I like to think that this sub passes very little judgment, and I KNOW that this sub is very helpful. However, please remember that this sub is all the more successful when we keep paying the kindness forward. If you receive something from this sub, please make sure that if it's not worn out, it comes back here to be passed on again! I realize money is often a trouble, but I guaratee someone else who's concerned about money would rather pay you $20 shipping for the wardrobe of outgrown kid's clothes you have in your closet than $150 on a new one. It's back to school season right now, too, which means we should see a flood of posts of old wardrobes as kids get new ones. But we're not. :(

I think in order to make sure we're giving as well as receiving I'm going to start some new flair in here. Stay tuned; I'll have to think of a system! :)

As always everyone who contributes here has just oodles of appreciation and adoration from me and the rest of the community. Thank you for all the positivity here. :)

http://imgur.com/a/JPYZ4

(Sorry my husband is world's worst photographer)

I would like to say THANK YOU to everyone who sent things for my son. My husband and I are so grateful for everything we received and it has made us even more excited to get him out here in January. You guys are the absolute best, and it warms my heart to see there are still some amazing people in the world willing to help others in need. Keep doing what you're doing, guys! Thank you so so much!

I have notified and heard back from who was voted for the baby shower. Lunar3 will be receiving the baby shower!!! I have already talked to her and she is excited! She has started an Amazon Wishlist and is still adding some items onto the Wishlist.

Here is the link for the Wishlist: http://www.amazon.com/registry/baby/ZFQMI6N1F0L3

If you have items that you want to send or are going to be picking up something from a store feel free to message me and I can give you shipping information. Let's try to have everything shipped by February 15 so that she can open everything at once and post pictures. Once you have shipped your item(s) please PM me and let me know so that I can let her know when to open and post pictures of everything.

Lunar3 will be posting in the comments here a little bit more about her and the baby.

Thank you for all those who are participating!!

The title pretty much says it all. I originally posted in r/assistance. You can see the full story here: http://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/237s6k/a_friend_of_mine_was_killed_by_a_drunk_police/

The cop that caused the accident is being charged with negligent homicide, but quite frankly that doesn't pay the bills. My heart breaks when I realize how little I can do, but I've seen reddit perform miracles. If anyone needs one, it's her.

To all moms, grandmas, aunts, stepmothers, adoptive mothers and any other female caring for any child or children.....Happy Mother's Day to you all! I hope your day is full of love, happiness, laughs and you make memories to last a lifetime. Kids grow so fast, those of you with small ones....cherish them, the time flies and they'll be thinking they're grown and independent before you know it! Wishing you all a wonderful day, now and everyday!

/U 0hn035 posted here wanting to send a box to an expecting mother. I received the box today and OMG. I am so overwhelmed by the generosity. I am so touched that someone would take the time and effort to do this for a complete stranger. The items I was given are all things that I needed and can use. I am most excited for the mobile she sent because it actually matches my nursery and I don't have one yet!

http://imgur.com/Y1Ulxkg

THANK YOU SO MUCH! You've made my entire week! <3<3<3<3<3<3<3

I'd like to buy a Christmas gift or two for a little one. All my Christmas shopping is done, and I received a little unexpected bonus from work that I wasn't expecting. I'd prefer to do it through amazon, so if you aren't able to get something for your kiddo this year, please let me know and we'll chat.

edit: I've got a few kids to sponsor. Thanks guys!

We had unprecedented responses in our thread asking for volunteers to participate in sending items for a September baby shower. That thread can be found here. If you did not respond to the original thread, but would like to volunteer to send an item, please post there! I will be contacting everyone directly when voting for the recipient has finished.

So, here's how it'll work. Rules first:

1. To enter, you must enter yourself. We will not count votes if someone else posted for you. You must be an active redditor, not on a Scam list, and have been active on Reddit for at least one month. If you would prefer to post anonymously, please send me a PM with your typical user name and I will post for you.

2. In order to enter please leave a post in this thread. Explain your situation and why you may not be getting a baby shower in the real world (second child, far away from family, nobody able, can't stretch your budget quite enough, etc). Per the sidebar, please feel free to explain your situation, but remember nobody likes to feel guilty. It is not a competition for the saddest situation. Posting here just means you might need a little help you won't receive elsewhere and there is no threshold for needing the "most" help.

3. Submissions will end 3 days from now: Monday the 11th at 10pm EST. (aka, when I go to bed...) Then, I will post a voting thread with directions on how the sub users who want to help throw the shower can vote for their pick to receive the shower.

Details for Entrants:

We probably won't be able to help with the bigger ticket items, but my hope is that if we can help with some of the smaller ones, we can free up that income to you to purchase the necessary elements.

How you want to gain the most votes is up to you; humor, story, asking your fellow redditors for help in your favorite subs, etc. It is always a gamble about what you will receive or how many people will contribute. No matter what though, you will receive a baby gift from me!

After the winner is selected, you will be asked to verify your info, likely with a picture of your new baby belly or an ultrasound, create a registry on amazon, and we will ask that you create a thread with pictures of you opening the items on a specific date. You will be asked to share your address with the moderators, as many may send items they have on hand, and in the past some users have even sewn blankets or made teddy bears. If you are not comfortable sharing your address, I suggest you do not submit. If you are chosen to win and you cannot provide proof of pregnancy, we will move on to the runner up. This date will likely be a weekend day in mid-September. I humbly request to whoever is chosen...please be willing to pass on applicable items through this reddit when your baby has outgrown their need of them.

This thread is to submit yourself for a shower, not to send an item.

I'm struggling right now and would really appreciate some diapers for my girls. My daughters are 1 and a half and 6 months old, they came pretty much back to back. I have diapers and wipes and clothes on their wishlist. Here is my babies http://imgur.com/a/9Bypx Here is their wishlist http://amzn.com/w/389XVUWCJDFOH Thank you

EDIT: also if anyone has any clothes that would fit my girls I'd be appreciative.

First of all, thank you guys for making this Baby Shower one of the most interactive we've had in the sub. I've had more comments, PMs, and wishes to contribute than ever before.

That said, /u/sunsetdreamer was our winner this time around, with a very close runner up in /u/SillyLilyButt.

So, from here on out, the work relies on us! I've had /u/sunsetdreamer create an Amazon wishlist, and we've partnered to select the date of Saturday, September 20th for her date to post her Baby Shower Thread, where she opens her gifts all at once. Thus, please make sure anything you are sending arrives sufficiently before this date so it can be included. I would suggest a shipping date of no later than Monday, September 15th. That should give us four weeks to get everything together.

Here is the wishlist she has put together on Amazon. The wishlist does not mean that you may only send items from here; I have her address and you may contact me directly if you would prefer to send something personally. You may send gently used items, extra items, and items not on the list if you think she would like them. If you send an item that is a similar alternative to something on her wishlist, please remember to go to her Amazon list and select "Buying this item elsewhere?" which will allow you to mark it as purchased without buying from Amazon.

/u/sunsetdreamer is having a boy!

Second, I had more than a few people ask me if they could send to multiple people. I've partnered with /u/SillyLilyButt as well, who has also created a wishlist and for whom I also have contact information. By no means should you feel obligated to participate in both, but if you'd like to her wishlist is Here and the same dates & suggestions will apply as above. Lily is having a boy!

My last request is that if you are participating, could you let me know when you have shipped an item and to who? I try to keep track of everything so I can make sure it all shows up!

It works so well! That was a super fast delivery as well! Thank you so much for this, it really means a lot.

THIS THREAD IS ONLY TO STATE IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN SENDING SOMETHING. IT IS NOT TO BE CHOSEN FOR THE SHOWER.

I had requests to do these about every 3 months, and that time is coming up, so this is the thread where you can express interest or disinterest. Here's how it works:

The subreddit picks one submission from a redditor who is expecting, needs some help, and probably won't get a baby shower. (Either it's their second kid, but they don't have anything left, or they live far away from family & friends, etc). Then, we just kind of rally around that person and send them stuff. Typically, we have her make a small Amazon list in case folks wanted to purchase some of the specific stuff they needed, and others send extras/used items they have that are still functional. Pretty much, any extras people have laying around. We have an item-sending deadline, then she waits to open all the packages at once so she can experience a baby shower. She takes pictures of every package, then posts them here for us to view & dote. It's just a way to make a new baby a little less scary, but we have to have enough interested participants.

Here are some posts from previous showers:

• Shadlylane85

• Kibure

• Whirledpeas1129

We had pretty good luck with this last time, and if everyone who expressed interest this time pulls through, we should have good luck this time, too.

So, here's how it'll work. Rules first:

1. To enter, you must enter yourself. I will not count votes if someone else posted for you. You must be an active redditor, not on a Scam list, and have been on Reddit for at least one month. If you would prefer to post anonymously, please send me a PM with your typical user name.

2. In order to enter, leave a post in this thread. Explain your situation and why you may not be getting a baby shower in the real world (second child, far away from family, nobody able, can't stretch your budget quite enough, etc). I ask you kindly not to turn this into a sob thread, as we are always happy to help whoever we can, regardless of how sad things are! Posting here just means you might need a little help in the right direction.

3. Upvotes are not votes. In order to vote for a person in this thread, please send me a PM with the name of the person for whom you are voting. You must be an active redditor for at least one month. This is to prevent the creation of accounts in order for voting.

4. Voting will close next Sunday at 10pm EST, aka, when I go to bed!

5. GO!

The details:

We probably won't be able to help with the bigger ticket items, but my hope is that if we can help with some of the smaller ones, we can free up that income to you to purchase the necessary elements.

How you want to gain the most votes is up to you; humor, story, asking your fellow redditors for help in your favorite subs, etc. I am hoping this all goes well and we can help someone in need, but this is a definite gamble. no matter what though, you will receive a baby gift from me!

After the winner is selected, you will be asked to verify your info, likely with a picture of your new baby belly, create a registry on amazon, and we will work together to find a time to schedule a skype shower for everyone who wants to participate, which will most likely be in March in order to give everyone time to get organized. I'll post an rsvp thread and send out einvites. I humbly request to whoever is chosen...please be willing to pass on applicable items through this reddit when your baby has outgrown their need of them

so yea, I've got 2 sets of twin boys.

First pair is 2.4 months years old today, and the 2nd one is only 2 weeks old!!!

I'm from Israel and we will celebrate our version of Halloween on March 2014.

Customs here can get quite expensive (not to mention quite boring),and I am looking to find something fun and light for next year holiday.

I will be very happy to receive good conditon boys customs.

Please contact me on PM if possible.

Thank you.

Lexylophone, OpinionatedSouthern, AlpacaFight, Lunar3, Elle_se_sent_seul, nmkat

I wanted to post a big thank you for things that these people have sent. They were extremely helpful and definitely helped take a load off my shoulders. We were able to get a couple months worth of formula for our son for a TON less than what we would have otherwise. So thank you again! You guys are awesome!!!!

I was planning on hitting the mall to buy my (almost 7 month old) daughter some Fall/Winter clothing, when I decided to peek into r/babyexchange.

I saw a post from rreilly1012, who said she had some clothing available and I just received her package today. She basically outfitted my daughter with her Fall/Winter wardrobe! Such beautiful, well-cared for clothing!

rreilly1012 - I can't thank you enough!!!!! hugs

I love this subreddit!!

Well, as creator of this reddit, I obviously have an obsession with making sure kiddos get their needs met. I would fulfill every request on this reddit myself if I could, but I have limited means and my kid only grows so fast!

When I was pregnant, I had just moved to Las Vegas and knew literally no one. So, I had to fly home to have a baby shower. Which was nice, but also stressful as I was pregnant. In addition to that, I ended spending about as much on that trip as I could have just invested into kiddo items.

This is a very roundabout way of getting to my point, so I'll just get there. There are lots of families in similar situations who don't have the means to fly out for a baby shower or, alternatively, provide everything they need for their little one.

How would /r/Babyexchange feel about a yearly, or monthly, or bi monthly (or something) cyber baby shower for a member in need? It doesn't need to be big, and we could have them register on amazon and host a shower via skype with other redditors to make sure some new babies have at least some of the necessities. Obviously we would need to spend some time verifying the account, etc, but it seems like it would be fun to me.

Then again, it might seem a little crazy to everyone else so... what does /r/BabyExchange think about some screen to screen karma?

Note: voting has closed, I will be making an announcement in the next couple days. Working out details with the winner(s).

Hey all! So we're one step closer to getting this shower off! We had three submissions so far, which I will re-post in the body of this message for ease of reading.

There's just one quick rule for voting: your account must be one month or older, with the exception of /u/babydicristino because she posted in the original thread to send an item. This is to prevent voting fraud with people creating multiple accounts.

In order to vote, please either message the mods, or send a message to /u/0hn035. This keeps votes confidential so that there are no hard feelings.

If you did not sign up to contribute to the shower, but would like to, please feel free to post here. The original thread can be found here with details on how everything goes.

Ok! On to our entrants (posted in the order in which they entered)!

/u/sunsetdreamer

Hello Everyone!

Well, I had written to 0hn035 when I saw the post a few days ago about the baby shower participation. This is the message I inboxed her so instead of re writing it I will share it with you all. I do appreciate you doing this for mothers in need and even if I am not chosen I completely understand the overwhelming gratitude that the mommy to be that is helped out feels. When you're in a bad situation suddenly, the kindness of strangers literally could mean everything in the world. Here is my story.

My baby is due in early February and my husband and I are struggling. He was just laid off indefinitely on July 18th. We already have a 15 month old but have sold most of his things (meaning newborn clothes, pack n play, and a few toys) at a recent mom to mom sale last week just to pay bills and rent. Thankfully, we still have his crib because he is in that now and will be transitioned into toddler bed so baby can have his old crib. We have applied for Unemployment Benefits but have not received a check yet. We also have applied for food assistance and just received the card yesterday.

I work at a local high school but obviously there is no income in the summer. Even when I go back to work it is not going to be nearly enough to save anything for baby (including diapers). Plus, I have a high risk pregnancy and may have to leave my job once it gets later in pregnancy. I am a "lunch lady" and am constantly on my feet, cooking food, or cleaning the tables after the kids are done eating.

My husband has also applied through Unemployment to be able to go back to school while he's collecting it. So he's registered for the EMT program at our local college and will be a licensed EMT by December and hopefully will be set up with a job immediately before baby gets here late January/early February. I would be MORE THAN HAPPY to show ANY proof of this that's requested. I feel like a failure as a parent and a person. We would have never considered having another baby if we knew 3 months into the pregnancy that my husbands job (and main income) would be terminated. I've never been on government assistance before and I feel like I've failed my son and my other child before he/she is even born. My husband is stressing out and it's causing a void of communication in our marriage. Mostly because he feels like he isn't supporting his family as the man of the home and doesn't want me to be upset. It's just a really bad situation which we are hoping will turn into a good one by December/January when he becomes a licensed EMT.

Is anyone out there also married to or friends with an EMT? Can you tell me what to expect after my husband gets his license? I was just wondering if anyone could give him and I some pointers about what to expect or look for. Thank you. I am trying to be optimistic about this. Maybe this sudden career change will be a good thing for our future. I have to think that things always happen for a reason, right?

Again, I would be more than willing to show any proof. Drivers license, Unemployment Verification, Termination Letter, Food Assistance Approval.....anything. Thank you for considering me and thank you for hosting this for someone in need.

/u/SillyLilyButt

Hello ladies(and gents if you're reading.)

My name is Heather and I'm due January 15th, 2015. My husband got discharged from the Army in January 2013, when our daughter was about 3/4 months old. We were living on Fort Irwin, California in a house and had room for all of my daughter's items. When we left Fort Irwin, we moved into southern California into my MIL's 2 bedroom apartment, where we stayed in my BIL's bedroom until May of this year. We've just moved from California to Missouri, where I know absolutely nobody. My husband moved us here to attend college with his GI Bill, which will give us enough money to pay rent and bills, but not much else.

I've been job hunting, but nobody seems interested in hiring a pregnant woman and the only jobs willing to only give me enough money to pay for day care, which makes them basically pointless. So I'm a SAHM, which I love.

As I've posted in r/babybumps....my marriage has hit a rocky place. My husband is the only person I have around here to talk to and enjoy things with, but lately we just haven't been getting along. I'm not sure if it's pregnancy hormones or just life, but it has sunk me into a bit of a depression(which I have a history of and was on medication for before I got pregnant with my first) I feel like something like this might help to lift my spirits a little bit. This baby was not planned, and I've been having a hard time accepting that I'm even having another. If I'm not chosen, I completely understand and I think what you ladies are doing is absolutely amazing and I know the help will go to a much deserving momma to be. Best wishes to all involved, and I'm willing to provide whatever information is needed if I'm chosen. :)

/u/Mavsma

This sounds like a fun thing. I had a lot of fun participating in a reddit exchange earlier this year. I love the way it connected me even in a brief way to someone else's life, someone who I'd likely never would have connected with otherwise (I got to send a huge box of assorted American snacks to Israel). This will my 2nd so I will not be having a baby shower, we gave away most of the baby stuff already, and while we aren't super into gender specific items this one is a different gender than our 1st. I'm the primary breadwinner in our family and due to changes in our insurance this birth is going to cost us out of pocket $6000 more than our 1st. We are of course tightening our budget to save up for the medical costs but that leaves us a very narrow margin for any new (to us, we are fans of used or "green") baby items. This would be a tremendous help for our growing family.

Again, to vote, please send a message to the mods or a PM to /u/0hn035 with the username of the person you are voting for. If you did not sign up to contribute, but would like to, you may post in this thread. I will contact all original participants directly and voting will close Thursday at 10pm, or once all those who have agreed to participate respond; whichever comes first.

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Videos to dismantle and disinfect are available online, if you are interested.

This thread will be for submitting yourself for a baby shower. If you are currently pregnant and not going to be having a baby shower please feel free to submit yourself. I ask that you not use a throwaway account when submitting yourself. Please share with us why you won't be receiving a baby shower (family far away, financial reasons, second child so no one wants to, etc.) as well as anything else about your pregnancy (how far along you are, due date, what you are having etc.). Submissions will be accepted for one week. Next Tuesday I will post the voting thread. Please remember that this is submissions ONLY.

EDIT: SUBMISSIONS ARE NOW CLOSED