Please hear me out!

Since there was another post educating on kink rules today, I feel like this is fitting to post. I apologize to those of you who are exhausted from posts like this, but this is something I feel like I need to express to the wider community as a dedicated post and not a comment.

While I'm not going to publicly post links to comments that are examples of what I'm mentioning as I do not want to call out any individuals in particular, I will be specifically quoting some comments that currently have multiple positive upvotes to hopefully justify my worry to you.

So please, don't just automatically dismiss my post as being repetitive because I have sourced concerns that I feel need to be amplified.

I feel like this should go without saying, but kink art/fiction should never ever involve characters who are minors or that physically appear to be minors (adults being physically changed back to being a child, lolis, etc) in any way. It does not matter whether the story/art is intended to be sexual or not. It's still kink, and it's blatantly crossing the line of what's appropriate for kink. Kink is inherently 18+! Here's an example of quotes from some comments with multiple positive upvotes on posts about this exact topic (minors in ABDL related stories/art):
- "Words/lines on a page aren’t actually hurting anyone."
- "It’s totally fine if it’s not porn."
- "If it's not real, I don't think it's my business."
- "Just don't pay attention to it. Let the lolicon draw what they like. Not everything pleases everyone. That's okay."

I think the overwhelming majority of people in this community are very aware that minors don't belong in any kind of kink content, fictional or not. I hope that just as many are also aware of the flaw in the arguments above.

However, the attitude the community has taken towards posts calling out this behavior is also a problem to me. That last comment in particular comes from a post that was specifically calling out minors in ABDL content. We as a community need to be consistent and constant in denouncing behavior and arguments like this when we see it, not become indifferent or hostile to it because these call-outs are "repetitive." Otherwise it will slowly become more common to see arguments that push the boundaries on things like this, as more people decide not to call out the behavior, and those who do decide to call out the behavior are given mixed reactions.

Also, saying that minors have no place in any kind of kink-related art/fiction is not kink-policing. At the very least it's stating an obvious rule of all kinks ours included, and at most it's denouncing a literal crime.

To be clear with everyone here, ABDL does have a nonsexual side to it. It's still a kink. NONSEXUAL KINK IS STILL KINK! There's still a presence of kink dynamics, a vulnerable mindset that requires the adult ability to consent, etc. Even if your art/story is representing the nonsexual side of our kink, kink rules still apply. I say this to get ahead of the argument "but it's nonsexual" because it's still kink and 18+ regardless. I am also not talking about involuntary regression due to trauma, that is a different topic.

Again, I apologize for repeating something I know many see as obvious. Since I've been seeing these comments and arguments more often I feel the need to call them out to prevent these kinds of arguments from growing more widespread. I'm sure many are going to be annoyed (at the very least) with my post. Especially considering there was another post of a similar nature today, but hopefully you can understand my concern.

Edit: Am I the only one who finds it baffling that there's something to disagree with in here? If you are one of the people downvoting this I ask you to please write in the comments why, I'm genuinely curious what is controversial here.

Edit 2: I'm not gonna lie. The arguments here are flat out disturbing. I'm going to argue against specifically minors in fictional sexual content because a lot of people here supported that specifically.

Argument 1: "It's legal." This is true sometimes. USA: Yes. Canada: No. Australia: No. Mexico: No. The USA and many other countries have weak laws for protecting minors in fictional sexual content. Using that as a defense is weak in my opinion. YES, if a child appears in your story physically in any way, even if it's an adult transformed into a child, it would be illegal in those countries.

Argument 2: "How is it different than imagining yourself as a different age?" Because you are still fundamentally AN ADULT. ABDL. Adult Baby Diaper Lover. You fundamentally still have an adult's body, those attracted to you are seeing that adult body. You still fundamentally have an adult mind. Your adult mind made your consent decisions before a scene, you have your adult mind in the background to make consent decisions, and at least with voluntary regression like most ABDLs partake in, if something truly needed you to you could come out of your regressed state. Actually physically being a 2 year old and imagining yourself as a 2 year old are wildly different things.

Argument 3: "How is this different than someone imagining themselves to be a real dog?" It's not, imagining yourself and actually BEING is wildly different. Since I'm specifically arguing about sexual content right now, imagining yourself as a dog = fundamentally adult mind & body. Actually being a dog = animal body & adult mind. Getting off to animal body = bestiality. Getting off to adult pretending to be an animal = not bestiality. Why is this hard for people to comprehend?

Argument 4: "How is this different than being in a fursuit?" Same thing above, as a human in an anthropomorphic animal suit, you are not actually an animal. Fundamentally you are still both in a human adult body and in an adult mind.

Argument 5: "What about people who just LOOK like a child making content." Okay, do they have an adult mind, do they have an adult body even if it doesn't outwardly appear so? Then that's fine! "But they are 4'10" THEY AREN'T INFANT SIZED! 4'10" is still pretty tall compared to a lot of actual children. "But what if they were 4'1 or 3'1" THEY STILL ARE AN ADULT! Capable of making adult decisions in their adult body.

Also, do some of you just support AI cp then? "It's made without harming anyone and there aren't any real children involved." Would you support a realistic 3D scene being animated of cp? "They are victimless crimes." Do you realize how disgusting that is?

As for my other point of "minors in nonsexual fictional content." I never went as far to call that pedophilia. I've been very explicit in avoiding using that word. In nonsexual content I personally find that it breaks a rule of kink by involving non-adults (in mind and/or body) in something meant for adults. It's nowhere near as bad as minors in sexual fictional content though. At this point though I don't have the energy to argue about this one. I'm so much less worried about this than I am the defense of minors in sexual fictional content.

I've noticed that the people who are most visible and have the most fun in the community are queer people. I am very active and accepted within the community. I've never seen such positivity from the cishet community, only gatekeeping and gender essentialism.

I used to be a very "straight" ABDL myself - I was almost pathologically paranoid that the person I was looking at pictures had a penis. This turned out to be a symptom of a bigger issue - that I had not unpacked that gender is a huge fuck, and that I myself am not the cisgender, heterosexual person society expected me to be.

It's amazing how much my enjoyment with the community changed with my acceptance of my identity and my own queerness. I now have a large community of friends to tease, be silly, and play with nearly all of the time. I meet new people every day and we flirt, and it rules.

Yet every day I'm here, I see the same negativity. "I can't find an ABDL gf", "I'm lonely", whatever. The general consensus for dating as a cishet man is to try and "convert" their partner into being a kink dispenser for them. I think it's a little odd, personally. I'd guess that my message at the end of the day is, you don't have to force yourself into a box of being straight. This community values its queer members deeply. It's ok to even experiment, and if you decide you're still straight, that's okay too!

Just please don't view being queer as an inherently bad thing. I believe that at its roots, this kink is better experienced with open minded queer people that don't put so much emphasis on some concept of straightness. I promise you, you will have much more fun.

edit: this thread sure is getting some interesting attention! I'm happy to have started a discussion. I love this community and I don't want it to be a reflection of a broken cisheterosexual society. We are weird. We should be happy to be weird.

edit2: I'm turning off the replies to this. Like or not, queer folk are the life of the scene. 💗

Good morning!

Honestly, I expected to light this bridge on fire tomorrow, but I'm feeling a way today, so let's set some fires, shall we?

(If you see this post intact, I'd recommend getting the receipts because I don't imagine what I'm about to say is going to be taken well by the Mods...).

I'm making this post because I wanted the trans people in this particular subreddit to know you're not actually safe here and that you should probably exit, post haste, like I'm probably about to!

Oh, but the rules say no transphobia, so we're good, right? We should be safe here.

Nope, unfortunately, I've found this isn't the case, and I don't want anyone to experience what I've experienced here.

Recently, there was a post made about little boys in diapers. I made one (1) comment that the way the comment section talked about boys and diapers made me sad; it was explicitly equating penises to men, and as a man who's phallus's are all silicone, I was a little sad to be excluded from such a space. Wouldn't we all be, in such a place?

And then I met DL_Anonymus. Yes, I'm name and shaming. DL Insisted, in no short order, that "trans women aren't really women because you can't do anything but get close" and has repeatedly posted trying to get me to define was "transphobe" means so he can enter into a meaningless debate about why he isn't because he isn't afraid of trans people or some other such rhetorical dribble.

Instead of engaging with this, I reported his comments and the post itself to the mods. I indicated that I was being harassed (I was - imagine being told you aren't a man because you'll never be man enough! Yikes!) and that the comments explicitly broke the rules of the sub, which state, *under rule 2, "*Be respectful of each other. Don't spew hate. We're serious, and this is the number one reason for people to get banned. Homophobia, transphobia, racism and general bigotry will get you banned straight away." Notably, DL continued to repeat "I am being respectful" while invalidating my gender, the gender of any trans person present, and in general being a sanctimonious dillweed about it. Just because you use kind words doesn't mean it's respectful.

I also messaged the mods about this, because I was concerned. I'm not a redditor, I don't exactly know where those reports go. I'd also noticed my comment - the one about me being sad? - had 15+ downvotes by that point. Downvotes for asking to be included as a transman. In a sub that's supposed to not be transphobic. Downvotes. And more than upvotes, even! That's a lot of people who hate trans men, isn't it?

However, this was Thursday. It's now Sunday. The post is still there. DL is still there. The comments are still there, unedited, as they were originally. The mods haven't replied to my message. As far as I know, they don't exist, or they don't care. Take your pick, at this point. I would imagine it wouldn't take four days, two of which aren't business days, to at least reply.

So, if you're trans, I'd run. I'd run very fast and very far. It's become increasingly clear to me that trans people aren't welcome in this subgroup and the "no transphobia" rule is boilerplate language so the group seems welcoming and chill, but not anything worth enforcing. Otherwise, I would have seen some level of effort into addressing this, and there hasn't been.

Lastly, if this post disappears, it wasn't me. I'm not deleting anything. I'm also not leaving voluntarily until this has been addressed to my satisfaction, so if I vanish from the face of this reddit, it's because the mods banned me for making this post. But hey, I said I was burning bridges, so I expect I'll be banned, this post will be removed as quickly as possible - because it's worth going fast if it's exposing one's own inadequacies, right? - and nothing will be done to address the blatant transphobes in this subreddit.

So, with that, I bid a premature adieu. Y'all have been fun. Maybe I'll see you on the flip side, but considering the response I've gained so far, I highly doubt it.

Keep yourselves safe, y'all.

EDIT:

Good morning!

I spent most of yesterday watching all of this go down from a distance, but now I'm checking back in here with a few updates:

One, some of DL's posts were removed by the mods. This was, at least, after Saturday, though I cannot say for sure exactly when they were deleted. Not all of them are, however. Apparently, as long as you *say "*I'm being respectful!!" it makes it count, even if the tone is clearly shit-eating. Wild.

I cannot tell if DL has since been banned from this sub (I still don't know Reddit well), but I can still see their comments and still click through to their name. I'm going to block them after this, but as far as I can tell, they haven't actually been banned? Someone correct me if I'm wrong, of course, but it speaks a lot to me that they aren't banned yet when the rules explicitly state this is the kind of thing that bans people the most.

There's also other transphobes in the comments, so if you're a decent person, you have a block list now! Honestly, it's the only positive to come out of big, drama inducing posts like this - you get a free block list and a free friends list where you can friend all the decent people and block all of the transphobes.

If you're looking for a good start, One_Block1241 has certainly been spouting absolute hot bullshit tier garbage. Oh, also, Hi! I won't ever address you directly because that requires me to think of you as worth the effort and there are more important things to do with my time.

Of course, it also speaks a lot to me that none of these people seem to have been banned, either, and their transphobic comments are still present and accounted for - I would imagine, since I have explicitly called the mods to action here, that this would be a more monitored post. This is especially interesting as I see several comments "deleted by user", basically no "deleted by mods", and I did receive a message from a user who I will not name (you're cool, I like you!) that indicated that some comments were getting deleted that weren't transphobic. Considering I didn't come out here to check yesterday, I can't verify that for myself, but if you were here, maybe go do a bit of a scroll, see what's missing.

I do want to address two things, really quickly, however:

One, to the people who think it's "disrespectful" to post the names of transphobes - sure. Sure! It's disrespectful. I also don't give a flying fuck. I don't respect transphobes. I simply don't. I'd say they're not even people, if that wasn't a slippery slope to worse things. Something something if it weren't for the laws of this land something something, y'know? (Iykyk, if you don't, don't worry about it). And honestly, if you think being disrespectful to a transphobe is in any way equal to being transphobic, you've just shown that you've picked the other side of this fence and I no longer respect you, either. You have to earn my respect and there's no fence sitting on this issue. You cannot willingly be a centerist, here. Get in your big headspace, buckle up, and pick a side with your full chest. For all I think transphobes should be living in abject fear of society, I honestly think y'all who do the "but you have to respect alllllll people no matter what they think" are worse. Because you're the kind of person that would actively put the rest of us in danger just to give your own moral "but I'm not a big meanie!!!" compass a pat on it's little head. You'd watch us die and look the other way so it doesn't offend your delicate sensibilities, and that's sad.

Two, I want to be clear here: this was primarily an informative post. I have said as much in some comments, but I simply didn't want any trans person in this subreddit to encounter such transphobia without any working idea that it might happen. If you want to fight, go for it! Ruin these idiots. Make them eat teeth. Get the bat! But know that you're making that choice, informed of that choice, and that was all I really wanted to do. It's one thing to encounter a transphobe in a place where you expect a transphobe; it's another when you may be browsing in a reduced kind of headspace (ie: being little or being subby) and stumble upon it all willy nilly. Now, hopefully, people can make more informed choices about when they visit this sub and how they interact with this sub.

I'll probably go on a big block spree in another day or two. I want to give the mods another chance. To those that are like, "well they're overwhelmed": it's now a problem. Rules are getting broken left and right. Hatred isn't getting addressed. If they can't keep up, they have to fix that for themselves. But until I see this particular post purged of the transphobic bullshit down at the bottom, I'm going to assume that the mods are like most absentee parents - present just enough so that people see that they're around but not present when they're very much needed. We'll see if that assumption stays.

Peace, love, and trans people will outlive every transphobe because that's the rules <3

Final update:

The mods have locked the post. Multiple days after the incident and after being sent mod mail, they have finally acted on the other posts, as per their statements. But also apparently posting just "Transphobe" in response to being told I'm not a man is, according to them, "but you were continuing to bait and argue with them". Apparently, we're just supposed to let these things happen and hope the mods come to the rescue within a timely fashion.

I'm just making this edit because, having locked the post, I can't actually defend myself from those accusations. But I figured everyone should be aware that even just typing the word "transphobe" in response is "baiting". Just so we're all on the same page.

Just for context, this is for my fellow trans babes and gal pals on here. But this is a subreddit for all of y'all. I personally just think it deserves more attention than the original girlsindiapers subreddit. I hope I'm not coming off as butthurt but I am a little sad about a decision just because of a transphobic poll. But feelings aside, seems like a really great place.

Edit: Holy hell, I was just wanting to vent a teeny bit and let people know about an alternative. Not start an entire fucking debates in the comments. I get not everyone's in trans people and all that. But I shouldn't have to expect an entire war just because I'm mildly frustrated. Like come on guys.

Honestly, I feel unpotty training should be more controversial on this subreddit. Maybe it's due to me having partial incontinence but I feel like coming on here, talking about how you wish to make your incontinent which is a literal disability is just too much, it takes this fetish to an unhealthy place.

Not to sound too harsh, but lately i've seen a rather high number of posts along the lines of: "Does anyone else like [thing]?" With the thing being something that's either intrinsic to the abdl community, or sometime a very large majority of the community enjoys. Can we please stop asking these pointless questions?

Maybe deny defend depose as well.

Hi guys! I(28M) don’t post much on here but I feel like I need to share this.

It really is tough being a male ABDL. I’ve been looking for a mommy, or even a female abdl friend but have had no luck. I did have a few male abdl people reach out to me but they kept on asking for pictures and blah blah blah, before even getting to know ME. Which made me feel that the reason it’s hard to find a mommy/female abdl, is because of all of the unsolicited “private” pictures that are sent ruins it for the bunch (unless you’re into that lol). I just want to find a mommy, or even a group where I can be myself and talk about diapers, pee, etc.

Thank you for being here through my rant lol I really hope I can find a real mommy 😊

I recently started wearing 24/7. It is nothing but new experiences for me. I thought I had it down until getting on a plane.

I wear everywhere now. Or at least I try. So when I went through tsa to get on a plane I did not realize an adult diaper is kinda a red flag.

I was traveling with friends that dont know about my choice in underwear. So you can imagine the embarrassment I experienced when a tsa agent called me out for it.

At first I was asked to step aside. For abnormalities in my garment. Their words not mine. So of course I stepped out of line. They asked me what I was wearing. In front of my friends. I respectfully declined at first.

It didn’t help that I had to pee so bad. While I was padded down I started to fill my diaper. The tsa agent figured out what was wrong and finally passed me.

It was to late all my girlfriends had already figured out I was wearing a diaper. I brushed it off and no one said a word. We were just happy to have gotten through tsa.

Now I’m wet and know I need to change, my girls ran off to the closet bar in the terminal. This gave me an opportunity to change.

Once changed and in a new diaper I joined my friends. I thought as soon as I sat down I’d be questioned to the third degree. But that didn’t happen. We just started to have fun.

The fun came to an end when the drinks started flowing. I was then asked what it felt like to wear a diaper. Before I could answer I then was asked if I had any they could wear.

Embarrassing as it was at first I responded with a yes. I then found myself giving out my only diapers. Even showing them how to put them on, so now we were all wearing them and having fun, I was relieved for the moment.

With all my friends wearing my diapers and us getting on the plane. That’s when I realized I had no more diapers. I’m soaked half way through this plane. And while all my friends are laughing. I start to panic.

My one and only diaper I had left was on me. And it started filling fast. I tried to hold it but it was no hope. Before we could even land my diaper had started leaking and pouring into my pants and seat.

Yes all my friends were wearing diapers now but they weren’t using them. What was fun to them is now touching me. I’m now sitting in my own pee. And the plan hadn’t even landed yet.

Once we landed and us girls started to exit the plane. That’s when the shame and realization of my problem became relevant to everyone. I shared my diapers because it was fun to them. But it’s crucial to me.

As I walk off the plane my girlfriend seen my diaper soaked and wetting my pants. They all felt bad for having ask and worn the diapers I gave them.

With my shame and wet pants. My friends pulled me back into the rest room. I could see everyone wants to offer up the diapers I gave them earlier. But the truth is more then half actually used them, but the ones that didn’t; help me into those diapers.

My checked bag had more than enough spear diapers. I was able to keep up with my needs and supply the girls with the diapers they wanted.

From what I found everyone wants to wear diapers. It just takes the right person to do it first. We now all wear diapers. But I’m thinking I’m the only one that actually needs them.

I saw the thread about babesindiapers subreddit and how trans people were not allowed to post on that thread. This is really disheartening as trans person. My status as a woman isn't up for a vote. Seriously I'm tempted to make an alt account and post over there cuz literally no one would be able to tell, no one can tell irl.

Any community that is 90% cis men is going to have a disproportionate amount of trans women in it and ABDL is no exception.

I just cannot believe that I have to take this kind of judgement from adults wearing diapers, I just thought people who had been stigmatized by society the way we have in ABDL wouldn't be so critical of me.

Please, don't tolerate transphobia in this community. If people have problems with a image of a trans woman in a diaper, no one is forcing them to look at it, being trans doesn't make that content offensive, and doesn't justify censorship.

I'm so let down by this, i thought that after coming out as trans that I would be able to accept myself as ABDL and start participating in the community but honestly shit like this happens everywhere I go and I just don't want to participate anymore.

That is all

r/GirlsInDiapers: pull-ups, pull-ups everywhere. Why spend money on actual diapers when you could squeeze into a pull-up, get all the likes and eventually make bank off an onlyfans? Can’t fail! Hey we totally aren’t transphobic though!

r/DudesInDiapers: crotch shots. I heard you like crotch shots, so I put a crotch shot in your crotch shot while it’s crotch shoting so your crotch shot can definitely crotch shot.

r/RealGirlsInDiapers: ….refrains from getting cancelled

r/DiaperPics: I hope you’re ready, because none of us were ready. Shout out to u/GodKingGil25 tho, their photos and titles are always really good

Hey everyone! I am a left leaning cis man, and also an ABDL, specifically as a CG.

I recently began to study and read some feminist theory and specifically on the topic of kink, and plenty of it seems to insinuate that fetishes and kinks, especially like this one, perpetuates patriarchy. Some youtubers I follow also called the Sydney Sweeney scene disgusting, and an ultimate expression of the "Epstein class" trying to push more for sexualization of the characteristics of youth.

So on top of this being an overall shameful kink, it's also morally bad for me regarding my own place in patriarchy and politics.

I was hoping to find other left leaning or feminist ABDLs who I can chat with about the topic. Littles and CGs, of any gender and orientation. Anyone else is also open to reach out of course!

Thank you :)

Kind of a niche area I suppose but just looking to see if there’s any ABDLs that are also Christians and how it plays into their lives. Diapers aren’t inherently bad but does it worsen any struggles for you? Also just want to chat.

if you care, of course.

i’m just doing my best with what works for me. No part of my journey is meant to be harmful to anyone. i try to be as straightforward as humanly possible about myself and intentions. For those of you that are confused. I hope this helps.

I've known about my little side for several years now, and it's really hard to make connections with mommies, especially being trans. I'm looking for a subset of a subset of people, and it's frustrating and disheartening, especially when most interactions I have with "mommies" turn out to be scammers. It makes me feel like I'll never find someone, or like I'm too picky or something

Im already seeing a profound negative impact on women and the LGBTQ+ community from a conservative supreme Court.

Do you think if project 2025 comes to fruition they would oust ABDLs as they would several other listed communities(furries, LGBTQ, and, more)?

I'm genuinely curious of the ABDL stance and if we will be as negatively impacted as women and LGBTQ+?

I know that very few people in the ABDL community are Christian, but I figured I'd make this known anyways.

So, I had recently spoken with a friend (he's a deacon at my local church) and I told him about ABDL, saying how I was... confused on whether or not it violated God's law, and this is what I gathered:

ABDL isn't a god, it doesn't directly include Idolatry, Adultery, or Covetness. It doesn't harm your neighbor, aka anyone.

For any Christians on this subreddit, single or in a relationship, keep this in mind when partaking in ABDL: Do not idolize ABDL, don't covet others' diapers just because you don't have the print they have, and most importantly, do not commit adultery with someone else's 'baby' boy/girl or themselves, and save those thoughts and actions for your spouse and/or future husband/wife. Lastly, and this might be unnecessary, but but always find time to read the Bible and be with God, and then find time to be in your littlespace undisturbed.

There are so many stupid posts! I have been censored before on other sites, so it won't hurt my drunken feelings if it happens again. I'm getting tired of Reddit /abdl anyways. I don't care how cute you think you are or how your week has gone. I don't care about your one liners that justify your crappy photo. I want substance, something I can relate to. There is a lack of substance on this board and an avalanche of fluffy feel good nonsense. I want stories, real life experiences, or even fake stories. I want nitty gritty realities instead of "I feel cute tonight" type posts. Ever since the Tumblr purge, I have seen an enormous amount of tiresome posts that keep repeating. Maybe this is a learning curve for new members. Maybe I am asking for more substance and less fluff.

I don't really want to be censored, but I would like to vent. I don't think I am alone in this view. I think that the quality of posts has gone downhill. I say yay for all the newbies to our kink. I have no problem with the "I'm new" posts. We do seem to have a lot of them. My complaint is mostly towards the "look how cute I am" posts. There are so many substance free and self indulgent posts lately that I want to puke my disdain at the board. Is this a selfie abdl thread? Is this a narcissist thread? I don't care how cute you think you are. Bring something more meaningful and substantial to the table than a pic of you waking up wet and not wanting to go back to sleep. Don't post a pic with a throwaway title just to enamour yourself.

We can do better than this. We dont have to be so superficial. Yes we may have more members than ever before, but I have never been so disinterested as now. In the end analysis, I don't have an answer, just a critique that may get me banned. And that is ok. I still like diapers. Maybe I like howling at the moon.

This might be old news to those with more experience than me but I feel like I finally cracked the code. I came up with a method that lets you physically pull all 4 tapes as hard and far as you possibly can without the diaper feeling tight at all. It does feel questionably tight when you're getting the leak guards but after that it just feels extremely snug like God himself put it on you himself as perfectly as possible. And yes there's still room for comfortable messing with the brands I use, those being Northshore Supremes and MegaMaxes. The method is confirmed to work when you're putting one on yourself on your back or standing. I have yet to try this on my boyfriend but I see no reason it won't work when you're putting it on someone else, you might just have to coach them on some of the leg movements. I'm really bad at explaining stuff verbally so I'll have to make a video and I'm too lazy to do that right now but if there's demand I'll try to get a video on how to do it in the 3 positions I mentioned within the week. I'm mostly posting this cause I wanna see if other people know or I've just been living under a rock.

So i see a lot of judgement about "public" from purely or mostly sexual abdls. I personally involuntary age regress and struggle with generally being childlike due to autism and trauma. I cant help but be like that.

I feel like a creep in public because of how some of the more sexual abdls project about it. I hate public embaressement or anxiety. I have severe anxiety and im incontinent. Leaking in public sucks and usually causes a meltdown or panic attack...

I also have childish coping mechanisms for my anxiety and semsory overload. Playing with toys/stuffies, big headphones, thumbsucking ecetera. I need those coping mechanisms or i'll cause more public disruptions. I experience severe panic attacks and meltdowns (i.e. screaming, vomiting, self harm, running away then often falling over, crying, etc etc). So its more pleasant for me and those around me to use my safety mechanisms.

Maybe just think before you impose your own insecurities or desires on others. It can really negatively affect someone and you dont know someone feels internally and everyone is different, not everyone thinks like you.

And to involuntary age regressors (medical ones), i hope this helps you know you arent alone and not to feel nervous in public. This contributes to my agoraphobia significantly and my Mummy is teaching me not to care. I'll update on my progress 😄

And this isnt any hate to sexual abdls, im really glad you all exist and can freely express yourselves. Youre all awesome, keep being you and never hide from yourself its really bad for your mental state. But its about people who impose themselves on others without any empathy for other perspectives 🥺