing to be around, and shows close to no respect in public, she puts this fake nice persona on for random people, but proceeds to lash out in the car. and she favors my sister over me, doing things with my sister, getting her food, taking her places, while she barely does anything with me. She smokes weed in the house, and it is OUT and ABOUT. Not hidden whatsoever.

My father is the complete opposite. He used to drink, thats about all the bad things i gotta say. He doesnt drink, he doesnt smoke inside, and all he smokes is cigarettes. Hes kind, he feels safe to be around. Like someone i can actually trust, unlike my mom. He treats both me and my sister equally, always asking if we want to go somewhere, and if one of us says no, he gives us time to think about it and change our mind. He buys us things, not spoiling us, but he buys us things. My mother rarely buys us things, and when she does, 90% of the time its for my sister and not me. My dad treats me like a real human being. My mom treats me like im 7 god damn years old. My dad is a better parent in all, and i want to stay with him. Im scared of telling my mom that because shes gonna lash out, then try and guilt trip me by fake crying. She also has a new boyfriend (who, not to mention, is 19! shes 35!). I dont know what to do at this point.

Hi, I'm a father of 3 kids and 2 cats. I have not been able to work due to a medical condition called cyclical vomiting syndrome. I'm in the process of getting disability but it takes so long we are about to lose the roof over our heads. We are trying to raise money for re t and electricity. If you can help or know anyone that can. https://gofund.me/edf6c539 is our gofund me. Anything helps us keep the roof over our heads.

Today my aunt kicked me out because I started talking to my dad again and got a new cat so my current one wouldn't be alone while I was at work trying to support both me and my cat I pay for myself and everything the only thing I don't do is pay rent I've been living with her the past 2 years and not once has she done anything for me I've been living off of $400 a month trying to support myself and now I have to move across country to live with my possibly still abusive dad all because I got a cat and was talking to my dad what do I do I'm so scared I'm currently with my best friend but I leave Friday she also gets 900 a month for me because I lived with her when I aged out of foster care and idk how to stop the money from going to her since she made me sign a form for the money to go to her instead of me I'm 18 with less than $100 to my name

I (26f) was the only one home the night my mom left our family, besides our dad. My dad found out that my mom had been cheating on him.. for YEARS. I heard the argument. I heard the clicker fall. I heard my mom cry and my dad scream that he wanted to kill himself. My mom left the next morning. She continued to see the man she cheated on my dad with until she passed away when I was 20, one month before my 21st birthday. My oldest sister lived with my mom before she got sick, and because she went to college close by she stayed with her until she passed. I was forced to continue school while my mom had cancer and even after she had passed. I am positive my oldest sister portrays herself as my mother favorite daughter to my mom’s side of the family, and ever since her passing they have shut me out. I have tried to explain my feelings to them about wanting to be apart of the family and it always seems to be that I am the villain for choosing to live far away. I work on weekends and can’t make it to a lot of family events. I love my family, but the energy I put out just for them to accept me as their family is exhausting and I am nearly done with trying. I just know that if my mom were alive she would be furious. I don’t know what to do anymore.

Hello. Any pointers would be greatly appreciated. I'm afraid I have no idea what to do anymore or if I was ever in the right. I'll jump right in. My question really boils down to should I continue letting my mom back into my life or is it still okay to shut everything down.

History of : My mom and I have never really gotten along. When I was a child... my mom was on the computer talking to people around the globe while my sister and I mainly grew up in our elementary years with my grandpa. At one point, I got appendicitis. She told me I was faking it and was fine. My grandpa told her to get off her butt and take me to the hospital or he would. During that time, I was hospitalized for two weeks. I am not really sure why that long. I was in second grade at the time. The doctor said I made it by the grace of God. I don't remember much more. In fifth grade my mom announced that we were moving 7 hours north to these people she met online and starting over. My dad (here on out referred to as David), went ballistic. It came out that he had a girlfriend and a lot of other things... but anyway... She took us up to these people and we lived in their house for almost 2 years while her and David fought several states apart. Anyway, at some point, he finally followed us up to where we were living now. After a few years of misery, while my mom got lost in her friendship with these people, he got another girlfriend close to where we had originally lived... and moved down to her. I, as a stupid teenager tired of my moms never ending church attitude, decided that I was going to follow him despite everything that he had put us through up to that point. Needless to say, I went into foster care three months into 10th grade. After my mom found out, she dropped everything and picked me up. I have to give her that. I thought this was a turning point for us. I moved in with her right before Christmas and my 17th birthday. As a 17 year old, I was not allowed out of her apartment parking lot. She took my entire wardrobe in front of her church and told them to get rid of everything ungodly. We weren't allowed to watch tv or do practically anything. On that note though, she was a church hopper. She would use the church resources up until they caught on and then go somewhere else. My sister had never left her side during all of this. They became very close where as I was not trusted because I could not conform. I would sneak out ... she would call the cops... they would bring me home. She would sit on me. The cycle repeated itself. Finally, trying to get out, I met a guy at night school while trying to get my diploma. I was a complete idiot. I had never had sex before and quickly found myself pregnant within like two months of our dating. I was looking for any way out possible and he took advantage... It's not like I had any sense. He was my supposed knight in shining arm. Anyway, unbeknownst to me at the time, his mom told him to marry me or else. Back to my mom, she came to the wedding to tell me that she always thought that "Shirley" (my one friend that I had made when we first moved up there, the daughter of the people my mom befriended), would be the whore, but like usual I proved her wrong, and my marriage was doomed. After that, she turned around and left. Skip to two kids later... and my then husband and my marriage having been dead for years, but my being scared to death of him or the idea of a divorce... him having told me numerous times that he married me to get his mom off his back and couldn't stand the sight of me unless he was high... my mom sort of being in the picture off and on. I moved back in with her on several occasions especially at points where I was trying to let him cool down. She did let me. Finally, in a last ditch effort to appease my husband, and after finding out that I was very straight and couldn't handle sharing a bed with him and someone else, I gave him permission to have a girlfriend. One day he came home and told me that between the two of us we made one perfect woman. Something in me snapped. I kicked him out. After coming home from work one day, I found out he got back into the house. I tried to appease him. I got tied to a kitchen chair and beat the f*ck out of as our two year old son watched. When he finally let me go, I tried to run out of the house. He said he wasn't stupid and he was going to let me go hoping I had learned my lesson, but I had better change my clothes. I did... like a good little girl. I then scooped up our kids and walked out of the house. To this day, I don't know why or how he let me go. That was just the end of a very very turmultuous marriage. I had no friends. He wouldn't allow it... So I walked all the way to his girlfriends house and begged her to let me use her phone. I didn't know what to do... I didn't trust the police. I had learned as a teenager running from David not to just walk up to anyones' house. And I was in a complete daze. She was the only one I could think of that I could possibly walk to with two toddlers. I called my mom at that point. She gave me information for several homeless shelters in my area. I sucked up my feelings, went home when I knew my ex would be gone, packed what I could fit into the car, and drove to my moms. I dared her on her front door with my kids in front of me to send us away. We camped in her living room for a year. I paid her rent and because at the time I had been on foodstamps, I put all of the food into the house. She insisted she was on a special diet and needed certain very expensive foods... Two different times, she told me they raised her rent and I needed to pay it. At one point I broke down and told her I couldn't afford Christmas for my two kids and didn't know what to do. She told me that I needed to be more thankful and my brother needed a new playstation which I should get him for helping to watch my kids while I worked. I found out later from my sister that our mom was going out all of the time with my kids and introducing them as hers. I met a guy at work who helped me get away from her... he wasn't a good person either... but at the time, I put my entire faith in him. As soon as my ex-husband found out there was a guy in his kids lives he re-appeared. A 6 year court battle ensued. At one point, my mom and exmominlaw walked into court on each of my ex-husbands arms. They both testified on my exs behalf in court. My sister later told me that the plan was to get me out of the picture and then when my exhusband got tired of the kids, the grandmas would effectively take custody. I cut my mom completely off at that point. A few months later, I emailed her asking why she would do such a thing. Her only answer was that I took it wrong and she was afraid I was never going to let her see the kids again. She denied all of my grievances all the way back to saying I was remembering wrong in the second grade and that my grandpa had called me a good actor and not sick and she had been panicking to take me to the doctor. I didn't talk to her for years. All of that aside, I finally got away from that last boyfriend after some things that finally opened my eyes woke me up. I moved 5 hours away to where my sister had moved. She has kept my mom at arms length, but in her life this entire time. At some point my mom found a husband and had seemed like a different person even if she is still super about herself. She started giving my sister birthday money and then christmas money to give to me and my kids. After a year and a half of this, I started feeling like a complete jerkwad for accepting her husbands money... so I got her number off my sister and texted her. We have slowly been talking since. She will occasionally say things like how they asked all of their kids to take these certain things when they die and everyone said no ... so now they want to ask me to take the few things everyone else snubbed their noses at. I don't actually want anything from either of them... but at the time agreed to this. Later the part where it was stuff no one else wanted and I was the last to be asked hit me, but when I asked my sister, she doesn't want to be in the middle so she shut the conversation down. My sister actually had her credit stolen by our mom. She came into adulthood severely in debt. She has just really been able to turn her life around these last few years, but says she cant die knowing she cut our mother off. I feel like I made a huge mistake. I wish I had the money to just give back to them and then just walk away. This isn't even the entire story.... just the gist of hers and my relationship. No one in my life can understand why I can't just let it go and allow her into my life. I don't trust her. I think it's all an act with her husband and I find that my blood boils when my youngest calls her grandma. I couldn't even go to the bathroom when we went out to dinner one day because I was afraid to leave her with my youngest and that somehow the conversation would put me in a predicament where I wouldn't be able to take my youngest with me without being the bad guy. Yes, her husband paid for my dinner that night... I feel like worse and worse for those sorts of things, but then when I try to get out of going so money doesn't get spent on me... it gets seen through and I'm told they just want me to go... I say all of this, because clearly I am not an angel in this. I feel guilty as heck for accepting their money, but feel like I am completely in the wrong if I dare to walk away from this at this point without handing them a wad of cash. ...which I don't have. Like my fridge died at the beginning of summer and I lost everything and was panicking and they gave me $70 to buy some food. I feel ungrateful on so many levels, but at the same time something in me is screaming that letting her into my life is a very very bad idea. I don't know what to do.

My dad went through shit all his life and has always tried to come out the other side better than before. He's great. He's supported me through all my endeavors, all my hardship, even my terrible teems He's stayed with me through it all.

The problem is my mom. Or more like my relationship with my mom. We don't get along at all. I wouldn't be surprised if she came up to me today and said "I wish I had an abortion. " I don't like her, she doesn't like me. My dad lost his mom a couple years back and I can see that it hurts to see how we act towards each other knowing he never got to say goodbye to his. He'll try to fix things between us but if anything it just leaves us worse than before. It's gone so far that I'm planning a very far away college just to be away from her. I don't want to leave him with her though, so I haven't truly decided on a college.

I wish I could show him that there's no changing my relationship with my mom and that he should save his mental energy on trying. :[

I have been estranged from my family, member by member, for the past few years. I worry every day what I will say when I get the call when one of them passes. Does anyone have any advice? I do have a cousin who I have been in touch with that said she would help as she knows and understands the greater family mental health issues- should I consider going to the meetings after a family member dies and taking her - she said she would accompany me if needed. I am a worrier and this future situation weighs on my mind almost daily.

So my mother and my sister can be toxic. They have proven time and time again that my happiness and relationships outside of the family are below secondary compared to their lives. I plan on talking to both of them separately (my sister lives In another province) about their behaviour and their attitudes and how it is affecting my life and my relationship with my partner. I want them to know that it’s not ok to undermine my happiness just because they don’t like someone or don’t see things the same way as myself or my partner. It’s gotten to the point where my partner doesn’t feel comfortable spending time with my family and it is stressing my partner out. My partner has talked to me numerous times about having this conversation with them but I have been holding off on it because I am terrified of the reaction and retaliation my family will have against this. Don’t get me wrong I love my family because well, they’re my family but I have realized that I need to do have this talk. I want things to be ok and to have them treat the ones I love like they are welcome. Both are stubborn and they know they are but they will deny it and stand by their denial. It sucks because they make me feel guilty all the time. Does anyone have advice on how I can handle this?

I’m 16 and I’ve lived with my married parents my whole life. I have an ok relationship with my mom but if I had a choice I’d be as far away from my father as possible. When I was younger (until I was probably 11 or 12) my dad would always push me around and he’d hit me sometimes and just scream and laugh at me. He hasn’t done it in a while because I’ve gotten a lot bigger and trained through school and with friends so he knows now that I wouldn’t let him hit me. He constantly steals my stuff whether it’s money or tools or something else and perpetually lies to our whole family. I can never ask him for my stuff back or confront him because he blows up and gets in my face and yells at me about how I’m worthless and I never do anything and how stupid I am. I’ve had two jobs already and I’m working about 20 hours a week with school and sports. There is not a single bit of trust in my parents relationship to the point where they have trackers on their phones to know where each other are at every second. If my mom goes anywhere near a grocery store she gets cussed out by my dad and he’ll threaten her sometimes. Every time there’s an argument he has to make the point that he’s the only one that makes money in this house so everything is his and he can do whatever he wants (he never went to college and has worked his whole life at a restaurant while my mom went through grad school to be a teacher but joined a non-profit instead). He’s walked out on our family multiple times when he doesn’t get what he wants and goes to do who knows what. I fell into a really bad period of depression throughout middle school and the start of high school and I still have really bad issues with anxiety. I hurt myself and at one point had tried to kill myself because I couldn’t deal with all the issues with my family and my school anymore. During all of this my parents hadn’t cared a bit and I don’t believe my father has ever asked me if something was wrong a single time in my life. The most recent incident was just a day ago. I just bought my truck and took out a 4000 loan from my bank. I guess he figured that since he co-signed for me since I’m a minor he can just do whatever he wants or something like that so he gave himself a key to my truck and my parents took it while I was at a movie with my friends. I got home after the movie and as calmly as I could told my dad I don’t appreciate him taking my truck and that was all I had said before he started yelling at my mom and I and saying how it doesn’t matter what I want it think. I don’t even remember what all happened because I went somewhere else to get away. He walked out again and left my mom crying alone. He snuck back in sometime around 3 in the morning and yelled at me again as soon as he was up. My mom would probably leave him but I think she’s just afraid of him and worried that she wouldn’t be able to pay to live anywhere and have food for us if they were divorced. So I guess I’m just wondering if there’s any resources that would help me or my mom or a way that I could get away from my dad or my family. I live in Minnesota for reference to resources and laws.

Hello Everyone,

This is a situation that my entire family knew would probably become a problem, but for many years no one had any idea about what to do about it. So, for my entire life my uncle has lived with my grandmother and grandfather. Every time we would go see my grandparents my uncle would rant and yell at my mom (his sister) and dad. When I was very young he got in several fights with my dad, who would eventually take off in his truck and go back to our house. My uncle is very paranoid and easy to set off like a bomb. For as long as my grandparents were alive it was always walking on eggshells when we went to visit them because any second my uncle could come in to the living room and explode (usually on my parents).

Fast forward two decades; both of my grandparents eventually past away, with my grandmother passing very recently. My uncle has never had a job or any kind of livelihood and he is in his mid 50's. Since he has no way to make money he has now become a parasite on my mother...she can't stop giving him bags of grocery food and money. My dad even goes over to his house (my grandparent's old house) to fix things like the lawn mower, sink, and bathtub.

I keep telling my mom and dad to cut him off, but I think they feel like he a disabled or has a personality disorder and can't live without assistance. I began researching how to get disability in Texas and they list requirements like crippling anxiety and "seclusion" and I really think he is a candidate for this kind of help. He literally ran out of money this week and for the first time in 20 years drove to my parent's house for help. He is only thankful for help when he is desperate, but the next day hes back to "normal" as an explosive bomb...HE STILL TREATS THEM LIKE SHIT, and needless to say... this pisses me off even more. His paranoia has grown to the point where he thinks everyone is always stealing from him. He refuses to see a doctor - he hung up the phone when my mom suggested it to him. He hasn't been to the dentist in 40 years. He doesn't even want the city to come out to his house and take his trash.... it's truly insane.

Thanks in advance for any advice. I just want my parent's out of this mess, forever.

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I uhh well have a cousin who is very very very good looking she’s a year older then me. I have had feelings for her for a while. But not regular feeling like I want to date her I mean sexual feelings. I have actually jerked off yo her many times. With and with out panties. I need serious help. She knows I look at her I just can’t stop looking at her in school at home etc.

I don't know where to exactly post this because this is my first day on reddit but I really need some insight about a problem I'm going through and I've looked through reddit for questions related to me before. I am a 20 year old college female who commutes from their parents house to school during the school year. My parents are funny, and open people. I do not have anything against them, I do love my parents and family. But for some reason I can't stand to be around my parents for a long time. I start to get frustrated and sometimes we just get into arguments that I didn't want to be a part of in the first place. I go out half the week while the other half I deal with staying inside with my parents. My parents don't like the idea that I go out frequently because they want me to be home. I used to be like that. During my high school years, I never went out, ever. I always went to school and went straight back home all the time. Going out was really rare. But now that I am in college, I came to realize I can't stand to do that anymore. Let alone stay for a week straight at home. My parents want to see me more, and I do love them, but I can't do that. I don't know why I feel this way, I still do care and love my parents. I just want to know if anyone else has been through the same thing or has anything to say about this. It would help a lot because it's giving me a lot of stress. Thanks

Family issues / please help!

So let me start this by explaining the living situation we live with my GFs family her grandparents and they let their son run the place because they are older and not all there it’s like they have dementia or something not really sure. It is kind of family compound but Grandparents it’s their property. The son lives next to us, but not on the property. Son has things on the property animals/buildings etc.

We are not going to stay here long term. I am in college and will be graduating next year. Gf is trying to get into police academies which we don’t know when that will happen. We want to have some financial security/decent paying jobs before we leave. We also pay rent $800 a month. Normal apartments in the area $2000 and up we wouldn’t be able to afford it rn. We do not have a written agreement with grandparents about anything.

So gf and me wanted to trim some trees, we asked for permission. We went to do it, got worried we were gonna cut a branch too close to the power line so we asked grandparents. Instead of just getting a yes or no they took over. They ended up trimming more trees than what we discussed with the son. I was texting/calling the son asking what to do because I knew they would be upset and I wanted the grandparents to stop. My gf and I told the grandparents to wait for permission on the other trees. But the son did not answer so I did not know what to do. When they got home, everything blew up.

The son is being very angry and pretty much giving us a bunch of demands now and changing the rules. It feels like bullying. He is blaming us for the trees all being cut, when we just wanted clarification on the one tree which was already agreed upon to be trimmed. The son says it’s our fault because we got the gps involved.

Now he is saying for us move out. They are saying they are gonna tear down animal builds my gf and me worked on building and spent the money on. They want us to get rid of our animals off the property. I don’t want either of these things to happen that’s what I care about most right now. They even had me remove the tree I planted over my dead animal again on the grandparents property not theirs, but gps won’t back us up, letting what the son says goes, and we get to take the whole brunt of it.

I mentioned to grandparents I wanted to talk about the animals and the buildings we put up on the property. All of the buildings and animals were given permission to be here on time or another. But the son messaged me and said that if I want to talk about it or complain to them I can leave. I don’t know if I should actually sit down and try to talk to grandparents and come to an agreement (hopefully written) about me and gf staying here and the animals and enclosures. I dont know if that would make it worse because the son said not to?

The son called me a bunch of names like entitled, privileged, playing victim, and the mastermind etc. They blocked me after I said to let my gf know if he needs anything / text her because I need some time to calm down before I could talk about the situation. Now I can’t even talk to them about it now once I have calmed down.

Am I immature? Is there someway to handle this better? How do I deal with this? I am so lost and upset. I really don’t want my animals or their enclosures to have to leave!

Summary: My girlfriend and I live on her grandparents’ property, but their son mostly controls things because the grandparents are older. We got permission to trim one tree, but when we became worried about cutting near a power line and asked the grandparents for clarification, they took over and trimmed additional trees without the son’s approval. We tried to stop them and contacted the son for guidance, but he did not respond until after everything escalated. Now he is blaming us for all the trees being cut, making new demands, saying they will tear down our animal setups, telling us to remove our animals, and calling me names, while the grandparents are not standing up to him even though it is their property. I need guidance please!

I’m a teen and we have two dogs that fight constantly, this time it happened right in front of me and I felt so sad and upset. One of our dogs is a pit rot mix and the other is like a mix that was breed to kill wolfs (I don’t know the exact breed) but when they fought the pit rot got a chunk of his leg torn out and I’m scared that he might not make it. The other dog is fine but otherwise he is the sweetest little baby. My dad doesn’t want to put them up for adoption, my parents are divorced and every week I have to be at his house and I hear the dogs fight all weekend long and it’s scary, I constantly feel like I’m going to be in the crossfire one of these days and I don’t know how to cope since all of my friends are at school.

For context, I'm a type of person to keep to myself so I lock my door so no one can disturb me as no offense my brother is annoying and we were supposed to share this room but he is too scared to sleep away from our parents so he sleeps in their room. So having this room to myself, I thought "wow, my own room" as we recently moved in. Because in our old home, our entire family shared a room to save space and money. But now, I could get my own space to think. Is what you'd think... Suddenly my room, my private space​​​​​​ becomes the room most of my family goes in because my parents decided it would be a good idea to store most of our things in. So my room is quit literally 60% room and 40% storage. Because everyone kept barging in I started to lock my door so I at least have to give them permission to come in. Oh I forgot to mention this but they don't knock at all, they just barge in, ask for the stuff they stored in my room, and get out​​. But when I lock the door, they have to ask to come in and I unlock it as locking my door at least teaches them to knock,right? Idk I'm just doing whatever too keep my private space. Then not even a month of me starting to lock my door, they bring in the key to my room to use so that they can unlock it when I lock it. At first I thought it was my fault because I'm keeping to myself and pushing myself out to the point where they have to force themselves into my space. But thinking about it, isn't it wrong? Idk someone tell me because I don't think this is ok​​​​

I am the youngest of 4 and my siblings ages are 36, 30, 31. They are having kids and getting married and buying houses and I am a 20 year old college student trying to navigate finding myself and things like that. I feel disconnected from them and nobody seems to care about me. Nobody in my family makes me feel important and the only people that really make me feel important and make me a priority are my grandmother and men I’ve dated. I desire closeness with my biological family and I have felt family like closeness with my friends but how can I get through thanksgiving dinner? Everyone will have their partners and kids and it’s just me. And I don’t want to rush any of my relationships and bring them to thanksgiving so im just riding solo for Thanksgiving. Any advice about getting through tonight? My plan so far is to take my anxiety medicine and to have my AirPods and jewelry to fidget with.

Hello I’m a 20f who’s not in the best situation right now, I’ve always had a rocky relationship with my mother starting in my high school years she would be the reason I was depressed and I was finally so excited to get away from that when she first kicked me out over a dress I couldn’t zip on her birthday… but after my first landlord stalking me and almost being evicted from my second apartment with my cousin be he didn’t tell the landlord about my dog when he said he did I ended up back with my mother it was ok for a while I started a long term relationship with my bf 21m and he moved in with me and my mom she has no issues with him she absolutely loves him but recently she’s just been really putting me down she is a fitness coach a vegetarian and very health conscious she knows I’m not but consistently brings me things is eat and shows me the ingredients to tell me how unhealthy I am she also tries to pressure me into going on walks I have no issue with walks but I just don’t wanna go with her honestly and every time I say no she throws a fit like a child and tells me to come on at least 15 times before saying ok fine since ur making me go alone and then leaves she also loves to set boundaries with me about things like the dishes fine but when I say no to helping her with a workout or something else I don’t rly wanna do she doesn’t care and tries to pressure me anyways now she is saying I’m being withdrawn and she’s worried but somehow cannot see how she is the reason I’m withdrawn but I’m scared to say anything in fear of being kicked out again any advice is appreciated and thanks for reading my rant

hi am a 12 year old girl and honestly I feel like i shouldnt be having to deal with this and have thought about unaliving myself multiple times and i was hoping to find the right community for help. My grandma is very rude and body shames me and my siblings all of the time. I have ADHD and love to read right? Pretty legal. And we have a shared lake house that we go to every summer for the 4th of july. And i am just sitting in the family room reading my book. And out of no where she just says "you know i have never understood why people read books i have never been able to read because of my terrible eyesight. And quite frankly I think its weird to love it the way some ppl do" She says stuff like this all the time and i need help moving foward. Sorry if this isnt the thing i should be posting in here if it isnt and i cant find help here does anyone have any suggestions?