Hello everyone! I'm 22 and from Portugal and in the beggining of this year I met a girl from Russia online and you probably know how the story goes.
She's from Tomsk, and we will be meeting in Istanbul, Turkey for the first time this january, with her father coming along to get to know me as well. We're gonna spend a week together and my wish was (if we have properly established trust), to go back with her on the plane to Novosibirsk, and spent a week both there and in Tomsk.
Thing is, I've spoken with some russian people who live here in Portugal (family friends and such) and they all advise me that this is not safe at all, that because I'm on medication and the authorities can be unpredictable there's a lot that could go wrong, and if it did, there would be no real way for me to get any sort of legal help since our embassies and consulates warn that their power is extremely weakened.
I know you guys get a lot of questions regarding safety and such all the time, it's annoying to hear a 1000th one, but I'm not absurdely experienced with travel, and I want to hear the perspective of the people in this subreddit about this.
As it stands (from the talks I've had) it seems like too much of a risk for me to take, but I want to visit her and see her hometown very bad. I know there's a lot of propaganda and misinformation, so I want you guys' unbiased views and opinions, while still asking for respect as this post comes from a place of vulnerability.
It's very difficult for me to accomodate the idea of not being able to meet her family, and see the place she grew up in...
Thank you all for your atention!
Edit: I'm suprised about your questions regarding this being a scam, I didn't expect to get so many ahahah.
I just have to say that if it was a scam it would be the most elaborate ever. We've talking, calling and videocalling almost every day since may. She constantly sends me pictures and videos of her life, I've seen her rooms, her house, her little brother. We've had some rocky patches, it's not like she's a perfect woman or me a perfect man. She was terrified to tell her parents initially and while it ended up being a struggle, they ended up being ok with the Istanbul plan for us to meet, but it's on their own terms.
I know it can seem like a red flag when a twenty two year old starts dating online like this, but I promise you guys, we've both involved our families in our relationship, my mom knows her, my sister knows her, her parents know me, if you don't trust my judgement at least trust my parents who have done their research and have absolutely no doubts about her being "real".