I (22F) am babysitting for a regular client of mine. She has 3 children ages 5, 7, and 13. She asked me if I could watch the kids until 5:30pm. I texted her at 5pm asking if I should make the kids dinner because they were hungry or if she had dinner plans but I didn’t get a reply. Texted again at 6:30pm asking if everything is okay and still no reply. It is now 7pm and I have tried calling with no response.

Obviously I’m not just going to leave these children but I did have other plans tonight that I’m going to have to cancel. I’m more just worried for her safety and if she got into a car accident or something horrible?? This isn’t like her at all and the latest she’s ever been was 30 minutes. What should I do?

Update: she ended up getting heat stroke!!! I made the kids dinner and am getting them ready for bed until the grandma can come relieve me. Thank you all for the advice!! I didn’t have any emergency contacts but was able to get ahold of her work and they let me know what happened. Once she is feeling better I will talk to her about getting some emergency contacts.

Update #2: I’m officially relieved and paid for my time plus some. She is apologizing profusely for the whole situation and I assured her that all is well and I’m just glad she’s okay

Update #3: 21 days later and the same thing happened but it wasn’t medical this time. Just a blatant disrespect of my time. This is now the last time I’m babysitting for this family.

So my longtime girlfriend just had an absolute meltdown after we left dinner from her parent’s house tonight. It all started because her dad and I were watching old family videos and joking about how her and her sisters were dressed and just really light stuff about how big her great grandpa’s nose was( her Dad pointed it out and was like ”dude had a schnoz on him” and I laughed. That’s all. I swear to all things holy.

Fast forward to me driving home tonight and she turns off the music on the radio that I had turned on and starts trashing me about my family and how it’s strange and creepy that I actually get along with my Mom, Dad and sister. And have a drama free relationship with them, and she can’t stand it.

So anyway I’m reading my Kindle in the living room of my house and she goes off again, about some petty bullshit that I somehow did and I’m reading a book 📖.
So I did what anyone else would do and just shut up and let her vent and get it out without giving her any ammunition to feed on….WRONG F*ing Move. I took my eyes off her for a second to continue my read on the couch. And she gave me a three-piece so fast that it caught me off guard, I jumped up so she wasn’t not on top of me, she proceeded to slap the taste out of my mouth. then she blocks the front door and scream for me to get away from her while blocking the only exit to leave

I’m in my boxers and I’m trying to grab my phone off the floor that went flying across the living room. And all I can hear is her yelling with the door open trying to have the whole neighborhood hear this shit.

Anyway. I’m now sitting in my car with just boxers on with a bloody lip and I thought I asked the internet for advice and by internet I mean Reddit.

My (34M) girlfriend (35F) started having chills and a runny nose on Christmas It got worse to eventually she could not breathe due to fluid filling up her lungs. She has asthma already so it even worse from there till ambulance came and took her to the ICU where they had to put her on ventilator at max oxygen and said she has influenza A . They then put her to sleep. I am scared of losing her she is the love of my life and I don’t think I can handle if anything happened to her. Can someone please give me some reassurance she’s going to be ok. I saw her laying there with tube sticking out of her jugular and they said they had to paralyze her. They told me it will probably be a week before she’s can be awake and that it will get worse before it gets better. They said as long as her oxygen stays above 90 she will be ok. Last I looked she was at 98. I’m just trying to stay positive but I’m feeling powerless and alone… I just want to hear her voice again

Edit : Thank you all so much you touched my heart and gave me hope. I will be sure to give everyone an update as soon as I can. I will let Hannah know you all are rooting for her. She’s had a rough year like many others and was really down and I just her to know she’s not alone in this world. You all have shown me overwhelming kindness sorry if I could not reply to all your messages but I see them and they mean the world to me

Update : they have reduced the ventilator strength to down to 60 from 100 they told me things seem to moving in a good direction. Her mother has flown in to see her. Im held Hannah’s hand told her she was loved and she was going to be ok and I saw tear roll down her eye.

Update 2 : They said if things continue going well tonight tomorrow they will slowly take away the paralyzation over next couple of days. Her oxygen is going from 92-95. Ventilator is now down to 55. Spent the day reading your messages to her and messages from her friends and family. We played her favourite music.

Update 3: today they took her off the paralytic and said she is reacting well to that. The ventilator is now down to 40 and just now to 35. One worrisome thing they noticed is her face is really red but it may be related to her body temperature also her oxygen is at 91 right now. There’s been good news everyday so far. I remain hopeful and appreciate all the messages and comment: people have sent. I did not expect so many strangers be so honest and open. Thank you all I will continue to send updates. Happy new years to everyone

Update 4: today they took Hannah off more of the sedation (midaz) Just now when the nurse called Hannah’s name and her eyes opened but closed again after. Such a good feeling to see her being able to respond on her own. Her blood sugar and pressure is high but they expect it to be because of the steroids she still on. Hannah is also initiating her own breaths without the help of the ventilator! They say depending how it goes overnight they will starting to take more off. Making huge progress everyday.

Update 5: today they took Hannah off the fentanyl. She is opening her eyes and moving her whole body on her own but is not responding to direction yet. They said she has viral and bacterial pneumonia caused by the influenza and she may have a staph infection. She has renal kidney failure. her PEEP number is still 16 . She had an adverse reaction to the suctioning of her lungs they had to bring up the ventilator to 60 but brought it back down to 35 once her vitals went back to normal . They say she still has a big fight ahead of her. Seeing her thrash around was hard but holding her hand and talking to her seemed to calm her down

Update 6: they are moving Hannah to a different hospital because they need room for sicker patients. The icu was starting to put two patients per room. Lots of people getting sick this holiday. Today they put her back on fentanyl for the move. They just let her rest of the day. Her vitals are doing better. They say she still has viral and bacterial pneumonia. But they may take the breathing tube out on Monday since she is breathing on her own and the ventilator is at 35.

Update 7: today Hannah’s PEEP went down to 10 from 16. She is now responding to questions and nodded her head that she could see me when I was holding her hand an. The doctor said tomorrow they will excavate the ventilator tomorrow morning and I will be able to talk to her again which is the best news I’ve heard all week.

Update 8: the doctors were unable to remove the tube because her throat is too swollen they are putting more drugs to bring it down. She is more concious and thrashing a lot more. It is hard to watch as the thrashing is making her throat more swollen and I can do anything to calm her down. Should know more tomorrow no timeline for removal.

Update 9: the doctors said the area around the tube is still swollen to remove. They are weening her off the Propofol. The delirium is making it dangerous to remove as well. Hopefully she will get a good rest I put a pillow beside her head to keep her from thrashing. I will slow down on updates until she gets the tube out. Thanks for all checking on me still.

Update 10 : day 11 they finally took the tube out. But turns out 4 of sedatives had a side effect of uncontrollable movement and forces your tongue to come out of your mouth called Dyskinesia which is the most fucked up thing I’ve ever seen. so they need to administer her Benadryl to fight the side effects. Hannah is answering questions but is having a tough time with these new side effects she will need to remain in the ICU. Please keep Hannah in your thoughts it’s seems like she’s fighting like 5 different battles. I’m having a hard time keeping it together in the room and feel I am just upsetting her more by crying underneath my mask up.

Update 10 : day 11 they finally took the tube out. But turns out 4 of sedatives had a side effect of uncontrollable movement and forces your tongue to come out of your mouth called Dyskinesia which is the most fucked up thing I’ve ever seen. so they need to administer her Benadryl to fight the side effects. Hannah is answering questions but is having a tough time with these new side effects she will need to remain in the ICU. Please keep Hannah in your thoughts it’s seems like she’s fighting like 5 different battles. I’m having a hard time keeping it together in the room and feel I am just upsetting her more by crying underneath my mask up.

Update 11: day 15 Hannah got the ventilator tube out and was not showing signs of dyskensia. Today was the first day me and Hannah were able to talk back and forth and her be ok. It’s a total 180. I told her everything that happened and about how total strangers sent their thoughts and prayers she was really touched and cried. The doctor said if she passes the swallowing test she can move to the ward tomorrow. I’m so happy right now. This has been one of the best days of my life.

My wife had twins last March during my first year of residency. It was unplanned but we figured hey, there’s going to have two of us so my wife can handle most of the childcare and I’ll step in more once I’m done with residency (I’m oversimplifying here).

Flash forward to today. They’re barely a year old. She dies suddenly on a run after being hit by a teenager who was texting and driving, going 40 in a neighborhood.

I’m a second year peds resident. I get, at most, one day off a week where I do nothing but sleep because the day before I’m on call for 24 hours (if I’m lucky but probably not). I work a week of nights once a month.

I cannot take care of two babies and balance this schedule, and I sure as hell cannot pay for this much childcare for two people. I don’t know what to do.

I need help. Any advice appreciated.

UPDATE: My solution as of now is for me to take an LOA while I get shit sorted. Maybe I’ll drop afterwards, maybe I won’t. I honestly don’t give two shits anymore.

Thank you to everyone who has offered advice.

We woke up around 6am to our two year old daughter talking to herself in her room. So I say I’ll get her and get the morning started. No response just cold stare from the Mrs. I can tell something is wrong so I press the issue…

She takes a deep breath and says I made out with someone in her dream 😂

What the fuck.

Edit: wow wasn’t expecting this to blow up. Thank you everyone for your replies and hilarious stories. My wife and I thoroughly enjoyed reading a ton this morning over coffee. 🥰

I, 45 M have one son, 16 M. He recently got his drivers license and a job at a small ice cream shop. His mother left almost as soon as he turned one, so we have a very open relationship. He tells me stuff most kids don't feel comfortable telling their parents and I'm so grateful for that, so when i realized he was keeping this from me i was confused. He's been going to the mall a lot with a boy I'm gonna call K, 17 M. I thought they were just doing regular stuff teenage boys do. Walking around, getting pretzels, buying stupid stuff, etc. I was fine with it because he's always been responsible, kept his location on and answered all of my texts and phone calls. K is also a very respectful and overall good kid so i haven't been too worried about him either. But i started to notice whenever my son would come home he'd dash to his room and try to cover his bags. I was suspicious but to avoid any arguments or possible embarrassment I decided to just check the trash bins in his room and in the kitchen. There was a lot of bags from stores that mainly carried feminine clothing, a couple Ulta bags and makeup packaging. I jokingly asked him about any girlfriends during dinner, he laughed and said no. He didn't seem to be lying. This kept happening for a couple weeks until i asked for his phone. He was strangely nervous but gave it to me anyway. I first checked his snapchat, if you have teenagers you know that's the best place to start. I didn't find anything strange but when I found his chats between him and K, they were extremely flirty. It was adorable how overly cutesy they were with terms of endearment. My son has never came out to me as gay or bi or anything like that, so i decided to leave that alone. He'd tell me when he was ready and pushing it would only cause stress. I looked though everything else and it seemed normal, until i got to his instagram. He had a private account i didn't know about. All of his friends were added and as i looked through the photos things made sense. He was always in some sort of overly feminine outfit, his hair and makeup all done. I didn't care until the photos got a lot more revealing. Very suggestive poses, whale tails, mini skirts and him doing suggestive dances on reels. I also saw that his bio said he was gay, a quote "femboy" and used he/they pronouns (which i haven't been using and will start using after we have a conversation, just in case)

I don't wanna push him to come out but I also don't want him keeping something like this from me. I want him to know i support him and that I'll love him either way, that he doesn't need to hide his makeup or skirts, that i'll welcome K to the house, that i'll even help redo his whole room to be pink and girly if i he wants. If anyone has the same experience, rather they were a parent in this situation or someone like my son.

Please no bigotry in the replies, thank you.

little update!

Before he got home yesterday I got some stuff for them. He's loved bunnies since he was a toddler so i got them a rabbit plush, some new lip gloss i didn't think they had, some pink nail polish + clear coat and a gift card to Ulta. I left it on his bed with a little note and waited for him to get home. When they came out from his room he was sobbing and pulled me in for the tightest hug I've had since he was a little kid. We hugged it out for a moment and then they went to their room. I got started on dinner, since he likes to eat later. While I was finishing up some potato salad they came into the kitchen all dolled up. They had on the frilliest skirt I think I've ever seen and a big sweater. I could tell he was wearing the lip gloss i bought him and he just looked so happy and grown up. We talked about it throughout dinner and i eventually asked how K was. He laughed and told me that he knows I know they're together, since I looked through their phone. K's gonna be over for dinner next week now. We watched a horror movie together and he (as always) fell asleep on the couch, so I tied their long-ish hair back and tucked them in.They didn't have work today so we had a discussion about his instagram, We went through all of the pictures and reels and both decided which ones were okay to have up. And i gave him a talk about safe sex with other men, that i had to research (praying nobody looks at my search history anytime soon). I'm gonna go out and get him some lube later, its better for him to have it than to not and hurt himself or use something he's not supposed to. Overall everything's been pretty good, and my kiddo seems happier, which is all that matters to me.

Thank you to everyones who's given me advice! All of the compliments mean more than you could imagine, as a single father and just a father in general.

Me (21m) just got a text after not hearing from my gf for a day, to call a number from her tik tok account. It was her bestfriend, she told me that my gf had oded and passed. I got her moms number and called and talked to her for a little bit. Ofc ive been crying but i feel numb and it doesnt even feel real, i just talked to her at 2pm on saturday, it happened that night, with a friend i told her she shouldnt be hanging around. I told her i wasnt gonna tell her outright she didnt need to be hanging out with her bc i didnt wanna be controlling (bc ive been called that in the past so im trying to work on it) but she hung out with her saturday night and oded taking molly, i assume it was laced because everything this friend gets is laced as she oded herself not even a month ago.

Im so broken up and ive got all my friends with me helping me through it but i really dont know what to do, she was 19 and had her whole life ahead of her. I loved her so much and she loved me. She put a card in my stocking and i opened it tonight. It broke my heart, i really wanted to spend my life with her and now i dont know where to go. She was my rock she helped me get through so much…

Edit: i wanna thank everyone who is being polite and sending me best wishes as i really need them right now. I have heard from her friend today and she told me she would keep me updated with any funeral arrangements. To those who thought this was fake this is most definitely real and while reddit wasnt my first choice to go to i needed support. To those of you calling her a druggie she was not and the fact that you can come here and say that to me after what im clearly going through you are despicible people. We only ever smoked weed and vaped, she would stay with me days at a time and she was always with me, i know for a fact she didnt do anything hard. She just tried molly and that isnt deserving of death

Edit: i wanted to give another update to everyone telling me to reach out to her mom again. I sent her a hearfelt message and the last picture i took of her. She asked me if i wanted to come over at some point and talk ofc i said yes

Edit: this will probably be my last edit until the funeral, im checking myself into a 24hour mental health clinic as it hit me really hard today. I havent been able to stop crying and i just feel dead inside, no matter what i do it feels like my stomach is just constantly dropping. Im afraid im either gonna hurt myself or the person who did this so im checking myself in before i do anything rash. Best wishes

Edit: i know i said i probably wouldnt update until i figured out arrangements, but i went and got her christmas present from her friend today and i couldnt even barely get any words out, i decided to pull over and open it and i literally threw up on the side of the road because it got me so worked up, i couldnt handle seeing it knowing it was the last thing ill ever get from her

Edit: her mom text me yesterday and they arrested the guy that sold them the drugs

We've been together for 5 years, and not once has she really had a hygiene-related problem that was significant enough for me to comment on, until just last week.

Out of nowhere I got smacked in the face by a horrible, rotten smell when she hugged me. I didn't even think it was her at first, I honestly thought I might have forgotten to wash my hands after using the bathroom or something, so I went and tidied up. Then we went out to get some groceries, and I got a waft of the same smell while shopping...I finally realized that it was coming from her, and I could smell it from about 3 feet away. Could not believe it. Absolutely wrank.

I had to tell her. Some of you might say I'm a dick for that, or "how dare you," etc., I dont really care. I'd want someone to tell me if I smelled like something died. I did it in the nicest way that I possibly could and she actually took it well. She showered when we got home, brushed her teeth, etc...yeah, that didn't help.

The thing is, this isn't even really hygienic, per-say. She showers everyday, has a hygiene routine and everything. It's not external dirtiness, it's literally coming from inside her. When she sweats even just a little bit when we're in bed, or when she gets home from work where she's been up and about all day, I am hit with these offensive wafts that smell like literal diarrhea.

I'm not even trying to be mean, the smell is so putrid and repulsive, it literally makes me wince and want to puke. The worst part is, her breath has the same smell - even after brushing her teeth. This makes me think it's health-related somehow, I don't think I've heard of this being a symptom of anything before, but honestly what else what it would be? Totally random, has never happened even once. I just don't understand.

She has smelled like this for almost 2 weeks straight, and honestly the part that worries me most (aside from it being health-related), is that she doesn't even seem to notice it. I can guarantee with certainty that her coworkers and friends certainly do. Just sucks, I am finding myself avoiding being in close proximity to her and I don't want to make her feel bad.

What the fuck do I do? Anyone know why she smells? Does she need to see a doctor?

FIRST UPDATE: A minor one, but since so many people are interested, I'll gladly honor that in light of all of your help. I broke it to her and put the pressure on, she took it pretty well. She has an appointment with a PCP this coming Monday, and we are getting her scheduled with a dentist the same week. Wish us luck!

SECOND UPDATE: She had her appointment with the PCP this morning, and unfortunately no big revelations so far. We're still in the dark about what's going on. Some labs were conducted including a blood panel and a PAP, so there is a chance that the results may be enlightening. Until then, next up is the dentist and I have a feeling this is where we may finally get some answers. Will update again post-appointment.

THIRD UPDATE: I do have a few revelations to share, and one of them actually pertains to me! Just not in the way many people in this thread suggested. 1st thing - It turns out that one of the antibiotics I am taking amplifies my sense of smell to bloodhound levels. I am smelling all things x100 from distance, including my girlfriend. Keep in mind that it is not altered, but amplified. Second thing - She visited the dentist and they told her that she has gingivitis! Now now, let's not celebrate yet because we won't know if this is the culprit until after they've treated it (next week), BUT this is a very likely candidate. Good news is that they've laid out a sort of "process of elimination" type plan to get to the bottom of the issue. First is the teeth and gums, then sinuses, tonsils, and finally stomach. So, although we're not quite there yet, we are on the way to the solve. More updates next week.

FINAL UPDATE: Alright guys. Got quite a squirelly final update to deliver. I honestly didn't even think I would give it, but I couldn't leave everyone hanging. First off, the culprit has been confirmed - gingivitis. Turns out the smell that I was picking up is better classified as "rotten eggs" and is consistently associated with gum disease. The dentist gave her a heavy-duty mouthwash, and within days of using it the smell has slowly tapered off. Crazy. Now for the squirelly part... I didn't include this in the previous updates, but this whole process has made her very insecure. At first she seemed to deal with it quite well, but in the days following she started behaving really badly towards me. Where she was agreeable in the beginning to get checked out and get the issue solved, later she actually started to retaliate! Blowing off the dentist appointment, refusing to use the mouthwash they gave her, ignoring me, blowing up on me over little things... Long story short, her disrespect got to a point of no return, and our 5-year relationship is actually over - I ended it. I'm really shocked and I'm sure whoever is reading this is as well. The bright side, she is now dealing with her death breath. The dark side, the situation brought out something in her I didn't know existed. I'll be damned. Gingivitis.

My daughter (13) asked her art teacher if she could be her assistant during summer school. Her teacher thought it would be great, but told her it would be up to the principal. My daughter wrote out an email and had her teacher proof read it and got the okay to send it off. She came home really excited about it and read my wife and I the email. We were both impressed by how professional and courteous she had been. Later that night the principal emailed her back after 10pm. In the email she said that my daughter was inconsiderate and presumptuous crossing the line of disrespect because she emailed her as though they were friends and not as though she was a student addressing her superior. She said she would not consider her request and instead would require a second email to apologize to her for the disrespect. My wife and I were absolutely floored. Our daughter came to our room in tears because she thought the email was going to be good news and instead was raked over the coals. The email that our daughter sent was incredibly respectful and had been proof read by a teacher. As angry as what my wife and I were we decided to keep our calm and try to be reasonable. While I was at work my wife went to the school to talk with the principal. She called me immediately afterwards in a fit because she had been thrown out of the school. The principal then sent an email to my wife with the “account of events” saying it was also being sent to the school attorney. The account was filled to the brim with lies. She said my wife burst into her office and was yelling at her and clapping her hands in her face and wouldn’t let he get any words in as she yelled over her. My wife is a very meek and respectful person. She did get angry and by the end of the conversation said that she did raise her voice, but only after the principal had. The larger issue in all of this is that it is a charter school that is not under the board of education and the principal is also the superintendent. My wife and I simply wanted an explanation of why that time of night and why that level of harshness to a student who was only trying to reach out to do more. Now we are in an uncomfortable situation we have no interest in being in. How should we proceed?

I 31F recently moved into a renovated basement unit owned by a small family. My landlord M47, his pregnant wife 44, and their 7yo daughter. My unit has its own bathroom, bedroom, and living area but there is a shared kitchen upstairs that we both use. In my lease, it states that any food or drinks purchased by my landlords family is off limits to me, and I am responsible for feeding myself as well as cleaning up any messes made while preparing meals. That’s all pretty standard, and was fine with me. I have a mini fridge that I keep downstairs and a small wardrobe I’m using as a pantry. I also have my own pots, pans, utensils, spices, etc.

I love to cook. So I will often cook myself a nice meal to enjoy after work. I work in food service, so cooking is a pretty big part of my life. My landlords don’t cook at all. They mostly eat frozen food, pre packaged noodles, tv dinners etc. When they gave me the tour, they made sure to emphasize several times that their food is off limits and I’m not to touch any of it. I don’t.
On my first evening there, I decided to make myself some shrimp alfredo from scratch, really simple dish, basically just shrimp, noodles, cheese, cream, salt, and spices. I had some extra, and since the family was home, I offered them some. My landlord and his wife enthusiastically accepted and helped themselves. Their daughter is picky so she didn’t have any. They let me know it was very good, and I didn’t think much of it; I don’t mind sharing and I like feeding people.

ETA: I only shared the Alfredo because I got the shrimp free from work.

This afternoon, I made myself some oven baked salmon and cilantro lime rice for dinner, again, another simple meal. I finished cooking, cleaned up the kitchen, and took my meal downstairs to enjoy and I thought everything was fine, until halfway through my meal, I got a snarky text from my landlord basically telling me that if I’m going to play in their faces, they would have reconsidered the lease. Basically he said that because his wife is pregnant and really likes salmon, I should have shared it with her. He said he had seen what I had made, and because I had made 2 pieces of fish, I could have at least given her one. Basically his wife had smelled me cooking and had assumed I was making her some too and when I didn’t she got mad. He said that they opened their home to me, and that next time I should be more considerate.

I haven’t spoken to them directly yet; the first text was about 20 minutes ago. My lease explicitly states that food is to be kept separate and I’m responsible for feeding myself which I’m pretty sure means they aren’t entitled to my food either. The second piece of salmon I intend to have for lunch tomorrow. I know that pregnant cravings can be pretty intense, but I spend a decent amount of money on high quality fresh foods to prepare for myself since I’m usually cooking for just me. I don’t have the budget to make extra food for them every time. Should I just give in and share with them? I know it sounds like a terrible idea but I think they might just make life terrible for me if I don’t. My lease is only 60 days and then month to month and I moved in on Sep 1 so it’s not gonna last very long either way. But I moved here so I could save money for a nicer place and that will be more difficult if I have to budget to give them food when I cook. What should I do?

ETA: I’m already looking for a new place. I actually had my eye on a place already which is why my lease is so short. I had planned for at least 4 months to save before moving but I think I can do it in 2 if I really scrimp and save. I am currently drafting a proposal to cook for them in exchange for a discount on rent, providing they purchase any food they want me to prepare. I’m not sure how they’ll take it but if they won’t work out a meal exchange for me for the next 4 months, then I’m leaving as soon as this contract ends.

Update if anyone is interested. I responded to my landlord as you all suggested and mentioned the part of the lease where food is to be kept separate. I also brought up my culinary experience and let them know that I am happy to cook a family meal once a week in exchange for $50 off rent per meal for a total of $200 off rent each month; provided they purchase all ingredients additionally.
You all were right they pretty much laughed in my face about that. So I will be moving out Oct 31 when this lease ends, I’ve already found a small studio that will give me a month to month lease while I finish saving what I need so I’m just working out the final details of that currently. These people are for sure crazy and I’ve decided to ignore them. I’m going to continue cooking my own meals and they can get over it. I did get a little lock for my mini fridge and pantry just in case, and I have a ring camera set up downstairs too. I’m also going to make garlic short ribs and mac n cheese for myself tonight because it turns out I am a bit petty.

Yesterday, I looked at my bank account and saw my credit go down. I was very confused because I don’t have a credit card with that specific bank. So, being curious I went to see what it was talking about. It showed that I had 13 open accounts and 81k in debt. Granted I have 23k of that from student loans, but it said 50k in installments. What the hell does that mean? I’m insanely angry, confused, pissed and don’t know what to do, what to say to her, how to go about it, etc.

I don’t want her to go to jail for the sake of my younger brother’s dependence on her, but what she did to me is beyond fucked up. What would yall do? I need advice.

Edit: you guys!! I wasn’t expecting so many people to comment. I can’t get back to everyone, but I appreciate everyone feedback, concerns and advice! I see it all. Sending everyone hugs. Thank you all🤙🏽🤍!

Im 15 years old and on my first day I got fired because I went on my phone to check some texts and watch a little bit of tiktok and when I got off my manager told me that today is my last day because I went on my phone. Im really stressed and just want some advice on how to tell my parents (!!!!!!!!!!!!UPDATE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!) I told my parents hours ago I was just being dumb and didn’t decide to update this but I did learn from my really stupid mistake of being a dumbass but they were disappointed in me but still offered to help find new jobs for me. I know some of the comments here are very harsh but thats what life is sometimes and I definitely learned this(btw the reason why Im working at 15 is because I wanted to)

My professor recently revealed that he’s been docking points any time he sees anyone with their cell phone out during the lecture–even if it's just lying on their desk and they’re not using it. He’s docked more than 20 points from me alone, and I don’t even text during lectures. I just keep my phone, face down, on my desk out of habit. It's late in the semester and I'm at risk of failing this class, having to pay thousands of dollars that I can’t afford for another semester, and lose the job I have lined up for when I graduate.

I talked to him and he just smiled and referred me to a single sentence buried in the five-page syllabus that says “cell phones should not be visible during lectures.” He’s never called attention to it, or said anything about the rule. He looked so smug, like he’d just won a court case instead of just screwing a random struggling college kid with a contrived loophole.  

So far I’ve (1) tried speaking to the professor, (2) tried submitting a complaint through my school’s grade appeal system. It was denied without explanation and there doesn’t seem to be a way to appeal, and (3) tried speaking with the department head, but he didn’t seem to care - literally just said “that’s why it’s important to read the syllabus.”  

I feel like I’m out of options and I don't know what to do.

I am 22 (f) and I just learned last week that I have a terminal brain tumor, that has unfortunately grown so much that nothing can be done for me anymore, the doctor gave me 9 months at most to live.

So here's my question, the past three years I have been saving up to go to college next year but since that won't be happening, I want to spend all the money before I die. I have a little over $24,000 saved up. I initially thought about leaving it to my siblings but I remember that I have never actually enjoyed my life, I don't go out, I don't do substances, I hardly buy nice clothes, I have never smoked or touched alcohol, so just give me expensive recommendations to spend this money (I know it's not a lot of money but I just want to give myself a parting gift. Thanks in advance everyone.

EDIT: Thank you everyone for your recommendations. I live in Europe(I used dollar currency because I know most Reddit users live in the US) , I've travelled around here a lot I've been to all the Balkan countries, Greece, I go frequently to France and the Netherlands, I've been to Austria, Croatia, Czech Republic, Kenya, Senegal, Myanmar, Namibia, Vietnam, Bangladesh, Samoa, USA. I've done my fair share of travel. But I have been fainting a lot lately and I'm prone to seizures (not so frequent though) so I'm trying to do something in my comfort zone that doesn't require too much physical energy.

I may have also worded this post a bit wrongly, I wasn't really looking for travelling recommendations, I have actually travelled a lot(all the time with family) , I wanted to do something for myself, personally (other than travelling).

i live in an apartment building and a week ago they put paper in our doors for something irrelevant to the story, it was put in there in a way that when you open your door it would fall out, everyone else in the building has gotten the paper except for the apartment next to mine, we’ve been monitoring it and the TV is on 24/7, even at 2 and 4 am when we checked it’s still on, we’ve knocked on the door to no answer, we’re on the first floor and have tried looking in windows but saw nothing (dont know if that’s good or bad) what makes this so worrying is that the lady that lives there is on oxygen, i’ve seen her before and i can hear the oxygen machine, and sometimes my cat gets out and sits or stands infront of that door, me and my sister think he knows something we don’t, we’ve tried contacting the building manager but she won’t respond, what do we do?? are we being too paranoid?? i’ve seen on shows and heard stories about people dying in their houses and rotting in there while mail piled up outside

[update 1] the sheriff office is currently closed as it’s almost 1 am as i’m writing this and the website doesn’t have a way to send an email so i’ll be calling tomorrow as soon as i get home from school tomorrow (around 4 pm cst) i’ll update when i make the call, but i’m unsure if they would actually get here and do the wellness check on the same day, me and my friend also just noticed that on the second floor of the apartment, directly above the apartment this thread was talking about is the same paper also there in the door, we didn’t hear anything inside that one, we know nothing about the person living there and are never up there other then this one time because we were bored and decided to see the other floors of the apartment (original apartment this thread is about is number 104 and the one we just noticed is 204)

[update 2] yes we have tried knocking multiple times, i’m having my sister who is home call the sheriffs office to request a wellness check, no this is not fake, i’m sorry if it seems that way, i’ve never been in a situation like this and i have no idea what to do, i’m sorry i said the sheriffs office was closed it was 1 am when i was trying to find it i barely remember seeing it and i’ve also never had to look it up before, no we don’t smell anything but we think our cat does which is why he always sits outside of that one and looks at us, i hope i can give you guys a good update by the end of the day

[edit 3] the call has been made, they are sending an officer but the lady said shes not sure how long it’ll take to get there, i’m at school and getting updates from my sister who is home

[edit 4] i’m very happy to update that she’s alive!!! a cop came by and knocked for a long time and eventually she answered, the cop is in her apartment now and will update my sister once he leaves, when that happens i’ll probably leave my final update on if she’s okay and why she wasn’t responding

[FINAL UPDATE] she’s completely okay, she said shes just old and has no reason to leave her house, i’m glad i get to give a good update and this can stop eating me away at night thinking shes dead

This is a very bizarre situation I’ve never been in before. Sorry for the dramatic title but it’s becoming an actual issue now.

For the last month, it feels like 90% of the time I go outside to my car, an 8 year old girl and her dog appear and try to interact with me.

Sounds cute right? That’s what I thought, until I realized it wasn’t.

The first time she came up to me, she ran from across the parking lot and said, “I think my dog likes you!” I thought it was kind of sweet - until she got a little too close for comfort, started repeating that same line over and over, and giggling very loudly, almost manically. She wouldn’t leave me alone until I physically walked away. She even followed me to the apartment door, talking nonstop.

I brushed it off at first, thinking maybe she’s neurodivergent (no judgment - I’m ADHD and probably more). I didn’t think much of it, until it became a daily thing.

I work from home and go outside a few times a day for breaks (yes, I smoke. working on quitting). She’s always out there with her dog. Not a parent in sight.

I started noticing red flags when her mood began flipping between happiness and sudden anger. She hits her dog a lot. She’ll scream “Quiet! Quiet! Quiet!” and punch her dog with each word. I’ve seen her drag the dog while it’s pooping so it has to walk while going, and the dog cries. It’s awful to witness.

She runs up to anyone outside, delivery drivers, residents, other dog owners, and repeats “I think my dog likes you!!” over and over until they respond.

If someone has a dog, she’ll walk up to them too closely while their dogs are barking aggressively. I’ve seen multiple residents literally pick up their pets and speed walk away from her.

People have started cracking the exit door and scanning for her before they step outside.

There’s construction happening next door, and she just.. hangs out with the workers. They ignore her now, but she’ll bring them offerings of handfuls of grass or her dog. It’s honestly surreal.

When I’m outside and have to smoke, I now drive to a spot off the property just to get personal space. If I stay near my car, she’ll follow me and stand right in front of it, waving at me in a pageant-style, fingers pressed together, wave. I don’t even make eye contact. She’ll do it for like 30 seconds, just smiling.

If I drive into the parking lot, she sometimes chases my car to where I park.

Last week I was sitting in my car listening to music and didn’t notice her. When I looked up, she jumped up from a crouch, face pressed to my driver’s side window. I felt like I had a heart attack but also pretended not to see her because wtf lmao.

She’s out at all hours. Last night it was 9pm and dark, she was alone with the dog. Today, it was 12:30pm on a Thursday. Shouldn’t she be in school?

I don’t know what’s going on. I’ve never dealt with something like this before. It’s gone from weird to uncomfortable to genuinely worrying.

It feels unsafe for the dog, and definitely even for her. I’m worried she could walk up to a weirdo and something bad could happen, or she could cause a dog fight and her and the dogs could get seriously injured. Is there someone I should call? How do I report this kind of situation without escalating it unnecessarily? I don’t want to overstep, but this just feels wrong.

Me (27m) and my girlfriend (25f) been together for about 10 months. Lately I’ve started noticing she’s really weird about her phone. Keeps it face down all the time, turns off notifications when I’m around, and takes it with her even if she’s just stepping out for a minute.

She used to be more open, like showing me memes or stuff from her chats, but now it’s like the phone is some top secret device. I’m not the kind of guy who snoops, and I haven’t gone through it, but I can’t lie – it’s starting to bother me.

I asked her if something’s up, she just said "I like my privacy". That’s all. No explanation.

Is this a red flag? I wanna trust her, but it’s hard not to feel like she’s hiding something. Anyone been through this?

My boyfriend (28M) recently decided to quit gaming after years of being hooked on it. He’s been a gamer since he was a teenager, and the decision to quit came after he realized how much time and money he was spending on it (his words).

The problem now is that he's always bored and easily frustrated.

He sits around the house all day, sighing or getting annoyed at the smallest things. If I suggest we do something together, he either acts uninterested or says it's too much effort. I’m not sure how to deal with this, and it’s starting to affect our relationship. Has anyone been through something similar? How can I support him through this, or is this just a phase he has to get over?

Well the title says it all. I’ve put up with a lot of my husband’s “little quirks” but it all came to a head yesterday when my husband dipped his finger into my freshly cooked mashed potatoes after going #2. This would not have been a problem if my husband would just wash his meat beaters after going to the bathroom.

My husband seems to think he only has to wash his hands if he uses a public restroom. 🤢 He is trying to gaslight me into believing this is completely normal and that I’m the crazy one for washing at home.

Please give me some advice on how to approach this with him in a constructive way. This isn’t normal right? We all wash our hands at home too right?

Ps. I did not get to enjoy my beautiful mashed potatoes and I’ve been in a sour mood ever since.

Occasionally, I let my 6 y.o. daughter play with my friend’s 9 y.o. son and I’ve started to notice some concerning behaviour on his part. There were three things in particular that I witnessed while they playing on separate occasions recently.

The first was when they were playing in my daughter’s above ground foldable pool. He was trying to convince my daughter to play a game where they took turns holding each other’s head under the water. “A drowning game” in his own words. I stepped in immediately and told them both no that will not be happening. His own grandmother was there at the time to witness this instance and she gave him a very half hearted reprimand which I found baffling. It set off alarm bells in my head instantly but I eventually let it go under the premise of children simply doing stupid things because I remembered that games like the “Pass out challenge” were a thing when I was a kid.

The second instance I was not around to witness but I saw the aftermath. My daughter asked if she could go over by my friend’s house to play with her son. I asked my friend and she agreed so I carried my daughter over. My daughter brought one of her dolls with her (a cabbage patch kid). I didn’t stay over with them because this wasn’t the first time our children have had play dates by the other’s house. I trust my friend. I’ve known her for the better part of 10 years. About 2 hours later I picked up my daughter and went home. When we got inside I noticed the state of her doll and was horrified. The hair had be cut off and there was marker all over it. I wasn’t upset just shocked. It’s my daughter’s doll. She could play with it however she likes. When I inspected the doll further I saw the words ‘I Kill You’ written on the arm. I knew it wasn’t my daughter’s handwriting but I still asked her if she wrote it just in case. She told me no my friend’s son wrote it. I was concerned and wondered if to address the situation immediately but same as I am now I am unsure of where to even begin. Eventually some weeks passed and I forgot it had happened.

The last and most recent instance happened by my house. My friend brought her son over to play while she ran some errands. While they were playing in the front yard I saw the boy hold my daughter by her clothes and do stabbing motions. I stopped the game immediately, reprimanded them both and called my friend. I lied and said I had and emergency to sort out and that she needed to pick up her son now. She came by and picked him up without issue.

I am never letting my daughter near that boy after this under any circumstances even if it’s at the cost of my friendship. Still i’m concerned for my friend and her safety and for the safety of other children that her son plays with. This isn’t normal behaviour for an 8 y.o. I’m unsure of how to tell my friend these things. Should I do it over the phone, through text or face to face? She can be a bit of a volatile person at times. I remember a distinct instance where she pulled out a knife on her ex husband as a matter of fact. This is just a very delicate situation and I need some help on how to go about it because I truly think that boy is mentally disturbed and dangerous and needs help.

EDIT: I didn’t think this post would blow up so fast but thank you for the advice. I feel a lot more confident in how I should go about this. For those of you that shared your experiences thank you. There are also some things I’d like to address.

• I made an error. The child is 9 not 8. He turned 9 recently. Sorry for that slip up.

• For people casting judgement on me for letting my child play with another child 3 years older than her. They’ve been playmates for the past 2 years without issue. These events are very recent as of the past 3 months or so. My daughter is not scared of him and actually asks to play with him or visit him often. In all the instances I described in the post she didn’t appear to be scared and she didn’t tell me she was scared.

• Pertaining to what I will be doing moving forward: I will be calling my friend over the phone to break this tough conversation in a bit and gauge her reaction before I even think of having this discussion face to face. I’ve decided after reading through as many comments as I could I will explain to her as gently as possible that her son is exhibiting some concerning behaviour. I will tell her what I’ve seen and heard. I will tell her that I think he might be in need of some kind of counseling and I will do all of that without placing any blame. I want avoid offending her because I genuinely want her to listen and not get pissed at me for insinuating she’s a bad mother or something. I want that boy to get genuine help.

• I’m unsure of if I want to involve CPU (that’s what it is in my country) as I’m really unaware of their procedures. I need to look into it more and I will. I also cannot involve his school or teachers because most schools in my country are unisex so they aren’t in the same school. I can’t waltz in to warn teachers about a child who is not my own especially if I myself have no child in that school.

• Another thing, I read some comments saying this post is fake due to the post history on this account. This isn’t my account. There’s your simple answer. It’s a throwaway account of a friend. I just didn’t want to make my own. Believe me or not it’s up to you. It doesn’t really change what I’m here for.

EDIT 2

• Forgot to address this. When I described my friend as volatile I meant it in way that I think if I address this the wrong way she can react very badly. She does have a history of reacting badly to situations that’s what I was trying to point out with ex husband bit. Worst yet if it involves her son.

• This woman has been there for me through some very hard times in my life. She’s been my number one supporter since my daughter was born and my ex husband left us. She visited me at the hospital when I gave birth. She helped me through my postpartum depression. We have a very rich friendship. She always helped me. So consider that before judging me for trusting her with my daughter. If I have to cut her off I would be doing so with a very heavy heart but I will do whatever is best for my daughter.

So long story short I found my coworker and good friends wife in tinder. What should I do? I feel compelled to tell him, but I'm uneasy about it. What do yall think

UPDATE: He was kind of aware something that she had one. He's monitoring the situation. My involvement is done and I feel at peace. Thank you everyone for the advice 🙏

Edit 2: people telling my to mind my business need to know that cheating is not okay. Cheaters deserve to suffer

So last night my daughter (16) comes to me and says she wants to come out to her Dad. She’s been out to me for years and I’ve always loved and supported her no matter what. I asked her if she was really sure, he has been outspoken in the past about being against LGBTQ. But I said again, I would support her. He freaked out, and started yelling that she’s a fa**ot over and over and is still using it this morning in the house. Then she tried talking to him asking him to love her for who she is and he wouldn’t respond and then slammed the door in her face. It broke my heart completely to watch my baby stand there and the look on her face. Obviously I’m going to leave him. But I would like advice on what to say to her today to be as supportive as possible. Who knows what he will say today when she gets up. I also ended up calling the police because we were both so scared. They couldn’t do anything because “nothing physical” happened. Now he’s mad at me for that and not talking to me. I reminded him that isn’t a punishment at all. (Haha) He can hate me all he wants. But I refuse to let him be mean to her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Me and my BF have a 3 month old baby girl. Here recently she’s been awake almost all day but sleeps throughout the night. She only takes like 10 minute naps during the day. Every time I tell my boyfriend I need a break, he will take the baby into the living room and like 15 minutes later he come ask me if I could go watch the baby in her swing while he goes and does something. He also says “she’s in there looking for her mama” which makes me feel guilty 🙃 I just want more than a 15 minute break

My younger brother is a Junior in High School. Great grades, involved with his church, upstanding kid. One of his favorite snack foods are Little Debbie Oatmeal Crème Pies. My Mom knows this and got him a shirt that reads "I love cream pies" for Christmas (Amazon link below).

Being on the internet too much, I know what a cream pie is. However, my mom and my little brother have no idea what that means. I am pretty sure it is one of those dirty shirts that is pretending to be innocent, but my poor family is too innocent to realize it.

I would hate for my little brother to be made fun of by his friends, or for my family to scandalize their local church group. On the other hand, I would hate to ruin Christmas by pointing this out.

Do I tell my little brother the true meaning behind his shirt?

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0DJFWTBRY?ref=cm_sw_r_cso_cp_apin_dp_RQ335ST8A1QHD26V6Z27&ref_=cm_sw_r_cso_cp_apin_dp_RQ335ST8A1QHD26V6Z27&social_share=cm_sw_r_cso_cp_apin_dp_RQ335ST8A1QHD26V6Z27&starsLeft=1&skipTwisterOG=1

UPDATE: Between your responses and my little brother showing off his "I like cream pies" shirt to his grandparents, I knew I had to talk to him about his shirt. I did talk to my little brother late last night, and asked him if he knew what a cream pie was. Turns out he did know what a cream pie was, but he didn't say anything because he didn't want to embarrass our clueless mother. He showed it off to our grandparents also because he figured they would have no idea what it really meant. My little brother said he didn't plan on wearing it outside of the house. I think I will leave the matter to rest here.