The title basically… 😬❤️

And I'm also not lying when I say I could've fit my whole big ass head between her band and her body on her old bra.

She was really hesitant at first! Saying that such an old ”hag” (her words, not mine!!) doesn’t need anything nice or expensive.

She says this is the best bra she has ever had on and didn't even know that so much went into fitting a bra. She was so happy that she can actually now move without the bra also moving up and down.

She also told me how she grew up very poor and had her first actual bra in her 30s or 40s.

Before that her mother and later herself would just sew some type of a simple undergarment from old clothes (reusing the fabric) that would keep the breasts somehow in their place under clothes.

23f I have always worn a 34a or a 32a depending on the brand and just hated bras. My breasts are pretty small and have an "east west" shape and wide roots, so sports bras or the ole' piece of duct tape over the nips has been my go-to for YEARS.

My mom is the reason I always wore bras like this! She believes herself to be a 34 or 36 band ONLY because she doesnt want it to be "too tight" despite being a 31 on the tape measure. I have literally seen her tits slip out while raising her arms over her head LMAOOOOOOOO. Naturally this puts her in the A to AA cup. Granted, she got bullied a ton for her small chest by her mom and sister... so she kinds takes pride in being in the IBTC.

Well, after taking my measurements... I am a 30C. A FREAKING C CUP?!?! And a D when on my period.

When I told my mom she was like, "YEAH RIGHT that is called sympathy sizing, there is no way in hell you are a C cup." I told her I was wearing the bra right there infront of her, and she was in disbelief! She shought I was in a push up, but then I explained how when I swoop and scoop my tissue, it really does fill out the cups!

She was shocked. We went to the bathroom (she was in a 36AA that fit her like a shirt. She just wears it as a nipple sheild lol) and I showed her that when I pull her band tight, her bra cups look like yarmulkes trying to fit over her tissue, and when she swooped and scooped she got the quad boob!

GUYS! She went to target and picked up the first 32B she saw and LOVES IT. She says the band is tight, but its ok because her boobs aren't being mashed out the sides. She is so super happy! It never occured to he that she could be a B cup concidering how small she always felt they were. Now they look bigger because they are properly supported too!

SUCCESS GUYS! Got my mom in a bra that fits!

We are open to anyone who wants or needs a Bra That Fits, regardless of how they identify or what's on their birth certificate.

Bad behavior is not allowed, but that is not gender-specific.

I'm sorry if this doesn't belong here but I lost my mother at a very young age so I've just never had any older women to talk to or get advice from

Basically I've been with my last bf for the last 5 years, I've told him before that I've always wished my breasts were a little bit bigger but I was fine with my natural body. Fast forward a couple years and he lands this great paying job and is basically able to afford anything he wants. Around the time he started working his new job he started dropping lines like "if you still wanted a boob job ill pay for it) or "i know youve been wanting to get your chest done why don't you make an appointment.

I told him a few times that I was happy with my body and didn't really want surgery but he just kept telling me that its not a big deal, he can afford it now, and don't worry about it just do what makes me happy. Eventually I told him I'd book a consultation just to see if I'd be interested but I wasn't committing to anything. I went to the consultation and at the end they gave me a card to call to schedule an appointment and they also gave me a sheet of paper that explained how I can make accurately sized breast forms with rice and panty hose.

I got home and told my bf how it went and showed him the paper, he asked why the rice pads notes were included and I told him that they're there so I can test out sizes and weight at home. He loved the idea and immediately drove to the store to get a bag of rice so I can try it. We tried a bunch of different sizes but my bf kept saying that he didn't really think any were that big so we just kept putting in more and more rice. Eventually when we got to a size of around 400ccs before I told him I couldn't do any bigger. I still didn't think I'd actually get the surgery but I thought they looked alright. My bf told me I should keep the pads in to see how I handled the weight so I basically wore them whenever I was awake for a couple weeks

Eventually he just came up to me and asked me when I was scheduling my surgery date so he could take off work, I told him I wasn't sure and hadn't really thought about it. So he asks if I would want to do it next month and I just said fine without really thinking it through

Fast forward about 7 months later, I'm now a g cup and I feel like I'm being strangled by my breasts everyday now. My bf left me about a month ago and now I'm stuck with these giant breasts that I can't afford to reduce. I can barely find bras in my size and basically have to cram myself into a DDD bra that cuts into my chest. Everywhere I go now I feel like men stare at my chest no matter what I wear. I learned to avoid tank tops all together since every man around me sees it as an invitation to stare and ogle me. I don't know how to manage these things and I feel like the stupidest idiot for getting them. I know I'm ranting but I just don't know what to do and don't have anyone to talk to about any of this so again sorry if this is the wrong place to post but I just can't get over this

I have known about correct bra sizing since I was 21 and couldn’t stand how uncomfortably my bras always felt.

Finding this sub has been so validating for me, because in the 6 years since I’ve been wearing the correct bra size, I’ve gotten nothing but shade from other women about this topic.

Now, when I first discovered correct bra sizing, I did excitedly tell all of my friends. None of them believed me. I always had the smallest boobs in the group, so there was no way I was a DD. My one friend who has the biggest titties I’ve ever seen in my life wore a DD, so I was just lying to try and impress people. In reality, she’s probably a J!

I got the same bs from saleswomen at stores. I recall one instance at a little boutique in my home town (which I thought for sure would be measuring correctly), the woman insisted on measuring me, because when I asked for a 36DD or 36DDD (because I can fit either depending on the style/cut) she refused to believe me. I’m a pretty shy person so I indulged her and let her measure me. 40B. I have no freaking idea how she got that number, but she measured three places on my body, so who knows what nonsensical math she was taught.

I had a (now ex) boyfriend insist I was lying about my bra size because my boobs are so small. I showed him my bra’s size, and put it on to demonstrate how well it fit, and he still insisted my boobs were too small to be DDs.

I get so frustrated when people with boobs complain about quad boob, and their boobs popping out from under their bras, and people who say bras are torture (frankly, I love them!), because when I offer a solution, I’m treated like I’m crazy!!!

I only bring this up now when I’m specifically asked, because I’m so exhausted with arguing with people. The second I learned that there was a way I could be comfortable in my bras, I JUMPED at the chance. What does it hurt to just measure yourself and try on a new size? But it’s like other people are just content to remain in discomfort.

Why are people so weird about boobs?

We recently played the Newlywed game on a cruise, and one of the questions they asked the men while we were out of the room was “what is her bra size?”

My husband confidently said a 28F and the crowd busted out laughing. People in the audience were shouting at him telling him he’s wrong and that they looked at me and there’s no way. The host even told him that bra sizes start at 30, and that I definitely wasn’t even a D.

They recorded the show and when I watched it back I was so annoyed, both for him and for myself. Nothing like an entire crowd laughing at you while you’re not even there 😒

My wife is 44, and had worn a DD cup size since she was 10. She occasionally would muse about a mystical bra that supports her well and alleviates back pain, but she just figured because of her size that would never happen.

Being an amateur redditor, I decided to search reddit to see what I'd find. This was the first sub I found, and I read through several success stories about how everyone was wearing bras several sizes too small, so then we went to measuring. She was given a size of 38H and she was certain that couldn't be right. She googled her measurements, even asked GPT, and also got a size of H. So she ordered one online real quick and waited for it to arrive.

It arrived in the mail, and she tried it on. As soon as she did, she actually started crying. It supported her better than she thought was even possible. She hugged me and thanked me, with a huge smile on her face knowing that her life had changed. She went in her closet and started trying on clothes to see how they looked. She looked smaller, her shirts fit better, and she was even able to wear outfits that she buried in the back of her closet because her breasts (now we know it was her bra) would not allow her to wear them.

And so I want to extend that thanks to this sub, mods, and everyone who posts their success stories to encourage others to take a leap of faith. Thank you all 🙏

I just had top surgery [gender-affirming mastectomy]!! I was a 32E and wore a bra 24/7. Looking forward to not needing a bra anymore. And I'm glad to say I will no longer require your services. 🤣

Y'all helped me get to this moment. From the bottom of my heart, I appreciate this community so much. Thank you. 💜

I just posted a post today on how I made a bra work for me. I received a chat request a while later. "Love the bra! But can you put another photo up? Your nipples are visible in the photo..." Coming from what seems like a female user too.

I mean, who knew nipples/areolas could show through bras? Especially on a subreddit that has to do with bras? I feel pretty angry. Am I allowed to be angry at this? Am I breaking any rules I don't know about? When I checked the rules, my post seems okay, no Mod has said anything. Idk. I'm pretty pissed. They're my nipples and I'll show them anywhere I want to, as long as I'm still following the rules.

Thank you for reading my rant.

Edit- the person who has made this comment has apologised, so did I for being so presumptuous (intentions were good) and we're cool now.

If anyone wants to talk to you, they now know that you have an interest in people who wear bras and they will reach out if they so choose.

It’s so alienating and unnecessary. We all know that cup size is meaningless without band size, and DD is actually at the smaller end of the spectrum of cup sizes, so it really annoys me that I still find myself having to shop in the “full bust” category at a 30E. I might be a bit over-sensitive to this since I just had a reduction and it’s psychologically painful to still hear myself having to shop in the “big boob” section (not body shaming, there is nothing wrong with big boobs but it’s just hard to hear after going through surgery). But apart from that, I just don’t see the utility of gatekeeping what “small” vs. “big” is. Just offer all bras in more sizes and stop acting like matrix sizing is the default 🙄

The end. Thank you for listening.

We can't see your skin tone/color so please use additional color descriptors like pale pink, beige, darker brown, etc.

Also, although beige was kind of the default for "nude" tones for many years, it is (thankfully) becoming less so. Our darker-skinned ABTF peers may also be looking for "nude" bras.

So I measured and used the ABraThatFits calculator. All those years I thought I am a B or C, maybe a D at the very most. Turns out I am G, apparently.

I thought "Yeah sure, as if" and I simply bought the cheapest bra of the cheapest brand i know, on sale, just to humor it. A washed out grey color with piss yellow polka dots.

Welp. It fits perfectly. It's the best fitting bra in my life. It's so comfy, I actually fell asleep in it because I forgot I am wearing a bra.

It's my favourite bra now, my piss yellow polka dot baby. :)

This is. Such a stupid hill for me to die on, but it's one of my minor hyperfixations, and I've mentioned it in multiple comments on posts here lately.

The following brands/descriptions of fabric are all rayon:

bamboo
eucalyptus
tencel
lyocell
modal
viscose
artificial silk
edit: cupro
"by-products of organic cotton," or anything that means "extra bits of plants, that are usually thrown out"

This is extremely over-simplified, but: rayon is made by taking a plant material of any kind, chemically dissolving out anything that isn't cellulose, and then spinning said cellulose into filament (which makes it shiny and silky-feeling), and sometimes then cutting it into staple fibers (which makes it fuzzy and soft). It's considered a semi-synthetic fiber, and has been manufactured since 1894!

(It can also be poured into sheets and made into cellophane, or made into kitchen sponges! Cellulose is a useful material.)

I need you to understand: this isn't a slam against the fabrics themselves. I really like rayon! It's cool to the touch, and depending on how it's spun/what it's mixed with, it can be comfy in both hot and cold weather. (It won't keep you warm once truly damp, though; I think it's worse than cotton on that one.) Some lower-quality rayons and blends will pill like crazy and some knit rayons and blends will sag and stretch badly out of shape; but some can be washed and abused over and over and still look and feel great.

One of my favorite bras, the Parfait Dalis, is a rayon blend: 95% modal 5% spandex. The shirts I wear to work most days under my scratchy uniform are a rayon blend from Uniqlo's "Heattech" line. Rayon is one of the few fabrics I can tolerate during an eczema flare-up, even. People will always tell you to wear cotton, but if I'm mid-flare-up cheap cotton feels like sandpaper on irritated skin. YMMV.

Rayon varies a lot in how environmentally sustainable it is; which depends on where the cellulose comes from (waste products are better than virgin forests, obviously), and also which method is used to dissolve it down to the cellulose. Some older methods are absolutely awful, but some of the newer ones aren't as bad--the lyocell process is far preferable to viscose, for instance. All rayons biodegrade faster than cotton, which is nice.

But whether the origin of the cellulose is bamboo or wood chips or some excruciatingly rare tree has zero effect on the eventual fabric. It's all rayon made from cellulose. How they turn the cellulose into fibers and fabric, what they blend it with, and what kind of weave/knit they turn it into, is what decides the qualities of the rayon fabric.

If someone is advertising "eucalyptus" or "bamboo" fabric as somehow different from rayon they are lying to you, which is why it bothers me so much, and why I won't shut up about it.

Rayon fabrics are great! And some truly are more sustainable than others! But where the cellulose comes from doesn't matter at all to the eventual fabric.

Edit, now that I'm at home: holy shit I did not expect this post to be a popular one. Thanks for the gold and silver!

If I knew nothing about bra sizing then I'd love to work there, but I know so much of it. It comes down to an ethics issue for the first time in my working life. At my interview I asked them what should I do if I have customer who doesn't fit their sizes, and I was told to refer them to their website and tell them that they stock all the way up to a 38DDD - as if that helps a woman who is a 32G.

I was even told that their sizing may be different from elsewhere (obvious because I was previously told that a DDD is similar to an F by an employee when it's closer to an E). It's shocking because they are one of the biggest lingerie brands in the world. I'm wondering how I'll fit a woman who is bigger than a G and I'm told that we can fit them like I don't know anything about bras. Meanwhile I enter the shop floor and immediately see a manniquin that was a B cup. If they don't fit actual big boobs - because a D cup isn't big, then say so.

I've come from working at Bravissimo, so with good conscious I can't fit women incorrectly at another store. I was genuinely filled with such anxiety because I know how a bra can change a person's entire view on heir body and improve health. I applied because I really needed the job, but I'll look somewhere else. Ignorance about bra sizing must be bliss when working there. If I get accepted for the job I'll have to turn them down.

"You're not a 32J, you're a C cup at best". For which I replied, "I'm a 32JJ, learn to read you fucking moron." They were a man for starters, and obviously a creep because I've only posted on transgender subs, a trans sub about breast development and r/bigboobproblems. That and he visits r/2busty2hide, so you can tell that they look for material to jerk off to.

The fact that he was 1) a pervert, 2) a man who obviously knows nothing about breasts and 3) someone whose experience with big boobs begins and ends with pixels on a screen, and thought that he could dare judge my breasts makes me want to spit venom.

I was clear, and said "If you know nothing about breast shapes then kindly fuck off". I feel so violated and sickened that some pervert was stalking these subs, went through my post history and then felt like they needed not only critique my body, but invalidate it as well.

I have shallow breasts, I am also a 32JJ - a rare combination. I do not need to prove myself to any uneducated jackassss. Reddit is such a cesspool, and people are such scumbags. This is why I end up deleting my accounts.

To any lurkers or creeps who see this post and think that women are your personal masturbation material or objects to critique, objectify and sexualize, look at the upvotes. Every person who has upvoted this post is sick of your shit. This many people think that you are a disgusting human being, and you are part of the reason why so many women today are saying "fuck the patriarchy".

I lost it at this quote. Justifying a bad fit to avoid bra shopping is too real! I'm glad ABTF is here for those of us who don't have a Tahani.

We have over 300K subscribers, and most people who are here are here because they need help finding A Bra That Fits.

This is one of the most supportive (pun intended) communities on the Internet; there's a lot of love and a lot of enthusiasm for sharing newfound knowledge and favorite brands.

But even though it's obvious that recommendations are made with an abundance of good will and good intentions, let's please make sure that they are actually appropriate.

People on either end of the size spectrum -- <30 bands, <C cups, >40 bands, >HH cups -- struggle even more than the rest of us when trying to find bras that fit. It actually hurts when someone recommends a favorite bra or brand and we click on the link only to be let down because, once again, we are not represented.

So please, before you recommend a bra or brand, try to check to make sure that it's actually a suitable recommendation for the OP. Let's work to make this place even more fabulous than it already is!

And just a note about common culprits: ThirdLove does NOT carry small bands or large cups. Savage x Fenty does NOT carry small bands or large cups. These brands are NOT inclusive.

This has probably been discussed on here, but I think it’s worth the reminder. I see a lot of bra ads pop up on Instagram and Facebook, if the model has small breasts the comments are always along the lines of “she doesn’t need to wear bras anyways” “she doesn’t have anything to support, so why are you using her in your advertisement?” “She can get away with just wearing pasties” “she doesn’t have boobs, she doesn’t need a bra” “why would someone spend that much money on a bra when they don’t need to wear one cause they have no chest?” I even see people with small breasts perpetrating this idea as well.

This however is not the truth of having small breasts... some of us in fact do need to wear bras or simply choose to wear bras because we want to. And yes, it’s frustrating being told by others “you don’t even need a bra cause you have nothing to support”.

Believe it or not, yes we do. If we are teenagers or adults most of us have gone through puberty which means that we developed glandular tissue and other breast tissues, glandular tissue is sensitive and even if there isn’t much fat it can still move and be uncomfortable while moving. We have nipples that can show through clothing and even if we didn’t mind them showing, nipples can be sensitive and rubbing against certain fabrics can hurt.

Someone with small breasts may have sensitive breasts that are relieved by wearing a bra. Someone with small breasts may have sensitive nipples that a fabric of a bra helps. Someone with small breasts may be nursing and a bra might help relieve the aches and pains that come with that. Someone with small breasts may have sagging and a bra may help comfortably hold the breast tissue. Someone with small breasts may have none of these issues or complaints, but they may just feel like wearing a bra because they want to. Whatever the reason, it’s their choice.

So please when it comes to bras stop dismissing people with small breasts as if they don’t need one or that their complaints are illegitimate because you socially fell into the trap of believing we have “no tits”, we do. They are just small, but they still function like breasts. We have all the same tissues, we just have less fat distribution in our breasts.

The last time I went to a bra shop, I was reminded of how important it is to put a bra on correctly and adjust it. I would try on a bra and it would seem like a total mismatch, then the store owner looked it and asked if she could adjust. She tighten the straps, had me scoop and swoop, made sure the wires were in my imf, respectfully jiggled and smoothed my tissue, pulled down and smoothed out the bad... And then suddenly I wearing a bra that was perfect!

Then today I put my on my best fitting bra and it was just meh. I was confused. Then I noticed that I had just kind of thrown it on. The length on the straps was wrong, I hadn't really scooped and swooped, etc. So I did all the things the owner had done and really kind of arranged myself into the bra. I also moved to a tighter hook. Suddenly it was my favorite bra again.

I see so many fit checks with loose straps, no scooping, swooping, arranging, jiggling, smoothing. I can't help but think that some people are missing out on a well suited bra. We have to cooperate with the bras and help them do their thing!

I posted the other day that I am trans and confused about bras. To be honest, I'm even more confused now 😂 omg bras are complicated haha

What I didn't expect was how overwhelmingly accepting and welcoming you all would be!

This type of kindness towards trans people was unheard of even just a few years ago.

It might not seem like much, but it really means the world.

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️